It had been a few years since I have spanked either one of my children, (daughter 15 and son 13). My daughter has one heck of a attitute problem. She does what she wants, disobeys me and fights with her brother. I have tried grounding her removing her phone privileges making her stay in her room, but nothing works. I am thinking about returning to spanking her with the paddle like I use to. I am at my wits end. Any suggestions.
I beleive, a firm paddling on your bare bottom is for your own good. by: Anonymous
A teenager-Whose mom or dad paddles his/her teens bare bottom just shows the best parental love, available. Parent's ought to paddle firmly, and often but yet with love on their teens bare bottom until very sore, and their teen crying real tears. Their teenager ought to not be shy about mom or dad exposing their bottom while the teen is standing-up infront of that parent.Mom or dad ought to have their teen completely remove both pants for them. Their teen should show their parent's all of their bare bottom prior to being spanked.Then show mom or dad after their paddling is over teen should want to show-off their sore bottom to their parent.
Nov 27, 2011
NEVER REFUSE A SPANKING, REGARDLESS OF AGE! by: ernesto
Teenagers' and even adults' life depends on timely spankings not discontinued at the crucial period from 15 till 21, with the caveat that they were "softened by severe but loving spankings before. I am the living proof. At 15, my spankings were doscontinued. That was the time when I knew I needed them most. Not having anyone to spank me, I became a terribly unwise teenager, getting more and more in trouble. I ended in reformatories ... where there were no spankings, but the hated abuse. I went to prison after committing childish, senseless crimes. I was almost killed many times. There were no spankings in prison, either, although I knew that they would have saved me even then. All I got, was physical (non-sexual) abuse. I did not know life, because my parents were not there ... were never there (this is a separate issue). To this day I am convinced that had my spankings continued at 15, till 25 or more, by a strict male figure, in family, my life would have not been so wretched as it was! So my advice is: seek wisdom regardless your age! Spanking, and wise advice. Accept a non-nonsense parental figure, that chastises, but loves! You may never get a second chance in life!
Nov 27, 2011
Your Daughter Has Not Yet Matured! by: Anonymous
Spanking is all about attitudes and growing up. Not all people grow up equally! Not all have acceptable attitudes. Your daughter needs spanking badly, as desert needs water! A wise husband spanks a wife when she acts like a child. Parents should definitely spank immature children, until they grow up. That is a sign of authority given them by God! If they do not exercise this authority, God has said He will take it away from them! The "taking away" can be a divorce, or a myriad of other marriage-destructive things, like a bad marriage.It can also be delinquency, laziness,stealing, or drug addiction. This is why I believe that immature wives and children must be matured by spanking! Children from previous marriage should be told that "that not people mature equally, and mummy is still in need of growing up, and therefore is being treated as a child." Children need not see the spanking. It is enough for the teenage son and daughter to hear the awesome sound of daddy's law descending relentlessly, and be able to appreciate the grateful "thank you, daddy," after each explosion of the strap, meeting the well-deserving and asking for it mummy's buttocks! That is how the concept of the father's authority crystallizes in the mind of a teen! It will help them to know who wears the pants in the house.
Jul 05, 2011
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Jul 04, 2011
Enough Please MariaNEW by: Dave
I did not see the word homework writen any where in the title Spanking teenagers may I missed it and I beleive the word was writen twice spanking teenagers and again comments on spanking teenagers in less I red it wrong I do not think so. now as for me telling that young girls to go and remove her cloths and spank herself and tell me what it was like. Maria when you go around acusing people of some perverted act well thats wrong and were do you get off doing that. Let's get the fact straight what did that girl ask for. what the title of her story. The title I beleive was something like. I want my mommy to give me a bare bottom spanking.And in the story line was she was a bad girl not listening to her mother giving her mother back talk fighting with her brothers and sisters. and the last remark by her How can I can my mom to give me a bare bottom spanking without me asking her.Something along those lines. Right I can go back and write this word for word if you like. myself as a victim of child abuse and almost killed by my parents. Got in my head this girl does she know what she is asking for. Yes I did tell her to do that and to write back because I wanted her to tell me (us) that she rethrough the ideal of asking her mom for a bare bottom spanking because if it hurt when she did it it would hurt alot more when her mom did it so becarefull what she asked for. Now as for Becky if you have been reading the whole story line this poor girl went thought one hell of a childhood and she was letting it out and try to convince Travis that it was totaly wrong for her stepfather to remove her bra jury a spanking. and its goig back a forth each treing to get there point across. What's wrong with that Becky has alot of bad stuff to get out of her head so why not. There's nothing wrong with that it better than keeping it all bottled up. As for me like I said above I am a child abuse survival so this helps me help others. But I guess we are all a bunch of nuts right. Just when I thought there might be hope for all of us. thanks Maria.
AND ONE LAST TIME THE SITE WAS SPANKING TEENAGES
Jul 04, 2011
to Maria - you came here for advice? Then ask for someNEW by: Travis
Maria, if you really came here to discuss spanking your teenager kids and want to discuss it then do so instead of making sick, unwarranted attacks on other parents who do.
I wouldn't ask daughter to spank herself since I'll do that for her. But Dave's response to Jessica's question was perfectly reasonable. The girl is worried about how it will hurt. What would you suggest to her, ask her boyfriend to spank her?
About Sarah's comments I don't see the need for her to go in details describing her stepson's dick nor do I agree with her not letting her cover himself since from how she answered the boy wasn't interfering spanking her. But other than that what's the problem with her spanking him for fighting? Would you rather see her husband have to bail his son out of jail some day because he kicked the crap out of some dude in high school?
As for Becky, she obviously has issues and like many kids who whether rightly or wrongly perceive they were abused because they were spanked have a difficult time working through it. Her stepdad had a right to spank her for the things she did and said but he also sounds like a real asshole too. Maybe instead of telling people to 'grow up' maybe you should show somme compassion instead of being such a bitch and just saying 'get over it.' If you get your panties all in a bunch over some forum about spanking teenagers, God help your kids if you decide to take them to the woodshed while going through your pissy attitude.
About making a girl remove her bra? You tell us, lady? How would you deal with an unruly teenage girl who interfers with being spanked on her bare bottom? Instead of attacking others and throwing around wild accusations, speak up and make some suggestions yourself.
Come to think of it, you didn't voice an opinion on spanking one way or another. Maybe you really don't spank your teenage kids and that's what your hissy fit is all about. You don't like people who do spank there kids and you want to paint us all with one brush as some sort of sexual abusers because they hafta bare their asses for their punishments.
Jul 04, 2011
Enough PleaseNEW by: Maria
Please, this is a site about homeschooling and educating children. It is not a place for sexual role play or sharing fantasies. And the latest material is way way over that line.
Dave, telling a 13 year old girl to take off her clothes, spank herself and then describe it to you is sick and completely out of bounds.
Travis, writing, "Any problem with making a teenage girl like Becky stand there fully nude hands on her head with her bare breasts bouncing and jiggling about as she gets spanked" makes it clear what you're here for and it isn't a serious discussion about teenage discpline. Stop touching yourself while you type and show some decency.
Becky, assuming that your story is true, you are not a teenager anymore and maybe it's time you got over it. Your stepfather went over the line in humiliating you, but soliciting men on the internet to tell you how they would spank you is the worst possible way to deal with it. Grow up.
Those of us who have to decide how to spank and when to do it also have to deal with adult men and women who sexualize child discipline and bring it into disrepute.
If you all want to indulge in that, please at least don't do it in a forum about children. I'm not going to argue with you when you start playing innocent and claiming to be parents and professionals. I know exactly what you're doing. I have seen child care forums hijacked by those who want to read and roleplay spanking stories before. Just please do the right thing and take it somewhere else.
Jul 03, 2011
Sarah and TravisNEW by: Dave
Well first with Sarah how old are you I get thought you must be in your early thridy late twenty right. And your husband knew about this right.And the spanking was just a stepmom spanking a stepson right nothing else right. As you using a belt or something other then your hand you are right. This answer is for Travis and you if you want. Useing your hand and a fourteen year old might be good or no go. You have to know the person who you are spanking meaning if you are spanking someone with your hand and bacisly it looks like they might be enjoy it well I should not say that the spanking is doing nothing to the person. bascily a spanking is supose to hurt right otherwise whats the point. Haveing said that if you are spanking someone and its getting no were you need to use something else but it can be done so the bottom is the only thing that is getting spanked if you want to use a belt thats fine just fold the belt in two or three or you can use a paddle aka (bread board) or strap. What you may want to try instead of have the spankee over your lap try over one knee instead you have better access to the bottom and can use your implements better.
Some people when getting spanked has a affect when useing your hand so you have to use something else you can tell this by when you are spanking them with your hand and nothing but you try useing some different and you get a different response like them moveing around over your knee or even if there standing and the old clenching of the bottom to lessen the pain. Or you ask then "is this hurting you"? you might be suprised with the answer. If you are spanking on the bare buttom on the buttom is getting red does not mean it is hurting them. This is the same whether you are spanking male of female som people can take pain and some not.
Jul 03, 2011
To Becky NEW by: Dave
Well well what in the world is going on here. It seem like a soap oprapa who ever thought you could write your story and then out of the blue or woodwork comes someone else with something else to tell. How about it Becky is there any truth to the story and what with that one. Who is Alexander from Berlin never the less what about those spankings.Let me first say what does sexualty got do to with spanking. Now I can be wrong but a parent or stepparent spanking there child whether its bare or not bare buttom were does sexualty get into the picture. A stepmom cannot spank her stepdaughter ( in this case) on the bare buttom without someone thinking is the stepmom getting off on it now come on people lets get real here. Now I am not saying it does not go on. Well I hope not. Parents this is your child you are talking about. Becky do you know why Alexander say's this? Now lets get down to who the hell does your stepfather girlfriend think she is spanking you? Well I should say first is this true? If it is then I go back to the first question. She has no right to spank you at all who is she? not to disrespect the girlfriend but she has no place to spank her. Becky had a mom all ready and even a stepfather. Now we need to know more about this situation maybe she had permission from who well I have some idea maybe the stepfather or maybe not either way she should have stayed out of it. I think this is abuse. Becky can you tell me more about this if you want I do not want to open a can of worms but it looks like it all has opened I look forward to hearing from you.
Jul 03, 2011
To Travis:NEW by: Sarah
Kevin is 14 and I've been married to his father for 7 years, since the Summer he finished 1st grade.
While humiliation is an effective component of corporal punishment, I don't believe in taking his pants and shorts down while his hands are on top of his head because I think the line between punishment and sexual abuse should be maintained.
As for the belt, it's not a big heavy strop; the belt is elastic and meant for wear with Sunday church clothes. He outgrew it several years ago and his father cut the buckle off so there'd be no chance of his getting hit with any metal parts.
During the spanking, I'm more beside him than behind while he's standing there with his pants and shorts around his ankles and his hands are on top of his head. I'm by no means staring at his private parts, but the kid's a freak of nature on par with bearded ladies and two-headed babies, and I would challenge anybody to completely ignore it.
From age 7-12 or so, when Kevin's father or I would spank him, he'd go up to his room five minutes ahead of time, pull down his pants and shorts and then lay flat on his stomach.
Then, at 13, he went to his room and only took his jeans off and told me that I had no right to see his bare bottom. I told his father what was happening and he went in to Kevin's room and told him to take his underwear off and remain standing. When I came in Kevin was trying to cover his privates and that's when his father told him to turn around, face me and take his shirt off. He had to keep his hands on top of his head while I gave him his first fully bare spanking
The lesson was that while sexual abuse is inexcusable, he messed up telling me I didn't have the right to see his buttocks and it cost him his dignity.
I completely agree with the idea of punishing for the most serious infractions(fighting, drug experimentation and disrespecting parental authority)with bare-it-all spanking, including bare breasts for girls.
I my opinion, you should give the adolescent a head-start to go to his or her room and undress, then come in and give the licks and then immediately walk out. The period of being naked shouldn't exceed 15-30 seconds.
The next time the teen considers such an infraction, they can reflect on having last time been reduced to a naked, jiggling spectacle.S
Jul 03, 2011
Spanked by My Stepdad - bare bottom, bra off too NEW by: Alexander
Dear Becky. You have written us o lot about spankings you have received from your stepdad.I really appreciate it. But it comes to my attention that you were even spanked several times by your's stepdad's new girlfriend during your parent's divorce and in the most ironic of ironies, one of those times was in a family changing room at a public pool. Please, don't be shy and write us about it a few details. Was it very humiliating, bare bottom spanking? Did some people see this? Do you think that your stepdad girfriend was bi-sexual? I think that it may by very intersesting story. Kisses, Alexander from Berlin.
Jul 03, 2011
question to Sarah about spanking her stepson's bare bottomNEW by: Travis
Sarah, I see that you too believe in bare bottom spankings.May I ask, how old are you and how long have you been the stepmother to your teenage stepson?
When time to spank him do you permit him to pull down his pants and underwear or do you do it for him? If you do is he facing you with hands already on his head? If so I imagine the embarrassment he feels should make him want to avoid such spankings all the more. I know I would if in his shoes.
As I explained to Becky Romero, the teenage girl on the board who gets spanked on her bare bottom by her stepdad, I insist on the hands-on-head position only when daughter tries to interfere with spanking.Is that why your stepson is made to assume that position too? If not I'd suggest allowing him to place his hands over his privates.
Does your stepson have any siblings? Do they get punished the same way (or maybe they don't get in the kind of trouble he does)?Are the spankings your stepson gets from you given in front of them? If so are any of them girls? His sisters or your daughters? How old are they and what are their reactions and how does he feel if punished in front of them?
I do disagree with you using a belt. You don't want to cause bad bruising or welts which could lead to charges of child abuse if he ever shows such welts to his friends. There's also the danger that he might unexpectedly turn sideways causing you to accidentally hit his penis. I would suggest that giving him bare hand spanking would be safer.
If the idea is to help him behave more properly by causing him a certain amount of pain and shame a bare hand spanking on his bare bottom might take a little longer to achieve the 'pain' part but don't you think the added benefit would be more shame? How do you think he would feel as his bare bottom is being being soundly spanked by the bare hand of his stepmother? Imagine the shame if his classmates knew that especially female ones? That might knock the chip off his shoulder that he seems to have.
It might be good for Becky Romero to hear a woman's perspective, you being one favoring bare bottom spankings. Do you have any objections to fathers or stepfathers giving our teenage daughters bare bottom spankings? What about the hands-on-head approach you make your stepson adopt? Any objections for making girls assume that position? Or removing their bra if they interfere?
How would you have dealt with Becky? Was not her swimming attire inappropriate for her age and if she showed the disrespect to you as her stepmom she showed her stepdad would it have bothered you in the least to spank her bare bottom right in front of her kid brother and the other boy?
You said your stepson's penis waggles about like a windsock as he cries in shame when spanked. Any problem with making a teenage girl like Becky stand there fully nude hands on her head with her bare breasts bouncing and jiggling about as she gets spanked even if her kid brother or house guests are present?
Jul 02, 2011
answers to Travis about my stepdad spanking my bare bottom NEW by: Becky Romero
Hi, Travis.
I think I touched on some of your questions when I was answering Dave, so I won't bother repeating some of the things I said. Also, many of your questions are to Dave, not to me, about how the two of you would punish and spank me if I were your daughter.
Back to my stepdad removing my bra: looks like you're the only one here who condones that and the humiliation I suffered being seen half-naked and a week later totally naked by others, including my brothers and some of their friends. But I suppose I shouldn't put words in Dave's mouth. You asked him some things that were based on my follow up answers. I would just say that, yes, I was trying to block the swats from my stepdad to my bare bottom but how can that be wrong for me to do it the spanking itself was wrong?
You said because I saw my younger brother spanked bare bottom that means he should see me spanked that way to and if not, you basically said how is that not unfair? OK, if you put it that way, I sort of have to agree in a way but you're basically saying if there were two choice: (a) my brother gets bared and spanked and I don't or (b) we both get bared and spanked. Which is more equally fair. Obviously, the latter. But you're leaving out something more fair to my brother. An option (c) where neither of us get spanked.
No, I don't feel you or Dave are picking on me. It's OK. I don't mind the questions.
I blushed when I read how you think me standing in front of my brother and his friend as you pulled down my bottoms shouldn't be cause for embarrassment because they wouldn't 'see much' because of my pubic hair. Aside from the fact that would still be hugely embarrassing anyway, I'll have you know I was smooth at the time. Not that my stepdad knew (he certainly found out a week later). But can't you see how making me stand up would be a lot more embarrassing?
Hi, Dave.
My stepdad's attitude got worse over the years. When my brothers and I were younger it was different. My mom wasn't working so she took care of us. My older brother and I were old enough to have some memories of our real dad, I was almost three when he died. My younger brother was just a baby. My mom re-married in 1990 when I was five.
Honest, my mom did not have a problem with my g-string bikini. Yes, your description is accurate. It was a g-string tie thong bikini. Basically my butt's exposed except for the piece of material up my butt crack. Something like this: http://www.ujena.com/ xbikini-details.php?c=1092&cid=194&pid=J356 Only with tie string on both sides of the bottoms.
OK, maybe it wouldn't have been something she'd have bought for me but I bought it myself with my own money. She also knew I'd occasionally skinny-dip at my friend's house (before you ask: no guys around, just a few of my close girlfriends). Nor was it like I was walking around downtown at lunch hour with it on either. I don't know why you think it's such a big deal. And I wasn't 9 or 10, but 16 at the time!
Jul 02, 2011
To JessicaNEW by: Dave
Well if you know that you are being bad then why are you doing it.And before I go whether do you know what you are asking for. Try this go to your room pull down your pants and underwear take your hand and spank yourself. Then write back how that went but remember when your mom spanks you its going to be alot harder. Have you been spanked before if so Why would you want to be spanked again most kids stay away from spanking. you should be carefull what yiou wish for it might come true. But first why can you not be a good girl. Your momhas a big job looking after you and your sister you should try to help your mom instead of fighting with her. Let me know what happens. thanks
Jul 02, 2011
EmbarassmentNEW by: Sarah
The simple answer is "Yes, in the course of a bare-bottom spanking genital exposure is not unheard-of."
My stepson is 14 and while not every punishment his father and I mete out is physical-we ground or restrict in many cases-if I do give him a belt spanking on the bare, it's bare-everything. We usually reserve spanking for fighting because there will soon come a time where if the police and criminal justice system gets involved due to his fighting, he may face serious time and be sidled with a criminal record.
Yes, pants and shorts to the ankles, yes, hands on top of head, and yes, he cries like a three-year-old before he even gets the first "lick" because he's humiliated.
The corollary is really quite simple. The same hormones which enrage him to the point that even a cross word at the wrong time cause the situation with other boys to come to blows have blessed him with a precociously developed "private" area.
Well, not so much "blessed" as "cursed" because part of getting a whipping is his freakish penis waving like a windsock while he cries in shame.
What he needs to realize sooner than later is that while he may carry that shame around for a long time after the punishment is over, it's not going to stop him from getting a good job like a criminal record could.
