My teenager never does what she's told. She's very defiant and very disrespectful. She does what ever she feels like it. She tells me No a lot and threatens to kill my daughter. She's 17 years old. She's got ADHD and has anger issues. She also steals alot from people. She's got OCD too. What do I do to punish her. She never listens to me and her punishment.
I am curious as to why you didn't just tell your dad the truth? Did the spanking leave bruises? If it did, then that is child abuse. If it didn't, then that is not child abuse, it is discipline. In most states, parents are allowed to spank their children, even with a belt as long as no lasting marks are left. Next time, could you try just telling the truth and see if the outcome is different. Because if you had answered me like that, I would have taken it as "back talk," or at the very least as being, "rude." He asked a simple question which required a simple answer. Instead, you gave him attitude, which, I am guessing is not allowed at your home. Just because you didn't cuss, which I am sure is another rule, doesn't mean you didn't do something else that was disrespectful that deserved correcting. You need to own your part in this. I am NOT saying you are a bad kid, you just made a poor choice in choosing that answer to give. :) I hope you have a better week. It might even help if you go to your dad and apologize for your attitude and tell him you just had your window open because you were too warm and you have no idea why you gave him the answer you did. It's worth a try and will even make you look more grown up in his eyes.
Dec 07, 2011
Spanking doesn't work by: Anonymous
I am a 13 year old girl and just got spanked yesterday a bunch of times with a belt for answering to my dad when he asked, "Why is your window open?" and I was going to say because I was getting too warm but said, "Because it is." I think that is child abuse because I didn't really have an explanation. I just wanted to leave the window open. And I never cuss or anything in the house...
Nov 23, 2011
what your opnion by: stepmother
iam from egypt and i can speak english and iam stepmother for two children ahmed 16 years old and ali 14 years old i punish them bu spanking when any one make mistake i sitdown on chair and take him over my knee and spanking him by hand or hairbrush what your opnion that true or not
Oct 24, 2011
No answers to my multiple spanking ? by: Anonymous
No one has given me any opinions as to why they feel it is necessary to spank multiple times in one day? I still don't understand that mindset. I really wish someone would explain it to me...especially w/teens who we, as parents, are supposed to be training to make their way in the world as responsible adults. Who is going to be there to spank them then? Aren't natural consequences better? Break curfew, earlier one for x amount of time. Do something irresponsible w/the family car or even "their car?" Lose the keys for x amount of time. Poor grades because they aren't applying themselves, all electronics gone & weekly reports from teachers & electronics returned when grades begin going up. Cell phones a problem, change them to ones that only parents can control time usage of. I did that w/my own daughter. She hated me for it, but she got over it. Comes home drunk, must attend 30 meetings in 30 days for first offense, plus be chaperoned if she/he wants to go out w/friends, plus no unchaperoned boy/girlfriend time during the same. Smoking pot/using other drugs, same as above, but with drugs, NA meeting & x amount of hours of community service. Does all of this require parental involvement/monitoring? Yes. That's what parents USED to do. They repeat the offense, the consequences increase...you can even arrange for them to be taken down to juvenile to see what it would be like. Talk to them about how much it would actually cost to get bailed out & where that money would come from because YOU WILL NOT PROVIDE IT. How will they pay their fines? How much jail time are they willing to do? If they are tried as adults, are they aware that their choices WILL affect them for the rest of their lives? Any child/TEEN/YOUNG ADULT not paying rent has ZERO privacy in YOUR HOME!! You reserve the right to inspect their things, rooms, etc. at any time & should do so regularly. Out of respect, unless you really suspect illegal/loss of life behavior, you really shouldn't read diaries, though. Looking for drugs, drug paraphanelia, weapons, checking computers (which should be in a local area & NOT in their rooms, sporadically checking texts, etc. are all within your rights as parents. If they don't like it, they can begin paying rent & state what the amount is. Make it fair market value. This is teaching/Parenting. This is preparing them for the real world out there where no one is going to spank them if they are, "bad."
Oct 24, 2011
spanking by: ann
my rules you missbehave and you back side will be red its bare your butt and over my knee my hand your bum ten mins latter very red and sore
Sep 28, 2011
My daughter by: A mother
My daughter has been abused by her real father I just got her in my care but her father Beats her bad. She got hit with random objects and belts hands and on top of it she got smacked, punched, not feed, stripped! She got it all .... my poor baby girl :( Shes 14. Shed get beat like this for simpley moving a candle over! My husband she does like but shes scared of all adult males. If he says something like "ashley come down stairs" she gets scared and tense. My family does spank. Not OVER do it but we spank. If he moves his hands she covers her face he told her "ashley... do you really think im going to hit you?... I wont Ever spank or hit you" She gets VERY embarressed if anyone says "spank" she always apologizes and shell do anything to please. shes the best baby girl ANYONE could ask for. Spank, but dont over do it. And dont spank good girls!!!!
Sep 18, 2011
To James C. Talbot by: Anonymous
Your argument would have more weight if the sample wasn't fully from 'abused' childeren.
That just shows that abusing your child will lead to lower emotional development, it says nothing about loving, and fair corperal punishment when the child, or teen has earned it
Sep 06, 2011
why are 2 spankings needed? by: Anonymous
I don't understand the practice some of you have of spanking your teens multiple times in a day for the same offense. I would understand coupling a spanking with another consequence if their behavior had been a serious breach of rules, however, I just don't get the need for physical punishment more than once. Does anyone require an apology from their children in written form? Are there any behavioral contracts between parents and children? Teens brains aren't done developing in the prefrontal cortex until the age of 25! Yep-25!! What this means is that up to the age of 25, they can't predict the long term consequences of their behavior and need parents to guide them, love them and have firm rules and consequences, both positive and negative. Try "catching" your teen or any age child doing "good," and praising them. It takes 25 "atta boys," for every negative thing said to a child to balance things out. Teens are supposed to begin trying to distance themselves from parents. They are supposed to become, "bratty," "roll their eyes," try to go against the rules, etc. This is normal. They should NOT be allowed to get away with going against the rules; but mouthiness, except for swearing or screaming; rolling of the eyes, sighing, etc. should simply be ignored. This is a very rocky time for them and you need to be their safe place to land. They won't tell you that, of course. They will even roll their eyes if you tell them you are proud of them!! Ignore it!! They can't un-hear what you say!! Inwardly, they glow and in their room, alone, they think you are the coolest parent alive!!
Sep 06, 2011
why spanking bare by: andy
i got spanked untill i was 14 and i think its to old esp if your spanked bare,my butt got many spanks when i was younger and from parents and grandparents , i was very naughty as a kid but now i dont smoke or do drugs or nothing getting your bare bottom spanked is not nice but maybe it makes you think not to be bad .the problem was to many boys in the house and many days of fighting and stealing, we would run of if parents were ready to spank but always got it any way bath times were the worst you couldent run of if you were naked i got the wost as i was older younger brothers got spanked with hand i got the cane some times as mother had plants every were and a cane would be handy in the flower pot for growing plants and ofeten used to spank my bare bottom withmost weeks i went to bed with a sore red bottom
Sep 06, 2011
embarrassed and sore by: andy
mum and gran always spanked ,we were 4 boys in the house and always fighting, when they had to much misbehaving spanking was the last thing but worked, i was the oldest and more embarrassed but was not spared,pants and underpants came down and our butts where red raw ,at 13 it was more embarassing and for some reason i got my butt spanked more then the others, maybe because i was older,we was not shy as we were always naked in the house and fighting at bedtimes but when ur bare butt was getting a spanking its like your protection is gone,like when your scared in bed the covers help, but when your over your mums knee bare butt help nothing to protect you, dont know if it helped but i got more sneeky,gran was the hardest tho she use to spank your bare butt and leggs untill your butt was like betroot she did not care if she spent 10 mins on your bare
Sep 06, 2011
spank by mom by: jamie 9yr old
my mom unfortunately had to lift her bum up to fart a few times while i was over her knee for approx 5+ mins getting a pants down spanking. iam sure she found it embarrassing and they were a bit smelly but i was to busy crying at time
Sep 04, 2011
At The Doctors by: Anonymous
The other day my daughter was at the doctors, it was a family doctor and she was there for her physical when they called her back I had to go with her because the doctor needed to talk to me. Well she undressed completely like the nurse asked and put in her gown and was sitting on the table waiting for the doctor. Well I told her something an she started with her smart mouth and kept going so I made her lay back, then she knew what was coming. I got a ruler that was in the room and pulled her legs up in diaper position and started to ware her bare little hinen out. The doctor came in and saw what was happening and said that she would be back in a moment she would let me finish. Well my daughter had to go through her appointment with a very sore an red bottom with tears in her eyes for showing off and actin up in public. And then when we for home she got another butt busting for getting in trouble in public.
