I don't really agree with spanking in public but sometimes it might be justifiable. I deserved to be, and was spanked yesterday when I was caught fighting with another guy, both high school seniors, by the shop and home ec teachers at school during lunch. We were both paddled ten hard swats with 'Ouchie' the twenty two inch board of discipline with its name drilled through in half inch holes by my wrestling coach while the principal called our parents. My mom met us in the principals office during fifth period and I confessed to picking a fight with Brett. I got a three day suspension and another five hard strokes from 'Ouchie' and Mom slapped both sides my face-twice! Before we left the building she pulled me into the girls restroom and made me lower my jeans and shorts, whistled at the color of my paddled butt and strapped my bare butt long and hard as I stuck my buttcheeks skyward with my hands and feet shoulder width apart on the floor as I do when she disciplines me. There were like twenty excited girls gasping in unison with their hands to their mouths when the door opened and we walked out into the hall, a hand full of my hair firmly in my moms right hand. the strap still in the other, bawling me out with the prospect of a proper bare bottomed thrashing over the love seat when we get home. She did. I am now grounded to my room during my suspension and am doing very little sitting down. I don't like getting spanked and I don't look forward to the teasing i will get from my friends and mates at school who have all texted my sister saying I deserved what I got. Mom took my iphone too
Jan 08, 2010
stop the abuse now break the cycle NOW!! by: Robert
At one time I believed that children should be spanked, but i have changed my feelings about that. children are young and do not know how they should act, we are supposed to be examples to them. they need to know the rules but we need to show them how to act they will learn from our examples.
Dec 24, 2009
ing your child in public by: JamesAnonymous
My dad was not afraid to me in public for mouthing off to him. I'm 13 yrs. old, and in the park my ing happened. My dad put me over his knee, pulled down my pants and boxer shorts and gave me bare butt, a really red, sore hand ing that made me kick, squirm and asking him to stop ing me. Although it was embarrassing, everyone walking by seeing my butt get red, and red, and sorer and sorer, I learned a very painful lesson that left me rubbing a sore butt for the rest of the day after I hiked up my pants and underwear! I sat down very gently.
Nov 23, 2009
Okay by: Anonymous
Well, alrighty then! There you have it. And his folks should probably be thankful that he stuck them in a cheap nursing home. He could have kept them at home and terrorized them during their helpless years til they died. I think that about it sums it up on spanking!
Nov 20, 2009
nursing home by: lyndon
My parents used to always hit me when i was young
but now, being a adult i hate my folks and i threw
them in a cheap nursing home.So please folks
keep hitting your kids.
Nov 09, 2009
No child deserves to be hit by: Jim
Children do need to discipline, which is to say that children need knowledge. Adults do too. I strongly disagree that hitting defenseless children is an effective way to teach them, unless you have no teaching or communication skills what so ever.
What "slaps across the bare buttocks" will teach is that might makes right, and that it's OK for an adult to undress and violate children. Children will learn from this. They will learn to hate, to resent, and, most importantly, not to get caught.
Nov 08, 2009
Hitting children by: Anonymous
I agree that children need discipline, which is to say that children need knowledge. Adults do also. I disagree that terrorizing defenseless children is an effective way to teach, unless you have no teaching ability at all.
Beyond the pain caused from the "might makes right" lesson that will be taught, you will also teach the child that grown ups have the right to undress them, and violate their privates. (Ever wonder if these are the folks who grow up and develop humiliation fetishes?)
Children will learn from this technique. They will learn to hate, to resent, to mistrust, and, most notably, they will learn not to get caught.
Nov 08, 2009
spanking in public by: Anonymous
children need to be disciplined. there is nothing more effective than a few good slaps across the bare buttocks. think for yoursef: you want to do something but you know you will get your pants down and a bare bottom spanking , wouldn't you think twice ?????
Oct 31, 2009
Let's think about this . . . by: Jim
If you reach the point where you are ready to strike a child, then you have gone way too far. It may be true that parents spanked more frequently in the past, but it is not true that the kids turned out fine. The kids, in many cases, grew up to become parents that spanked their kids. The cycle of abuse continues.
I agree that abuse is abuse. I look at it like stealing. Whether you steal five dollars or five hundred dollars, you are a thief. The same is true of abuse.