Jul 02, 2011
i think my mom needs to spank meNEW by: jessica
you dont really hear teens 13 say tht but im a bad kid i dont listen i dont do anything im told im mean to my mom and eveything ive never had one befor but some times i just wish she would tear my ass up i think i need i would love to have someone bend me over my bed and wip me while im nude right after the bath and when i start to cry and yell stop i want them to just keep goin in tell im really red i wish my mom or step dad would do tht but i dont wanna tell them
wat u think i shound do
Jul 01, 2011
Becky part 6NEW by: Dave
Now let jst clearify your bikini that you were wearing your front was cover right now your bottom was totaly exposed right except for a string that went up the middle of you bottom right right. So how come your did not have a problem with it did she see you in it. If you are me the truth will I would have a problem with that bikini because no young girl should be wearing that kind of bikini in public nor in front of your family or friend you are going around half naked. Come on Becky you are not a stupid girl be honest with me. I would go as far as saying that no daughter of mine would be wearing that either and if they did it wounld be one time only. You would let your daughter wear that?. Ok lets move on from this now your mom had nothing against the bikini but your stepfather did righ well the way I see it you most have been wanting a spanking because you knew your stepfather would have spanked you right even thou your mom had nothing to say about it whitch meant no pain but on the other hand your stepfather would have caused you pain but you decided who was he telling me not to wear something when my mom said ok so you thought you could get one over on stepfather well you did some what you got over his knee
Jul 01, 2011
Becky part 5NEW by: Dave
Well I am sad to say this is the second time I am writing this because I do not know about you but I fine it hard to keep track of the numbers so I went well over the 3000 count and to erase some but it all went I have to find some way to count while writing.So here I go are you telling me that your brother got spanked for you or instead of you well you should feel bad. Did you ever take a spanking for him seeing that he took some for you? You need to forgive yourself that was a long time ago and it make you feel better go ask him for forgiveness and I do not think you are going to have a problem stop beating yourself up about it.And look at it this way by you still have problems with it you are allowing your stepfather to win again and we cannot have that now can we. Life is to short to worrying about the past.
Jul 01, 2011
Becky part 5NEW by: Dave
As I read more and more about your life one things enters my mind wht did you mother ever marry this man? was he always like that? or did he change. What I also see that there was no love between you and the rest of the family towards him. At the beginning it is normal for kids and adult to be calling one another step-- but after a few years the word step disappears because people grow on one another meaning closer and a matural love for one another for some reason it never happed here. I have some ideals but I am not sure. Tell me did you see him as a father and another athurity figure and someone trying to take your real dad's place so you put in your head no bleepen way. Then you add the total disrespect for one another do you guy's normaling talk to each other by swearing or just towards him.The other thing is Your mom and stepfather did not seem to have eye to eye on discipline and you seem to take advantage of that case and point the bikini your mom had no problem with it ( is that the truth) but your stepfather did so you decide that you would show him. I would think you would want to avoid a spanking meaning you got spanked the week before for wearing that bikini I guess you really did not learn your lesson because you wore it again and got another spanking for it but at least you got to wear the bikini right. Wrong Becky you most have wanted a spanking for some reason I am sorry I am being so harsh but Beck you are not a stupid girl. Ya your mom had no problem with it but you stepfather did a normal person would have not woren the bikini to prevent the spanking.Ya your mom said yes but that would cause no pain no embarrassement your stepfather did cause all those things. It a matter of pain or no pain. Ya you thought that you could get one over your stepfather and you would be the winner. You were the winner alright you won and black and blue bottom and unable to wear the bikini again for a couple of days to prevent questions. That last spanking you got for wearing the bikini did you submit to that one or was it another fight? and did you wear it after that. As for your brother you should feel bad are you telling me you allowed your brother to take spanking that were but some how he took them. Now that was not fair the deserve a good spanking for you. Let me ask you this did you ever take a spanking for him? I can be harsh because as you see I am a straight no nonscene kind of guy. But I do have a heart be stricted when its time and be more loving. Becky that was years ago you have to forgive yourself and maybe if make you feel better ask your brother for forgiveness and if he does whats the problem let yourself off the hook ok. Are you relegious if so go to church. If not it really does not matter just let yourself off the hook. You do know by you keepings this in your mind you are allowing your stepfather in win
Jul 01, 2011
answers to Dave about my stepdad spanking my bare bottomNEW by: Becky Romero
Part Four of my answer.
As for your question about what punishment I think I should have got: none. I really don't think he should have spanked me because of the bikini, especially since my mom didn't have a big problem with it.
After that first spanking, once I put a dress on, my mom wanted to get me away from my stepdad so we went to the mall. First we went to a park, where we got out of the car and just slowly walked or stood, since I still couldn't sit comfortably. I told my mom how much I hated my stepdad and so on. My mom said she didn't think there was anything wrong with the bikini, but that he was stubborn and I shouldn't provoke him, especially while she was away the following weekend.
(I still didn't know at that point the reason why she was going to see my grandmother was to tell her she was going to file for a divorce).
I finally blurted out what I had been holding back for years: "Why don't you divorce him?" Little did I know at that time she was already taking steps to do so. We talked about my real dad, how much he loved me when I was a baby, how his death effected her, how things would have been different had he lived. We must have talked for a couple hours, crying, laughing, sometimes just staring at the birds and flowers. By then I was able to sit in the car and we went shopping. When we got home, I avoided my stepdad the rest of the evening, not to mention my brother and his friend Vaughn. There was never an apology from my stepdad. Just disapproving looks and glares.
BTW, Dave, I did try to post the question of whether it's ever OK to remove a teenage girl's bra during a spanking, but I don't know, maybe it was too long or something, because I can't find it posted here anywhere.
You asked if it's OK that you talk about my spankings on another website. Yes, I guess so. I mean, I don't mind or anything if that's what you're asking. But if you do I just hope you put it in proper context. I mean if it's about me that is. Probably the easiest way is just to link to this page or cut and paste what I've said. You asked if I would mind and no I don't. I mean, after all, I'm discussing publicly here what happened to me so I don't mind if you quote me as much as you want. If people don't think I'm right, that's OK too but at least they would have read me as quoted. So, no, I don't mind. It's helped finally talking about all this too.
As for my life now? I share an apartment with two close friends who just finished grad school. We went to college together. I'm 25. I have a boyfriend. I'm working part-time in interior decorating). My two roommates and another good friend had bought a house together after high school rather than dorm. We still own it and rent it out year-round to students. I'm very close with my mom and brothers. My older brother's married and has two kids. I'm happy.
I see Travis has asked me more questions. I don't mind answering them too. Maybe over the weekend.
Jul 01, 2011
answers to Dave about my stepdad spanking my bare bottomNEW by: Becky Romero
Part Three of my answer.
Ashamed, I stood there for a minute or so in front of my brother, holding my unfastened bra against my breasts. Then, I quickly fastened it and grabbed my brother on his shoulders and pleaded for him to go upstairs and not tell our stepdad I had ran out of the house. By this time, my brother thankfully thought the spanking I was getting was no longer funny and said he'd do as I asked. I hugged and kissed him, grabbed a jacket from the closet that didn't even fully cover my butt and ran out the front door, not even wasting time to put a pair of shoes on.
My best friend lived a little over a mile away and I ran for several straight blocks to her house without even stopping. I already said what happened after that so I won't repeat it and will try to answer Dave's other questions now.
My younger brother was treated horribly my our stepdad, constantly yelled at, called names, told he was stupid, a loser, etc. And spanked. And spanked. And spanked. He misbehaved a lot, much more than I did while growing up and way more than my older brother (who was a straight A student, on the baseball team in high school, always busy with extra curricular activities). As I got older, especially in high school, I really felt bad for my younger brother and the spankings he got were causing more arguments between my mom and stepdad.
I also felt guilty because I did nothing to protect him. He was my younger brother and I love him a lot and as his big sister I failed. I wish there were times I would have gotten spanked in his place. One time when I did speak up and told my stepdad to stop spanking him, I was told to shut my face or I'd be next. And I kept quiet when I should have continued to speak up. That I finally got some courage and told my stepdad off for spanking him instead of me because he had lied to protect me was too little, too late.
Jul 01, 2011
answers to Dave about my stepdad spanking my bare bottomNEW by: Becky Romero
Hi. I'll try to answer Dave's 6/29/11 post here in THREE parts (this is part two).
He exploded like an A-Bomb. He was sitting but he reached out and grabbed one of my arms and spun me around so fast I couldn't react quick enough and the towel fell to the floor. I was now facing him and was utterly mortified. He probably hadn't seen me fully nude since before I started first grade when my mom was still bathing me.
He shouted and said ''Just as I thought! You DID wear that piece of trash after I told you not to.''
As I teared up, I lied and shouted back that, no I hadn't. But even as I tried to cover myself with my hands he pointed out that I wouldn't have tanned as I did wearing a one-piece. Then as I began to cry and plead and beg, no, no, no, and began saying how sorry I was, etc, he grabbed me and put me over his lap and began spanking me really hard, accusing me of lying and shouting questions did I wear it, did I wear it?
Just about the time I admitted, yes I had and was sorry and for lying, etc, we both heard the front door slam shut. Other than my stepdad, my younger brother was the only one in the family who had a bad habit of slamming the front door, but was I ever glad he did that late afternoon.
I began quickly begging my stepdad to please not let Matt see me naked, please, please, please. To at least let me put a bra on.
He stopped spanking me and said, ''OK, but just a bra. And if your ass isn't back down here in one minute...''
All I could do was scream, ''OK, OK'' as I got up holding my butt in pain and ran upstairs, reaching the top stairs just as I heard my brother yell, ''What the fuck?''
As I grabbed a bra from my dresser, I was crying and in pain and looked in the mirror and my butt was red.
I looked down from the top of the stairs and unfortunately my younger brother had plopped himself down on a couch near where my stepdad was sitting.
My stepdad yelled out my name and I slowly made my way down the stairs, my bra on and trying to cover my pussy and my butt with each hand as I walked over to him, as my brother snickered and made comments like ''someone's getting a spanking, someone's getting a spanking.''
As I said earlier, my stepdad then made me unfasten my bra despite my protests because he didn't want me reaching back. Moments later I was back over his lap and my brother was getting an educational view of my lower anatomy as I cried, sobbed and kicked my legs about in pain.
Thankfully, as I said before, the phone rang, my brother went to answer it and my stepdad stopped spanking me when he went in the kitchen to take the call, warning me to stay where I was and not go upstairs because he ''wasn't done'' with me yet.
Jul 01, 2011
answers to Dave about my stepdad spanking my bare bottomNEW by: Becky Romero
Hi. I'll try to answer Dave's 6/29/11 post here in two parts (this is part one).
Re: the spanking I got for disobeyed my stepdad's orders not to wear the g-string to the lake.
When my friend Ashley dropped me off from the day at the lake with my friends, as I said I had already taken off my bikini and put it in the trunk of her car. My plan was to walk in the house wearing on a towel wrapped around me and hopefully simply go straight up to my room and get dressed. If my stepdad saw me, I had a plan. So I thought. He was in the living room so I couldn't get upstairs without him seeing me. Worse, my foolproof plan quickly collapsed like a house of cards.
He immediately demanded to know if I had worn the g-string to the beach. I lied and said no. He then demanded to see. I told him no. When he kept demanding I show him what I had on I finally said I wasn't wearing anything under the towel (the truth). He didn't believe me and still wanted to see.
The argument was getting more heated by the second. I was afraid he was going to grab the towel and see me naked so I yelled back at him something like ''God dammit. I fucking told you I'm not wearing anything but the towel. See?'' (and with that I re-arranged the towel so he could see my whole side)
He jumped up and got in my face, yelling ''What the fuck are you doing going to the lake naked?''
While I was yelling back that I did NOT go to the lake naked, he sat back down and ordered me over to him.
''If you think that spanking you got last weekend hurt...''
I was yelling back, trying to make him understand I did not go to the lake naked. He shouted back, ''Don't lie to me Becky or you'll get another spanking tonight. Now get over here!''
I shouted at the top of my lungs, ''Will you shut up and listen? I did not fucking go to the lake naked!''
Finally, he shut his mouth long enough for me to weave my lie, that I had worn a one-piece but it was not only wet but dirty from sand and I didn't want to mess up the inside of Ashley's car so I took it off and wrapped myself in the towel for the drive home but then forget my swimsuit in the trunk of her car.
He stopped yelling and didn't say anything for about a minute as I stood there still holding the towel around me.
Then he shocked me and ordered, ''Turn around.''
I said, ''What?''
He said, ''Turn around. I want to see your ass.''
Before it clued in why he said that I was indignant about his order but he yelled that if I didn't turn around and open the towel (off my butt) he would...
Interrupting his train of thought, I quickly complied but was really pissed that I had to bare my butt for him. As I stood there my back to him for what seemed like a good 5 or 10 seconds, I said, 'Well?''
When he didn't answer, I finally was ticked off enough that I said, ''Why don't you fucking kiss it!''
Jun 30, 2011
Becky Romero spanked by her stepdadNEW by: Travis
Becky, I guess some of what I asked you had already discussed but I didn't see that. I guess there's a delay in posts appearing. I only saw your 1st 2 posts dated 6/29 before I posted.
So a few more questions. Like Dave said we need to know more not to embarrass you but to be able to honestly answer your question if your stepdad was right in spanking you. So please don't feel bad or think were picking on you.
So far I haven't changed by opinion. I agree with your stepdad. But he was very wrong in calling you names even if his description of what you looked like wearing that swimsuit was correct. But the disrespectful way in how you answered him was certainly cause for being spanked on the spot.
When he spanked you after you disobeyed him two things come to mind. One disobeying him was cause for a spanking. Two you not only wore that swimsuit in public but took it off along side a highway. So shame on you for that. Did he know that? When you got home did he take your towel or did it fall off during the spanking? From what you said he did care about how you felt right? He let you put a bra on before your brother walked in.
Yes Becky. When you were spanked in front of your brother and his friend I would have let you take your own top off (only after warning you to stop interefering and only doing so if you didn't listen to the warning.) Then I would have pulled down your bottoms.You would therefore had some modesty protected since you could use your hands to cover your breasts and your pubic hair wouldn't let the boys see much.
To answer your question, once your bottoms were down and your top off I would then let you decide whether to lay across my lap or continue to stand as you were spanked.If you still interfered by reaching back it would be you baring your breasts to the boys not me. If they saw them bounce and jiggle, you would have been the blame for that as you would have caused your own embarrassment for not listening and submitting to the spanking, instead chosing to expose your breasts while reaching back to interfere. Dave, do you concur or how would you have handled it differently in front of the boys?
Why don't you think your stepdad had a right to tell you what not to wear? Sounds like this was a continuing problem with you wearing things inappropriate. You said your older brother wasn't spanked much. Just guessing but maybe he was allowed to bring girlfriends upstairs because your stepdad felt he was older and more responsible especially given how you dressed.
You said you wished your mom spanked all of you bottomless instead of your stepdad. Why would that be OK for your mom to see your brothers' butt and penis but not OK for your stepdad to see you half naked? Would that be fair to your brothers? I note you even said 'lol' so you would have thought that funny if that had happened but with your stepdad seeing you naked and spanking you it's unfair and so on. Double standard?
Jun 30, 2011
answers to Dave and Becky Romero about her spankingNEW by: Travis
Dave, I think we're in agreement most things. Let me take a stab at the main difference: Becky's bra coming off.
Yes Becky. I believe your stepdad acted appropriately. I'd do the same thing.As some one else said earlier, that your breasts bounced and jiggled about in front of your brother and his friend that's too bad and sorry it was embarrassing for you. But it was your fault that led to your embarrassment.
Dave, I agree spankings should be in private meaning at home or at relatives. Not in public. But at home its OK if mom, siblings, company see it. But never out in public like the store, park. Maybe we disagree? Maybe not?
Becky, I think Dave would agree with me that if only your bottom was bared and you were embarrassed just by that who's fault would it be? Yours.Not your stepdad's. Why?Because of your actions.
Dave, as to her breasts being bared, you said what you would do to her for interfering was give her extra spankings. That's reasonable. Except...
What if her interfering keep you from making contact? Say you made her stand up bottomless or lay down on your lap. Either way I figure you have a preference but one or the other or both you must feel is OK.So she's bottomless and interfering. If she's interfering and its not having the intended effect then won't the same thing happen with the extra spanking? And even if you do connect you have to be careful.You can't overdo it or it becomes excessive by laws.
So if you can't effectively spank her because she's interfering what do you do? What I would do is make her stand up (if she's not already) and take off her bra (or she can). Yes embarrassing for sure depending on how developed she is but I'd warn her first what would happen. If she still interferred then off it comes. Yeah she still might try to interfer and block the spanking but at the cost of more embarrassment since she couldn't cover up her front and the boys would get a good long look.
If you feel that's going too far but can't effectively spank her sure you could give her some extra punishment, take away her cell phone, no school dances, no friends over. But if any of that stuff really worked we would be spanking our daughters to begin with, right? So why bother?
Becky you knew your stepdad spanked. And at your house you knew that meant a good chance you'd be spanked bare. At least one of your brothers was spanked bottomless in front of you like that.I know you said you disagreed and think the better solution was for your brother not to be spanked but he was. So given that he was shouldn't your bad behavior be dealt with likewise? Or do you feel it is more fair for your brother to be bottomless in front of you and spanked but you not in front of him? You saw him bottomless and spanked in the past but now it's your turn. You really believe you should be spared the same? Come on. Be honest. Dont you think you both should be treated equally?
Jun 29, 2011
to Becky RNEW by: Dave
just to let you know I have posted your question on another site called fetlife the title of the story is spanking a 16 you would not believe the remarks people have lefted you should go and see them I posted that this morning and already 10 comments. I am very sorry I should have asked you first. I hope you did not mind,
Jun 29, 2011
To Becky NEW by: Dave
Becky this is a two part story. The first part is I never asked you what would you see as a suitable punishment for you misdeeds with your stepdad over the swimsuite incendent. The other is Why do.nt you ask your ask question to the genereal public in this form now the tile is spanking teenagers you can but your own tile something like.Do you think it's right for a 16 year old girl being given a bare bottom spanking and being totaly striped? and then tell your story. I just thought about it this concversation is only between you Travis and myself we have not heard from any one else so think about it and if you are to shy and you are fine with it I will ask for you? please let me know. besides all this whats going on in your life what are doing how are things how are you getting along with your family?
Jun 29, 2011
To allisonNEW by: Dave
After reading all those comments what did you decide to do about your missed behave children? Did you go back to spanking them. please let us know. thanks
Jun 29, 2011
so now we get more of the storyNEW by: Dave
Becky thank you for replying to my comments. So young lady we get more of the story. So your stepdad caught you for the second time in that bikini. You say you got spanked right how did you get spanked was it over the towel I beleive you said you had a towel wrapped around you or was it on the bare. Did you fight with him this time? or did you obey his commands meaning he told you to drop the towel and to get over his lap and you did or did you fight with him. Now you say it was the following weekend did you not learn from the first spanking that you should not be wearing that. Just the thought of another spanking or even a run in with your stepdad should of stopped you. or like you said you thought you would not be caught. I think it was You put in your head ( I will show him if I want to wear this there's nothing that can stop me not even a spanking of any kind) its inportant that you tell us want kind of spanking you got because we can understand better your situtation I am sure you would agree. A spanking over the cloths is one thing a bare bottom spanking is completing different I look at it as double punishment. What is this you feeling bad about how your younger brother was treated? what could have you done to change things.? Do not forget you were a child to. Do you think he got spanked because of your behaviour. Tell me why you feel so badly. I need to know more about your family how it operated how people got along if they did. What I see so far is the stepdad loving his wife and as for the kids he rather not have them but srring that they are here. I going to make there life misable or thing like that please correct me if I am wrong. I did ask you about your family before but I guess to many things to answer. How about your older brother how did he fit in? I look forward to your answers. thanks
Jun 29, 2011
Spanked by My Stepdad - bare bottom, bra off tooNEW by: Becky Romero
About our argument and what was said? Fair enough question. One, remember, I was caught by surprise that they were in the living room. So that was embarrassing to begin with them seeing me in the bikini.