Sep 04, 2011
Protect your other daughter NOW! by: Joy
You MUST protect your daughter who is being threatened. Even if you don't, "think she will 'really do it'," you still have to take her threats seriously. It sounds like the type of ADHD your daughter has is Temporal Lobe Type, which comes w/lots of anger, always verbal & many times physical. You can google, "six types of ADHD," & look up this type. You can also google "Dr. Amen," & get a lot of good info on ADHD. No, having this isn't an excuse for bad behavior, however, it is a very real disorder of the brain & needs to be treated as such. One idea would be to reverse her bedroom door lock & lock her in her room at night w/a porta-potty & a pitcher of water w/a glass. She chooses the behavior, she chooses the consequence. She threatens to kill her sister, she can't be trusted while you are sleeping. Oh, & nail the outside of her window. Make sure there is a heavy object in her room so she can break the window in case of a fire. You have to be smarter & craftier than her. Most of all, be sure to take care of YOU. I know how hard it is to have a child like this whom you love very much, yet is hard to love at times. My own 23 yr. old daughter has it & I stopped spanking her when she was four because it did absolutely nothing to change her behavior. I had to learn different ways of disciplining & relating to her. I still have to adjust my ways of relating to her in order to preserve our relationship. Setting & consistently KEEPING CLEAR boundaries is ESSENTIAL!! These kids/adults NEED structure & NEED to know the limits. For ex., if my daughter blows up on the phone and swears, I WILL hang up on her-period. If she is in my home and acts out, I WILL ask her to leave & she MUST leave-Period. As a teen, if she screamed at me on her cell while visiting her dad, she lost her phone when she came back to me. No arguments, no negotiations, no wiggle room. It HAD to be that way, plus, I hung up on her! :0 One time things got so bad, I stripped her room of everything except her bed, bedding, a couple of outfits & an alarm clock & she had to earn everything back. Again, you have to get creative with these type of kids. You have to appeal to their greed, to their currency. Violence (spanking) DOES NOT WORK. It only escalates the situations and solves nothing, except to deteriorate the relationship quickly.
Sep 03, 2011
pants up by: Anonymous
I just turned 18 and my mom still threatens to spank me. Sometimes she does but she does not make me pull down my pants or anything. She will either use her hand or her flip flop. It usually does not hurt but I always become more obediant because I am sad she had to it. I love my mom very much! And it does not take much for me to understand her point! I believe spanking is necessary but not to the point where a child can't sit after your done. Spanking is supposed to make the child feel guilty not hurt them. If you use spanking correctly you will see a difference in a child's behavior!
Sep 03, 2011
spanking by mom by: Anonymous
I was spanked by my mom until I was around 17 and just too big for her (dad passed away). My sister was a year older then me and she also was spanked. My mom always had the same routine. The day of punishment, we would eat dinner and clean the kitchen and then the three of us would go into the den. The person being spanked would stand in from of the other two and say what they had done wrong to deserve a spanking. I had to be something serious. After that my mom would say what the total punishment would be and the person would walk over to the sofa and remove their pants and underwear. We would then get on our knees and lean over the front of the sofa. My mom would then come over with a paddle and give us the spanking as described.We were not allowed to cover our rearend with our hands. At the end of the spanking mom would come over and hug us and tell us she loved us very much. We would then have to go sit on a wooden chair with no pants or underwear until she said we could get dressed and go to our room.I was smart enough as was my sister that I did not get spanked from about 14-16. Around 16 I started to get a little rebellious and started to get spanked again for stupid things like drinking. The hardest part was not the spanking at that age it was dropping my pants and underwear in front of my sister and mother knowing I was about to be spanked. I remember my sister stayed out all night once when she was 17 and she cried when she had to drop her underwear in front of me. At first I thought it was funny but then felt sorry for her.At that age we had both matured since the last time we had been spanked and had to drop our underwear in front of eachother. My mother said that we knew we would be spanked for doing what we did and should have thought about it before doing whatever it was we did.Well after that spanking when I was 16 and my sister was 17, my sister rarely was spanked but I had a few more to go. My sister and I became closed and tried to cover for eachother. But, it did make us think as every action has a reaction and when it is negative you sometime have to think more then once before doing something that is wrong.Spanking really teaches you.
Sep 01, 2011
My punishment by: Adrian (Ammie)
When im naughty my mom sends me to my room to get ready for my punishment. That means me to undress & sit on the naughty chair & wait for her, i sit & think about the spanking that is coming. Mom cnmes up with her hairbrush and my punishment panties, she stands me up takes my pants off me then puts my p/panties on me at my ankles. I am then given 14 strokes across my bottom, usually after 4 i am crying & at the end mom is calling me a baby as she rubs my special cream on my sore bottom. My panties are them pulled up to complete my humiliation, at this point I know these & my baby tee shirt " mommys naughty little girl" on the front is what im to wear for the rest of the day. Mom has 2 teeshirts 1 in pink & 1 in yellow, the pink 1 means matching girls panties, the yellow 1 means white piastic baby panties. I hate it, its so embarassing as she sometimes has friends round, she refers to me as her reluctant daughter Ammie
Aug 30, 2011
The Scientific debate is dead by: James C. Talbot
Having spent 30+ years examining/evaluating the research on this issue of spanking children, I am able to state with a high degree of confidence that there has never been a peer-reviewed study that has been able to establish the efficacy of spanking as a means of long-term behavior modification; as an effective teaching modality; as an effective punishment; or as a means of instilling self-discipline. Nevertheless, there are some spankers who will find reasons to dismiss, ignore, or discount, the research findings of field conducted experimental studies related to the Social Sciences. Well, it's especially these folks that I'd like to address concerning alarming new research findings, which represent the most severe consequences of physical punishment yet discovered...while doing so in the form of documented scientific proof*. These revelations have come through studies in brain research having provided CAT SCAN pictures showing an abnormal lack of brain development (within the portion of the brain responsible for emotional functioning) in children who had been subject to spankings as a punitive measure. For the sake of sample homogeneity, the researchers chose subjects for their study that had been categorized as 'abused' children. Common sense tells us that this does not eliminate the possibility of a lesser degree of brain damage occurring to spanked children who are subjected to a lesser degree of non-injurious violence. In other words, it would be ludicrous to assume that a child must first suffer bruises, cuts, or welts (or other injuries), before brain damage can take place as a result of the physical punishments. Rather, it is much more logical to deduce that acts of physical aggression toward young children can disrupt, or prevent, the optimal conditions necessary to facilitate a normal process of healthy brain development. As far as I'm concerned, this new area of research (apparently not yet freely available on the Internet) represents the most compelling, undeniable reason that's yet been discovered to persuade parents to stop (or never start) striking their children as a punitive measure. It's difficult to imagine any parent who would be willing to treat their child in a way that might carry even a remote risk of causing a measure of brain damage to their child.
Aug 30, 2011
spanked ass by: Morgan
My parents spank me bare assed all the time. I am 19 years old and in college, but since I am home for the summers and they still help me pay for school, I follow daddy's orders. He found out that I was drinking and wasn't doing so well last year so when I came home for thanksgiving break he took me over his knee and spanked me in front of my family. When they visit me up at school they will spank me in my dorm room and everyone can hear it. It's embarrassing but they make their point.