If spanking is the only thing that works, then you have very limited parenting skills. Unfortunately, your child will suffer the consequences of you ignorance. Your child will be better served by you if you learn to communicate instead of hit. Millions of children the all over the world learn without fear and pain every day. It can be done.
I'm not surprised that your daughter was involved in bullying. You have taught her that bullying is acceptable by bullying her with your spoon. You may have received the desired response in the short term, but your daughter will resent you and the child she bullied.
You seem to think that because children were spanked more often in the past, and they lived through it, that it must have been a good idea. That makes no sense to me at all. There is always a better way, and we should always be looking to improve and grow.
The expression "the rule of thumb" comes from a time when it was unacceptable for a man to strike his wife with a stick thicker than his own thumb. If the stick was larger than his thumb, it was considered abuse. I'm glad we got past that. Had we not learned and developed as thinking people, it would still be acceptable to give the wife a good beating when she needed one. ?After all, my dad beat my mom, and they were very happy together.? To borrow from your reasoning.
Children, even very young children, can be taught without fear and pain. Communication, patience, empathy, these are tools for good parents. Wooden spoons are for cooking, not for terrorizing defenseless children.
Oct 28, 2009
Sometimes. by: Lynn
There's nothing wrong with spanking as long as you don't take it too far. What most people seem to forget is that up until recently almost everyone spanked and kids came out fine. Abusive parents will be abusive parents no matter what, but the vast majority of normal parents will use spanking properly and the kids will be better off for it.
Sometimes a spanking is the only thing that works. When I found out my daughter was involved in the bullying of another girl I got out the wooden spoon and made sure she couldn't sit properly for the rest of the day. Now days people will say that's abusive but it fixed the problem completely, and if that were abusive then I think every single child who grew up before this liberal nonsense was around must have been 'abused' too, since I spank no 'worse' than I (and most other kids) got back then. Yet less people complain about abusive parents growing up back in those times than people do now.
At times, especially with younger children, you need to smack them a few times right away to get the point across. But sadly these days you'll probably get reported and treated like a criminal, so for that reason alone I will never spank in public.
Sep 08, 2009
WOW by: Anonymous
I cant believe that people still think it is OK to hit your child .... Obviuosly you have no idea of what it is like to grow up in a home built on fear. You should be ashamed of yourselves really. If you hit an adult you get charged with assault, what makes hitting a kid any different???? People who resort to hitting should maybe take a few parenting courses or better yet read up on child abuse and what kind of damage it can do. Kids need to feel safe and loved, if that is accomplished they will feel free to grow, learn and develop positive attachments.
Jul 04, 2009
Clarification by: Anonymous
Sorry, I guess that I wasn't clear in that post. I did not mean "all or nothing" as in discipline or no discipline, I simply meant spanking.
These posts that people have put up on here have made me realize that quite a lot if not the majority of parents out there simply cannot understand the concept of restraint or moderation, etc. In other words my "hot stove" example probably means nothing to them. They all seem to strike at will, out of anger, to humiliate, shame, belittle, etc. I find myself reading these being disgusted and disappointed, all at the same time.
Jul 04, 2009
You should give up by: Jim
"If given the option between all or nothing as far as disciplining goes, nothing seems to need to be the word of advice for most parents who utilize corporal punishment."
This is a mistake that many people who believe in spanking make. There is an assumption that if parents don't spank, there is no discipline - "all or nothing". This could not be further from the truth. Non-spanking parents are just as likely as spanking parents to discipline, and discipline consistently. The only difference is that they do it without fear, humiliation, pain, etc.
And, yes, there are in fact many adults who truly hate their parents for the way they were treated as children.
Jun 11, 2009
Okay Jim by: Anonymous
Alright Jim, I give up. You are right. Apparently I am the exception to the rule. After those last two posts, I have to agree, most parents are in it for the pain and humiliation factor without the benefit of communication. They seem to be as well from the "children should be seen and not heard" crowd. If given the option between all or nothing as far as disciplining goes, nothing seems to need to be the word of advice for most parents who utilize corporal punishment.
You last two posters before Jim should really check yourselves. Your apparent enjoyment and thrill at physical harm of your children is frightening.
In public and then AGAIN at home with pants down??? Come on. Your kids are going to grow up and hate you as much as I hate my abusive mother.
