What to do when seperated parents discipline differently
by Katrina
(Las vegas)
My daughter is 4 and her father and I have been apart a little after she turned 2. We have split custody he has her a wek then i get her for a week and then he has her a week then me again and so on. SO we get her equal amount of time but her dad is more of the non discipliner and more of her friend and just avoids conflict by buying her stuff, but with me im more stricter when she needs it but when she is good i always praise her and let her know what shes doing is good and always show her love and have good talks with eachother, but its not always good she acts out alot especially the first couple of days back from her dads, she tries to test me and see what she can get away with and always pulls the well daddy lets me do it. so after 2 or 3 days back with me we start to get back to her listening and me using proper discipline and teaching her manners but i shouldnt have to re work on that everytime she comes back its stressful on both my daughter and myself, i know that the unstability of going from house to house and knowing her parents arent together any more is hard on her so i try to be a little easier on her, but i need to know what i can do to make this situation easier and have the discipline stick more and also make it so i dont have to discipline her as much so that we can have a happier time when shes with me but its just hard because she doesnt have complete stabiltiy in her life and her dad doesnt make it easier for any one. He thinks its ok for what she going through because he never knew his real dad and his mom always had different guys around so this is normal to him but i grew up with both parents so its harder for me to deal with. Also he has a new girlfriend that at first was hard for everyone especially my daughter and myself but for my daughters sake and so me and her dad can be cicil i have made friends with his new girlfriend and make plans with all of us so my daughter can be happier and not have to hear anyone talking negative about the other parent. I just want my daughter to be happy but her lack of discipline with her dad and the more discipline at my house confuses my daughter and i need to know what i can do to make it an easier situation for everyone also how i can make my daughter behave more and not make me the bad person because she has been acting out more and with me disciplining her it takes away from the limited time we have with eachother especially since we used to be together always. Please help any advice would be appreciated
