Seriously I also tried to understand...??!!! by: Johan
Jaci, you are probably confused as to what is going on. The contributor who refers to a mythical Jana has me puzzled (though I found some of the advice logical). But now ‘good old’ Jake himself also has me in the flabbers. Tried-as-I-might, I simply couldn't get what he meant in his earlier communication, when he said and I quote: “I lost mine at 15 and my son was younger than me when he lost his." What did Jack and his son lose the condoms? It is nice that Jack will talk to his son, maybe he tells him how to avoid losing rubbers, but no worries if he does, because daddyo will him him another stash?????????????!!! Well I have it from good authority, that people including the young ones don’t buy these items for decorative purposes.
Jan 24, 2012
Seriously by: Jake
Jana, (who is Jana? If your eyes are this closed already its no wonder you misread my advice.)
It saddens me to see that the advice given by Jake is to leave his 14 year old son to sexual abandonment. (You think taking AWAY condoms is not abandonment. I said multiple times that she should talk to her kid. I agree that they are younger than I would like - but so was I. I was just making the point that historically this is not new. Also, like I said, it is very possible the kid just has it to show off. But if my kid is having sex - I want him using protection.)
Obviously a 14 year old kid is too under developed, physically, mentally & emotionally for a lifestyle more suited to a hardened cynical man twice his age. By law he still needs to go to school, is not allowed to drink, smoke, and drive or in many countries have sexual relations with girls his own age. (Agreed - I'm not saying I think its a great idea - I'm just saying to be realistic. If he is having sex, do you think he's going to stop?)
Also, using condoms is not without pregnancy , or STD risks.Is his pocket money or paper round income sufficient to support a family? (No sex is without risk, but having unprotected sex - taking away condoms - multiplies the risks for unwanted outcomes - disease and pregnancy. These days unprotected sex is just downright dangerous. Do I think condoms are any kind of guarantee - absolutely not, but better he use something than nothing!)
It is likely that with his dad’s support the boy will actively destroy himself and the girls he uses for gratification who themselves will end up feeling used. (That did not happen - another of your assumptions and over-statements. He is quite happily married - thank you very much - and never had an unwanted child or an STD.)
But Jake’s son has got so much wisdom and experience that he can cope with a lifestyle not suited to his age. It would little surprise me if his son will end up hating Jake for his ill provided guidance! (We have an excellent relationship - mostly because I TALKED to him. I didn't agree with everything he did. But he is a good kid. Stick to what you know - your own life.)
Jan 19, 2012
It saddens me by: Rory
Jana, It saddens me to see that the advice given by Jake is to leave his 14 year old son to sexual abandonment. Obviously a 14 year old kid is too under developed, physically, mentally & emotionally for a lifestyle more suited to a hardened cynical man twice his age. By law he still needs to go to school, is not allowed to drink, smoke, and drive or in many countries have sexual relations with girls his own age. Also, using condoms is not without pregnancy , or STD risks.Is his pocket money or paper round income sufficient to support a family? It is likely that with his dad’s support the boy will actively destroy himself and the girls he uses for gratification who themselves will end up feeling used. But Jake’s son has got so much wisdom and experience that he can cope with a lifestyle not suited to his age. It would little surprise me if his son will end up hating Jake for his ill provided guidance!
Dec 24, 2011
Are you crazy? Offer to buy them for him! by: Jake
Look - it's likely your son just has them (condoms) to be "cool". I had one in my possession long before I used it. But let's say he IS having sex - do you think taking them away will stop him? No - it will just mean he is having UNprotected sex with a greater likelihood for pregnancy and disease. Sit down and chat - and offer to take him to the store and buy them (I do agree he should be the one to purchase them, but show support.) He is behaving responsibly - and I would say good for him. I lost mine at 15 and my son was younger than me when he lost his. These are the facts of life these days.
As for the alcohol - definitely take it away and have a long chat.
Good luck!
Dec 08, 2011
Take them away by: Rick
Gilbert,
You have to act and take these items away. He will surely contract Sexually transmitted diseases if he plays with that stuff at his tender age.Also alcoholic drinks well wreck his still develloping brain.