Jun 10, 2009
Spanking in public by: Jim
Spanking in public is cruel, and ineffective. Communication will work better, and will leave all involved with their dignity. Spanking at home with pants down, etc, is beyond cruel.
Jun 10, 2009
I agree spank the child in public and then when they get home!!! by: Anonymous
I agree with the last comment. If the child is doing something wrong in public turn them around and spank there bottom. I also agree that when you and the child gets home you need to tell the child that what they did was wrong and even though they got spanked when it happen that they need a big reminder that what they did was wrong and that you will not have it happen again and then take the child to a room and take there underwere and pants down and give the belt or paddle at least 10 times and then what I will also do when I have children is make them stand in the corner with pants down and if they touch there bottoms they will have to have the belt or paddle another 5 time. I know it is stricked but I want my child to know that I mean business.
Jun 09, 2009
spanking your child in public by: stephanie
spanking was done in all generations,and should be done now too.even in public.in public I would say just turn them around and give a few good firm swats on the buttocks,but when you come home .....swoosh!!!!!! pants and undies should be down and paddle them on the bare Tush ..... Good Luck!!!!!!
May 09, 2009
Last post by: Terri
This thread has garnered more attention and posts than any other that I have seen. Said posts ranging from those who believe in spanking and can separate a firm swat on a padded behind or a firm tap on the back of the hand reaching for the hot stove to those who believe that the firm swat/tap must always mean that the adult is swinging with all of their might with injury and shame their full intent, to those posts who are obviously from abusive parents who are not aware that they are abusive or are straight up proud of it. I find it sad though that the main focus is not on education and getting help. Often times, soft words written in an empathetic way might possibly save the life of a child. Perhaps there is a parent who is simply observing the thread, trying to find an opening to ask for help. Yet sadly, this person never speaks up because so many out there are just posting to show how PERFECT they are and to point their ever extended finger at all of the "bad" parents. To anybody out there that knows that they are verbally, emotionally, or physically abusing their children and want help - I sincerely believe that there exists professionals that will be willing to help you change. If you have admitted that you need help with your parenting skills, then you have at least 75% of the battle won, that is the hardest part. Our children are our future, they deserve the best that we can give them. I attend parenting classes and we get family counseling to help us deal with situations and frustrations that are sometimes bigger than my husband and myself. There is no shame in asking for help. Sadly, this is not the place for that level of help. If you contact your insurances behavioral health provider, or local community outreach programs, or your church you hopefully will be able to find somebody that is willing to listen, and provide the help and education and family counseling that you need. Good Luck and God Bless all of you and all of the little ones.
May 07, 2009
I agree by: Jim
Any time you're going to do something that you would be ashamed of, do it behind closed doors. While many people are OK with spanking, many others will simply see the adult as a bully with no parenting skills.
May 05, 2009
OK with me, but not smart by: Danny
I am all for spanking kids and it wouldn't bother me to see a child getting disciplined, but with all the anti-spanking busibodies around, it isn't a very smart thing to do. Wait until you get home and you can give the a kid a proper pants-down spanking.
May 03, 2009
spanking by: Anonymous
jessica. you're a good disciplinarian. I wish I would have a parent like you. I think all parents should learn from you
May 02, 2009
What is your point? by: Anonymous
I have no idea what your point is. Are you saying that spanking is not hitting? If so, then I disagree with you. Are you also saying that inflicting pain is not the purpose of spanking? If so, again, I completely disagree. There are a great many influences that children have today that have never been seen before in history. When we look back at life in America in the 50's, we tend to romanticize it. We remember Leave it to Beaver and think, wasn't life great back in that simpler time. Well, I suppose it was, if you were Ward. If you were a minority, or a woman, you may not have thought life was so "perfect". The idea that kids are disrespectful because they are not hit by their parents is beyond foolish. If children are to learn respect, they must be shown respect. There is nothing more disrespectful than to physically impose your will on another person. I do believe that spanking is wrong, and that parents who spank are making a mistake. That doesn't mean that all parents who don't spank are good parents. The amount of caring, and effort that goes into being a good parent is enormous.
May 01, 2009
Oh and... by: Terri
And by the way, you seem to not realize it, but you actually helped me to make my point. The key words that you used were, "...with the intention of inflicting pain." That really does coincide with my idea of parents that have not learned to control their tempers and hence react out of anger, rather discipline and parent out of love, nurturing, and the desire to teach their children right from wrong, good from bad, respect from disrespect, and so on.