Aug 23, 2011
Life lesson by: Anonymous
I am a 20 year old guy. I was spanked probably till I was like 15 or 16 and I thank God that my parents did because it taught me not to be some spoiled rogmtten brat...if you think you are being abused because you get spanked because you do something wrong you need to grow up!!!!!
Aug 22, 2011
Spank my teens otk bare by: Drew
I am a dad I have one 16 year old she came home drunk last night so I gabbed her I took her over my knee spanked her for 45 mins 10 mins with belt 10 mins with paddle 10 with a switch and 15 with cane then I sent her two bed crying
Aug 18, 2011
My life..... by: Anonymous
My parents spank me all the time im 13 I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers (14,15,16,17) and my parents spank us when we musbehWeave and it may work on my sblings butnot really, on me... I get spanked on my bare butt with a paddle/hairbrush by both parents very frequently almost daily... Im not a bad kid or anytging I get straight A's and plag sports but I diobey my parents... I deliberarely disobey them,and I know ill get spanked but I dont know I just cant help myself. My siblings get spanked when my parents catch them spanking/ wedgieing me. Like today my dad found my 15 yr old sis wedgieing me so hw gotthe wooden hairbrush and spanked gher!!!! I was.so happppy! And they wedgie/spank torture me everyday and, my parents barely catch them so they rarely get spanked....:( but my dad says these spankings will help me eventually I just wish theyd stop!
Aug 17, 2011
Freaks. by: Teenager
You can't spank a teenager you fxxing weirdos. if either of my parents tried anything like that i'd destroy their lives. sure my dad and mum have hit me before, and i hit them right back. you better watch your step, cause your teens wont stand for it, especially when theyre older, and they'll make you pay for it if the have any sense of self respect. i think parents who spank kids over the age of 5 are a bunch of perverted freaks who need to learn that they dont rule their kids lifes anymore. i'm 15 years old and i am my own person, i will not be told what to do by other people especially if its against my will to do so, and there is no way in hell i'd be pervertidly punished for it. you all need to be locked up if you think thats the right course of action. kthnxbye.
Aug 15, 2011
Respect your parents by: Annette
I'm 16 and have been spanked regularly when my behavior has not been acceptable to my parents. I think its important to respect your parents and as long as they are fair then you should expect them to be firm also when required. I may not like to be over my dad's knee with my panties pulled down and on the receiving end of a good hiding, but I know it teaches me to behave in the future. Some will say this is wrong, but I would much rather have a sore bottom for a day, than turn out to be a spoiled brat who doesn't value the difference between right and wrong. Sons and Daughters out there who still live with your parents, I urge you to ask your mom or dad to discipline you properly. In other words respect your parents and expect a well spanked bare bottom if your bad behavior deserves it.
Regards Annette
Aug 12, 2011
STRICT MOM by: Maureen
if my children are very bad they are taken to my bedroom where i explain what the spanking is for and what i expect in future. I pull my chair out and child is in front of me while i pull their trousers and pants down to administer spanking over my knee until child is crying for while and they have very sore bum.
They only get up after theyve stopped crying
Aug 08, 2011
not just mum by: Anonymous
my mum died in a car accident while i was on my honeymoon with wife. I had just turned 22yo and was angry she had been taken from me. I started drinking and being vile to my wife, my wife sobbed where was the wonderful man I married. My mother in law said she was concerned and said what would your Mum do if she was still alive and saw how you treated your wife. I replied I was still spanked till I was married.Well I think we both know what needs to be done.My MIL went to get a feather duster and I bent over the table and pulled my jeans and underpants to my ankles My MIL caned me 12 times across the bare bottom, neither of us the slightest embarrassed. That was 20 years ago, she has since died. But she caned my bare bottom weekly for the next three months and I settled.
Aug 07, 2011
Spanking is sexual abuse by: Anonymous
I had to recieve psychotherapy for a life long spanking fetish, which is a obsessive compulsive mental disorder. Many parents never admit they spank because they have this sexual disorder. Spanking can create sexual trauma. My mother is dead and I can still recall those moments when she spanked, she exclaimed she hated to do it, but the body language she displayed said she liked it. I was too old to know the pleasurable feelings I was experiencing as she unbuttoned my pants, unzipped my zipper, pulled down my jeans, and the pulled down my underware to be forced to exposed my genitals to her was an unwanted sexual arousal. The ritual was and is designed for maximum sexual humiliation and can and does creat a sexual disorder in many, I'm just one victim. Because parents are to have sexual experiences with their children they may repress this sexual disorder but it emotionally and privately can arouse and motivate them to spank for reasons beyond good moral parenting which are cleverly used to hide their own sexual abuse. Until spanking is banned the cycle of hidden sexual abuse will continue parent to child forever.
Jul 26, 2011
Spanking is a sound punishment by: Anonymous
I have two boys. I can not afford to let either one to mishave,and I do,surely tell both of them [I] mommy has the willingness to spank either ones bare bottom with my hand or paddle.I found spanking their bare bottoms is more effective than on the pants. I have a Aunt who lends me advice;when I ask for it.My Aunt told me,"On your little darlings bare bottoms is the best place for a motherly spanking they can receive from their mom." Next:Always spank their bare bottoms within a reasonable limit.Never spank them when your angry.Speak to each one before, and after their bare bottoms have been spanked.Allow your boys to ask mommy to check their bare bottoms afterwards,and you must check each bottom for them;only because that one is asking you too.Asure your boys mommy alway will love them.
Jul 21, 2011
Spanked last night by: Anonymous
Hello I am 19 years old, and I just got a spanking last night. I pushed my dad because I got angry and cursed. I have been very mad lately and back talking. My mom, pulled my pants and underwear down, made me lye across her lap and spanked me with her hand, and then my dad came in, with his belt and finished. I am still very angry.
Jul 17, 2011
spanking by: Anonymous
I feel direct defiance and disrespect and stealing are grounds for a proper spanking. She needs to be shown who is in charge. You should bend her over, bare her bottom and paddle or strap her into submission.
Jul 05, 2011
Spanking my teenager by: Anonymous
Typically me and my husband have to spank out daughter more who is 16, more than our son who is 8. Last night at dinner our daughter got mad at us and started to yell at us and threw her phone across the kitchen, this phone is new. She got sent to her room instantly. About 20 minutes later her father and I went up to her room with my old wooden hair brush where she was ordered to remove her shorts and panties. She refused to do so and that automatically added more to her punishment. I pulled them down for her and she then had to lay down on her bed and her father picked up her legs, it's easier to spank her in diaper position so she can't kick us. I then started with my hand and gave her 5 hard spanks to get her ready then I took my hair brush and "painted her butt red." Generally I spank until her lesson is taught and she is crying and pleading mercifully, she got almost 68 hairbrush swats last night. She then got 32 swats with a little switch for refusing at the beginning (her age times 2 depends on how many extra swats she gets for refusing or "acting up"). After she was required to sit on a wooden stool in the corner for 30 minutes and then got 5 more hand spanks and her punishment was over. Now for 2 weeks before she goes to bed, which she has early bed time, she is getting a spanking and se has no phone for 2 weeks. This is for having a temper tantrum and throwing her new phone. As long as she lives under our roof, if she wants to act like a little kid, she will be treated like one. Spankings are more effective on her that on our son.
Jun 18, 2011
Traditional Bare Bottom Spanking by: Mrs. McDougall
It's good that we have so many parents who faithfully uphold the tradition of putting naughty children across their knee for good, sound spankings on their bare bottoms. The soundly spanked child of today is the responsible adult of tomorrow.
Jun 16, 2011
Stupid americans by: Anger
How can anyone humiliate a child like that?
Jun 16, 2011
think for a bit by: Anonymous
Why don't you ask your child whats wrong? A teenager often behave badly cause there is something wrong. If you spank them, you teach them to keep it inside and that will result in bad confidence when the child gets older. Stop spanking your child. It's pointless and abusing. It lowers them to feel they are less worthy. It's just a wicked way for some adults to administrate power. It's actually kind of perverted. Instead of punish your child, why don't ask them if there really is something bothering them. Teach them to talk about things and not gaining respect by fear. Spanking is for parents that don't desereve respect because they can't gain it by any other way than causing pain. Think for a moment.
