Guiding Young Children Series: Why children misbehave This is from Oklahoma State University (OSU)'s Division of Agriculture Sciences and Naural Resources. http://www.osuextra.com
Aggressive Behavior in Young Children Great resources for what to do and say in those trying moments. http://www.parentstoolshop.com/HTML/tips17.htm
The Guidance Approach to Discipline Also a great resource for methods that reduce conflicts with scenerios and what to do and say advice. http://www.education/com/reference/article/Ref_Guidance_Approach/
This will help you.
Jan 10, 2009
Laura by: Anonymous
Hi, There are many reasons for hitting...developmentally young childrens brains aren't formed enough to be able to speak. They may be frustrated that they can't get you to understand them. Frustrated that someone took a toy away from them and hit to express themselves. Perhaps she is bored. Playdough, linger at the sink or let her "help" wash dishes. Dance together to music. Let her pound on a drum, empty oatmeal container or drums. Get more exercise (inside climb on the couch with cushions on the floor, a tunnel, the stairs (with an adult holding one hand) or a two or three step slide inside. Paint together with fingerpaints and watercolors. Read books. Talk to her about good touches that are nice and that hitting hurts. Focus on positive attention that you give to her or the negative stuff will stick and she'll strive to get your attention in the future by doing things to get you to react negatively. Focus on what she does that is nice or what she accomplishes..."I see you turning over that toy in your hand, what are you thinking about? See, it's red there and blue there." More interaction means more guidance. Good luck. Stay calm.
Nov 24, 2008
There must be a reason for her behavior by: Anonymous
First of all, i tend to believe that for every bad behavior in a child, there must be an underlying past experience or 'learning' from someone or somewhere. Do you remember if your kid has seen someone getting angry or beating another person? Perhaps watching it on TV or somethin?
While i agree that responding to your child in a calm manner helps, i also think that its neccessary to show your kid who is boss. I am not saying you need to shout to make your point across. But you need to be speak in a firm tone..like 'No, if you continue this behavior, daddy's going to ..... Or ' Thats unacceptable..STOP!' .. Of course, at 22 months, she may not fully understand, but setting a serious firm tone will show your displeasure.
Hope this help...love to hear how things turn out :)
Nov 23, 2008
Your response to her matters by: Racheal
You are NOT alone in this. I realized that my response to my child matters a lot. When she hits me or yell and scream, things got worse if i flare up too. Try using a calm tone with her (this is going to be tough i understand). Over time, i am sure she will be calmer too.