May 01, 2009
You made the comparison by: Terri
Jim If you are indeed the same Jim who made the comparison between parents who spank their children being the same ones that are uneducated, then that comment was a direct comment to you. You also mentioned it again in your last comment relating violence and ignorance, I am neither. I see you have no answer as to the point of why many children today have no boundaries, rules, respect, etc. I am pretty sure that neither Eric or Dylan from Columbine were beat by their parents. In fact, I believe that the research has shown they were both from very good homes.
This is an endless argument that neither are going to win. I have immense respect for you and all parents that care enough to argue the points they feel strongly about and learn more from others on things where they are not so sure. More parents should make the effort. My main point is that there should be more parenting education out there that aims to help them find better ways, not to insult and reject them as violent people and "bad" parents. Insulting another is verbal abuse and can be just as violent. It is verbal "hitting" if you will. So while I will respectfully argue my point, I will not lower myself to fight with you about it or insult you, passive aggressively or otherwise. If you intend to make a wide insinuation about uneducated parents and violence, then prepare to have people defend themselves. Don't further insult them for doing just that, like you did to me. If you bring up ignorance and being uneducated then it has everything to do with the discussion. Don't you agree?
May 01, 2009
Yes. Violence by: Jim
One person striking another person is an act of violence. Many people try to use semantics to avoid the issue, (spanking, paddling, disciplining, "whuppin'" - I love that one, it sounds so enormously backward). But, at the end of the day, if you strike another person, with the intention of inflicting pain, you ARE committing an act of violence. Furthermore, if you are striking a defenseless child, you are simultaneously teaching that child that violence is justified, and that might makes right. Lessons that employ violence and ignorance should not be used. As for your college credentials, congratulations! I?m sure we?re all impressed. But I fail to see what they have to do with this discussion.
May 01, 2009
Violence? by: Terri
Who said anything about violence? Hitting and spanking are two very different things. I am college educated and while certain things can be taught to a child, they need to be able to be children and to understand danger. It is people that do not understand the difference between hitting and spanking that either A) abuse their children; or B) Create what has become the norm in adolescents and teenagers in our modern world - Ill-mannered, self-centered, narcissistic, rude beings that know no boundaries and think that everybody owes them something. Guns have been around a long, long time. It is not coincidence that the past contains very few if any school shootings.
May 01, 2009
The world will never be perfect by: Jim
I agree that children do not have adult reasoning skills. But that doesn't mean that they can not be taught to reason, or that they are unable to reason. I taught my children about the hot stove, traffic, electrical outlets, knives, etc., etc., etc., and I never had to hit them. I employed MY adult reasoning skills and used language that they would understand. The notion that some children, (or some situations), require violence is foolish.
May 01, 2009
In a perfect world by: Terri
Cyndi, Not that there is much to disagree with regarding your post, but it is just too simple and too idealistic. It does not take into account children with learning disabilities, ADHD, and others. For example, I have a brilliant 11 year old with ADHD. Every morning he asks me for chips, cookies or crackers for breakfast and I am here to tell you, that I have tried empathy, logic, and reasoning and the little bugger still asks every morning! Actually asks for junk pretty much 24/7 even though he is also diabetic and knows the consequences for his health. Your theory also does not take into account different personalities of both kids and parents. One size does not fit all when it comes to parenting.
Also, you do not address the toddler to about 6 year olds, that even without any kind of behavioral or physical condition just simply do not have and should not be expected to have those adult powers of reasoning. Hence, the hot stove analogy.
Too many people over simplify and imply that spanking and abuse are synonymous when in fact they are not. As I have said before, any form of discipline performed in a moment of anger, whether it be physical, restriction, or verbal, can be abusive. Child parenting experts would do well to start focusing more on helping parents learn HOW to discipline depending on their individual circumstances, rather than just telling everybody that one way is the only way. So what do parents do when their child does not respond for whatever reason. It is very easy for people to sit back and dictate, much harder but more worthwhile when they take into account at least common scenarios.