Jun 14, 2011
Most of these replies are trolls by: Anonymous
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There are a lot of great sites about spanking fetishes. You people can indulge your kink there. There are lots of idiots on the Internet, and some of them might actually take you seriously. In that case, their children will pay the price for your so-called "advice"'. So think of that.
Jun 07, 2011
Sometimes a teen wants strong discipline by: JACK W
Several years ago I married a beautiful woman who has a charming but rebellious daughter who had just turned thirteen. During the 2 year courtship of my new wife, the daughter and I had grown close and we had a mostly wonderful relationship. I can say that I love them both. And I believe the feelings are mutual. spanking was my idea, I must not be put off by spanking her on her panties. (Our daughter, she said deserved a true, old fashioned correction, one she wasn't likely to dismiss as too "easy".)
The poor girl was over my knees, sobbing quietly and saying she was truly sorry. I replied I too was truly sorry, that I loved her, and that the spanking I was to administer would hurt but would not harm her; that it was NOT abuse. She tearfully begged my forgiveness and agreed that she deserved this spanking.
I tightened my grip on her hands, tilted her bottom so that it was at the appropriate angle to accept the licks of the hairbrush and amid her more insistent, soft sobbing applied the hairbrush fairly hard to her very appealing, poor, adorable right buttock.
She squealed, her legs shot out straight and she shouted: please, no, stop. ALL her resolve about accepting a spanking vanished. I just held her tightly, tried to comfort her and said: dear a spanking HURTS; but you must accept being spanked. Are you going to?? Sobbingly she apologized for her reaction. She just didn't know the hairbrush hurt so much. "Does it have to hurt so much?", she wimpered. At that I almost gave up on spanking the usually sweet girl. BUT her mom was there again to reinforce the need for a SOUND spanking: NO pit a pat but a true punishment spanking.
I held the crying girl, told her that: yes the spanking would continue; it would hurt and that then it would be over and she would cry for awhile then feel much better that she took her punishment and was still very much loved by her parents. And that her parents were proud of her for enduring, in a reasonable manner, a painful but needed "correction'.
With that said, I asked her if she were ready to finally take this spanking and be finished with it?"
She nodded; I held her hands firmly and delivered about ten strong licks with the hairbrush. She gasped, sobbed, pleaded quietly for it to stop but did not try to get off my knees.
Jun 03, 2011
Spanking by: Anonymous
I was spanked as a little kid. Age 2 - 7 probaly. It didn't helP me one bit. It hurt my feelings I felt like I was a peice of crap. Like i wasn't worth anything. I was always very shy and didn't want to play with kids for fear of getting spanked and them finding out. Spanking can be ok for some kids! But some it hurts them. For my brothers and sisters this is fine but dor me it wasn't. When I was 9 years old my mOm put me in public school and I over came my shyness. Now I'm a very social 12 year old. Everyone treats manlike an adult and my opinion is just as important as the other adults in the room. Spanking may work dormsome people but if my mOm wouldn't have stopes spanking me I would have been a.VARY shy little girl in therapy
May 20, 2011
enema by: richard
I was spanked and caned at school from the aged of seven and my parents where very strict with me at all times mother belived in a good stick accross your bare bottom she usued to warn me would happen when daddy returned home from his work however one time when ill in bed with she said i needed an enema and if you dont like that then you can have a smack bottom instead and the enema because youre constipated and grumpy
May 16, 2011
Spanking a Teen by: Anonymous
Ok, so some of you feel spanking doesn't work. Spanking a teen is wrong, is sick etc, Tell me then would you rather spank your teens bare butt or watch your teen go through a criminal trial and sentenced to prison or God forbid sentenced to life in prison or get the death penalty. How much money are you able to raise to defend him or her. Mainly because you listend to some anti punishment liberal who proclaims spanking and punishment are wrong. Would it not be better to not spare the rod and spank the child or teen as needed and teach them what happens when they mishehave? Some say spanking doesn't work. The idea of spanking is to make the disobediant undestand there are serious consenquences to his or her actions in life when they do wrong. Spank them in front of their sibling (s) if need be to enforce that, a good old fashioned does of embarrasment for the disobediant surely can't hurt, if you feel it necessary spank them in front of their friend if they misbehave at home with a friend visiting. If you normally spank them on the bare bottom get down to business then and there with male or female friend present. Too bad ! you shouldn't misbehave. If my son or daughter lied to be about something especially grades and I found out about it when they had a friend visiting I wouldn't hesitate to spank them, I'd certainly let it be known to the friend what is about to happen and give them the choice to stay or leave. Once the deed is done bare butt or not then I would let the son or daughter decide if the friend should stay or leave while they cry and carry on. For fighting a friend then I would absolutely without hesitation spank then bare bottomed with a switch with their friend present. Absolutely, they would be there when he or she lowers their pants and underpants and assumes the position not just allowed to come in the room once they are ready to be spanked. That would teach them a lesson for sure.
May 16, 2011
Spanking by: Anonymous
If the kid tries to cover the bottom, stop and wait. Tell them they can cover it with their hands all they want but the spanking will start over from the count of one every time they try. Let them know you are in control not them. No need to beat them sensless just make sure you spank them untill they can't take anymore. By that I mean the bottom should be beet read not bleeding or cut. If you draw blood then of course stop and simply care for the problem and spank again another day. Don't attempt to fight, be patient if the spanking takes 3 minutes or an hour take your time and get it done. Make them understand you are in controk not them. Each and every time they move to avoid being struck stop and start over from count of one. Soon enough they will get the idea to stay still and take the spanking no matter how much it hurts. Spank them untill they cry sufficently. Do not hug and cuddle them afterwards, this is punishment nothing more. When done allow them to stand up and face you bare or not, let them know if this behavior continues next time it will be worse. They are not to leave the room no matter where they are. Any computer should be unpluged or password protected so it can't be used for a period of time, the cell phone and games should be taken away for a period of time after the spanking. Perhaps a week then given back to them. After a period of time perhaps an hour when they've had time to compose themselves and think and you as well then go back and see them. Let the kid know you love them and want what's best for them, a hug and I love you is appropriate here. Have them pull down their pants and underpants again and allow you to inspect the bottom again to make sure it's not severly damaged. Don't comfort them with lotion or cream etc. You want the bottom to sting and burn for a while to make them think. Of course let them know it is ok to come to you any time with any problem or question, perhaps then they can talk about the problem and maybe not have to be spanked.
May 16, 2011
Spanking teaches by: Spanker
I have read some of these remarks regards to spanking the teen son and or daughter. Many seem to think it's an inapropropriate thing to do. Well I have to disagree, you the parent should take any and all actions necessary to teach the kid right from wrong and the consenquences of wrong doing.It's a simple part of life. I don't care if your 2 years old or 19, etc. If you the son or daughter live in my house you will obey my rules, it's that simple. Better to spank them soundly and teach them the consenquences of wrong doing than have to constantly bail them out of jail for a DWI, or burglary or worse. I suggest you the parent should not hesitate to spank. Take them to a room, have them lower their pants and or underpants and bend over or lay down on a bed or across a couch or over a chair etc, I don't agree with someone tying their hands and ankles, it's punishment not torture not a BDSM fettish act. You spank because you love them and want them to do the right thing and learn what happens when they don't. Use what ever you need to use that is a common item, don't use extention cords and crazy stuff. A belt, paddle, switch, cane, ie.. normal spanking implements will do fine. Don't argue with them, stand your ground. Young man young lady I don't care if don't want to be spanked, I am going to spank you and do it so hard you wont want to sit for a week. If you don't accept it and cooperate with me I will not fight you but you will not leave this room untill you take the spanking. Why should anyone care if Mom spanks the son or Dad spanks the daughter. Did they not raise them? Bathe them, wash their face and buy their clothes and yes including underpants. Dad has seen daughters bottom front and back plenty of times in so much as Mom has seen it and seen the boys private areas. As I said parents shouldn't be concerned with it anyway. The business end is the butt anyway. Make them understand your not interested and not going make fun of their front side private parts. They should be old enough to trust you and should pull down their own pants and underpants or at least keep their hands clear when you do it. I don't however see a need to make them strip naked, why do that? The only thing you need to strike is the butt and the upper thighs. Not the vagina, not the penis or tesitcals not the rectum or head or back. This is not a stupid sex act. It's a serious act of correction done out of love. That being the case let them know you will not leave untill the deed is done so get it over with. Once in posistion get down to business quickly don't ask are you ready? That's stupid, just as soon as they are set get moving. Strike them hard, so hard they cry out and with plentous tears. It may take longer to get a teen to cry than a 7 year old but it doesn't matter. Spank them soundly for a period of time untill the bottom is soundly spanked and red. Let them cry and scream don't allow then to strike back or cover the bottom.