It basically went something like:
He started yelling at me, ''What the f--- are you wearing?''
I told him as matter-of-factly, it was a new bikini I had bought to wear to the beach the following weekend.
He said, ''Like hell you will'' and proceeded to order me to get upstairs and change. I told him, yes, I was going to change, but that's what I would be wearing to the beach.
He said no "STEPdaughter" of his was going to be walking around looking like a two-bit stripper. I lashed right back, saying no "STEPfather" of mine was going to tell me how I could dress. And it basically got worse from there. We continued arguing and shouting at each other and then he grabbed me and put me over his knee, saying by the time he was done I ''wouldn't want any guys looking at my bare ass.''
And then it began. I was initially successful in deflecting a number of the swats, but once he undid my bikini top, one hard slap after another crashed down on my bare bottom. I was soon crying, begging him to stop to no avail and only the unexpected intervention of my mom, who thankfully heard me crying when she had come back into the house, avoided a much more prolonged spanking. Still, my butt was really stinging from his repeated slaps.
My mom and stepdad started arguing, her telling him to stop spanking. He responded that I was disrespectful and nothing but a "spoiled brat" and he didn't want me going to the beach looking like a "slut" and embarrassing him. I was still over his lap as they argued for another minute or so, though he had stopped swatting me.
Then he slapped me one more time on my bare bottom, one that really stung, and then he let go of my right arm, warning me if I ever wore that "slutty outfit" again, he'd finish what he started. (which, unfortunately, he did.)
Once I was finally standing, my butt felt like it was on fire and I was reaching back rubbing it with one hand while holding one side of my bottoms up with my other hand. I was no doubt springing up and down on my feet and hadn't yet realized Vaughn, my brother's friend, was now sitting on the couch a few feet in front of me. (Yes, Travis, they were no doubt bouncing and jiggling as I was springing up and down on my feet.)
Re: Your comment #4. I don't feel my stepdad was necessarily 'preserving my modesty' by not making me stand up and then removing my bottoms. Are you or Dave saying that's what he should have done?
I don't disagree with your 'observation' as to WHY my stepdad removed my bikini top or that it was 'effective' in stopping me deflect swats. But can you NOT see how embarrassing that was and shouldn't that be a factor in perhaps not doing it?
Just because he technically had a legal right to spank me and perhaps one to even fully undress me too doesn't make it right.
Jun 29, 2011
Spanked by My Stepdad - bare bottom, bra off tooNEW by: Becky Romero
This is to answer Dave's part 3 and Travis' post of 6/27/11.
Dave, it's not like my stepdad had some rulebook that he read to us. I know some parents practically do that, so their children sort of know when they might expect a spanking. My stepdad wasn't like that at all. So it wasn't as if you knew whether you would be spanked over something (this really applied more to my younger brother, because my older brother rarely was spanked and I, though when I finally started to get spanked it was bad, didn't get spanked when I was younger, though the threats were always a constant. Plus, my mom never spanked us. And she really didn't want him spanking us either but part of the whole thing about the divorce was she wasn't to divorce him earlier but was afraid. She was biding time for us to get older where joint custody and or visitation orders would be less likely.
I understand what you're saying though. I have a close friend and roommate whose mom spanked her and her two younger sisters. She got it bare bottom too at times. But the spankings she got from her mom were never given in a state of raging anger. Her mom never called her names or belittled her in front of others or alone. My friend basically never went to bed crying from a spanking. I know if my mom had spanked us and did so like that, it wouldn't have been bad at all. (well, I guess my brothers would have been embarrassed with their undies down, lol).
The last words I said to my stepdad were during that mediation in 2002 after which he slapped me across the face in the hallway later. I had told the mediator how I often cried myself to sleep wondering why the drunk driver couldn't have killed my stepdad instead of my real dad. The last time I saw him was when my older brother got married. He was invited and came but I did not talk to him. My older brother still sees him but very infrequently, my younger brother not at all.
He was not someone you could go to with a problem or for help with homework etc. Hugs? Kisses? Oh sure. When the first Bush was president and I was in Kindergarten. I'm not kidding. OK, maybe during Clinton's first term too. Unless later when it was at a birthday party or Christmas etc and it was for show around relatives.
I can't tell you how relieved I was when my mom announced she was divorcing him. He eventually got re-married but doesn't have any kids.
Travis, I think I basically answered your question about my bikini when I answered Dave's similar question.
Jun 29, 2011
Spanked by My Stepdad - bare bottom, bra off tooNEW by: Becky Romero
Dave asked me some other questions. OK, honestly, if I have a daughter someday: no, I'd prefer her not to wear what I did to a public beach. I wouldn't care so much if she wore it at home or to a friend's pool. But I don't think my stepdad had a right to order me not to wear it, especially since my mom didn't have a problem with it. OK, sure wasn't completely happy about it but I told her I was going to wear it to the lake and she didn't tell me not to.
Dave, it wasn't that I thought it was wrong, but I would have been embarrassed had my stepdad, brother and my brother's friend saw me in it so that's why I was heading upstairs to change, not knowing they had already come back and were in the living room when I walked in there to go upstairs.
OK, you're a guy so maybe you don't understand. But there's a difference wearing something like that with friends (and even with strangers around) at the lake or at their house and having your brother or stepdad seeing you in it, especially unexpectedly.
My stepdad was always bossy, strict and basically overbearing. My mom and him separated once before for a number of months when I was around 10. But he had become increasingly mean to me once I started high school. For example, there was no problem if my older brother had a girlfriend over and they studied upstairs in his bedroom. But I couldn't bring a boyfriend upstairs. He was critical of practically everything I wore. My jeans were always too tight in his eyes, I displayed too much cleavage, my skirts were too short, and of course with that bikini he hit the roof (not to mention my bottom).
You said you would have given me extra spankings for trying to deflect the swats. I guess he did too or would have had my mom not stopped him but that first one over my bikini was really the first full-fledged spanking he ever gave me. There were a few other times he started to spank me (my butt even being bared) but got interrupted. Even though I knew my younger brother got it bad, I really had no first-hand experience, had no idea how much it was going to sting. Not to mention the embarrassment.
You said he had patience. Well, I know what you mean but patience? LOL! He had absolutely no patience for anything, whether it be waiting for my mom to fix something to eat or him sitting in traffic on the expressway. Of course his solution, humiliating as it was, to untie my bikini top did work from his standpoint: I stopped trying to deflect the swats after that. I don't know how you would have reacted because I was partially successful in deflecting them, though ultimately my actions caused me more embarrassment. I suppose your response would have as well (caused more embarrassment), since it would have meant more minutes over your lap to deliver additional spankings with my bare bottom exposed in front of my brother and his friend (as well as to you). Or am I wrong to assume that? Do you feel I should be over his lap or standing while bottomless? Dave? Travis?
Jun 29, 2011
Spanked by My Stepdad - bare bottom, bra off tooNEW by: Becky Romero
To make a long story short, I finally couldn't take my brother being spanked for something I did and I ended up being spanked again. And so I was and so it was going on when my older brother, his girlfriend (now wife) and a couple they had gone out on a double date with walked in the house through the back door.
My mom came back downstairs and another argument started and my stepdad stop spanking me but by that time it was way too late. I had been totally humiliated.
Travis, you asked if he had ever made me take my bra off before that earlier spanking and if he ever did so again. To answer your questions respectively, no and yes. And that night was one of those times (yes, I was naked).
Though it was a horribly degrading evening it ended with my mom announcing to us and shocking us all that she was going to be filing for divorce.
Kris, my now sister-in-law, came over to the couch where I had flung myself over onto and told me what my mom said, led me upstairs and comforted me as I got dressed, my mom instructing me to stay at my friend's house for a few days. By the time I got home later that week, my stepdad had moved out and then we went through the whole divorce process, CFS interviews, exams, mediation, etc.
Dave, you asked if my stepdad had removed my bikini top on purpose or by accident. It was clearly on purpose. He figured I'd be embarrassed and cover my breasts instead of trying to deflect the swats with my brother and his friends sitting on the floor not too many feet away from me. He didn't rip it off me per se, but he yanked hard on the tied strings in the back as I lay across his lap so once untied it fell off my breasts and to the floor quite suddenly. And with him already holding one arm behind my back, by the time I got the other one around in front of me... well, enough said there.
As for my bikini bottoms, it was a g-string tie thong bikini, so yes, you're correct. I was basically bare back there even before being spanked. But he still untied the sides and slipped it down off my bottom, leaving the front part untouched.(Travis, you had thought maybe if I stood up and was allowed to remove my own top to keep my hands occupied covering my breasts. If that happened, my untied bottoms would have slipped right down to the floor.)
Jun 29, 2011
Spanked by My Stepdad - bare bottom, bra off tooNEW by: Becky Romero
To Dave & Travis (continuing)...
I still wore the same bikini to the lake the following weekend because I thought I had outsmarted him by avoiding him seeing me with it on. Unfortunately I over-thought the plan and ended up not only being spanked but because I was caught in a lie got spanked for that too.
I really hadn't thought I'd get spanked period because I didn't see how he'd have known I disobeyed him. (And remember: my mom didn't have a problem with me wearing it to the lake with my girlfriends and my stepdad knew that from the argument. Since I knew she was going to be out of town at my grandmother's that weekend I knew I had to be careful but felt that meant just avoiding being caught.
So I wore it. Had a great time with my friends. There had been an issue with my clothes as my friend Ashley picked me up and we rushed out so my younger brother who was up the street at a friend's wouldn't come home, see me wearing it and tattle on me to our stepdad. So unfortunately the bag with my clothes got left behind, her thinking I had put them in the back seat, me thinking she did. So all I had on was the g-string tie thong and couldn't walk in the front door wearing that. So on the way home Ashley pulled over to the side of the highway and I took it off, then wrapped myself in a towel. The lie I would tell was that I had on a one-piece but it was all wet and I didn't want her car seat to get wet or dirty from the sand and forget it in the trunk of her car.
When Ashley dropped me off, he was home. We argued and so on and I got spanked, even more so when I admitted I had lied, the towel ending up on the floor. I had to beg him to let me go upstairs and put a bra on cuz I heard the front door slam (my younger brother coming home). I did and the spanking continued in front of my brother. But he wouldn't let me fasten it cuz I couldn't help but try to still deflect the swats (he spanked really hard!). When he got interrupted by a phone call and went into the kitchen, I quickly grabbed a jacket, begged my brother to lie and say he didn't know I had ran out and I ran over to my best friend's house. When her parents saw how red my butt was they wanted me to call the police but I called my mom. She caught a quick flight home, calling my stepdad first telling him I was waiting for her at the airport (a lie so he wouldn't go calling my friends to see where I was).
A number of hours later my friend and her parents dropped my mom and I off at our house. On the porch I took off the skirt my friend had lent me, leaving me in just the short jacket and only my bra on underneath.
Almost immediately my mom and stepdad started arguing. When things seemed to calm down my mom went upstairs to shower and change and that's when in the dining room my stepdad began picking on my younger brother.
Jun 29, 2011
Spanked by My Stepdad - bare bottom, bra off tooNEW by: Becky Romero
To Dave & Travis,
I'll try to answer first Travis' older post, then Dave's then Travis' latest post. If I forget something, sorry, please point it out. I don't mind the give and take when it's a polite conversation like this, despite the personal nature of it all. Looks like it will be a couple posts given the 3000 char limit.
Travis, are you saying that if my parents hadn't gotten divorced I should not only have been spanked bare bottom but topless too just because I tried to deflect swats to my bottom? You do realize I was 16 at the time? With an older brother and a younger brother?
As to my younger brother, alright this is hard for me to answer because I do feel guilty over how Matt was treated. Yes, I saw him get spanked and no I don't feel I deserved special treatment. But I am almost 3 years older than him. Can't you imagine how embarrassing it was for me with him watching me getting spanked at 16, not to mention on my bare bottom and topless too? As to fairness, no, I know it wasn't fair for him to be spanked at times when we both misbehaved. But I'd prefer to think that true fairness would have been him not getting spanked period than for me to have been spanked as well to somehow even the score.
Regarding my stepdad removing my bikini top. You suggested that I should have been allowed to stand up and remove it myself. OMG! Since he had already by that point untied and pulled down the back of my bottoms over my butt, making me stand up at that point would have meant even more embarrassment.
Yes, obviously I was embarrassed that my brother and his friend saw my bare breasts. Of course it was embarrassing that they inevitably 'bounced' and 'jiggled' in front of them as I couldn't keep them covered the whole time, at times grabbing the chair leg with my only free hand as I winced in pain. Obviously, they teased me too.
I was embarrassed by all that, not just by any one facet of my punishment. My bottom was totally bare. And I was being spanked over my stepdad's lap and crying and begging for him to stop. Every part of it was humiliating. My brother's friend, a boy who was 12 at the time, was someone whom I regularly babysat for years, the son of a good friend of my mom's from college. You can imagine how completely ashamed I felt every time I babysat him and his four younger siblings after that - starting with the following evening.
Jun 28, 2011
Becky and Travis part 4NEW by: Dave
travis what I understand Becky knew what she was wearing was inappropriate whats why she was running up the stair to make sure her stepdad did not see what she was wearing. Lets see if we can all agree to the fact she was going to get a spanking that we all know and have nothing to say about it. She knew her stepdad was a spanker it it might be on the bare bottom. She also knew that her stepdad spanked were ever when ever he decide no matter who was around. So I am sad to say she did desevre to be spanked. It all starts from the first time she got spanked the stepdad did not set out the rules meaning she takes the spanking like a responible person meaning the stepdad give her instruction and she following them. And if they are not followed she get additional spanks longer and harder another word double punishment. that way we would not be having this problem right now but we are. I am looking at this if this was me spanking my daughter and you should be looking it like that way to Travis. The spanking should be done in private not in front of the public. Would you have stripe your daughter in public and spanked her I know I would not I look at it as I love my daughter and would protect her from embarrassemnt were possible I just see it as wrong. As for the beach the week later I do not think she got caught whether she did or did not offencely she did not learn from the first spanking. It was a war of the wills. she should not been wear that like of bikini at all when she was out on her own thats her choice but under the stepdad roof it was he's rules, I think there's more to this then we both know. All's I know that this has bother her alot after all these years and it time to move on and start to heal and by use fighting over it's not help her at all you have your opion and vis vera and I forgot these Becky's. Becky it was a bad thing that happen to you and I am sorry you had to go thought it but please move on otherwise its going to ruin your life and you know what you let your stepdad win again. Take the hight road kid on move on. good luck
Jun 27, 2011
re: Becky Romero, her stepdad removing her bra, spanking her bare bottomNEW by: Travis
To Dave & Becky:
I hope Becky will answer Dave's and my earlier questions to clear up any misunderstanding.
Here's how I see it and first let's see if we can agree on a few things.
1 Becky was wearing swimming attire totally inappropriate for a teenage girl her age
2 As Dave speculated Becky did you know this was wrong or that your stepdad disapproved?If not why did you not want him to see you in it?
3 Becky said "words were exchanged and I was soon pulled over his lap." Becky can you elaborate? Maybe if you didn't talk back you wouldn't have been spanked?
4 Becky said she was wearing a ''g-string tie thong bikini'' and that once she was over her stepdad's lap: "He then untied my bottoms and pulled down the back portion of it, out of my butt crack and down below my bottom." Sounds if he preserved some her modesty in front of boys by not having her stand and pull bottoms down?
5 As to her top she said her stepdad warned her to stop interfering but she kept doing it anyway: "I kicked up my feet as he continued to spank me. So without warning he yanked hard on the string of my bikini top, undoing it. As it fell to the floor, my brother's friend Vaughn giggled at my exposure."
My observations.
Stepdad had enough and lost patience.Top was removed because girl kept interfering. Once breasts were exposed she covered them up instead of interfering so the spanking was allowed to continue. Embarrassing sure. But effective.
Q for Dave. What would you have the stepdad do? Becky said she would have refused to go to her room so you either have to spank her in front of her brother and the other boy or not spank her.
From what Becky said bare bottom spankings were given in the house and in front of siblings/witnesses. So she knew this but still choose to break the rules. I'm just saying either you demonstrate your authority and spank her and if removing her bra makes her cover her breasts so can spank her instead of her interfering then either you do it or dont spank her. I think Becky said judge said it wasn't sexual abuse so what's the problem?
Q for Becky. Like Dave said, did you have prior spankings like that so you knew what might happen? Did you stepdad remove your bra in earlier spankings? If not did you learn a lesson that day and decide to act mature and responsible?
Maybe your stepdad was bad maybe not. We don't know. But your the one who said he had a legal right to spank you that way. You just didn't like it. Sure many kids don't like being spanked. But mature ones learn from discipline and act more responsibly so they dont get punished again. Did you learn? I wonder. You said you got spanked a week later ("I had defied him and wore the g-string thong bikini to the lake")
I'm sorry if you don't like the answers. But you do seem conflicted. I could be wrong and I'm sorry if I am so don't take this badly but maybe inside you know your stepdad acted correctly and your afraid to admit that to yourself?
Jun 27, 2011
becky part3NEW by: Dave
I am sorry I type so fast I did not realize that I went over the 3000 count I think they should allow you more or at least tell you when you get close because trust me I had to cut alot out and I did not keep what I wrote to you so now I will have to try and remember what I wrote. Over the years I have alot of deals with kids and my way of disciplinng them was old fashion spanking and even some bare bottom spankings I would tell them the rules that I had for them and if they broke them what would happen I went two steps beloned that I had them tell me what would happen if they broke the rules and they all told me that if they broke the rules I would put them over my knee and spank them. I also asked them if they again in what I told them they all said yes exspect for a few you did not like the fact I was hgoing to spank them. After I explain that they had nothing to worry about if they did not want to be spanked then the answer was behave. Ya you are right they said. And I was a person of my word. I never lied to them I told them if I say I am going to do something for you bad you good then I am going to do it I believe you have to treat kids like that way they know you mean business. In short my threats were threats that was carried out by action if need be. That what I call love. Was your dad always strict or did he change. Do you still talk to him? Did you and your brothers love your stepdad and did you get salong or was it like parent child relationship mean they talk you listen. Was he someone you could talk to when you had a problem. I mean was he a loving stepdad hugging kisses you and your brothers or was he not like that. Did you see him as your stepdad or someone else you had to listen to. I hope you can understand what I am trying to say
Jun 27, 2011
To Becky NEW by: dave
It does not matter whether she is living with him or not. The point is that she was getting a bare bottom spanking right we could all agree to that. What does removing or as I red ripping off her top have to do with it? As I see it nothing I am looking at it as a stand point of me being the father.If I were to spank my daughter on the bare bottom then I would have her or I would pull down her pants and underwear thats it the top the bra what ever it was has no part of the spanking. Are you saying because she was a girl she should have been totaly strip? If so why? When the father spanked the brother he was only spanked on tghe bare bottom he had to only drop his pants and underwear so whats the difference. I could be wrong but do not look at this as a man spanking a women if that is the cases than have her or him strip anyway you want its not that.Its a father or stepfather spanking his daughter point final. You may say its to make her embarrassit well having your bare butt exposed for all to see covers that ideal no as for her brother. please look at this as straight discipline nothing else. You are right if you can't do the time when do'nt do the crime. She should of just taking the spanking just to get it over with. Yes you are right that was not the kind of swim suit she should have been wearing around boys even thou they were her brothers. I am suprized they did not say anyhing I mean she is there sister. I might have it all wrong about the swim suit
Jun 27, 2011
to Becky RNEW by: Dave
let me try to answer comment. No no your father had no right to pull off your bikini top!! Let me make it very clear He wanted to spank you on your bare bottom right so what did that have to do with the top. Was it done by accindent or do you think it was on purpose I want you to really think about it.Sometimes when thing happen we think why that ---- he did that on purpose but really it was an accindent. As for the bikini bottoms are you telling me that it was like a thon so it covered the front but the back was left open so your bottom was exposed? if this is true what did you want your father to do. Any father would not like to see there daughter go out in public dressed like that now be honest Becky.No wait a minute I will ask you would you allow your daughter to wear something like that? actually you did no it was wrong because you try to run up the stairs before you stepdad could see it. right. Was your stepdad always stricted or did he change all of sudden. Well I have to say your stepdad had patients with you because if that was me spanking you I would have not tolerated you trying to stop me from spanking you. I believe that a spanking is a very serious thing so when someone is being spanked they should follow orders and do want they are told these stories I read even yours how you try to diflect the hitts by covering your bottom this is wrong and that would not work with me you did the crime now you get punished and if you tried to stop it you would get an additional spanking at the end. But you would have know that from the beginning and after a few additional spankings you would have stopped and just taken your spanking. Let me ask you this have you ever taken a spanking from your stepdad were you did not give him a hard time? and if you did you not notice that spanking went better than the others.I think from the very begining your mom and stepdad should have talked about what there ideals of discipline was and what they thought of spanking and even bare bottom spanking. I look at it this way your stepdad way of punishing you guys were spankings and even bare bottom spankings. I should ask were you ever spanked just on the pants or clothes see that you are a girl and can be wearing almost anything like a skirt shorts? so that was his way like it or not. so what ever misbehaving you might have done you knew he was going to spank you right so why make a fuss over it. You are a smart girl. If you did not want to be spanked then you should have been a good girl right right!!