May 01, 2009
Spanking does NOT work by: Cindy
Spanking a child absolutely does not work. It has been proven time and again by nearly every parenting expert! Recently I was on a website reading a blog from Dr. Popkin which talks about using POSITIVE discipline. This applies not only to spanking but actually to punishment in general. His blog on www.realparentsrealanswers.com says:
"As our young children grow into their tweens, many parents struggle with how to effectively discipline their kids and help them make the right choices. Punishment, or teaching by hurting, may work in the short run with young children, but usually backfires later. Punishment leads to resentment and retaliation and it undermines the parent/child relationship.
Discipline needs to be respectful, allow for youth participation, fit the situation and be firm, but not harsh. By consistently setting limits on behavior throughout a child?s life, parents will be more successful teaching their child to adhere to necessary restrictions as the child gets older. All children desire independence -- so, by allowing more freedoms as they get older and act more responsibly, they are encouraged. If they act irresponsibly, freedoms are taken away. This teaches a child to be responsible for their actions and their choices."
He also advocates using empathy with children. I try to remember to use this with my kids and I have to say that it really works! When I tell my kids "I'm sorry I know that you really want to have cookies for breakfast and I do too but we have to start the day off right with a healthy breakfast and save the cookies for after lunch," I actually get some cooperation and less whining!
Apr 16, 2009
Crazy by: Terri
First of all, let me just say that Tina totally makes Jim's point for him. How sad is that. Second, it has become very obvious to me that people really do need parenting classes. This whole thread shows how the cycle of abuse continues with most totally unaware that they are taking part in a vicious cycle. I too was beat with a belt, smacked across the face, over the back, on my legs, arms, usually everywhere but the behind. I am so thankful that I am somewhat enlightened. That I can be honest with myself, and admit when I need help with something. I am so thankful that I am aware enough to be able to choose between breaking cycles or continuing them. I am very far from perfect, but do not strive for perfection. It is enough to do my best to be a responsible, loving, and aware parent. My heart and prayers go out to all parents out there that you may all do your best to break dysfunctional cycles and create a new way. There is a fine line between discipline and abuse. Bottom line is - if you are violent about it, or are doing it out of anger at all then it is probably not functional discipline, but dysfunctional abuse. REMEMBER!!! If you are angry, take a time out for yourself, then go and deal with the issue with a calm mind and peaceful heart. We all lose our temper on occasion, but that should be the exception to the rule, not the rule!
Mar 19, 2009
spanking your child in public by: Jim
Spanking is good for parents that have limited parenting skills. Many parents are unable to learn, so they employ the same abusive practices that their parents used on them. The cycle of abuse continues and is passed to each new generation. It is a coincedence that educated parents spank less than uneducated parents?
Mar 15, 2009
Nowadays, not so good! by: Anonymous
If you travelled back in time to the 60's, 70's and even 80's, it was normal to walk in the bathroom and find a young child being bent over her mothers lap for a spanking. Nowadays, however, the law feels the need to raise the kids for us (which, people can clearly see, is not doing good for the economy) and made it clear that smacking a kids bottom in public is child abuse. (even though if the kid doesn't get it in public, they are most likely going to get a spanking at home anyway) I think it is personally better to let it be done in public, because then it is being monitered what the parent is doing, and can be stopped if needed. Whereas if you can't do it in public, it will be done in private, and this is where abuse can start.
Mar 13, 2009
Wait for privacy by: Brendan
It's a very bad idea to spank your kid in public because of how many idiots and busibodies there are. Wait until you get back to the privacy of your own home or car, and then tear that fanny up!
Mar 11, 2009
a swat on the butt is fine by: Anonymous
For all ages.........zaps the attitude, if you know what I mean. Anything more needs to be accomplished in private and more than likely on a bare bottom so you have their full attention and they have yours. Works like charm in our house, sixteen years and counting with my daughter. A mouth-off gets a swat back as my husband likes to say (and do).
Feb 18, 2009
It Depends... by: Anonymous
Times have really changed and I doubt for the better when it comes to some things.
I'm old. But when I grew up usually every store and theater had what was called a "Mother's Room". It had bathroom facilities, but it usually had a mirror and some other things we ladies need. Every one I ever saw had a big easy chair off to the side. Very often mothers would use those "Mother's Rooms" with their easy chair to correct a misbehaving child. It was not an unusual sight, forty years ago, to go into this room to use the toilet and see a mother spanking her son or daughter--often in their underpants--for some bad behavior.