May 13, 2011
too old to spank by: Anonymous
I was the only girl I had 2 brothers Are dad was strict When we got in trouble Are dad makes us undress in the family room makes us bend over the sofa beat us with a belt then we have stand in the corner for an hour I felt shame and unloved Being the only girl I was spanked the almost some I was spanked more than once
May 13, 2011
too old to spank by: Anonymous
I was the only girl I had 2 brothers Are dad was strict When we got in trouble Are dad makes us undress in the family room makes us bend over the sofa beat us with a belt then we have stand in the corner for an hour I felt shame and unloved Being the only girl I was spanked the almost some I was spanked more than once
May 09, 2011
It will wake her up by: kristi
Hi - I'm 18 and I got my first spanking ever just recently. My mom found this site and wants me to give an opinion. I'd tell the mother to spank her. I went out with my boyfriend to a special dinner and I drove home really, really late and din't phone. I also had a few Mikes. As soon as I got in the door - at four - mom really let me have it. She took me by the back of my neck into the kitchen and put over her lap. She pulled my tights down and spanked me. She reminded me that if something had happened I could have lost my athletic scholarship and that i had to grow up and stop being a bad girl and stop the attitude. I think it wold do this other girl some real good because she needs to think - just like I did. It was very embarassing and hurt, especially when my panties were pulled down, but it really woke me up. It will wake her up,too.
May 09, 2011
Makes you think by: Anonymous
I'm 18 and I got my first spanking from my mom last week after coming home late from a party where i had some Mikes. She took me into the dining room and pulled down my tights and panties and put me over her lap. It really, really hurt, and it was so embarrasing. i cried and all that, but I knew I deserved it and almost wanted it. I think it does some real good if it's deserved because it makes you think.
Apr 30, 2011
spanking teenagers by: Anonymous
ADHD etc. is just an excuse for bad behaviour. There is probaby very little wrong that a good spanking would not cure very quickly!.
Apr 26, 2011
how i look after teens by: Anonymous
Every summer, I look after 3 teenagers (my 13-yr-old godson, and his two best friends - a 13 yr-old boy and a 13 yr-old girl). My best friend assists me in looking after them (my godson was orphaned when he was very young, and I've adopted him, and my best friend is like an uncle to them). I've set some ground rules for them - 1)No talking back 2)No lying 3)No putting oneself/others in danger 4)No foul language (if caught lying, the punishment will be much more severe than it would have been for the original wrongdoing). Generally, I'm quite laid-back. Their 'uncle' seems much more firm (hence the kids seem to listen to him a lot more!). But, if the kids are caught breaking the rules (talking back, throwing attitude, foul language), I am the one who gives them a nice, firm, hard swat on the bottom (turn around and SMACK!) there and then (I don't care who else present in the same room). And if need be, this is followed up with a time-out. Punishments for lying and putting oneself/others in danger are much more severe, which involve a good, old fashioned OTK spanking. I spank them on a clothed bottom using the hair-brush/paddle (I do not even ask them to strip to their undies). A spanking on the bare bottom is only the last resort punishment (when just about everything else has been tried). When the need arises, the kids receive their bare bottom spankings from both me and their 'uncle' (so that neither of us is taken lightly). And yes, the girl is spanked on the bare as well (but as mentioned earlier, only as the last possible resort). For example, punishments for lying is as follows: lecturing before AND after spanking (if required, bare-bottom) + time-out (facing the wall, spanked bottom on display) + mouth-soaping + grounding + individual apologies to everyone who has been lied to (if my best friend aka their 'uncle' administers these punishments, I do not interfere or intervene). It might seem harsh to you. I am generally quite a fun-loving person. But if you break the above-mentioned rules, you are digging your own grave.
Apr 18, 2011
Spanking a teen by: Anonymous
I'm turning 20 and I haven't been spanked in almost 2 years. The last time I was spanked was for coming home almost 3 hours after I was supposed to be. A spanking shouldn' be used for everything. Part of what makes a spanking so dreaded is when it isn't an every day thing. I'm not used to get spankings because it wasn't given for every thing I did wrong. I'm glad I was spanked though when I was but I'm glad it wasn't as bad as some of the ones I've read. When I was spanked I never knew if I was going to get it bare, over jeans, or over my panties. Corner time was almost an always though. They never stopped until I was in tears, but it didn't teake much sometimes.
Apr 15, 2011
Approve by: Anonymous
I am not opposed to spanking teenagers. I believe that it can bring a father and son closer, once the boy has received a bare bottom spanking. Once the boy is naked (in Private)and has been spanked, it is a good time for father/son bonding. My dad used the strap on me and I really beleive that it did some good.
Apr 13, 2011
spanking teens by: Anonymous
If You spank your teens or children, you are an unfit parent. You try to make yourself feel strong by hurting them. If you spank them, they will want revenge. Spanking is a form of torche. They have rights to!
Mar 27, 2011
Spanking Works by: Anonymous
My niece(15) is, for the most part, well behaved. Once and a while she acts up and I spank her. She visits me every summer for the whole summer. When i spank her, what I do is make her stand in the corner in only bra and panties for 30 minutes and then I come in. I take off her bra and panties and bend her over my knee and spank her bottom with my hand to a nice shade of pink. This would be her warm up spanking. Then I take out a paddle and paddle her bottom until it is red. Finally I bend her over her bed and tell her to count out the times I whip her with the belt. It's usually 10 to 20. Then I make her sit on a stool in the corner for another 30 minutes with hands on head. Oh, and no rubbing. After that she is confined to her room for the rest of the day, but she may not put on clothes. At dinner time she is to come down in her night gown with nothing underneath. I have a paddle with me and I tell her to bend over, and I pull her night gown just above her hips, and give her 10 pops if the paddle. Then she may sit down for dinner. If there is a week that she doesn't get in trouble this takes place Saturday evening/afternoon. Her parents are very happy that I return her so well behaved. I can't wait to get children of my own!!!!!
Mar 24, 2011
spanking my children bare bottoms by: Anonymous
I do spank my boys bare bottoms.Ages 7,9,and 11, years old.I do not enjoy spanking them!I spank only if one or more does something to endanger himself or others.I try to be fair,I spank each boy on his bare bottom mostly in his bedroom.I tell my child why,first.I help him by removing his pants and underpants.I do,let him tell me why I should not spank him.I spank my boys with my open hand.Mostly each boy does cry.
After the spanking is over,I do,check their bare bottoms later to show I care about him.
Mom also spanks the boys bare bottoms.
Feb 21, 2011
Spanking my teenager by: Anonymous
Have 3 teen sons, 16, 14 and 12, almost 13! Spank then on their bare butt cheeks, usually use a belt, or hairbrush! If it's not hard enough and long enough, it does no good! A spanking has to really hurt, and the Dudes need to cry out from some serious pain! A beet red backside will prevent them from some real bad experiences, like jail!
Feb 18, 2011
definately spank them. by: monkeyman
I think that if your teenager misbehaves then they deserve to be spanked. I think you should take the culprit to their bedroom and if it is a boy make him strip off to his underpants only and if it is a girl make her strip to her knickers only. Then tell them they are going to be spanked. Make the culprit bend over your knee and once they are in position pull down their underwear and spank their bare bottom with your hand until the bottom is red raw.
