I'm sorry but you can't control your child, you can only guide them. My mother raised me never wanting to make a perfect child, but just letting me become my own person. I understand discipline, I have a large understanding of right and wrong, and I do respect her. Don't get me wrong I have had quite a bad childhood, dealing with many things such a death and other various messed up things. I wanted to let all of you know, if a child acts out in school, you should talk to them Because chances are that child is hurt from something they are dealing with. Understand them. Treat them like a human being. and in time they will respect you. That doesn't mean they should go unpunished at times. every child needs to be disciplined at times, but you can't just turn you feelings off. But please don't expect the perfect child now or at the end of this program. it causes low-self esteem in the child. Permanently damaging the child mentally, and you wont even notice. You'd just see them acting out and "disrespecting" you. Just a reminder, not all children are ignorant and naive.
Words have so much more power than actions. You just need to know how to use them. Also I just have to say, I hope your program teaches adults how to identify when they should physically punish the children, and when they should talk to them. Because otherwise, You're basically telling a lot of people to beat their children for no reason. None of my words are an insult to your program by the way. And I hope you will understand this.
Jun 24, 2011
to Jez by: Anonymous 2012
I reed your story I have a hard time understanding it but whant I did get out of it is that you have had a hard childhood and people should not judge you but try to understand what you may be going through. But understand this kido as this is my thinking and how I feel I have had alot of dealings with alot of kids and they were troubled kids but I cared for each and everyone of them. Yes I did spank them thats because I loved them and no one else would keep them out of trouble. Yes people should talk more instead of spanking but in some cases there should be less talking and more spanking. Did you know talk is cheap actions have more power than you my think.Yes sometimes life sucks but I believe we go through things so we can understand what its like to through things. Ya you might say you can read about it not the same books cannot teach you feelings and thats the most important part of it all. If you go through something good or bad you understand much better than reading about it.Trust me I know what I am talking about I have gone through child abuse people that gave up on me people who have died at twentytwo for no good reason when they themselfs were angels and you got people out there killing and stealing and nothing happens to them like they say only the good die young and to tell you the truth even through she died the way she did it was better then dieing in the line of duty by some creep. So pick yourself up and go on with life and us what you have learned to help others. People are not mind readers you have to talk to people if something is bothering you have to speak up do not let the situation win find away to solve it if you cannot open your mounth and ask for help you would be suprize how many people are willing to help some times the person you least think that would help you is there for you good luck. write again if you want.