The rest of us thought nothing of it and would just go about our business. Sometimes, the lady correcting her child would get support from the other mothers. I remember one time, my mother loaned my aunt a hairbrush to spank my cousin with.
Kids were better behaved back than. You didn't see the kind of backtalk and disrespect you do when you out in public now. Today, if I did that I'd be afraid that the child welfare people would put me in jail. So, I think a parent has to spank in private if they want to be safe. Its a shame they have too. While I don't support abuse, I think parents trying to discipline unruly children should have our support.
Feb 16, 2009
Take another look at your "line" by: Anonymous
Crystle, You might want to take another look at your "line" between discipline and abuse - legs are NOT for smacking! My mother did that to me and every time it was because she was looking for the closest, barest skin to take her frustration out on. If you cannot have the patience and presence of mind to swat a behind then you are already out of control. I am one that does believe in spankings, when appropriate "hot stove" type situations. But listen to yourself, you are trying to tell fellow adults (and Moms at that) that you make sure that your TWO year old understands why he is getting a spanking?! That is almost as bad as the "Its Wrong" poster trying to imply that a two year old can comprehend, "Mommy is disappointed in you." They really aren't capable of that kind of reasoning, hence the "hot stove" thing. If they go to do it again, that firm, quick swat on the rear will come back to them, not Mommy said I was bad, so therefore I must not try to pull this rack over on me again AND if I do I will get a spanking. Sometimes we tend to expect too much out of our children, sometimes too little. Just last week I was babysitting for my friends 2 year old little boy. He kept going for the front of my washing maching where his hand could have gotten stuck (a door with a filter and hole behind it) and he had figured out how to get the door off. Now, after trying to keep redirecting him several times over a 3 hour period, I knew that something had to be done. I just knew that one of these times while I had my back turned he was going to get to that hole and get his hand stuck and then what? So rather than try to reason with this adorable little being (with extremely limited powers of reasoning)I waited for him to go for it again. When he did, I took his little hand, told him "No No, DANGER!" And, in essence, firmly patted the back of his hand. His little face puckered up and tears welled in his eyes and it darn near broke my heart - but not nearly as bad as him getting his hand stuck and possibly broke or amputated as a result. And guess what? He hasn't gone back to the washing machine even once. By the way "Its Wrong" person, I tried to tell him how disappointed I was in him a couple of times and each time he just looked at me, smiled, and said,"Blehk!" So your method was not so successful in keeping a little one safe! It does not take much to let the little ones know that they have done wrong and that there is danger. Over doing it or under doing it, both can have bad consequences.
Feb 16, 2009
Agree by: Crystle
I agree with spanking in public. My son gets spankings. I warn him first, though. Dependnig on his offense, he either gets a smack on the leg or i take him to the bathroom and he gets a bare bottom spanking. The worse he behaves the more of a spanking he gets. There is a line between discipline and abuse though. It also goes with age too. My son in two so you have to take that into consideration and what they have done wrong. My only problem is people who spank out of anger. You should never spank out of anger. Wait until you have calmed down before spanking. I always spank three times maximum if my son gets a bare bottom spanking. That way I know I haven't overdone it. I make myself take several deep breaths and tell him why he is getting a spanking and make sure he understands why he is getting one.
Feb 10, 2009
ITS WRONG by: Anonymous
hitting & spanking your kids is WRONG what right do you have to hurt another human being? I have 3 children and I would never hurt them. If they are acting up I tell them how dissapointed I am in them and how I raised them better. Guess what it works!!!! Only crazy messed up people would hurt there children.
Feb 09, 2009
YES IF THEY HAVE BEEN WARNED by: Anonymous
A few weeks ago I took my sister 15 and little neice 3 to the shop. My sister had been so cheeky the night before and I sent her to her room. The next morning she was being cheeky, my other sister lynn 23 was at my house as well as my hubby was out. Lynn smacked her and told her she would have it on the bare bottom if she had anymore cheek. So when we went out to the shop i asked my little sister to push Mia in the trolley as i was collecting things. She was fine at the start but then as we went on Mia started to cry and Alison smacked her. I said to Alison that she was in trouble when Lynn found out she replied I dont f..... care! So i lifted me hand and slapped her bottom with a hard smack till she was shocked. When we got home I phoned Lynn to tell her. She came around and reddened her bare bottom
Jan 13, 2009
I don't, generally by: Janice
I'll give a kid a warning smack if we are in a public place, but not more than that. If they need a real, bare-butt spanking, that can wait until we get home. My kids are 7, 9 and 12 so it's not like they are going to forget what the spanking was for.