Jun 26, 2011
To Becky Romero: Yes, your stepdad correctly spanked youNEW by: Travis
To Becky Romero. I stand by my opinion. Even more so after your last posts.
I didn't realize your no longer living with your stepdad so my suggestion he should spank you braless doesn't make sense now. Sorry you might not like to hear this but I do think at the time you should have been punished and any spankings you got after that should have been like I said bottomless and then your bra off to get you to stop interfering. Until a few months pass and after you demonstrated that you would cover up your breasts instead of interferring being spanked.
OK so you said to ask questions. Your a brave girl for answering so don't get mad if there embarrassing. You said you don't think you should be spanked different than your brother. You weren't. You saw him get spanked bare and now he saw you. Isn't that fair?
You said a girl guest at your house saw him spanked bottomless. Presumably his balls bounced about so he was embarrassed. Now you got spanked and his male friend saw you bare as your breasts bounced about. So? Isn't that fair? Embarrassing sure but you said yourself you didn't feel as a girl you deserved special exemption right? If all his private boy parts were exposed but all your girl ones weren't wouldn't that be unfair? You even said he got spanked when you didn't though you both misbehaved. Is that fair?
OK about your bra coming off. Yes I think he acted correctly. Maybe he could have given you warning or let you stand up and take it off yourself. Then standing there it would have been your fault if the boys saw you topless or not since you could cover yourself with your hands.
Were you embarrassed because your breasts bounced and jiggled as you were spanked or just upset they saw your breasts? Or maybe because they teased you after?
To answer your other question yes if a parent is going to spank bare bottom, then the parent should be prepared to take off the child's clothes if the child refuses otherwise don't bother. Kids are smart and if they know they won't get spanked bare bottom if they don't undress they won't undress.
Becky, I wouldn't have any hestiation taking yours off given the circumstances you described and if your embarrassed, I'm sorry but I'd hope you learn to behave and not want to be embarrassed again.
You said though you got a bare bottom spanking you still disobeyed him and wore what sounds like very revealing swimming attire in public. Did you not expect to get a similar spanking? Did you get spanked again because you didn't listen to your stepdad? If so, did you accept responsbility for your actions?
But for your main question was your stepdad right in spanking you? Sorry Becky but you answered it yourself. You said the judge agreed with him even though you were bare bottom. That he didn't do anything sexual (which no one would condone). Since you admit he legally had a right to take off your clothes and spank you really what's the problem? I'm sorry its not the answer you want to hear.
Jun 26, 2011
Spanked by My Stepdad - bare bottom, bra off tooNEW by: Becky Romero
To Dave & Travis,
Although this isn't a pleasant subject for me to talk about, I find it does help. So I don't mind answering questions about my particular situation as long as it is a civil conversation even if some of the things are embarrassing. Certainly not the kind of conservation I'd be comfortable talking about to random guys at a party, but here it's okay.
Dave (continuing past the 3000 character limit), just to clarify, are you saying that him baring me from the waist down was acceptable just not baring my breasts too?
Travis: No, I'm not saying I should have been treated differently than my younger brother. I do however feel there were many times when he shouldn't have been spanked. There were also times years earlier when we might have equally misbehaved but only he got spanked. But our stepdad treated him and picked on him horribly.
As for my bikini, I had thought my stepdad, my brother and my brother's friend hadn't got back to the house yet when I had tried it on to show my mom. If I hadn't got caught in it while heading back upstairs to change I wouldn't have gotten spanked at all that day cuz my stepdad didn't even know about it.
As for him removing my bikini top, I had just been pulled over his lap and was getting spanked hard. How could I not instinctively try to deflect the swats to my bare bottom? Plus, he was holding one of my arms behind my back because of what I was trying to do so I had only one free hand to try to cover my breasts with which was basically impossible to do adequately given the circumstances.
As to your suggestion, Travis, do you have any idea how humiliating it is being spanked like that, fully exposed, not just in front of my stepdad but in front of my brothers, not to mention others? Of course being naked I tried to cover myself. But that doesn't lessen the shame.
One thing I've noticed is that many pro-spank parents say they would tell a their teenage child to remove their clothes and prepare for a spanking, but what if it was someone like me who would have initially refused? Is that justification for removing my clothes by force? Or would you give up and give me some alternative punishment (grounding, etc.)?
I guess what I'm saying is I know my stepdad had a LEGAL right to spank me, even with me undressed and regardless that others were present in our house because it wasn't sexually abusive or considered excessive. And I'm not saying I deserve special treatment because I'm a girl either and the law doesn't make a distinction with regards to the age of a minor. But just because something is legal, does that make it right too?
Jun 26, 2011
Spanked by My Stepdad - bare bottom, bra off tooNEW by: Becky Romero
Hi, Dave,
Thank you for responding.
I realize this might effect your answer as to whether you felt me receiving that spanking and the manner in which I got it was warranted, but I have to honestly say that no, my stepdad did not sexually assault me, thank God, never. Some people told me they felt since he removed my clothes and spanked me bare that he did. But he did not by any legal definition and I did not feel like he did either, nor did he touch my breasts or vaginal area. I was being punished pure and simple. He obviously felt shame was a necessary part of it.
I did feel he was PHYSICALLY abusing me but unfortunately during my parent's divorce proceedings the judge said that the infrequent amount of spankings I did receive did not come close to meeting the threshold of 'excessive corporal punishment.'
The judge added though it was not common for a girl my age (then 16) to be spanked on my bare buttocks by a parent, it was far from unusual nor did the law prohibit it since the physician's report (part of a mandatory physical exam my brother and I were required to submit to) stated those spankings had not caused a "substantial risk" to my "emotional health" and there was not yet sufficient evidence to suggest further such spankings would either. So a request to have him barred from spanking me (or my brother) during the initial visitation/mediation period was denied.
My mom (unknown to all of us at the time) was already contemplating getting a divorce because of his increasing hostile attitude towards us and the arguments she had with him, particularly over how we were disciplined. That spanking and those a week later basically were the straw that broke the camel's back. (I had defied him and wore the g-string thong bikini to the lake anyway thinking as long as he didn't actually see me in it that I'd get away with it. I over-thought the plan and it backfired.)
Yes my stepdad did seek custody (my older brother was already in college so it was just over my younger brother and I). I think part was to spite my mom and part to spite me, although he said it was because we needed to learn proper discipline, respect and have proper boundaries set. I guess maybe too like someone told me he was angry about losing it all, the marriage, control over our lives, etc, couldn't handle us (me especially) getting older and asserting our independence and it was his way of fighting back.
In the end my mom won full custody but only because he basically shot himself in the foot, slapping me across the face in a hallway making my lip bleed slightly and calling me an 'ungrateful little tramp' after a mediation over something I had said and the mediator just happened to see it when returning back around a corner. When he refused to undergo counseling for anger management that was basically it and my mom got full temp custody with visitations stopped and later got permanent custody when the divorce was final the following spring.
Jun 25, 2011
to Becky RNEW by: dave
this in responses to your comment.Maybe I misunderstood your story about your stepdad I was under the inpression that he was trying to sexualy asault any chance he could or at least was abusing you by spanking you to much at least that what I got from your storeis. Maybe you could answer this for me if he was your stepdad why was he trying to get custidy of you and your brother or was it a trick so he could get money from your mother for child support. I also notice that you have seem to have calm down to you do not seem to be so angry. Which is good you know Beck bad things happen to good people its what you do with it that matters. Use it as a learning experenice use what you have gone though to help someone there's nothing like telling someone I understand what you are going though because I have been there myself just my saying that you are in the door. Books can only teach you so much there's nothing like living though it. Ya it would be nice to have gone though something better. Keep up the good work but be careful who you listen to that guy G I am sorry he was wrong to say that when a female is getting a bare bottom spanking she should have to remove all her cloths there's no point to that.there should be a way for people to talk to each other. Otherthan here maybe the adminitraters of this site can tell us how were can do this if you want.
Jun 25, 2011
To Becky Romero: Yes, your stepdad correctly spanked youNEW by: Travis
To Becky Romero: Yes, your stepdad correctly spanked you.
You said your sibling was often spanked in front of you his pants down and exposed. Obvious question: why do you think you should be treated differently? Double standard preference for girls perhaps?
And your butt was already bare because of your choice of swimwear (if one could even call it that).
As for your bare breasts you made the choice to interfere with your stepdad spanking you. You said yourself your stepdad only took off your bra hoping you'd cover your breasts instead of interfering with the spanking. So it's your own fault that caused the boys seeing your bare beasts. How much they bounce around when you are spanked of course depends on your teenage body's development but that's only natural and not your stepdad's fault.
I do think George is partially wrong. You should generally be allowed to use your hands to cover your breasts or pussy. And since you're a teenager I'd let you chose whether you'd want to stand up or be spanked over my lap.
But to teach you to stop interfering and submit, I would make you take your panties and bra off for all your spankings for at least the next couple months. Since you said your sibling was often spanked no matter who was around, so it would be with you too - in the family room. After you fully undress I'd allow you to cover up your front parts with your hands if you wish, but you'd have to otherwise remain fully bare until the spanking was over. This way you probably wouldn't interfere being spanked since you'd want to protect your modesty. A fair exchange I'd say, especially if you're embarrassed your brother or other company was present. Wouldn't you agree?
Of course you have another option. Be a good girl and behave. Listen to your parents. Don't be disrespectful and wear more modest swimming attire. Apologize to your stepdad and tell him that from now on you won't fight being punished and offer the 'bra off' compromise I outlined above.
To show your good faith, tell your parents that you deserve and want another spanking because of what happened earlier. Once your parents and siblings are gathering in the family room, remove all your clothes and present yourself to be spanked. You'll be happy with yourself afterward that you've gained back their respect. Conduct yourself appropriately from now but if you're spanked further this way over the summer, accept it as your responsibility for your poor behavior.
When school resumes in the fall ask your parents if you can keep your bra on for future spankings on the condition you promise not to interfere - and that if you do not only will your bra be removed but you agree to place your hands on top of your head instead of protecting your modesty. Surely if you don't want your siblings or company to see you fully exposed, you'll behave like a young lady of your age should and you'll be thankful later in life for being taught proper discipline.
Good luck!
Jun 24, 2011
''Bare Bottom? Naturally, Bare Breasts? Why not?''NEW by: Becky Romero
Though disappointed that even after I made my case that I feel my stepdad was wrong for spanking my bare bottom AND baring my breasts in front of my younger brother and his 12-year old playmate (because I was trying to deflect the swats to my bare bottom) when I was 16, ''George'' not only indicated that if I were his stepdaughter I could not only expect to be totally bared too for my spankings but that I wouldn't even be allowed to cover myself at all, adding the additional humiliating remark that if my ''breasts happen to bounce, that's just too bad.''
However, although this board has many pro-spank parent advocates, at least it appears George is the lone advocate of delivery such an embarrassing punishment to a teenage girl. That makes me feel a little better in that since other than him no one else is condoning what my stepdad did that it strengthens my belief that he was unjustified in his actions.
Jun 15, 2011
To GeorgeNEW by: Anonymous
The way you punish your daughter is very perverted!!
The humilation will not last only for a few days as you seem to think - it will last her lifetime. IT IS SEXUAL ABUSE TO FORCE ANYONE TO BARE THEMSELVES.
You are not a fit parent. The mother of these children needs parenting advice and should be there to protect them. Are you abusing her in the same way?
Jun 15, 2011
''Bare Bottom? Naturally, Bare Breasts? Why not?''NEW by: Becky Romero
Dave, thank you for the comments.
(I wish there was nesting of messages, would make it easier for people to follow/respond/discuss.)
I explained what led to this particular spanking earlier (see my two posts on 6/7/11). Those answer most of your follow-up questions since there's not enough characters allowed to repeat.
My mom never spanked us. My stepdad threatened to a lot and frequently spanked my younger brother. The most I had ever gotten was a very infrequent odd swat. However, he did either partially or fully expose my bare bottom on several previous occasions, but my mom, fate or whatever intervened and interrupted him from continuing.
It was not unusual for my stepdad to spank my younger brother (who was almost three years younger than me), pants down or underwear too, right on the spot, in the living room, wherever, whether I was present or not. One time in front of my older brother and his then-current girlfriend. When I was 13, my younger brother and I both had our bottoms bared at our stepdad's brother's house. My brother was got spanked first, but fate intervened for me before I got spanked (but unfortunately not before my panties came down inside-out over my thighs).
I guess what I'm saying is it was not completely shocking, but still. At the time I was 16. And my brother's friend was a boy I regularly babysat (the son of a good friend of my mom from college). So you can imagine being reminded of my shame continuously from just that.
I don't have any doubts he removed my bikini top because I was reaching back (and to add to my shame, of course). But not for any perverted reason. I wasn't sexually abused, thank God!
Had my mom not come back in the house and heard me crying, it would have been lasted longer and therefore even more embarrassing - I'm sure.
Yes, as you asked, I did NOT want him spanking me. Especially exposed or in front of anyone. So of course I'd have preferred being grounded. But keep in mind, that wasn't an option. He believed in spanking cuz he had been spanked too. Nor was asking to let mom do it an option, since he knew she wouldn't have and, anyway, he had grabbed me and put my over his lap and I was too afraid to get in a physical confrontation.
(My mom didn't have a problem with me wearing that bikini to the beach the following weekend. But as I said, he most certainly did.)
Unfortunately, it wasn't the last humiliating spanking he gave me but that and others were the proverbial straws that broke the camel's back and helped my mom speed up a process to divorce him she had already begun (we did not know it at the time). It was not a pleasant experience and requests to stop him from spanking us during the custody battle was denied. Ultimately, his own stupidity helped decide the issue and my mom won full custody.
Yes, I'm finally getting this all out of my system and have come to realize the burning shame I've felt for years shouldn't be my shame, but his. Talking about it does help.
Jun 15, 2011
IF THEY A SPANKING WHY NOTNEW by: DAVE
This is for Becky R this is my answer Yes it was very wrong of your father to spank you bare bottom in front of others. It should have been done in private or waited until the guest had left and took you to your room or some other place were no one was around.Would you prefer a two week grounding instead? As for totaly stripping you that was wrong to I do not see the point of removing all your clothes when he was only going to spank your buttom.I do not understand why you did not tell your mom about it or even instint wait until your mom got home and let her spank you.Or do you think you should have not been spank.Did you think you stepdad was going to let you get away with your bad behaviour. How long has your stepdad spanked you this way. Has he try other forms of punishments with you and this is the only one that worked. Or you you think your stepdad was being perverted. did you try to talk to someone about this. I am very sorry this happen to you but you need to let this out. You should tell people the truth when you are tell people your story so they can answer you correctly. Let me ask you this do you have a problem being spanked on the bare bum or was it just the fact your stepdad was doing it. I figure there are ways to spank on the bare bum without revealing to much. What would you say if you were spanked this way you pull down your pants your your stepdad does you get over his knee and while you are over his knee you or he pulls down your underwear and you get spanked like that or you could wear a skirt. Or how about this you be a good girl and you will not be spanked. Listen Beck I am a survire a child abuse I was given beatings and bare and not bare bottom spankings.If I had a choice I would have taken the spankings no matter how it was done. No one see's your bottom but when you have to go to school with black and blue hands stichness and teachers and other people ask what happen. If you like to talk let me know I know sometimes I am pretty straight forward thats how I am you would'nt want me to lie to you would you. I care Becky just let me try.ok?. Good luck let it out of your system yell scream go to the gym and beaten up the punching bag. the longer you keep it inside the longer it will take for you to move on.
Jun 14, 2011
''Bare Bottom? Naturally, Bare Breasts? Why not?'' NEW by: Becky Romero
(sorry, forgot to ID myself)
To G:
It appears your comments could be as taken to responding to mine and the other most recent girl's comments (the one who told her dad to f--- off at the ballgame).
Keep in mind, though, if my stepdad (because of the argument we were having over the g-string thong bikini he caught me wearing) HAD ordered me to my room to strip (he didn't) and then wait for him to come in to spank me (your unrealistic 10 licks in only 10 seconds full unobstructed nudity) there was no way I would have obeyed.
I realize it would then have been a war of wills. So my question was and still is, how would you or other pro-spank parents have handled it?
Would you simply forget about the spanking and instead ground me, etc.
Or spank me in front of my brother and his playmate? And if so, bare bottom? And if I tried to deflect the swats, would you have removed my bikini top as my stepdad did or made me assume even more embarrassing positions like George seemed to indicate he would (meaning, not permitting me to cover my frontal nudity)?
'G' said: ''The argument that there's anything sexual about it fails in that I wouldn't come in and watch you strip down or hang around after the licks.''
Do you believe that stripping me or observing me naked after spanking me does fall under sexual abuse and that's why you wouldn't do it? If so, seems like it would be pretty easy for me to avoid a nude or bare bottom spanking: I would just refuse to take off my clothes and tell you if you want to spank me that way, YOU would have to strip me first.
I've found that many pro-spank parents don't like spelling it out too much because maybe they realize that perhaps a stepfather stripping his 16-year stepdaughter down in front of her siblings/company for a spanking just doesn't look right.
So they simply say they would order their daughters to strip themselves and then would spank her in private, while completely ignoring the fact that many of us would have refused such a command and would have forced the issue of whether the parent/stepparent would strip and spank us in front of family/friends/company.
(Again, in my case, my stepdad never offered me the 'privacy' choice; down my bottoms went and that was that. But if he had and I sensed a reluctance on his part to spank me in front of my brothers/company/etc., why wouldn't I risk it?)
Jun 14, 2011
''Bare Bottom? Naturally, Bare Breasts? Why not?''NEW by: Anonymous
To G:
It appears your comments could be as taken to responding to mine and the other most recent girl's comments (the one who told her dad to f--- off at the ballgame).