Feb 10, 2011
spanking teens by: Anonymous
I began spanking my teen daughters on the advice of a friend. They were totaly disrepectful and rude. After a few sessions over my knee i now have very respectful girls. I only spankover the knee on bare bottom with hand. Since it works i will continue this untilthey leave home. I am their father and I do all the spanking. They are 13 and 16
Jan 13, 2011
On My Best Behavior by: kenhp1
When I was about five (5) years old I stole $5.00 from my parents night stand. I said I was sorry and they hugged me and let it go. Soon afterwards I stole some dollar bills from the cigar box kept in a closet. When they figured that out I cried again. However, it was different the second time. I was crying because my Father took me over the knee and reddened my butt with red paddle. Afterwards it was used for lying, stealing, and other serious offenses. Was it fun? Hell no. Did I do the same thing twice? Very seldom. I am now a well adjusted professional in Healthcare and very happy. People can go on with this "no spank" all day long. I believe it can be a useful tool if used appropriately and not in anger. Having your bottom reddened for something you know is wrong is fine. It's a hell of a lot better than ending up in prison as a adult for the same behavior. Glad I had a Father in the house. So many don't these days. That my friend is the problem, along with these "no spank" nuts. We need to start judicial punishment for crime in the U.S. I believe crime would take a nose dive if instituted. Nothing brutal, just a good butt burning.
Dec 26, 2010
I Still would get spanked! by: Nancy
I'm 19 and in college but I still live at home with my mom and my 15 year old sister (my dad passed away 6 years ago). The last time my mom spanked me was when I was 17, My sister still gets spanked whenever needed, but even today at 19 if I acted like that, I KNOW that she'd have me across her lap laying a sound spanking on my bare butt with the hairbrush. And what's more, I would deserve every spank!
Dec 23, 2010
Spank her bare bottom by: Anonymous
I would treat her like the 5 year old that she is acting and if you can pull her over your knee or bed, pull her pants down and spank her bare bottom hard so she knows you mean business.
Dec 20, 2010
Spanking Teen Sons by: Anonymous
Have 3 sons, all teens, oldest 16, next 14 and 1 13, yes, I spank them! Use my belt on their bare behinds. Also take em out to the woodshed where hangs my DDad's razor strap1 We go out there about 2-3 times a month for an old fashioned whipping!
Dec 13, 2010
Get Help! by: Anonymous
You say: "She tells me No a lot and threatens to kill my daughter."
This is not a "spanking" issue. This is a life-threatening issue. She may need help, but both you and your daughter need protection. Get your troubled daughter in a location where both she and everyone around you is safe. I cannot believe that you still believe that this is a "discipline" problem. Get help before something serious happens.
Dec 05, 2010
All About Counseling by: Anonymous
When you think your child is in trouble, it would be wise to bring them to counseling, rather than do something that you'll regret later.
Nov 19, 2010
Spank only if she already trusts and respects you. by: Anonymous
Human society survived just fine for MANY years before we ever knew about differences like ADD/ADHD..... Please don't use your daughter's differences as a crutch to keep her from being the best member of human society that she can be. As for the possibility of using spanking to discipline her, definitely her behavior is such that she deserves it, but spanking would only work if you are consistent and most critically if she respects you as her parent. If the underlying foundation of trust and respect for you are absent, it would be better to not even try spanking her as it could sabotage any hope of ever having a good relationship between the two of you. If this is the case it would be better to invest some money into professional counseling for your daughter, because one way or another, SHE NEEDS HELP!
Nov 18, 2010
spanked at school by: Anonymous
In middle school, I was paddled once and it was aweful. The assistant principal had me empty out my pockets and put my hands on a chair. I got 3 swats, but they were hard. By the way, I had to see him because I was goofing off in class. Did I deserve it? Yes probably. But I never got into trouble again. I tried to fight back tears and I held it together fairly well, but that was one tough paddling to get!
Nov 08, 2010
Dont spank teenagers or adult children.. by: Anonymous
It's not appropriate to spank a teenager. Teenage girls are hormonal because they are basically children trapped in a grown woman's body. I am hormonal and snap sometimes and I would extend that same benefit of the doubt with my daughter because I would not dare spank her on her menses (when she could very well be cramping, etc). If the teen is acting up just to act out, then punish them through grounding... extra chores.. not letting them go out etc. When I was a teenager, a few minutes of pain from a spanking didn't have very much of an effect on me because I knew that it would end soon and by then i had a high tolerance for pain.. but being grounded seemed like forever. If you have an adult child and they aren't behaving, put them out of your home, they don't need a spanking. They need to learn the legal responsiblities and reprocussions of being an "adult", and if they aren't ready--which they likely aren't if they are living with you then they will likely straighten up.
Nov 03, 2010
HIDING/SOAP by: Anonymous
I was given a hiding and it ment a HIDING i'll tell you!!, any cheek my mouth was washed out with a bar of soap too!.
Oct 28, 2010
Spanking is Biblical and does correct a child by: Joy
I don't have a problem with teens being spanked, but I DO have a problem with it being bare-bottomed. I would agree that having to pull their pants (usually jeans) down and bend over a bed or something else is the right thing to do. I was severely abused as a child until the age of 18, and I do not advocate excessive spanking. The woman who spanked her 10 year old 390+ times is being abusive! Spanking, in my opinion, works best when done as soon as possible after the offense. I also required my daughter, who is now 22, to write "Responsibility Letters," in which she has to state what she did, how did it affect the people around her and what was she going to do differently in the future. This adds in the "teaching part," of DISCIPLINE. It is not a simple spanking and it's over with.
Oct 20, 2010
it works by: mtt
It is definatly benifial to spank you children no matter there age, even if they throw a tandtrum at age 26 they need to know that whilst they are around you you are in control of the rules...this comes from a 17 year old
Oct 05, 2010
:S by: Sam
Ok spanking ...well i was speanked from a young age till about 14. And it fucked me up to be quite honest. I didn't care about getting spanked i just wanted to have fun. I mean it hurts, its disrespectful, and harms the psychology of the brain.
Now i have 3 kids of my own, not perfect, but i talk to them like adults, not spank them like kids, if they do something wrong i ask why, if they dont have a good reason, i take a prized possession away. Since this they have been very well behaved!!
Sep 25, 2010
spanking by my dad by: Anonymous
i got spanked by my dad from 3 unlit 17 unlit i had left home to go to college my father was a strict-disciplinarian and was strict with all of us kids if we disobey him or got into trouble he would spanked us and im am glad from all of the spanking that i had gotten from him and had receive from him it had made me a better person and im am a better person because of it and from them the spanking that i had gotten and receive from my father,
Sep 09, 2010
Use a different technique by: Lisa
I use to think spanking was the only way, I have two teenage children that I use to spank, it didn't make me feel good, I felt terrible and in all honesty is was the quickest way to discipline, it is lazy and easy "smack" over and done with technique, I have a 5 year old son who from as early as 10 months he was disciplined, I used the timed out rule, and this is a consistent way of disciplining him, for the last 3 years I have only had to use it once every other month, I won't say that he is perfect, I will say he is normal, if I deepen my tone of voice, he knows uh oh she is serious, there have been times where I think ahhh I can't be bothered and he has gotten a way with something, yet I only have to do it once and he knows.. Spanking is not the only way... take a look... if that's the technique you have been using all along and your child still misbehaves, and you are using it more than once every other month... THEN IT IS NOT WORKING!!!!! IS IT????
Aug 03, 2010
my thoughts/experience on being spanked by: Anonymous
My parents spanked me and I am grateful for it now although I hated them for it at the time. It hurts to get spanked. Spankings were painful and humiliating, but always for a good reason and well-deserved. It kept me from drinking, smoking, getting pregnant, etc. I wouldn't have cared if they grounded me. But knowing that a serious spanking (not just a swat) was coming my way if I misbehaved, kept me in line. My parents almost always used a paddle. I would get anywhere from 3 to 10 hard swats as a child. Through age 10 it was sometimes pants up, but more often bare-bottom. Spankings continued even as a teenager but were always pants up which is appropriate at this age. As a teenager, swats increased to 10 to 15 hard swats. I love my parents and I always knew that they loved me because they told me they loved me. They loved me enough to draw boundaries with me and then spank me when I broke those boundaries. So many kids today just get time out or grounded and it just doesn't work the same. Of course everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I am grateful my parents spanked me.