Jan 09, 2009
I agree with spankings by: Anonymous
I think spankig your children is perfectly normal if you warned them once you shouldn't have to warned them again if you tell them to stop doing some thing then they should stop and not have to be told again I don't like the idea of spanking in public but if it results to it you should at least take your child to the bathroom or the car
Jan 06, 2009
Spanked in Public by: Anonymous
Hi If I had children yes if they were acting out I would take them somewere and give them spanking. I remember when i was about 10 my mum and dad and I were in a store with my younger sister and before we went into the store my dad told me and my siter that if we did not do what my mum or him asked that his belt would be on our bottoms but that we would get it worse when we got home if needed. Well we went into the store and about 1 hour went by and my mum asked my sister and i to try on shoes but I wined and cried because I did not want. I knew after my father looked at me I was in big trouble. My dad told my mum and sister that he was taking me for a walk. My dad grabed me by the hand and walked with me very fast and we got to a corner of the store and there was a washroom for peopel with problems and one of the workers asked my dad if we needed in there and my dad said yes and he let us in. Once we were in my dad took off his belt and took down my pants and i got the belt on my bare bottom 10 time and then we went back to were my mum and sister were and then when we got home I had to go to my room and get 40 hits with the belt and then stand in a corner.
Jan 05, 2009
Spankin in public by: Jessica Andress
Spanking in public was really hard for me to get used to at first due to the fact that I was a very young parent, but after a while i got used to it. I really believe when an offense occours it should be dealt with then and there. If at all possible you should use a bathroom but if not spanking in a public setting should never be a problem. I do get tired of the dirty looks from all the non parents and parents who dont discipline their children when i give out five of six swats to make my kids behave!
Jan 04, 2009
I caught him stealing by: jessica
When i went shopping the other day with my 16 yr. old son, I caught him stealing. im a strict disciplinarian so first i looked for the store manager and made him return and apologize. then i asked if i can use a counter which wasnt being used so i can spank him. i didnt take down his pants in public, but his bottom did come up up over the counter. i only gave him 10 moderate spanks, while people were cheering "pull down his pants". he thought it was over, but when we came home.....sure enough....pants down...then briefs down and a good paddling on the tush. now dont you think he'll think twice next time about stealing
Jan 02, 2009
No2adult judgement passing by: Anonymous
Just like life, child rearing is not black and white, there are some gray areas, What works with one does not work with another. Parents are different and kids are different. So why is it that there are always people like No2spanking who presume to know all, and judge all? No2spanking, who said anything about violence? And you usually reason with adults, and adults do not try to touch a hot stove, or pull over entire racks full of deadly heavy objects on themselves at stores. Spanking should definitely be few and far between and not done out of anger or violence, but why is it that people like you always assume that spanking means beating? In my opinion it is parents like you that are raising these kids that are more in control over there parents than the other way around. This nation is now full of teenagers who have no respect, are not taught manners, and who (to those of us who still believe that children need guidance and boundaries)have children that obviously could have used a little corporal punishment. Now, how did you like being judged and stereotyped? No , there is no place for abuse in parenting, but be very careful what you call abuse. If one is lucky enough to get to their child BEFORE they burn themselves on the hot stove or before they pull that rack over on themselves, then an attention getting swat is what is going to make a little person (without those adult power's of reasoning and discernment) remember not to do that dangerous thing ever again. People need to get back to letting their children be children and stop confusing the poor little ones with adult consequences and benefits. Do you give your child a raise or a written commendation when they do good? No, you give them a treat! Thou shalt not judge lest ye be judged. And my all time favorite- Do unto others as you would have don unto you.
Jan 02, 2009
No Spanking Period! by: No2Spanking
Not only should you not spank your child in public - you should not spank your child PERIOD. There are many more effective methods for discipline than spanking - and none of them involves violence. It may seem harmless, but when there are other ways, why are you so anxious to hit your children? You are not allowed to hit your employees or any adult when you don't like how they behave, so why do you feel you have the right to hit your kids?
Dec 29, 2008
some kids are very sensitive. by: Anonymous
Maybe your TUSH can take a good whacking but some kids are very sensitive. "Taking down the Pants of a teenager!!?? and youre asking whats the big deal?!
Dec 25, 2008
Whats the big deal? by: frank
Whats the big deal? kids are kids and need to be directed and we all got a whacken' on our TUSH when misbehaved. even in public, when kids or teenagers need to be disciplined then there is no questiones asked nor any pleading only PANTS DOWN and BOTTOMS UP.
Dec 08, 2008
Spanking your child in public by: Beth Ann
My mom was a believer in spanking in public and at home like this one time almost christmass we were at a tree farm and mommy took us kids out shoping for a christmass tree and we knew with we ever dident behaved mommy dident have to get her belt or her hairbrush from her realy big purse all she would have to do is ask for one of the swicthes off the tree to spank our little bare behinds which as all kids do we dident behave and none of us children dident behave and grammy who went with us volunteered to help which she did and mommy said just yall wait girls yall grammy and i are going into the ladies room were mommy and grammy are going to spank yalls little bare behinds with are belts do we make are selfs clear yes mommy said myself and my little sisters ok girls which they went to the ladies room mommy took four of us girls and grammy took four of my other sisters into stalls and pulled down are jeans and panties and takes each one of usone after another one took us across her knee and spanked are bare behinds and we got other ones while out in public
Dec 02, 2008
Be prepared by: Anonymous
In this day and age of child abuse, it is probably a very dangerous thing to spank in public. Personally, I think a few swats on the rear are necessary from time to time. However, my suggestion is this. If the need for spanking is because of behavior problems while out and about, try simply leaving your cart/stuff etc. with a manager or in a out of way place. (This is so you do not have to do your shopping all over again!) Next, take the little rule breaker home or to the sitter or wait for Dad to get home, etc. Kids love going to the store with Mommy. A few times of "missing out" might just end the need for the spanking altogether.
Nov 30, 2008
bottoms up in public by: Anonymous
My dad and mom would never spank us in public. If we were out in public and were acting up usually dad would take us out of the store to the car where he would spank us. Mom hated doing that, so she would turn to us with this mean look and say,"when we get home you are getting a spanking." Once she even bought a belt just for the spanking, it then became the spanking belt...haha. But I will never forget the time we were in wal-mart. I was 9 at the time. I was with mom and dad. I don't know why, but I started acting up and goofing around when I knocked over one of those candles that are in the glass jar. Now my dad had warned me one already to stop and even threatened to spank me. I knew I was in big trouble. So when the guy from wal-mart came over to get it cleaned my dad asked where the bathroom was. The guy was like oh well they are repairing something so they are currently closed. (oh btw the tires on the car were being replaced this same day) Thinking i was out of the clearing until were home I was secretly smiling. Dad turned to me and said "Lily, why are you smiling, you are not getting out of this spanking." So he grabbed my hand and we went to walking. Outside of wal-mart they had benches. So he took off he belt, and explained to me that he clearly told me to stop and now something broke. He pulled down my pants and bent me over his knee. He spanked me three good hard times and pulled my pants up. He said I was in more trouble when I got home bc he should never result in spanking out in public. When we got home I got 4 more bare bottom spankings. Other than that one time i was only spanked one other time in public and that was at school by my mom. I got in trouble so they called her. She asked to use a conor in an office and bent me over in FRONT of the principal and spanked me BARE BOTTOM. the principal even asked if she needed a belt. aparently they were good friends. Once again i got another bare bottom spanking at home. I grew up in a very strict household. we hardly ever got warnings more than once.
Nov 23, 2008
I really tried not to spank in public... by: Jenny Lewendon
I tried hard not to spank my child in the public. the key thing is that i really tried. At times, he caused me to be so angry that i lose control. Honestly, i really feel very bad about spanking my child, especially in public! I heard that it will affect their self esteem , etc....
Perhaps its my problem. Should have more self control myself.
Nov 20, 2008
I wouldn't do that to my child by: rachael
hi there, i do not criticized parents who do that in public as i can understand the frustration. But personally, i wouldn't do that to my child. Children needs respect too, especially when they are being exposed to public eyes. What i usually do when in public is to pull my kid to a corner where there is little or no attention from the crowd and there, i will discipline him.