Keep in mind, though, if my stepdad (because of the argument we were having over the g-string thong bikini he caught me wearing) HAD ordered me to my room to strip (he didn't) and then wait for him to come in to spank me (your unrealistic 10 licks in only 10 seconds full unobstructed nudity) there was no way I would have obeyed.
I realize it would then have been a war of wills. So my question was and still is, how would you or other pro-spank parents have handled it?
Would you simply forget about the spanking and instead ground me, etc.
Or spank me in front of my brother and his playmate? And if so, bare bottom? And if I tried to deflect the swats, would you have removed my bikini top as my stepdad did or made me assume even more embarrassing positions like George seemed to indicate he would (meaning, not permitting me to cover my frontal nudity)?
'G' said: ''The argument that there's anything sexual about it fails in that I wouldn't come in and watch you strip down or hang around after the licks.''
Do you believe that stripping me or observing me naked after spanking me does fall under sexual abuse and that's why you wouldn't do it? If so, seems like it would be pretty easy for me to avoid a nude or bare bottom spanking: I would just refuse to take off my clothes and tell you if you want to spank me that way, YOU would have to strip me first.
I've found that many pro-spank parents don't like spelling it out too much because maybe they realize that perhaps a stepfather stripping his 16-year stepdaughter down in front of her siblings/company for a spanking just doesn't look right.
So they simply say they would order their daughters to strip themselves and then would spank her in private, while completely ignoring the fact that many of us would have refused such a command and would have forced the issue of whether the parent/stepparent would strip and spank us in front of family/friends/company.
(Again, in my case, my stepdad never offered me the 'privacy' choice; down my bottoms went and that was that. But if he had and I sensed a reluctance on his part to spank me in front of my brothers/company/etc., why wouldn't I risk it?)
Jun 14, 2011
spankingNEW by: Anonymous
Yes it sounds as if y should spank y teen age daughter
Jun 13, 2011
Nudity as part of the punishment.NEW by: G
Telling a parent or stepparent to F-OFF is pretty cheeky. You're lucky he embarrassed you by spanking your clothed buttocks in public.
I'd have waited till we got home and sent you to your room to take your clothes off and made you hold something besides your modesty areas while you took your 10 licks. The argument that there's anything sexual about it fails in that I wouldn't come in and watch you strip down or hang around after the licks. 10 licks in 10 seconds would be all the time you'd be undressed in my presence. And no bending over so you wouldn't feel vulnerable to an actual act of molestation.
If you get a spanking on a Monday, and it still physically hurts on Wednesday, you've been injured.
If you get a spanking on a Monday, and because your pants were down/off, you still remember on Wednesday that your private parts were showing, you might be less likely to commit the same infraction a week, a month or anytime down the line prior to your 18th birthday. Following that logic, it's counterproductive to leave your top on.
Now, if you choose to shave your private area in order to accommodate swimwear, that's your choice, but keep that in mind when you consider committing an infraction punishable by spanking.
As for boys, pubic hair isn't going to cover anything private, but the same logic holds otherwise. Bare butt-hurts during the spanking. Bare private parts-hurts your pride long after the physical sting dissipates.
And kids, as long as you're not being fondled or photographed, a little naked shame doesn't constitute sexual abuse.
And yes, the common denominator for adolescents of both sexes is that you're at the age where your bodies are changing but you're not too old to be spanked yet, so if it's pants off and top off for girls, the humiliation is just part of the punishment. And yes, boys and girls have parts that bounce when they're not covered and supported, don't make the mistake of thinking parents and step parents haven't noticed. It's still over with faster than a week's restriction and during the summer, it's all free-time you're forfeiting. My suggestion is that you strip to your birthday suit, take your licks, get dressed, and go have a life, remembering to abide by a few basic house rules.
Jun 13, 2011
teenage girl perspectiveNEW by: Anonymous
I'm almost sixteen and my Dad still spanks me when i do stuff like back talk him or cuss or break curfew. Sometimes it's bare bottom but it depends on the offense and where we are. Last week i was at the park watching my friend's softball game, and he told me it was time to leave. I was with some of my friends and i was kind of trying to show off, so i told him to F*** off. He grabbed my arm, jerked me out of my seat and swatted me ten times in front of God and everybody. I was really embarrassed but my friends didn't pick on me about it too much. And i usually don't get mad at my Dad for spanking me since I always deserve it.
Jun 12, 2011
''Bare Bottom? Naturally, Bare Breasts? Why not?''NEW by: Becky Romero
Yes, George. You are correct that my stepdad figured I'd cover my breasts rather than use my arms and hands to try to deflect the swats. But him untying my bikini top and it falling to the floor (I was already over his lap) happened so fast my brother and his friends saw my exposed breasts even before I got a chance to use my one free arm to sort of cover them up during the rest of the spanking.
You say you might have given me an order to undress myself in my room and wait for you, but I presume since I wouldn't have obeyed, you'd have done it for me on the spot. Is that correct?
However, a couple things come to mind. Though my stepdad pulled down the back of my bottoms out of my butt crack and down off my butt, the bottoms still covered my front as I laid across his lap.
You, on the other hand, would have had me stand there, bottomless and if I understand you correctly, removed my bikini top since I would have tried to reach back?
Furthermore, by making me place my hands on a chair, my breasts would have been fully exposed throughout the entire spanking and as you put it, if my ''breasts happen to bounce, that's just too bad.''
Also, at the time, I was smooth down there. Would that have caused you to allow me to retain some dignity or would the spanking you have given me by you - in front of my younger brother and his friend - would therefore been even more shameful than the one I actually got that day?
I must say I'm sort of stunned. Here I was asking pro-spank parents to defend the spanking I got from my stepdad just to hopefully make them see it was wrong. But what I'm hearing from you at least is that not only was he justified for spanking me but that you have caused me even more embarrassment.
Jun 12, 2011
My storyNEW by: Avery
IM 14 going on 15. My dad spanks me. Its not sexual, nor abusive. He doesn't just grab me and start spanking me. If we get in a fight or i misbehave, he tell me what i've done and lectures me. I only see him on the weekends and wensdays. i usually get one spanking a week cus im working on not cussing and he spanks me once for every cuss word i use. HE sometimes forgets to give me spanking so i gotta remind him, or i get in more trouble. He says its munipulating the situation and i should take my punishment. anyways i ask him how many spanks i get before i go toi bed. He spanks me kisses me and tell me he still loves me. Sometimes he tell me that i'm not bad, the things i do are. He never spanks me with anything but his hand. He's threatened to do more if i smoke weed, or do other drugs. The most he's ever spanked me is 30 times, it was bare bottom. He doesnt do bare bottom anymore becuase im too old and it makes me uncomftrable. He just spanks harder. I know he wont ever spank me so hard, and much i'll cry, cus im his babygirl and his heart. He hates spanking me. I think spanking is a effective punishment. Maybe if he did it to the point were i was crying it would be more effective. I just hate disapointing him.
Jun 11, 2011
Sick of not seeing postsNEW by: George
You need to let people post what's on their minds and you need to let it show up as soon as they complete the CAPTCHA question. Or at the latest, as soon as they refresh their browser.
The first time I posted, I didn't see my post for 2 days and having gotten responses to my post, I've counter-responded. My follow-ups have never shown up.
The correct way to run a discussion thread is to show posts in real time in order to keep it lively and moving along.
Jun 08, 2011
Becky RomeroNEW by: George
Becky, the only thing I can think about your breasts being exposed is that your stepdad might have thought that if you were too busy with your arm trying to cover your breasts that it wouldn't be blocking the licks.
I my case, my stepdaughter's one-piece swimsuit, as with most girls' one-pieces, was too form-fitting to stretch below her bottom without coming off her shoulders.
Her breasts' exposure was more of a "side-effect".
Well, I mean if I hadn't made her hold the back of her chair, which also resulted in her pubic hair showing. Where I would draw the line normally is that if you're gonna spank an adolescent girl bare-bottom, you don't make her bend over and expose her labia and vulva. Having her stand straight up and keep her hands somewhere besides her pubic hair is enough added embarrassment, I don't need her to present herself sexually.
As long as she's standing straight up, all I'm going to see below the waist is hair.
But if I can make her cry from shame, I don't have to put as much physical force into the equation, so I might have her undress completely if she manages to screw up again.
Only thing is, I won't watch her undress like some stripper; I'll give her a head-start up to her room to undress and then when I come in, no lecture or leering, just have her place her hands anywhere but in front of herself and wail on that bottom. If her breasts happen to bounce, that's just too bad.
Jun 07, 2011
Sagging Pants on Teen BoysNEW by: Anonymous
I am sickened by the sight of teen boys wearing their pans down at their butthole. I think society needs to nip that in the bud. Since they like to keep their pants down, keep them down for their hide tanning. Place the paddle on their bare bottom six licks for the first offence. Twelve licks for the second offence. Add 3 licks after this to each and every violation. Some will be defiant. However, after about 24 licks of the paddle is scorching their bottoms I think they will have the message. Problem solved. What these kids are doing is uncalled for. It shows a tragedy in society and a lack of responsibility. Pull your pants up. It really disgusts me and most people I know.
As I thought my mom left out the back door to the driveway, I heading out from the kitchen to go upstairs to change out of the bikini. That's when my stepdad saw me. He was furious, yelling: "What the f--- are you wearing?"
I told him as matter-of-factly it was a new thong bikini I had bought to wear to the lake the following weekend.
He said, "Like hell you will." One thing led to another, words were exchanged and I was soon pulled over his lap.
I can still see my brother smirking as I struggled over my stepdad's lap. He then untied my bottoms and pulled down the back portion of it, out of my butt crack and down below my bottom. I reached around my back with both my hands, interfering with his attempts to spank me. He kept ordering me to put down my hands, but I refused. So he grabbed my right hand with his and held it behind my back. I kicked up my feet as he continued to spank me. So without warning he yanked hard on the string of my bikini top, undoing it. As it fell to the floor, my brother's friend Vaughn giggled at my exposure. I gasped and pulled my left arm back from behind me, trying to cover my exposed bare breasts as best I could, my right arm still being held behind my back.
Resigning myself to the inevitable, I winced in pain as one hard slap after another crashed down upon my bare bottom. I was soon crying, begging him to stop to no avail and only the unexpected intervention of my mom, who had forgot something and returned, avoided a surely much more prolonged spanking.
Obviously, I don't feel I should have been spanked. But to George and other pro-spank parents I ask: was it fair? Would you have handled it differently?
I know some will say I should have been spanked in private, but there was no way (even had my stepdad ordered me, which he did not) I was going to 'go to my room.' At the same time, physically I couldn't resist him if he chose to spank me on the spot (which he did).
In that case would you have still spanked me, given the presence of my brother and his friend? Was it not unjustified for him to expose my breasts?
Hopefully, by me daring to ask even such questions you can see why such a spanking was simply wrong from the get-go.
This is in reply to the post on 6/5/11 by George by the above title.
George, first of all, I in no way mean to excuse what your stepdaughter did at the pool. Although when I have kids I don't intend to spank them, I am not what many would call an anti-spanking crusader.
But I do question the humiliating spanking you gave your stepdaughter. Can't you imagine how humiliated she'd feel if any classmates of hers stumble across this webpage and deduce from the incident you described who she is, reading as you talk about her pubic hair and her breasts bouncing about like Jello, etc?
I ask because I, too, unfortunately know all too well the embarrassment and shame she must feel, having also been completely bared and spanked by my stepdad. (Thankfully I was spared the mortification of all but my closest friends during high school from knowing about my spankings. Hopefully your daughter will be spared that as well.)
But can't you and other men who bare your daughters'/stepdaughters' bottoms understand how utterly and intensely humiliating it is to be spanked like that (for me, by my step dad) as a teenager? In my case, with my younger brother watching, one time even with my brother and his 12-year old playmate - a boy I regularly babysat - when I was 16?
He caught me heading upstairs to change out of a new g-string tie thong bikini that I had put on to show my mom and intended to wear it to the lake the following weekend. (And btw my mom was OK with it - the bikini that is.)
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Jun 05, 2011
are you should you know what you want?NEW by: Dave
How old are you? it seem like you have never been spanked before.Most kids stay away from spanking because they hurt and they are embarrassing.Ask your friends what its like getting a spanking. Be carefull what you ask for you just might get it and regret it. or try this if you want to know what a spanking feels like go into your room pull down your pants and underwear and spank yourself with your hand. Then picture that being done to you by your parent but much more harder. Yes you are right kids need discipline my answer is more spankings people say that spanking is out dated I do not think so. I have been reading alot of comments about people giving and receiveing spanking and it has not gone away its just not talk about like it was in the passed. In the passed kids use to tell there friends when got spanked but today they keep it to themselfs. Because they do not want to be made fun of kids laughting at them ah ah you got spanked like a baby even thou those same kids get spanked to. More love and discipline today and a better society tomorrow. let me know if you got your spanking and how it went.
Jun 05, 2011
Bare Bottom? Naturally, Bare Breasts? Why not?NEW by: George
Normally, as the stepfather of a rather maladjusted 14-year-old, I would never recommend removing ALL of a child or teenager's clothes to spank them, but Heather made the mistake of half-drowning another girl at the rec' center pool on Friday and got sent home. We pay a decent sum for access to the pool for the kids and the tennis court for my wife and myself and as both kids are over 12, we pay a full fee, x4.
So when Heather comes home with a note from the Red Cross substitute lifeguard for me to have to sign, I'm in no mood to wait for her to get dressed in street clothes just to pull her pants down, bottoms up, to spank her for half-drowning another kid.
Plus, as she was already crying from shame before I spanked her, it saved her several licks.
That one-piece bathing suit had to come off her shoulders to get it down to her knees and modesty was out of the question. Her instinct was to cover her chest with one arm and her so-called "private" area with her other hand so I pulled out her desk chair and had her hold on to the back of it.
I could insult your intelligence and tell you I didn't see anything but her bottom, but the truth is I was beside her, not behind her.
By the 5th lick, her embarrassment was complete because each swat from the belt bounced her chest like Jello, and that's to say nothing of her painfully exposed pubic hair.
She may feel violated and think that because I'm not her biological father I derived some sexual satisfaction from it, but dang it, she could've killed that girl in the pool.
If that had happened, she could well have ended up having to not only show her body, but share it with some butch dyke in Juvenile Detention until she turned 21.
Puberty is a tough time for a child, but until they're 18, there's no guarantee that a spanking might not involve a little shameful exposure of their ripe-for-picking "private" areas.
Jun 04, 2011
Spanking TeensNEW by: Sharon
Hello Allison,
I know you have gotten lots of comments, many of them rediculous, so I thought I would add my two cents. I have two teen girls, 14 and 17 and both are still spanked. I take them across my lap, bare from their waist and treat them like naughty 5 yr olds. I use a flat leather sandal sole that seems to work well enough to bring them to tears. They know that if they act like naughty toddlers, they will get treated like that. Its embarrasing for them, especially my 17 yr old, but she is learning to behave.
May 26, 2011
Spanked thru CollegeNEW by: Paul
I just wanted to share my experience with spankings. I am 35 now with a successful job making almost 100k. When I was younger I was spanked bare with a paddle or hand (sometimes both) for wrong doings. My friends all got spanked till about 13 or 14 and mine just continued. I was offered the grounding for 2 weeks or take the spanking. Sometimes I took the grounding, but usually only if I had been spanked recently and still sore. I was spanked thru college. Since my parents were paying for college and my car if I screwed grades or broke rules I was disciplined for the mess-ups. I think it helped me in the long run to learn my actions = consequences. I learned it was a choice, make the right decision and all was good. Make the wrong decision and there will be consequences. I see children now getting the time outs and just wonder how that could possibly help things? 7 mins on a stool? Yeah that'll teach them if they steal something the worst thing that'll happen is they have to sit still for 7 mins. What the heck it that? After my spankings I couldn't sit still on a stool for 7 secs. Sitting was not an option. It made me think first before acting. I wish more parents today would take the time to discipline.
I think if parents take an interest in making better people out of their sons and daughters we'd have a better society.
May 19, 2011
spanking necessaryNEW by: Anonymous
I have never been spanked by my mother or father but I really deserved a spanking on my bare bum sometimes (with hands). I think it disciplines you and helps you later on in life. you should pull down your teenagers pants and panties and give them a spanking with HANDS ONLY when they do something very naughty. It might be embarrassing for the child but they learn that it is needed.
May 19, 2011
spanking teensNEW by: Anonymous
I think you should spank teens. I pull my childs pants and panties down and pull her over my knee and spank with hand on bare bum. I really helps discipline.It is important
May 18, 2011
spanking teenagersNEW by: dave
to allison ask for spanking your daughter let me ask you this. When you did spank her did she behave better? and if she did there's your answer it does not matter the age if it works so why not. And if your daughter tells you she is to old for it.than your answer is than proof it to me that you are to old for it but for now pull down your pants and get over my knee.Or if you do not want to do that there is something I am sure she likes to do take that away.Remember you are the parent it up to you to make sure she turns in to and young adult and if you do not do it now than society will later.and remember try not to threaten your children well it fine to threaten just remember do what you say you are doing to do for exsample if you tell your children not do do something and if they did it you would spank them. And if they did it you have to spank them because you told them you would it starts like that what you say you are going to do them do it that works for the good things to.let me knows what happens.
May 18, 2011
spanking in the women's restroomNEW by: Anonymous
i am a 15 year old boy and when im in the store and am bad i get it. two weeks ago when my mom said she didnt want to come looking for me she told me i had to come with her to look at some skirts. i refused so she took me around the corner into the women's restroom and made me bend over the baby changing station and she pulled down my pants and took her hairbrush out of her purse. she game me 26 on my underwear and i was bawling. some of the ladies stood there and watched.
May 18, 2011
spanking teenagers NEW by: Theresa
i believe in Pants Down Bottoms Up for discipline . I do it to all my boys at all ages.
May 17, 2011
spanking teensNEW by: Anonymous
i am a 15 year old boy and my mom spanks me. she takes me into the women's restroom and makes me bend over the baby changing station. She usually brings a hairbrush in her purse and gives me about 20 spanks with my pants down underwear up. I cry. One day I was in Wal-mart when this happened and some girls from school walked in (women's restroom) and saw me get it and watched the whole thing! The girl I have a crush on was in the group and she likes me too!
May 15, 2011
spanking teenagersNEW by: Dave
as a victim of child abuse I am still for spanking teenagers there is a difference a spanking is on the bottom clothed or not as was abused which might rules and belts on my hands. yes I spanked twice once my mother for eating her chocolats for that I was spanked on the bare bottoms with the belt and the other time it was by my father at the dinner table in front of the family I do not remember why I was spanked but it was with his slipper over his knee over the pants and tell you the truth it did not hurt at all.I was taken away by the courts for child abuse.So I do not know why but for some reason I agree with spanking your child and for very bad things they should be spanked on the bare bottom and yes some times you have to use other things than just your hand because some kids have a tought bottom you can get through but it take time I believe in a good long spanking. at ten spanking a child about ten times might hurt but if you do that at fifteen it may not get through so you have to spank longer.haveing your child pull down there pants or you doing it is part of the punishment by you pulling down there pants and underwear you are tell them if you behave like a child I will treat you like one.By you telling them to pull down there pants you are show you have control over them and they most listen to you mind you do not go over board yes some time you leave marks but some kid have sentive skin so one hit could look like you have been hitting them for hours.I think you should stop spanking them once they stop crying but beware of fake crying some times kids know there parents will stop after a couple of spanks so they start crying right away that why you have to spank a bit more after they start crying.Now having said all this some people may not want to spank there kids that is fine today kids have so many toys and other thing cellphones computers ipod so take them away or give your kid a choice just be constisted with you kid what you say you are going to do. do it bad or good kids are not stupid some parents take there kids of being stupid but they are not. how you treat you kid when they are young is how they are going to treat societe in the future.they are your kids you have the right to spank them because if you do not take care of them when they are young the the goverment will when they are older.
May 15, 2011
SHOULD YOU SPANK OR NOTNEW by: Anonymous
TODAY PEOPLE THINK SPANKING IS PASSA I DO NOT THINK SO IF YOU GAVE YOUR KID A CHOICE EITHER TAKE SPANKING OR GET GROUND FOR A WEEK.I THINK MOST KIDS WOULD TAKE THE SPANKING PREVIDE NONE OF THEIR FRIEND FOUND OUT I BELIEVE IF YOU START FROM DAY ONE THESE ARE THE RULES OF THE HOUSE IF YOU BREAK THEM YOU GET PUNISHED. AND PUNISHMENT MIGHT BE A SPANKING. I ALSO BELIEVE YOU SHOULD TELL YOU KID WANT KIND OF SPANKING THEY WILL RECIEVE MEANING IF ITS A BARE BOTTOM SPANKING ON OVER THE CLOTHES. KIDS NEED TO KNOW THERE ARE RULES TO FOLLOW AND IF YOU BREAK THEM YOU GET PUNISHED. PARENTS TODAY JUST THREATEN IF YOU DO THAT I AM GOING TO SPANK YOU. THE KID GOES AND DOES WHAT YOU TOLD HIM WHAT NOT TO DO AND WHAT HAPPENS MOST OF THE TIME NO SPANKING THATS WERE MOST PARENTS GO WRONG IF YOU SAY IT THEN DO IT YOU ARE THE PARENT SO BE THE PARENT AND SPANK THE KID THEY ARE NOT GOING TO THANK YOU FOR SPANKING THEM.ACTUALLY THEY WILL BUT IN A DIFFERENT WAY THEY WILL TURN OUT TO BE GOOD KIDS
May 12, 2011
spanked by handsNEW by: Anonymous
I think kids should be spanked for their consequences. They should get warned then if they do the wrong again they sure deserve hard whippings by HANDs only.
May 10, 2011
Spanking Teen, Remark Jan 20, 2011NEW by: Anonymous
Kind sir or madam your remarks about the teen turning on the parent are rather crude. Agreed that there are parents who seem to take spanking to the extreme and beat the child instead of spanking and teaching them the way in which they should walk as it were. No teen no son or daughter really should turn on the parent. The parent needs to know the difference between spanking and beating. Never should they strike them on the head. A spanking should be done for negative behavior yes, but done son in a safe environment. If you as a parent are extremly mad at the teen for his or her bad behavior that has not been corrected after FAIR warning then of course spank them soundly BUT perhaps it is best to hold off a few minutes untill cooler heads prevail. First and foremost get the offender AWAY from the parent, out of sight for a few minutes. EG. Young man go to your room THIS INSTANT ! and leave it at that. Don't lash out with hands or implements then and there. It's a risk that can lead to injury of either or both parties. Hang on a few minutes sit down and think. Then go and meet with them and explain what the problem is. Let them talk, you the parent owe them that out of love. Once they air their side of the story then if a spanking is still warented tell them so. Have them obtain the specific implement or better yet choose what they will be spanked with, make them understand it must be one of the common items you normaly use,Belt, Paddle, Wooden Hair Brush, Switch. Notice I left hand out. The hand is not an option on a teen. It will never penetrate their brain. Never use an extention cord or other out of the ordinary implement. Once done then they are to pull down their pants and or underpants at your direction and assume a specified posistion. Normaly bending over and holding their ankles is good enough, but they can also be made to lay down on a bed /couch with bottom proped up. Bending over the back of a chair is also sufficent. Pants should be all the way down to the floor not just to the knees. Legs can be shoulder width apart to add to the sting or simply together as they bend or lay. Make them undestand attempts to strke back at you will stop the spanking of course and will result in additional strokes once they are willing to accept the consenquences of the first reason for the spanking. Indeed spank them out of love and concern for their well being and let them know you are doing so. A hug later is good but not right after the event. The offender should remian in his or her room untill shuch time as they can regain their composure. The spanking should be hard enough to draw tears and sufficent crying. No blood should ever be seen nor should bruises. If you leave brusies you are using the wrong tool.
May 10, 2011
Spanking TeensNEW by: Anonymous
i disagree with some of the remarks here. There is nothing wrong with spanking your teen son or daughter. Either with their pants up or pulled down and or their underpants pulled down. As a parent they have seen the child grow and have nurtered him o rher their entire life. They have seen their so called private parts their entire life.There is nothing wrong with them being spanked bare bottom or on the pants. I do question the idea of making them remove all their clothing. That seems rather outlandish and more of a sexual fetish. Merely having them bare their bottom in front of the parent is sufficent. Seems much easier and safer for the parent to spank them in a posistion other than over the knee. Let s face it some teens do indeed deserve a good old fashioned spanking.
May 04, 2011
spanking in my 20sNEW by: Anonymous
im 22 my dad still will spank me if I disobey him or break a rule, I get spanked like I got it when I was a teenager over dads knees on m y barebottom dad says I will be spanked till I move.I rather be spanked then grounded even tho my tushie is sore for a day, the only thing bad is daddy takes my panties down.
May 01, 2011
It worksNEW by: Anonymous
My daughter had an attitude problem when she was about that age. The usual warnings didn't work, so finally I turned her over my lap and blistered her butt with a paddle. She was really embarassed, but I could tell a difference in her right away. A couple more paddlings solved the attitude problem. She's a lot more cooperative now.
Apr 29, 2011
Shaking my headNEW by: Anonymous
Spanking is for young children. You use it with small kids when they are engaging in potentially dangerous behavior, like running out in the street or putting a hand on the stove. You do it to develop a trigger response at an early age to prevent the kid from hurting themselves. To spank a teen is outrageous. At that age you are creating issues that you don't want any part of. If a kid has pubic hair, the parent shouldn't be looking at them naked. Period. You're gonna slap then in the ass at 15, 16, 17? Are you insane? If you have a really bad kid on your hands, chances are they'll probably hit you back. If you have a good kid, what have they really done to deserve to be humiliated in that manner? I come from a really conservative family, my parent spanked. Mind you, I was a good kid. Never in trouble, did chores. Home by 4 everyday after school. Still, they'd spank for very minor things. Really perceive attitudes, intangible things like that. Yet up until 16, they spanked. Finally when I was 16, I had enough. My dad tried to spank me for something I didn't even do. I stood up and said no. I looked him in the eye and told him that if he wanted to hit me so bad that he could throw a punch like a man. I told him I wouldn't fight him back, but for me it was a matter of self respect. He and I had a tumultuous few years after that. To this day we are strained. He's a good man and he never beat me excessively, but their is the idea of him dominating me and making feel weak. A part of me hates him for that. It's hard to get over because you feel like the people who were supposed to protect you are responsible for making you feel bad about yourself. It's not worth it to risk your kids resenting you. And if you think the Bible tells you to spank your kids...It also tells you to stone people to death and beat adults as well. Learn the context of what you are reading, so that you can interpret it properly before you hurt someone by taking it out of context.
Apr 25, 2011
Get the relationship rightNEW by: jill Hughes
Well, of course threads like this can be either started by, or prolonged by, fantasists, and you just never know. But that ought not to hide the interesting question and the real issue around discipline. I get cross that the genuine issue of spanking/smacking and the positive side of it gets hidden, either by fetishists or by over-liberal thinkers who assert that children are untouchable. Yes, in a perfect world they would be - but in a perfect world they wouldn't misbehave! I have g19 b14 and g11 - quite a spread - and yes, we do use spanking, which in England these days is not at all common. I think it happens a fair bit in England with younger children still but it disappears in most families by age 10. That's a shame, because it might for some youngsters still have a place. But it's all about the relationship. Posters below talk of anger anf fighting, and if that's the case in your family then things may have gone a bit wrong, and you shouldn't spank. But if the relations are good and sound, and there is respect - both ways - then a youngster may well accept that misbehaviour and wrong choices can have err, uncomfortable consequences. We smacked all three when younger - measured, never remotely excessive, a bit of sting that mde a point and soon wore off. We stopped spanking my son a year or more ago at about age 12. Little sister can still be liable for a dose. Older sister was the interesting case - at 13 or 14 we gave her the option, of continuing to get a spank or of getting "grounded" instead - thinking this would let her bow out gracefully. but she insisted that grounding "sucks" - arguably making it a stronger punishment! but also meaning that the whole period of grounding was grumpy, unhealthy and far too prolonged, whereas those few smacks with a slipper (our instrument of choice!) were sharp, decisive and then put behind us. It was her choice, and she chose it. And she is now a balanced, healthy, outgoing post-teen. So the message for me is - don't go to war with your teen, but if they are onside with your family's method of discipline, then don't be afraid to use what works. jillhughes1963@yahoo.com - and yes, I am real.
Apr 17, 2011
It Usually Works Better with GirlsNEW by: Raised a Daughter
The problem is not just age. It is also gender and family. Teens can be and are spanked. Usually, much beyond the very early teens, spanking is more effective with girls than it is with boys. Although spanking teenage daughters is politically incorrect, it's been going on for eons. Girls report that spankings usually get harder and longer as they get older. Sometimes older girls still get spanked when their younger brother receive alternatives. This, too, isn't fair. For practical reasons, it's often what happens.
Beyond considerations of age and gender, the most important thing is how the family interacts. If a girl thinks that her mom has her best interest at heart, then taking a spanking just because Mom says it's time usually isn't that big a deal. Sometimes even really good girls have to drop their panties. On the other hand, if a girl and her mom have problems in other areas of their relationship, then spanking is just another difficulty added to the heap of unresolved issues.
It's up to moms to set the tone for mother-daughter interaction. All girls can become difficult when moms are either too lenient or too strict. Either way, a teen is more likely to rebel. Believe it or not, a teen usually knows when she deserves a spanking. If a teen feels she can trust her mom, she can talk to her about what needs to be done even if she doesn't want to get it. If not, a power-struggle often erupts when the time comes to discipline the teen.
Despite all the big girl talk about being too old to spank, usually the biggest issue for a teen is embarrassment. In exchange for cooperation, moms need to administer spankings as privately as possible. Sometimes this may be nothing more than closing the bedroom door even if no one else is at home. This simple gesture says that what happens remains between mother and daughter.
Moms also need to understand that it is okay for a daughter to offer mild protests about panties and choice of implement. This is typical. Since most American teens get paddled it is okay to let Mom know it hurts.
Sometimes big girls need to be reminded that there is nothing to be ashamed of in saying, "Ouch!" or crying. After all, spankings are supposed to be painful. That's why they are effective. Girls understand this better than a lot of moms think!
Unless a teen is either overreacting or being really stubborn, moms usually find out that spanking longer is usually better than spanking harder. An effective spanking should produce genuine pain without doing more than temporarily reddening a teen's bottom while significantly improving her behavior or attitude.
Apr 17, 2011
In Praise Of Bare Bottom SpankingNEW by: Rennie
It's good to see so many endorsements of over-the-knee, bare bottom spanking as an appropriate and effective punishment for teenagers. Teens who think they're either too old or too big to be subjected to a childish spanking on the bottom find out differently when their pants are taken down. And especially being turned over Mommy's or Daddy's knee makes the naughty girl's or boy's barenaked bum the absolute focus of attention. A good, sound spanking with palm, paddle, hairbrush or strap will leave the teenage bottom warm, stinging, and rosy red. And the spanked bottom's owner will know that, just like crime, naughtiness does not pay!
Apr 01, 2011
spanking.NEW by: Anonymous
I'm 19 going on 20 in 2 months. I grew up by being spanked and my mother and father were not kind when doing so. I feel that spanking is approite when a child is ta;king back and doing other things that would be harmful to them or another person. My parents were abusive. I think when i have my baby if it acts up i feel it would be right to spank him/her a little bit.
Mar 23, 2011
spankingNEW by: sophy
ones my dad spanked me my bros spanked me to i needed to were a dipper to school my friends lahgd at me
Mar 15, 2011
Spanking teensNEW by: Anonymous
I believe in a good old fashioned, bae butt spanking! Have 5 sons, 18, 16, twins 14 and a 12 yr old! Each Dude is spanked, depending on the deed, with my belt or a razor strop! It's the same strop my Dad used on me, and it still hangs in our woodshed! Live on a 500+ ac farm, andwe all pitch in with the farm work. All the boys are good in academic,s varsity or jv sports, and can get into all kinds of trouble, fighting is a big one, and gets em the strop!
In one week, just pasted, I gave out 5 belt spankings, otk, bare butts, and 3 woodshed stroppings. There, it's butt naked, tied by the wrists and ankles over the old wooden horse! STRICT, but fair! My sons are our bessings, but often need re-direction in the form of a hard spanking!
Mar 13, 2011
Doesn't WorkNEW by: Anonymous
First, on spanking in general.
I am not an advocate of spanking. I don't think that perpetual hand-holding and head-patting does a damn thing for a child, but hitting them often sends the wrong message of "it's okay to hit someone when they make you angry."
Of the 15 states with the highest violent crime rate, ten have the highest state-wide approval ratings of corporal punishment. States with low approval ratings of corporal punishment state-wide but extremely high violent crime rates - Maryland & California, specifically - have much higher approval ratings of corporal punishment related to state-wide approval within the counties, cities, or districts responsible for the majority of said state's total crime. Also, on average, people spanked as children have lower IQs (about a 6% disparity on average) as adults. There are also more incarcerated people who reported being spanked as children than there are people who are not incarcerated and have never been convicted of violent crime.
Now, I'm not saying that spanking is responsible for criminals or that there is a causal relationship between convicts, dummies, and spanking. As of yet, a direct correlation has not been established. I'm just saying that, according to the numbers, spanking is obviously not working as well as some people think.
As for spanking a teenager...
Well, that's a hard one. Generally, I would not recommend it, as there's a chance it will only make your daughter resent you more.
First, you have to ask yourself a hard question: have you failed her as a parent? Her disrespectful nature may be because you have unknowingly enabled such behavior. Perhaps you still treat her like a child even though she is becoming an adult. People seem to think that teenagers don't have adult egos, but they do. They are biological adults and are beginning to think, act, and feel like adults.
And what do adults do when they feel that other adults aren't being fair? They rebel. And what do adults do when another adult hits them? They bust them in the face or come to resent them.
If you make the decision to hit your teenage daughter, you have to be prepared for things like this.
I would suggest starting to treat your daughter like an adult before you decide to hit her: talk to her like an adult, give her more freedom, but expect her to ACT like an adult. Ask her why she's being such a pain in the ass.
When you ground her, don't just tell her she can't use her phone or her car - make her do work. Hard work. She comes home, does her homework, and then cleans the entire house until it's spotless. Run your shit like it's Leavenworth.
If you do decide to hit her, though, remember: if she hits back, you have absolutely no complaint coming.
Feb 21, 2011
Spanking TeenagersNEW by: Anonymous
Am 16 and my bros are 14 and 12. Dad spanks us-hard! I got one just thisam, cause we are on schol vacation, and he had my bros watch! It's embarresing being oldest and having to be over his knee, bare with my behind gettin strapped! Dad gives me at least 20, sometimes 30 strokes, and I wind up with a very sore buttocks! But, he loves us lots, and he tells us why we got it and hugs us after it's over! Our Dad is the best, and man, I wouldn't want any other!
Feb 10, 2011
Perfect Point of ViewNEW by: Anonymous
I am a teenager myself... I am 14 turning 15 in a few months, and I feel that spanking is perfectly fine myself as long as it is done in love and not in anger or while drunk. Being a teenager myself I know what it is like to be punished in a multitude of ways. I am usually good, make good grades, but according to my parents I have a small attitude problem every now and then and have got into the habit of cussing and swearing. I have been spanked before but not as much after my puberty hit. I want to be spanked more often. I think that bare butt spanking by hand is the best method of handling a teen like me, and there are many reasons why. Being a teen of my age, it is embarrassing to be seen naked in front of my parents. Getting my butt warmed is one thing, but being seen nude after puberty is another... Everything feels more private now hair has grown and so has my "junk." Getting naked reveals this and leaves us feeling vulnerable and puts the parents back in charge. After being spanked and somewhat embarrassed, I love listening to what I did wrong and that they love me. All of this occurs still being naked but seems more natural and fun. Contact 4 more info: ktl96@knology.net
Feb 07, 2011
red bottomNEW by: Anonymous
spank away!! don't use a paddle use bare bottom hand spanking instead it is more affective and humiliating also
Feb 06, 2011
SlipsNEW by: Anonymous
my 13yo daughter wore a dress which needed a slip. Should girls be spanked for not wearing a slip...Please e-mail at Dj454ss@aol.om
Jan 29, 2011
My heart ... aches ....NEW by: TealRose
Danielle ... I am so sorry for you. I know exactly how horrible it is to have this bottled up inside you. [ I am the 56 yr old btw] Most of the time I am 'fine' ... but when I do start to think about it ... I feel about 4 years old again, with a giant bearing down on me with a giant slipper, and the ... fear is still there. I have to force myself to choose to 'give the pain up' and to push it all back down or become increasingly unravelled by it.
No child deserves this. Ever.
Jan 29, 2011
spank your childNEW by: miley
You should my mom spanks me bare bottom for any thing as simple as a pillow on the floor or an 80 on my homework if i have any type of attitude my mom doesnt care where we are she jerks me up pulls my pants and panties down takes the paddle and spanks me for 10 minutes in front of God and every body so yes show her whos boss got to go also im 17
Jan 20, 2011
Teens ...NEW by: Anonymous
To those teens ... who are being spanked - don't let your parents do it!
To the adults who have no parenting skills except to hit another being - just watch out .. one day .. that teen WON'T just let you hit them. The switch will be thrown - and guess what? All that repressed anger and hurt, of being humiliated and beaten [let's call a spade a spade here] for years, and the wonderful teaching method of 'I am an adult and therefore am allowed to HIT another human being child or teen' that you have knocked into them will come back to haunt YOU when they do turn around and hit you you back!
Unfortunately a lot of kids will just carry on being beaten by their parents as they love their parents and blindly cannot see that their parents would do anything wrong, and so subjugate that instinctive feeling of being wronged by them. Then, when they grow up and have kids of their own, the just cannot see or know any better way of parenting and so go on to abuse their own children - and so the cycle continues.
It's emotional abuse. It's mental abuse. And it's physical abuse. And if, as a teen especially, you are having your clothing removed to the point of being bared, that is sexual abuse.
Jan 20, 2011
I agree w/"child of the 50's"NEW by: Danielle Harrington of Alameda, CA
I agree with this response of 1-11-11. It takes a pretty shitty person to raise a hand to a child regardless of what the child has done. Had the child had proper parenting in the first place, his behavior would likely be better although no kid is going to be perfect regardless of how effective the parent is. Spanking his ineffective and breeds hatred and contempt. I agree with the comment that discipline is teaching. Spanking is nothing but harsh revenge, and the parent who uses that as a means to correct behavior is using it because he has no effective parenting skills otherwise. Her (or his parents) treated her the same way when she was growing up; therefore, she doesn't know any better.
It seems to me that spanking is a thing of the South, where a higher percentage of the population are uneducated. My mother is from OKla. I was in the military and it seemed that those from the South were more likely to think this was an acceptable way for a parent to behave toward a child. I am 5'8" and have been since age 13. I now regret that I didn't start fighting back at a much younger age.