Jul 27, 2010
Paddling at School by: Anonymous
When my son was 14 he was caught smoking dope at school. I turned up at the school to find him being paddled by his teaher. He had been given three pops and then tthe teacher told my son to go home. However, his paunishment was not over. I borrowed the paddle and gave him a further seven pops.
Jul 21, 2010
My Sentiments Exactly! by: Anonymous
I agree wholeheartedly with "Pants Down & Bottoms Up for a good spanking."
Jul 21, 2010
Nothing Like A Good, Sound Spanking by: Rennie
I'm pleased to see those comments from mothers who recognize the unique benefits of over-the-knee, bare bottom spankings in shaping the development of their teenagers' character. It is absolutely critical that teens be held accountable for their behaviour. And while I do think spanking should be held in reserve as a particularly serious punishment, I'm also convinced that nothing gets an older girl's or boy's attention quite like having their pants taken down and their bare bottom given a good, sound spanking over the lap of parental authority.
Jun 17, 2010
Can spanking at this age be OK? by: Anonymous
I'm 17 yo now, and i've been spanked since I was 6 yo. When I was kid, my father used to spank me with his hand, later he used a birch too, now it's usually his belt. I'm not the most obedient son in the world, but I'm nothing like a bad boy really, rather the nice one, and it even may be due to this kind of discipline, but I doubt about it. Spanking doesn't seem to work with my younger brother (he's 15), for example;talking to him, I got more results, I believe, but he doesn't listen to me that much any more, and I think that he can't see me as his "big bro" since he saw me many times being spanked, mostly on my bare bottom. I try to respect my father, but I don't feel I love him as son should. I tried to ask him to punish me in some other way, or at least to let me keep may pants on, but it made him only more angry.
Jun 11, 2010
spanking by: Anonymous
i am 15 years old, and ever since i can remember (kindergarten) i was spanked. i have not had a spanking since i was 12, but my parents are always reminding me that as long as i am in their house, i could get a spanking. do i hate my parents for spanking me? no. do i think i am to old to be spanked? no. if you are 15 years old, or even 20 years old, and you do something bad enough where your parents would spank you for it, then you were obviously acting like a child. as my father always said when i told him i was too old to be spanked; when you start acting older than you wont be spanked until then you will get a spnking when i see fit, and on went the spanking. as a small child i was spanked with either parents hand. as i got older i would get the hairbrush for serious offenses. i have only received the belt once in my lifetime, and i dont want to ever do something to receive that again.
Jun 01, 2010
Spanking by: Anonymous
I have custody of two teens. I got them at age 13 and 16. Mother left them years ago and the father is in prison. Both bio-parents are drug addicts and the father was making meth and selling with the children in the house. There were also allegations of sexual assault and other abuses. I did not want to spank because I knew that they had had a very hard life.
The older boy (my son) is doing great! He listens and wants to learn and do right. He wants to go to college. And, he is not a rebellious teen.
The younger one is a totally different story. His maturity is not that of a 13 year old and, according the therapist, this is because of his previous living conditions. He does not care about school or his grades. He destroys property. He steals. He lies. I have talked to him until I'm blue in the face. I have had him in counseling. I have grounded him. I have rewarded good behavior. I was at a total loss because nothing worked...
One day, I found out he had stolen $80. I was so upset and he continually denied that he had taken the money but I knew it had to be him. I told him that if he lied again I was going to slap him. He did lie and I did follow through with my punishment. Two hours later, he apologized for lying and he returned the money. We have not had anymore problems with stealing. In fact, all of his behaviors have improved tremendously! (I did hug him after I slapped him, and told him that I still loved him but that behavior would not be tolerated. Also, I did not slap him in anger.)
I believe that spanking works. I think my parents should have done that more often?
Proverbs 23:13-14 Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death.
Proverbs 19:18 Discipline your children while there is hope. If you don?t, you will ruin their lives.
Proverbs 13:18 He who ignores discipline comes to poverty and shame, but whoever heeds correction is honored.
May 27, 2010
spanking my teenager by: Anonymous
I think that spanking shouldn't be the 1st alternative , but when you can't reason with the child (or teen) then there's only Pants Down & Bottoms Up for a good spanking
May 23, 2010
Under certain circumstances by: Jon
When I was 14 (1969), I put five bb dings in a neighbor's window. A few days later, after the neighbor noticed, he came and got my father and showed him the damage. Dad was furious and wanted to know which of us 4 kids was guilty. I lied, but next morning, I confessed. After school, I had to cut 5 peach tree switches, deleaf them and put the business ends in a tub of water. When Dad got home, he took me next door to apologize--then to the back patio where the washtub waited. Then, my older brother was called out to stand in front of me and hold my shoulders while I held my ankles. My mom and younger siblings sat at the table just inside the glass door and watched my father pull my gym shorts and briefs down. Then he took those 5 wet switches and brought them down hard 35 times on my bottom and thighs as I screamed.
It would be called abuse today--those crisscross red stripes, and pe the next day was embarrassing, but the fact that I could've put somebody's eye out and I lied--looking back, I think I got off real easy.
May 21, 2010
long term solution by: Anonymous
ive spent several yrs n medical, psychiatry &educational fields workin w/children& adults. almost all disorders such as u described r caused by lack of effective discipline. good proper spankings has NEVER hurt anyone& is the best form of discipline for males& females of ANY age. u can learn more by researchin spanking therapy.
May 08, 2010
really? thats just wrong... by: Anonymous
if she has ADD and OCD, you cant just spank her and excpect her to behave normally...that just going to mess her up even more,you have no emotions do you? just go to a doctor or phychitrist or something and ask how you can get her to behave better,an ADD/OCD person's brain works differently,obviously...
May 01, 2010
Spanking my teenagers by: Anonymous
I am the mother of 3 teenagers, girls 14 and 16 and boy age 13. They all know that if they cross the line, there bottoms are bare and theu are over my knee for a good paddleing. It had been a few months since I had to spank any of them. They know however I will not hesitate in spanking them if it is warranted.
Apr 13, 2010
spanking my teenager by: Anonymous
when a older child or teenager (young children go over the knee with their pants down) misbehaves often or severely , they should be taken to the nearest table .pants down. bend them well over so the bottom is sticking out . just sting . like 2 to 3 smacks . don't hurt or bruise just discipline.
Apr 10, 2010
we are on the same page by: Julie
Lecturing....grounding etc. make no impact on my 2 teens but a good spanking certainly does. My 15 yr old son and 13 yr old daughter are both very active in sports and the last thing they want to have to explain to their friends is why they have a beet red bum! A good spanking on the bare bottom works wonders....at least for my teens
Apr 10, 2010
a good spanking can be a great parenting tool by: Lisa T
I am the Mom of 3.. a boy that is 14 and twin girls that are 12. I have found that giving my kids a spanking on their bare bottoms when their behavior crosses the line is very effective. I believe that the embarrassment of getting put across my knee and getting a sound spanking until they are crying and their bottoms are beet red works wonders.