Also, a child, on his own accord, can walk into the courthouse and have himself declared a ward of the court and get himself removed from his parents home. He does not need an adult intervening on his behalf. I didn't know this back in the early 80's. I'd have done anything to get foster care. My mother's primary mode of correcting behavior was very harsh spankings, and she did it for every little thing.
The child of the 50's stated that she (or he?) is still traumatized by her treatment. Well, I'm now 43, and I still fill the bitterness at how I was treated and to this day regret that I didn't go off and knock her teeth out.
Jan 19, 2011
Sad state of affairs.....NEW by: Anonymous
Aidan ... I am sorry here ... but apart from being an avid NO spanker ... I cannot understand how, at 18 years old you can possibly 'need' to be spanked and cant just have your dad say ' Son... you really do need to buckle down and get some work done' ... or ... 'You were very late home last night, it's not going to do you any good to be tired all the time, I think you better have an early night' because if you can 'do it' because someone is prepared to essentially spank an adult ... you can do it .. for yourself. You don't need this. If he spanked you once in your life and you STILL went on ...go on .. to do foolish things... then spanking sure as hell wasn't working!
God is the God of love - HE will deal with any of your shortcoming in his own time!
Jan 19, 2011
SPANKING TEENS MAYBE NOT SO GOOD!NEW by: Anonymous
Is every one out of there minds?Go see a specialist before you brand your teens behind. Some people are not aloud to spank there teens.Teens are getting more sophisticated and they are the future that help shape it.THINK before you spank!
Jan 11, 2011
No .. don't start and abusive behaviour to solve one !!!NEW by: Anonymous
Spanking is no answer. It breeds contempt and hate and resentment of the adult and teaches nothing.
I too am a child of the 50's and was spanked - my parents taught me that they didn't love me [never mind those after spanking 'pep' talks ' It's over and we love you!'], that might equalled 'right'. That if you were an adult or bigger you could get away with anything, including hitting a small defenceless child. I felt terror all the time and am still traumatised by it.
Discipline means teaching. Self discipline means UNDERSTANDING the whys and wherefores of right and wrong not blindly following with no understanding just because of fear!
Yes it HAS been done for thousands of years - so was slavery, beating your wife, and rape and buggery of 7 year olds in Ancient Rome !! We don't DO that or condone it and spanking too should be consigned to the bin. No one deserves to be hit - adult, animal ... or child!
Have you actually asked your daughter about her life, about how she feels? Is she worried about school? About her friends? Has work at school just increased so much she can't see the wood for the trees ?? I know personally, that when I was in my last few years I often felt so bogged down and that all I did was wake, school, sleep day in and day out and there was a point when I felt awful. Are her periods bothering her? Has she got PMS/PMT ? Do you expect too much of her ? [It does happen!] I do hope you have made some headway with your daughter, and not just by spanking her. I hope you are all settling back down together as a family.
Todays children are NOT all awful by any means. Most of the terrible behaviours I have come across have been by adults and some often older than myself ! My children weren't spanked and grew up to be fine adults.
Jan 07, 2011
smart young manNEW by: Anonymous
You have a wonderful dad who disciplines according to the bible. Be VERY thankful of that. ..... and YOU are a very WISE young man... to recognize that it is NOT abuse to spank a child. Bible says "the rod will drive foolishness from the child". And it has done that exact thing for you..... as well as imparted much wisdom.
Bless your dad for being an awesome, Christ-directed man; and YOU, for being a smart, respectful, well disciplined young man. God will take you places you never imagined. God bless both of you.
Jan 03, 2011
Still spanked as a teenNEW by: Aidan
My name is Aidan, and I'm an eighteen year old college sophomore. I have been spanked by my dad since I was a little kid. He has pretty much always done it the same. Pants and briefs down to the knees, and pulled across his knee. He either uses a belt, brush, or wooden spoon. Usually it's the spoon. I don't feel that I'm to old to be punished this way. It's a good thing to, because dad says that as long as I live under his roof, I will obey his rules. The spankings are always painful, he makes sure of that. He always hugs me and tells me that he loves me, later on after my punishment. I have no hard feelings toward him for what he does. I love him, and I understand why he punishes me this way. It helps me learn important lessons about life. There are always consequences for our actions.
Age Old Parental Discipline Still Works.NEW by: Barbara
I grew up in the 1950s in England UK when corporal punishment was typical at home and school. This may sound a long time ago, but parents have spanked for generations, and centuries. WE think we're so sophisticated today but look at all the terrible problems that have been created by modern thinking on parenting and discipline. I was caned at school, and smacked at home on my bottom when I needed it. I saw my brothers punished well into their teen years and the shame was a factor of being punished in front of others as a lesson.
Dec 26, 2010
help!!!!!!!!!!!!NEW by: Anonymous
my dad tell me to go to my room and wait there for a bit and then he came up and sat on the bed and put me over his keen and he hit me 20 times with everythings on and then he pull down my jeans down now 20 times then pants down and 30 times then he put a chiar in the middle of the room sit on in and put me over his keen and then got his belt of and it 30 times then with rluer in the cover then with the big ruler and then with a puddle and then he made my mum do it to as well and then my big sister and my big brother and then when we all when to the park in front of my bffs and my boyfiend he did in all to me on a park becah
Nov 27, 2010
Spanking TeenagersNEW by: Wendy
Hi everybody,just thought i would share my experiences.I am 15 and my daddy has always used spanking as a discipline on me.When I have misbehaved and let myself and my parents down he has always put me over his knee with my skirt up and my panties pulled down.During the spanking I am crying my eyes out,but after I seem to have a calmness come over me as I know Iv had my punishment and feel as though the slate has been wiped clean.
Nov 23, 2010
spanked as a young adultNEW by: Anonymous
Im 24 and still live at home with my parents, and the still spank me when I break a rule, im not allowed to date during the week and on work nights I have to be in bed by 10oclock last night my dad caught me on the computer at 11oclock and he pulled down my pjs and put me over his knees and gave me a spanking and he is makeing me go to bed at 8oclock for a week, I have an 11oclock curfew on friday and saturday if im late im spanked, my sister was 28 when she got her last spanking a week before she got married for comming home past her curfew, so you see as a teenaGER YOU ARE NOT TO OLD TO BE SPANKED, dad say as long as I live with them im not to old to be spanked.
Nov 23, 2010
Didnt do me any harmNEW by: Sarah
I was spanked by my Dad up until leaving school.He didnt use any implements on me it was just a case of going over his knee with my pants down and he just repeatedly slapped my bare bottom with his open hand.i remember the pain being intolerable and my bottom would be marked for days after,yet I dont hold any ill feeling towards him.I know he was trying to make me a better person by correcting my behaviour and his way was his way.
Nov 20, 2010
Teenagers May Deserve a SpankingNEW by: Becky
A spanking by my mother when I was 14 really worked for me. I was a very obedient, well behaved girl, but I was caught lying to my mother. I hadn't been spanked before. I had to undress and get down on my hands and knees. My mother got my father's fraterniy paddle and administered ten very hard and extremely painful strokes to my bottom. After the first one, I was crying and begging her to stop. Just thinking about it now, causes me to feel pain on bottom. I'm 17 now and since that day, I've been the perfect child. I'm so scared of getting another one that I'll do anything to prevent it. I deserved what I got and think teenagers should be spanked if they did something really bad.
Nov 07, 2010
Teenage girl's perspectiveNEW by: Anonymous
I am a week and a half from being 16 and I haven't been spanked in years. My parents take things away like my computer time but that doesn't always work. I admit that sometimes I need to be spanked and I think it would make me behave much better. Even the threat of being spanked would make me behave better and be more respectful. I would never dare to tell my parents that cause then they would spank me everytime I disrespect them or are disobedient or make bad grades. I would say go for it. Even coming from a teenage girl, it would make her behave.
Nov 07, 2010
If that's what needs to be done.NEW by: Lynette
I think it's important to remember that sometimes we need to bite the bullet and do things the hard way for the good of our kids.
And if it comes to giving them a good spanking then that's what you should do. If nothing else is working, then it's better to give a kid a good hiding than to let them develop into a spoiled brat.
Oct 15, 2010
NO LOVE LOSTNEW by: CRAWFORD R
My mom and dad were wealthy strivers, way to busy to give my younger sister or me caring attention, let alone love. BUT the strap was always handy for dad to use on my bared butt. By the time I was 16, I had gotten innumerable spankings usually with a hated, dense alligator belt that was oh so good at producing scalding, long lasting welts. Long story short: these spankings were given even for minor infractions but by 16, I was already way larger than my father. Besides football, I also was into weight training. Sooo after one evening when I took the car for a movie date and returned late, after a great make-out session, my dad was infuriated. He ordered me upstairs, "take the position" and wait for him to give me a "strapping I would never forget", etc etc.) Something in me snapped: I told him to go fu.k himself. He was stunned, enraged and went to grab my shoulder. I EASILY pushed him away, which only infuriated him further. I laughed in his face. At long last he FINALLY actually focussed on me, as a PERSON, HIS criminally neglected child. I told him he's lucky I don't whip the sh.t out of him. I walked out and slept in the car that night. Next day, he acted as though nothing had happened. AND he still never showed any love to either me or my sister. To this day, we have very little to do with both my parents. My feeling: they could both die and I wouldn't give a damn. SOOO spankings given in these types of circumstances breed nothing but hate and resentment.
Oct 11, 2010
Spanked as a teenNEW by: Matt
I received many bare bottom spankings over my dad's knee as a teenager. Did they hurt? Yes. Did I cry? Yes. Painful and embarassing as they were, I am believe I needed every spanking I received. My dad never spanked in anger. He always hugged and told me he loved me after each spanking. I have no resentment or anger for being punished this way. In my high school years my dad gave a choice of grounding or spanking. Most often I chose the spanking. I would rather have a sore bottom for about an hour over a week of being grounded.
Oct 11, 2010
Still Spank with the paddleNEW by: Dennis
Hi
we have a daughter she is 15 and she still get spanked regulary with the lexan paddle. I suggest you should get back to start to paddle her. If anyone like to talk my email adress is dennis.sasse@yahoo.de you can also talk to yahoo messenger my id there is dennis.sasse@yahoo.de
Oct 11, 2010
SPINELESS TEENS, SPINELESS PARENTSNEW by: CAMERON
My folks EXPECT me not to be a moron. They are people I respect and admire. For me, the worst punishment is to disappoint them by doing something dumb, irresponsible, hurtful to others, etc.
To hear that a 15 yr old can be punished by being spanked bare, is an indictement both of his/her parents AND of the teen.
I'm 15, about 180 lbs and on the JV football squad. Does anybody reading these posts think I'd be spineless enough to submit to a humiliating bare butt paddling, (even if prescribed in a moronic, southern HS)?
Fat chance; I would like to see teens stand up for THEIR rights to humane, intelligent punishment: such as censure by loved and loving parents.
(I know, I know, "my kid just doesn't listen; or gives me lip", etc.) THIS situation is an indication that the whole family unit is sadly disfunctional)
GO TO CHURCH; BELIEVE IN HIS WORD: DO UNTO OTHERS, ETC. If the whole family partook of serious religious preaching, no one would "need" whipping, least of all the PARENTS!
Oct 01, 2010
Spanking teensNEW by: David
My recommendation is not to spank them. My stepmother used to give me and my stepbrothers some SERIOUS hairbrush spankings. Many times in front of my sister and stepsister. It was so embarrassing to have to undress in front of them and be spanked. As a result, my stepbrothers do not get along with their mother at all! Now older, I have asked them to get over it and talk to her about it as she does love them. They told me that I did not understand as they thought that I really liked the discipline. That threw me for a loop, though I now think they are right. That left me with a fetish,which I DO NOT BLAME HER FOR, and two sons who do not like her!
Sep 24, 2010
Teens spankedNEW by: Anonymous
I am 15, and have 2 Brothers, 13 and 10. Our Dads spanks all of us, he uses his belt or a strap, and sometimes a paddle. We get it on the bare butt cheeks, sometimes over our bed, or Dad will take us over his knees while sitting in a chair. let me tell you, he makes sure it really hurts! Dad syas if a spanking isn't painful, he will do it again to insure it is!
Just yesterday, my 13 year old Bro was spanked in the Den, over Dads knee, and me and my younger Bro were told to watch. He got 21 strokes with a rubber belt, and his butt cheks were on fire! Yes, he cried and screamed, and when it was finished, got corner time for a half hour, standing with his face to the wall and arms over his head. He was told not to rub his theobbing cheeks, or he'd get another whipping! Dad sat reading the newspaper for the half hour, and made sure he just did what he was told.
Sep 19, 2010
Judgement Day....?NEW by: Anonymous
I came here looking for advice as to whether or not I should spank my boy. He's changing by the day and the normal punishments (privelage removal, grounding, manual labor, etc., etc) don't seem to be working and talking it out seems to go in one ear and out the other these days.
What really gets me though, is how emphatic some of the posts are on one side or the other.
No matter what you believe, parenting, like most other difficult tasks or decisions in life, is a personal thing. Everyone's children, life circumstances, relationships, etc., etc. are different. We should learn to respect one anothers' thoughts and decisions on the matter.
I think there is enough evidence of good, upstanding, healthy individuals who were spanked as kids, to suggest that it is not the end-all-be-all "deathblow" to your kids that some of the opponents make it out to be.
At the end of the day, it's a personal decision you have to make and there is no right or wrong answer.
Know your kid........ Raising teens is amazingly difficult...
Good luck all.
Sep 15, 2010
Spnking the teen boyNEW by: Anonymous
There is nothing wrong with spanking your teen boy by any stretch of the imagination. As long as the boy lives with you or is in your household he is subject to your rules. If he can't behave on his own accord then yes spank him you must. There is much discussion about this and of course spanking him on his pants or should it be the underpants or bare? On and on and on.. Best method to get the point across- spank him bare bottomed. It makes no difference if Mother or Father does the deed. It's the fact that it needs to be done that's imnportant. If Mother sees fit to do the task then get it done without haste. At least do it privately to perserve some sort of dignity if possible.Certainly never in public.. But at home or at relatives is fine. Simply inform him his misbehaviour is not acceptable. In all fairness give him sufficent warning before hand. Then advise him to go to s designated area and prepare himself accordingly. By such means as retrieving the appropriate implement for the task be it a belt, or a paddle or switch etc..He is to take it to a designated room where he is to either lower his pants and shorts to his knees or ankles if more convenient for parent. Place the implement on a bed or chair and wait for your arrival. Upon your arrival he should either be prepared to lay across a bed or yes even your lap or bend over holding his ankles or bend over a chair. At no time should you strike anything but the buttocks so as to avoid injury. So what if he screams and rants and raves.. The point is to make it hurt as much as possible so he will remember this event for ages to come. He should not be allowed to move untill you are completely finsihed. If you think he needs a severe spanking then get it done as soon as you can or have him stand in a corner after a certain number of strokes untill you return to complete the task. If you think older brother or sister is capable of carrying out the punishment appropriately then the same method should apply and the boy should be told in advance if that will transpire. This is of course only fair to him. There is no reason for anyone to feel slighted or odd about it..
Sep 08, 2010
spanking teensNEW by: Anonymous
Have 4 sons, 10, 12 14 16 and spank all of them. Use my belt, a strap, and switch-4 real serious infractions. They get at least 1 spanking each per week, and often, many more! Yes, it works, and I plan to spank them 4 many more years!
Sep 07, 2010
not alwaysNEW by: Anonymous
i was spanked a lot as a kid....but as a teenager i only got grounded and got my stuuf taken away....in my opinon getting grounded suked more cuz it lasted for weeks...spankings only last minutes
Sep 02, 2010
Spanked till 19NEW by: Joey
My name is joey and I can be quite frank in telling you that my mother (Parents were divorced) belived in strict discipline with 4 children (I am the oldest)..I am now 50 vut was 'spanked" all the way up to my first year in College..I cam back home on a wknd where the university's football team had the week off (I was in the marching band) and stayed out untill 3am and was advised when i returned that just because I was now in college that the curfew and bedtimne had NOT changed..needless to say, I received a spanking that was most embarrassing! My email is: colasub@yahoo.com and would like to converse with anyone or anwser any question(s).
Aug 25, 2010
my lifeNEW by: Anonymous
recently my grandma came to stay with us and she was really strict and she didnt like the way i repected my paretns i would trash the house etc and back chat, so she decided to talk to my mum and explain the time she gave me a spanking with a wooden spoon wehn i was 8 becasue i was staying at her house and i tried to steal money from he rpurse and i was told to go to my room i was sleepying in and about 10minuets later she came in and tlaked to me and place me over her lap and gave meabout 8. So now when i swear my gradma says to wash my mouth out and that. But recently i got into a fight with a gril physicall at school and my mum was called to take me home and she sent me to my room and came in and told me to lean over and she lifted my school dress up and pulled my panties down and i learnt my lesson. Even know i am that stage of puberty i not thatembarssed casue we are both girls and she doesent see anything anyway jsut the red bottom. So i dont see anything wrong with it and i repect them and my math tutor really stirct and got permission from my gran that i have a week to learn my 3,4 times table and if i dont i will be getting a spank. my dad never does he a guy obviously. i normally hit with a wooden spoon. But where i live you can give permission for the teacher to spank you instted of afterschool detetion but it done private and they phone your paretns up first and my mum threatening to do that if my behavirou doesent get beter.
Aug 25, 2010
Walk away.NEW by: Anonymous
My father used to hit me in the head, very hard, with his open hand when I was very young. (I believe that I suffer from PTSD, because of it. I'm 48, and I catch myself flinching, and twitching, to this day...maybe even more so.) He used to drink, and would loose his temper. He stop hitting me in the head, at some point....maybe around 6 or 7 years old. I was too young to understand why he was hitting me, though.
One night, when I was older (maybe 14 or 15) as I came home from a party after having a couple of beers, and the cops pulled up to my friends car that I was driving, just as we stopped in front of my house. Not for drinking and driving, but because a car had been driving in the area blowing up mail boxes with M80's. They believed us when we told them it wasn't us, but because it was after 10p, they decided to walk me up to the door, in hand, and wake my father. He had probably been drinking that night, and was woken from a deep sleep. He started to yell at me. As he move toward me, something told me, "he's going to hit me in the head". So, I struck back by punching him in the eye. He reacted very strangely. He didn't know what to do. My mother held him and pleaded for his restraint. However, the damage was done.
To this day, because of that discerning moment, my relationship with my father has been a constant strain, (not to mention the rest of my family.) He will never forgive me, and I feel that my life is a constant effort to win it. My brain says that will never happen. My heart says it won't. The struggle causes me to fluctuate between love and hatred. I have gone years without speaking with them. I isolate. I feel that I don't deserve to succeed in life.
My advice...if you have a choice: walk away, no matter what. I dream of being able to rewrite the script..of being able to go back in time. I wish that I could have been a better son.
I'm interested in your comments.
Aug 24, 2010
The HistorianNEW by: Anonymous
What would happen if kids did the same to parents? When you hit a 25 year older you are hitting another adult? Parenting is the biggest power trip on earth and hitting your child is an emotional reaction. Bare bottom spanking is sexually deviant.
Aug 17, 2010
spanking by my dadNEW by: Anonymous
while i was growing up my father was a strict disciplinarian and all of my brothers and sisters had gotten spanking from him when we misbehave or had gotten trouble, and im am one to say im am glad from the spankings that i did get from my father it kept me from getting into trouble the bible said spare the rod spoil the child,,
Aug 06, 2010
Spanking TeenagersNEW by: Richard
I am so torn about this subject. My stepmother used to give me some long, hard spankings. My step brothers hated those spankings. My stepbrothers, sister and stepsister, told me that,in fact,I liked those spankings. They are probably correct in their assessment. Still, that is sad.
Jul 26, 2010
Fight backNEW by: Anonymous
You're hold enough to fight back. Block their hit, punch right to their face, say it was self defense. The only red will be their own blood.
Jul 21, 2010
Different Stories From Lisa TNEW by: Anonymous
On one spanking forum, you've got three kids, and on another, you've got four. I like your promotion of otk bare bottom discipline for naughty children of any age, but you've gotta watch those personal details.
Jul 12, 2010
Parenting Teens part2NEW by: Robin
continued from part 1
Get your children to agree to being completely honest with you about their misbehavior and to confess to you any misbehavior. When your teen does misbehavior, involve them in the process of deciding how they should be disciplined. You don't have to follow what they think they deserve, but it is a good idea to ask them.
DON'T get angry, yell or carry out any discipline while there is very bad feelings between you and your teen. The spanking should have a clear transparent process. It should be carried out calmly and with due process. It must be just. DON'T deliberately humiliate or shame. You can spank teens on the bare - but ONLY IF that is not shameful in your household. I suggest you give them a choice between a bare spanking and a harder spanking over thin pj's. DO apologies for your own shortcomings, and ask your teen to forgive you. DO spank hard. Do use an implement (strap, paddle, wooden hair brush etc). Don't expect the type of spanking that was effective when you child was 2 to be any use now they are 15. Do expect that an effective spanking will leave your teen crying loudly. DO discipline your sons and daughters the same way. DO be consistent with apply the household rules and they consequences. Don't just apply them when it is convenient for you.
and most important: After the spanking, comfort your teen, talk them gently and respectfully, encourage them, help them, love them. Make sure they know that they are loved, accepted and forgiven.
Jul 12, 2010
Parenting TeensNEW by: Robin
Let me summaries what I want to say in point form.
Your responsibility to effectively discipline your children doesn't stop when they turn 12.
Spanking is one form a discipline, and very many parents (and teens) find that it is very effective and very helpful. However it is certainly not the only form of discipline for teens.
Discipline of children is always difficult, but I think it is most difficult with teens. *It is difficult because we need to set a high standard of godliness in our own lives - and our failure to do so makes us hypocrites in our discipline of our children. *Discipline that comes out of a loving relationship with our children is very helpful to our children - and essential for their growth in godliness and maturity. However we are often unloving, quick tempered and selfish. This hinders the effectiveness of our discipline. *Different values, ideals, and beliefs put us in conflict with our children in ways which can not be resolved primarily by discipline. If your teen believes that what they did is wrong and you have spanked them fairly/justly then the spanking will be helpful to them. If your teen believes that you are out of touch with reality, that you are morally compromised, or that what they did was right (even if you don't think so) then spanking your teen is unlikely to be helpful or effective. Discipline can resolve agreed moral misbehavior. You can always discipline for disobedience, but don't try to use it to resolve different values. To do that you need to talk with your teen, spend time with them, listen to them and teach them. Use discipline to teach children the self-control to do what they know to be right. However discipline alone can not teach them what is right.
Teens are able to be involved in the process of discipline in many ways that toddlers are not. Firstly discuss with your teens what rules the house is going to operate under. Ideally try to get their agreement about the rules, and the consequences for breaking the rules. In our household we make a distinction between universal moral rules (don?t lie, don?t steal) which don?t go away as your children grow older (although the penalties get more and more severe); and rules about practical living and running a household that get more relaxed (eg bed time) as the children get older. When my oldest was 14 she asked if she could go to bed when she wanted. I agreed on the condition that if she was irresponsible she would confess to me and face an agreed range of penalties (Ranging from a $1 fine for feeling tired the next day to 20 with the strap for falling asleep in class). We kept this system going until she was 20. Over those 6 years she voluntarily confessed to irresponsible sleeping patterns several times, and paid many mostly small fines and was strapped twice (but only 4 strokes each time).
END of part 1
Jun 28, 2010
older kid spankingNEW by: Anonymous
I am a boy living at home with mom and working and going to jr college. This past year I am very embarrassed to admit I was spanked twice. i have to admit it is still effective at my age and also very embarrassing.
Jun 17, 2010
spanking teensNEW by: Anonymous
I'm 17 yo now, and i've been spanked since I was 6 yo. When I was kid, my father used to spank me with his hand, later he used a birch too, now it's usually his belt. I'm not the most obedient son in the world, but I'm nothing like a bad boy really, and it even may be due to this kind of discipline, even if I doubt about it. Spanking doesn't seem to work with my younger brother (he's 15), for example;talking to him, I got more results, I believe, but he doesn't listen to me that much any more, and I think that he can't see me as his "big bro" since he saw me many times being spanked, mostly on my bare bottom. I try to respect my father, but I don't feel I love him as son should. I tried to ask him to punish me some other way, or at least to let me keep may pants on, but it made him only more angry.
Jun 07, 2010
spanking teenagersNEW by: Anonymous
I applaud your father for taking discipline in hand. did HE lower your pants , or he made YOU lower them ?
May 28, 2010
Still spanked at homeNEW by: Onlyson
Hi,
I'm a 25 year old male who is still living at home after college. My parents are fairly strict and I have to follow the house rules or else. My dad does not hesitate to turn me over his knee and spank me but good if I need it. All he needs to use is his hand over my briefs to make a lasting impression. Anyway, it works for me and weill continue to happen when needed as long as I live at home.
May 14, 2010
Usually Works Better With GirlsNEW by: Been Through This
Here's a politically incorrect answer. Your instincts are right. Your daughter needs paddling. Here's why. Girls don't get too old for OTK discipline because they incorporate the lesson into their guide for future behavior. Some girls still get it in their early 20s for teenage-like misbehaviors. I'd begin with a frank discussion. Usually girls know they need to be put over mom's knee with panties down long before mom gets around to doing it! When you come as close to an agreement as you are likely to get at her age, so it privately. Take your time. Longer is usually better than harder - especially since your daughter hasn't been spanked in awhile. Even though this is about her mind rather than her body, make sure her bottom is thoroughly red before you finish. If possible, make her cry. Sometimes girls that age don 't cry. You should notice a profound effect in her behavior. Don't be afraid to repeat the treatment if necessary.
You've got to get a handle on boys before puberty. 13's not too old, but it's pushing it. Unlike girls, as they mature, boys are more inclined to fight back as if they were attacked. If you can handle him, have your son drop his pants and bend over for a strapping with a doubled man's leather belt. While he is less likely to cry than your daughter, you should strap him with sufficient vigor to bring tears to his eyes. The intent should be to give him a memorable experience!
May 03, 2010
Give them a good spankingNEW by: Julie
Like I have said in my previous post...you can take away all the priveleges you want, but nothing is as effective as a bare bottomed spanking across your knee. It is all about the embarrassment of having their bare bum spanked and almost as important...the ridicule of their friends/teamates if they are expected to shower after their sporting events as my teens are. How can you explain why your bum is red to your friends? That has happened with my teens and if a very good deterent to bad behavior. I know it is politically and socially incorrect, but I just try putting them across your knee and I guarantee the end result will be great
Apr 19, 2010
I think you should paddle her.NEW by: Anonymous
I say go for it. I'm 14 between your two kids and I still get the paddle when I misbehave or for other things that are bad. It does teach me a HUGE lesson. Cause I get the paddle on my bare. So that is my oppinion from an actual teenager.
Apr 13, 2010
I think a good spanking can work wondersNEW by: Lisa T
I firmly believe that when all else fails...putting your teenager across your knee and giving them a good spanking on their upturned bare bottom is very effective. If you need advice on how to accomplish this please email me at ajn129@yahoo.com
Apr 12, 2010
my advice on spanking a teenagerNEW by: Lisa T
I can certainly relate to your discipline problems with your teenagers. When they my 3 teens really cross the line I have found that putting either one across my knee, pulling down their pants and giving them a good spanking on their bare bottom is far more effective than with-holding priveleges etc. My 2 girls are very involved in school sports and must shower with their other team mates after their softball games. It is very embarassing for either one of them to have to shower with a red bottom and I really feel that a good spanking on the bare bottom even for a teenager is far more effective than grounding etc
Apr 11, 2010
To Lisa T and also to the college kid still getting spankedNEW by: Danielle
First of all, Lisa T., I feel sorry for your children. It's the parents who have no parenting skills who resort to hitting their children. A parent who knows how to really be a parent can get the same results - "modify" their behavior - using other means.
My daughter is almost 18. I spanked her a few times - all in one week - when she kept getting in trouble in class. She was in 1st grade. I knew I was wrong and discontinued that behavior toward her. It didn't help. Since then, I have used time outs and taken away privileges. She'll be 18, we have a great relationship, and I've never had any trouble with her. I have been a single parent all her life. I feel sorry for your children. They deserve better.
To the college kid who still gets spanked - you need to fight back. My parents, especially my mother, thought it was OK to spank teens. The last time they pulled that crap, I fought back. I mean I used my fist. They backed off and never put their hands on me again. To this day, I still regret that I didn't retaliate that way at a much younger age because I'm 5'8" and have been that size since 8th grade.
I don't think it dawns on the kids that they can just fight back. I sure do wish I would have much earlier.
Apr 10, 2010
My kids would have a red and sore bottomsNEW by: Lisa T
Please take the advise of a mother of 4...two 14 yr old twin boys and 12 and 10yr old girls. It has been my experience that nothing changes bad behavior like a good spanking I feel that the embarrasment of being put across my knee bare bottomed and getting spanked until they are bawling and their bum is beet red is certainly a behavior modifier
Mar 10, 2010
spanking young adultsNEW by: Anonymous
Im 21 and I have been spanked since I was a child,my dad still spanks me the sameway as he always did over his knees on my bare bottom he uses a hairbrush to spank me, im in college and I think im to old to be spanked but dad says till I move out when I misbehave I will be spanked, my parfents are very strict I can only date on friday or saturday and I have a 11:30 curfew and if im more then 10min. late dad spanks me, they even make me go to bed on a school night at 9:30.
Feb 28, 2010
to NEW by: Danielle
Your aunt is way out of line and abusive. Unfortunately, not one single state has laws that will support a teenager who presses charges against a parent who "spanks." I put "spanks" in quotes because "spank" is a euphemism for "hit." A euphemism is an inoffensive word or phrase that people use to sugarcoat or justify their offensive actions. People hit their children then try to justify their poor behavior by using the word "spank" to describe their actions. My advice to any teen in your shoes is to fight back physically because the law won't protect you when you try to defend yourself legally against your offensive aunt.
When my daughter was in first grade, I started to have behavior problems with her in class. I was at my wit's end trying to get her to behave - every day when I picked her up from school, I could see her sitting outside the classroom because she had been disruptive. After several days of this, I threatened to spank her and, for the first time in her life, actually did spank her a few times for disrupting class. The spanks did NOT help the situation, and I stopped immediately. The disruptive phase eventually passed; I never spanked her again. My daughter has grown into an intelligent, confident teenager with a good attitude and sweet disposition. I have raised her on my own since she was 9 months old. Thank God I wasn't a parent who believed in corporal punishment. Who knows what kind of kid she would have turned out to be otherwise.
The parents who need to spank to get their kids to behave (if it even works in the first place) do so because they don't know how to parnet their children and have to bully and intimidate them by hitting them. Parents who spank really shouldn't be allowed the privilege of raising children.
Feb 28, 2010
i was spankt at 8 t0 17NEW by: Anonymous
my dad gaev me a spanking on my baer bootm when i was a teenager and i grow up fien i also got spankt at school by my prnsupol and ones by pe teher in the locerroom on my underwaer i thek if kids and teens got a good bare bootm or underpants spanking now of thes days thay wood have a lot more respakt.
Feb 11, 2010
Spanked teen guy "for my own good"NEW by: Anonymous
I am a 17 year old guy and I am often getting a good spanking from my aunt-my primary disciplinarian-if I misbehave in any way. Just today after wrestling practice when my aunt picked me up with her van. I had to tell her I had been a naughty boy and got caught playfully wrestling around with some cute girls in detention this morning as she would be getting a letter from the vice principal to that effect. She ordered me into the back of the van and to remove my jeans, shoes, shirt and boxers and used the 14 inch drilled lexan spanking paddle she keeps in the glove box to very properly paddle my bare behind while parked right there in front of school-58 spanks and yes I counted each one outloud! Her spankings really hurt and I confess I was quite vocal before it was even half over. I mention this because I have become pretty respectfull toward my elders which wasn't always the case. My Aunts strong discipline has really shaped up my behavior and demeanor over the two years she has lived with us. I do a lot more chores and take on much more responsibility around the house and do yard work for an elderly couple in the neighborhood. If my performance falls short in any way you bet my aunt will be blistering the dickens out of my bare butt in no time flat. Everyone including m my girlfriends over the years, teachers, coaches, boss and even my buddies have commented on my ongoing improvement in attitude and maturity-though I still clown around a fair bit-since my Aunt moved in and took me in hand. Our neighbors have overheard me receive many tough spankings over the last two years and often complement my manners and maturity after particularly severe chastisement. Kids on there way to the nearby elementary school are occassionally treated to the sound of me getting a sharp bare bottomed spanking as my Aunt administers the paddle, the 28 inc drilled lexxan paddle kept on a nail in my bedroom, If I get smart with her at all in the morning or have to get up early for detention and the like.
Dec 31, 2009
spanking teenagersNEW by: Anonymous
what's the big deal ? kids need to learn. so do teenagers. I have 4 boys , ages 8 to 18. when they step over the line I administer discipline. I grab their hand , lead them to the study, pants & underpants go down I put them over the desk and pow pow ! 2 slaps is enough ! then they get hugs &kisses. every now & then I would rub their bottoms and say ' I'm sure you don't want another one' !
Dec 18, 2009
to Allison in St. LouisNEW by: Danielle H
My very strong opinion is that kids should never be spanked, especially not if they're teenagers.
I am still haunted today by my mother's treatment of me when I was growing up (I'm 42). She thought spanking was appropriate. I went to a parenting class here where I live called "Parenting Project." It's for parents of problem children. My daughter is not a problem child, but she had many friends who were; so I went as a preventive measure.
They ended the first night of class by telling us never to spank your child, that it will only exacerbate the situation. There's a book by Murray A. Straus entitled "Beating the Devil Out of Them." Dr. Straus is known to other researchers as the "world's foremost" researcher in corporal punishment. He's done studies that show that spanking actually exacerbates rather than helps the situation. In the book he acknowledges that many parents stop spanking their kids when they reach a certain age. He says that the later in life that the parents continue to spank their kids, the more problem the parents create, and that anything after puberty is likely to cause severe rebellion.
It backfired on my parents. I've been the same height since 8th grade (over 5'8"), and I started to fight back. I mentioned in an earlier post that I punched my father. I was 17. That's the first time I took a swing at one of my parents, but I started actually physicall defending myself in jr. hi. by pushing back or pointing my finger right in my mother's face and telling her, "Don't you even think about it."
Dec 13, 2009
pan king teenagersNEW by: Anonymous
Im 18 and dad still spanks me when I misbhave, I don't like to still be getting spanked it hurts, but I understand why dad spanks me,Im glad dad does not ground me becauce then everbody knows I was punished, besides a spanking is over in a few mins.the only thing I don't like about the way dad spanks me he spanks me on my barebotton over his knees
Dec 12, 2009
Get a clue people ( #2)NEW by: Danielle Harrington
I never had bruises because of her beatings, but she used every bit of strength she had and her spankings seemed to go on forever. She used her bare hand but usually a ping pong paddle, which she kept on top of the refridgerator strictly for that purpose - a real piece of work this woman was. In second grade, she once spanked me at the busstop in front of the other children. I also got spanked while standing with her in line at a crowded grocery store. I could go on forever with stories like these. She was very easily angered and a micromanager within the home. She had to watch your every move, and you damn well better not get out of line. She was unpredictable. You couldn't avoid getting hit.
Something else she did was constantly and incessently bitch and complain. It was as if she had a job that paid her for every word that came out of her mouth. My birth name was "Kimberly."
And all of my childhood, every day I heard "Kim!" "Kim!" I grew up hating the name. I couldn't stand hearing my friends say, "Hi, Kim."
And I hated telling people my name when they asked; so I legally changed it to Danielle.
I don't believe in spanking, period, at any age. My daughter is 17, and when she was 6, she went thru a period of mischief and getting into trouble at school. I got exasperated and spanked her a few times, knowing it was wrong. It didn't help. I spanked her once in 6th grade when she lied to my face. She's been spanked about 4 times in her life - 4 times too many. I didn't want her to have the awful childhood I had or suffer with memories like mine. I have treated her the way I feel I should have been treated. We are close, laugh a lot together, and I've never had any serious problems with her.
I ran away from home and missed so much school that I just dropped out. I didn't want my daughter to do that.
Danielle Harrington, Roseville, California
Dec 12, 2009
Get a clue peopleNEW by: Danielle Harrington
Parents who spank their children should be shot. Parents who spank teenagers should be burned alive at the stake.
Parents spank because they have lost control and have no other effective parenting skills enabling them to peacefully and appropriately control their children. Parents who spank are out of control themselves. They are a detriment to their children. Those parents who are able to control and effectively discipline their children without the use of violence are good parents with sound parenting skills.
My mother thought the answer to everything was a good spanking. She was an angry, domineering, narcissistic woman and an expert at severe and harsh punishment but absolutely clueless about what sound discipline was. My father was a very nice and patient man who worked during the day and missed a lot of crap going on in our household. I grew up into a very angry and rebellious teenager. My father didn't understand my behavior. Once when we were arguing, I turned my back on him, and he hit me from behind. I whipped around and backfisted him across the face as hard as I could. I was 17 and had already been hit enough by my mother. I wasn't taking it any more. My father had me down on the floor on my back in about a second, straddling and holding his fist up as if he was going to punch me. I told him, "go for it." I didn't care any more. I told him that I would call the police and press charges, that I'm not afraid to testify in court -all this while I lie their on my back with him on top of me.
I hated my mother with every ounce of my being and tried to talk her into putting me in foster care. Now, at 42, I still look back and think the best thing that could've happened to me was to be removed from the home. I didn't know at that time that a minor could just walk into a courtroom, have himself declared a ward of the court and get foster care, group home, or some other alternative on his own accord without adult intervention. I wish I'd know that then because I would have done that. To this day, I still feel a white hot venomous rage toward her because of the way I was treated.
Dec 09, 2009
SpankingNEW by: Anonymous
I am a 14 year old boy and if I had an attitude with my parents like that I know I would be getting spanked. It is usually over the knee bare bottom with a hairbrush. As a teenager it is embarrasing to get a red bottom like that but it works.
Nov 19, 2009
Another simlar topicNEW by: rachel
There is another similar thread at http://www.child-central.com/spanking-my-teenager.html by Olivia. But with an ADHD child, the challenge is very different of course!
Nov 19, 2009
Look outNEW by: Anonymous
Ohhhhh Boy! Look out their darlin! You just opened a big ol' can of worms. Spanking is a definite no no. And lots of people on here will be able to explain to you just why that is. I have to say I agree at this point. Especially with a teenager. You are just going to show her that adults handle things with violence. And I am sure that at least one person will be able to make the correlation of you spanking with the paddle when she was younger to the problems you are experiencing now as a teenager.