Mar 27, 2010
Spanking Teenagers by: Anonymous
Caring Mom- spanking a 14 or 15 yr old is just wrong, and to put a chart up and have a spanking night? That sounds like some sort of perverted party! Spanking small kids on the spur if the moment to alert them to danger is fine but premeditated spankings are cruel and sick and quite frankly perverted. And to the person saying bare bottoms should be exposed to family and friends, well that's a criminal offence, I hope your kids leave you at the first opportunity. Some of the comments on this page are bordering on peadophilia. Sick sick twisted individuals... Thank the lord I'm British, you would be prosecuted over here
Mar 23, 2010
14 year old with adhd by: Anonymous
all I have to say is wow there is some perverts on this page come on a spanking table. 390 swats for a 10 year old. This page is for parents to talk about how to punish there child and for people trying to get suggestions on how to properly deal with the problem not for perverts so if you are going to talk about stuff that is considered abuse dont waste your time posting your comments. If you were real parents you would not be talking about stripping your child and putting them between your knees with there bootoms up in the air. Especially a 14 year old and spanking them. All I can say is get a life
Mar 22, 2010
spanking my teenager by: Anonymous
teenagers need to be disciplined just like children . if it still has to be done often , then the parent has to be spanked , but the teenager should be spanked every now & then. when they misbehave ,take them to the "spanking table". lower the pants then the briefs & bend them over the table so their tush is sticking well out .if you're using a paddle ,give 25 swats . if you're using a cane ,6 strokes should be enough . pray to god
Mar 20, 2010
My Kids by: Caring Mom
I have three kids aged 5,10 and 14. They all get spanked for misbehaving. I do not but the child across my lap. With the 5 year old I grab her under my arm, her legs to the front and spank her. The 10 and 14 year olds kneel down with there bottoms in the air and there heads between my legs and spank. I do not spank my kids after they misbehave. I have a chart with each childs name followed by a series of boxes. Every time they misbehave I tell them to put an x after their name and write the reason for the spanking. Every Monday night after dinner, we count the amount of x's and they get spankings for each misdemeanor. I do this so that i am not angry when i spank. Each misdemeanor gets 2-3 times the childs age spanking ie the 5 year old gets 10-15 for each misdemeanor, 10 year old get 20-30 and the 14 year olds get 28-42. Last week the 5 year old got 80 spanks (5x10 and 2x15), the 10 year old got 390 (9x20 and 7x30) and the 14 year old got 196 (4x28 and 2x42).The kids take o there pants and underwear completely
Feb 22, 2010
Spank teenager's bare bottom--often by: Anonymous
The only way to teach good order and discipline is to show your unruly teenager you mean business. This means weekly spankings in which he/she has his/her conduct graded for the week. Then based upon the grade (A-F) the bare bottom should be exposed in front of others (sisters, brothers, and friends) and given the number of spanks that have been earned for the week. Please note: A paddle (such as a ping pong paddle purchased at any sporting department) is useful.
Moreover, the teenager must be spanked immediately for being sassy or disobeying a direct instruction. After 6 months of these bare-bottom spankings over the knee, he/she will start to be submissive and sweet! Best of luck!
Feb 04, 2010
absolutely inappropriate by: Anonymous
I think it's absolutely inappropriate to spank a child that old.
Even the thought of a teenager being bent over a parents knee for a spanking ESPECIALLY with pants down just seems completely wrong.
And to whoever it was that posted thier 25 year old sister still gets bare butt spankings.. I say "have you no boundaries?" Doesn't this seem like deviant behavior to you?
I agree with the earlier comment that it will only make the situation worse. There are better ways to deal. Check out "Raising Teens with Love and Logic"... It works wonders.
Jan 29, 2010
HELP by: Anonymous
My daughters soo bad but i dont have the guts to punish or spank her its just so hard although she could use a good 1
Jan 24, 2010
from a teenager by: Anonymous
As far as ADHD and OCD, I have ADD myself, and I don't think that is any excuse, either for misbehavior or lighter discipline. I also don't think ADHD and OCD are viable excuses either (autism is another story though). Spanking your kid can make them really not like you, and spanking a kid who you don't otherwise communicate with very much will cause psychological issues, but in a an understanding black or white situation like, if you keep at it I WILL spank you, than I think it tells them you are serious and will do whatever is needed to correct the problem. That alone sends a clear message to kids and will (with mutual communication being a part of it) cause the kids to better respect you in the end.
Nov 18, 2009
spanking by: strict disciplinarian
I would say pants should definately come down , but underpants should be left on. just make sure they bend well over and position themselves for punishment and discipline
Nov 09, 2009
spanking my teenager by: Anonymous
teenagers need to disciplined just like children. when they step over the rules they need to be spanked on the buttocks. lower their pants and undies then put them over the table, step back and give 5 firm swats with a paddle. you won't need to do it often . just let the paddle hang on the wall in a very visible place !!!!
Oct 29, 2009
spanking my two teenagers by: Anonymous
My 13 year old son and 15 year old daughter still get spanked for certain rule breaking. My 15 year old got a paddleing last weekend for lying about were she went with her friends. She said she was going to the movies put she really went to a college frat party. I do not spank them often, normally grounding works. I will not tolerate lying and they know that if caught, a bare bottom otk spanking with the paddle will be given.
Sep 12, 2009
my adhd 14 year old son by: Anonymous
my stepson has adhd he is 14 I spanked him for the first time this last week he decided to deliberitly disobey I put him over my knee and spanked him on his shorts with my hand I think I got through to him and probley will never have to do it again I hope
Sep 04, 2009
But He's Bigger Than Me~ by: Anonymous
Okay, I've never really spanked my kids. Once or twice when they were little they got a small swat on the rear if they did something that would harm them--like try to run into the street or stick a fork in an outlet--just to Really get their attention. NOW I completely regret it. I have a 14yr old son who is sliding horrendously out of control, and all I can think is...I should've done the spanking all along. The kids I know who have had corporeal punishment are much better behaved, better in school, nicer to adults, more respectful all around. Yes, Ms. Councelor, I hear your end of the story about "harmful emotionally and physically" HOWEVER DO YOU HAVE YOUR OWN KIDS?? Have you had experience with any of this OUTSIDE OF BOOKS?? I did the whole T.Berry Brazelton approach with my daughter (19) growing up...nope, didn't work. I also tried the "let's talk about this" thing...nope, didn't work. Now that she's older, even she says, "You shoulda just given me a spanking when I was an ass". And, she's bi-polar. So. Yes, I should've, yes you should, and if they are young, start now. Don't wait, like me, till he's/she's as big as or bigger than you...imagine a 120lb woman trying to bend a 145lb 14yr old boy over her knee, RIIIIGHT, not gonna happen. Sure, it instills fear, sure it hurts, sure it might even make them not like you. AND? It also produces respect, compliance, and results...they don't want a sore hiney, hence, they don't break all the rules. Too late for me, don't let it be too late for you. I'm stuck with taking away cel phones, computers, and bicycles. Woo Hoo. Doesn't produce anything but more cruddy behavior. Would your parents have spoken rudely to their parents? probly not. Why? Cause they got paddled. Period.
Sep 03, 2009
spanking my teenager by: Anonymous
next time she does something wrong pull her over , explain to her what she did wrong. be nice to her , turn her around and tap her on her tush and explain that next time that's exactly where she's gonna get it. now next time she gets 5 slaps on the buttocks. when you're finished and she's calm ,just lower her pants and explain "do you want a red tushy"?
Aug 08, 2009
spanked at 19 by: Anonymous
im 19 and my dad will spank me if I do not obey him. he does it on my barebottom over his knees, I have a midnight curfew and get a spanking if im late, dad says as long as I live at home I can be spanked, my sister is 25 and sometimes dad spanks her, I think that getting spanked even as old as me and my sister is the right thing to happen when we are bad, our parents are strict and when we disobey we don't sit well
Jul 10, 2009
My parents would've... by: Anonymous
Wow. My parents would have paddled me for that. I got spanked as a teenager and it got my attention. I would personally tell her that if her behavior continues, then you are going to give her a spanking. She has a choice--she can be good or she can be bad and get paddled. That's just my opinion though...
Mar 11, 2009
Punishment? by: Family and Child Therapist
Try praising and rewarding her when she behaves appropriately and showing unconditional love towards her on a daily basis. Relationship is the key. Hitting her will fuel her behaviour that you are having difficulty with. It is unethical and emotionally (if not physically) harmful to hit your child. It's especially unethical to spank a child with special needs such as ADHD and OCD, since their capacities are compromised in some ways.
Jan 12, 2009
hopefully this will help by: charissa
I wrote anrticle about this, and maybe you'd like to read it?... others commented as well:
