I am the stepfather of three boys: Mike, Lucas and Tim. Mike is 15, Lucas 13 and Tim 10. I married my wife ten months ago. They are wunderful boys most of the time, but sometimes they are misbehave and break our house rules in many ways, and this must come to an end. I discussed this subject with my wife, and we decided at least that I spank them in future if needed. But I'm very unsure how I should administer the spankings. Some questions for example: Which implements should I use? Maybe a paddle for all boys or is Tim too young to get paddled? Should I spank them bare bottomed? I need advice.
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Spanking my stepsons in the right way
Anonymos gives me the shivers. What a punishment for Anonymous, to have reared 5 puppets. Even now they are to afraid to tell him the truth. When at home he ruled them with vicious and brutal spankings and deprevations no doubt. Now he rules them probably with providing mortage payments and handouts, so that they are still bound by him. In return for this he no doubt has acquired the right to choose puppet wifes for his 5 (ever thanking)puppet boys. Also he reserves the right to watch gleefully when the sons bash their boys and even lends a hand to spank their bare boy bums. After all 'Im the puppeteer. One day it may dawn on him that his offspring loathe him, despite their servitude!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jan 29, 2012
I must have it wrong by: Ernest
I must have it wrong, I thought the question was about step sons and spanking. Now it's about what a whip can do to make 5 bio sons so robotically submissive that they thank the whipper every day no less.
Dec 24, 2011
A whipping is a good thing... by: Anonymous
You are doing the right thing. I raised five boys. They are now all college graduates, professionals, fine upstanding citizens, and decent young men. I was very strict. Whenever they were disrespectful, disobedient, or dishonest in any way, they got a trip to the woodshed and a good old-fashioned whipping on the bare bottom with my leather belt. I was very involved in their lives, i.e. coached their ball teams, helped them with homework, active in Boy Scouts, took them on hunting and fishing trips, taught them how to do projects and chores around the farm, took them to the barber shop every two weeks (kept them in short burr haircuts), etc. They were raised up right. And, now that they are grown, they thank me every day for keeping them on track. What most of the boys today actually need, is a good old-fashioned whipping.
Oct 13, 2011
All's well that ends well.... by: Raymond
It is heartening to see a stepson like Stuart tell nice things about his stepdad. It is often so unrewarding to be in position to raise stepkids with love-how many sighs and tears have we all shed. Al of us know that we strive the best for these children. If a bit of corrective smacking bring peace/harmony/love about, that's gain. I actually think-while not damning others, that corrections should be taking place when the child is covered modestly. Bare bum is most likely not a good idea-but if this must be done-then without severe humiliation-by the dad only with boys, and only just a few mild smacks. Never should the child be spanked hard. In fact physical corection should be avoided where possible. Grounding, deprevation of some pleasures/taking away computer games etc. sometimes works often well. Seek for a reward, there and is none greater then bestowed on a loving father by a child who responds in love to the caring correction of the stepdad. Personally I rarely spank and then so mildly and have received a reward also in love of 2 of these fab. stepsons 12 and 14-who I also love like crazy as much at least as my bio son and 2 daughters.Love your kids !
Oct 10, 2011
Is this for real? by: Anonymous
Do you people honestly think it's okay to delight in the talk of spanking and humiliating children? It isn't okay. Do you really think the more humiliating and painful it is, the more the children will comply? You are creating a dangerous situation. All your doing is teaching those kids is not to get caught and you are possibly raising future sex offenders. THINK!!
It takes a REAL MAN to discipline without inflicting pain and humiliation. It is easier to spank than to follow through with a REAL and more effective consequence in the long run. Teach children to make good choices and decisions....not violence!
Jennifer
Oct 10, 2011
Happy by: Stuart
I am 17 now and a stepson, I still live with my mum and stepdad my dad?s has 2 daughters from a previous marriage. I am no longer spanked because I have work and live in a little unit attached to the house. But up to 16 stepdad used to spank and paddle me. My mum married him when I was nearly 14. But real dad did not care for me I had to move in with mum. My stepdad tried to be friendly but I did not like him. My mum always said he provides for you and gives you generous pocket money, well so what? Mum said I was a handful. I ignored the home rules.One day he said boy I will deal with you unless you are better behaved. One day I came home late he waited for me, told me to shower and then come to his study room he told. I said, Oh please I won?t be late again give me a chance. He hand spanked me hard. I hated him. When finished he said you took that well. I said I hate you! He said boy I did it because I like you and want you to be better kid, I saw a look of real sorrow on his face-I cried and melted in his arms. Now I adore my dad.
Oct 10, 2011
If only by: Lliley
I too have 3 stepkids-2 daughters and 2 boys. No problems with the girls, but the boys drive me up the wall. I wished I had a guy like Simon around (my guy)just ignores the kids behaviour, at any rate he is most of the time at sea, being in the Navy. The boys 11 and 14 show no respect. And with the man away I find it hard to cope, they swear and steal whenever they can. The only way I have been able to dicipline the 11 year old is to surprise him in the bath tub. He gets it then with a cloth brush on his rear and thighs. Then he remains bare till he goes to bed. Slowly I'm taming him. The 14 year ol is too smart and strong for me. All I can do is take away is computer games, but then he goe to his friend'place
Oct 06, 2011
Solving a hard problem by: Simon
Good luck with your 3 wunderful stepkids. The advice/examples by others no mention is made of the reluctant,fighting monsters that some stepfathers inherit when they marry the mum of the darlings. My teen stepboys nearly wrecked the marriage. I wanted to deal with them but my wife constantly screamed at me. The only thing that saved me was getting rid of the 17 year old leader--disciplinning him,what a joke, no chance, mights well discipline King Kong. He was stronger then me.Luckily my wife agreed at last to have him get out, he now lives on a farm, fighting the cows and pigs. The other boys 13 and 15 also were threatened of the heave-ho, I also threatend to leave my wife, then everything suddenly improved. My wife instead of protecting the boys actively encouraged discipline. Spanking has improved the kids so much that I too can say, yes they are almost wonderful.(I'm talking 10 years ago).Sadly at first I spanked in anger, this left the boys-my wife and self miserable before,during and after the spanking. Soon after I changed and spanked them with care, realising that they were my nice wife's kids and like all boys could be very nice, charming immature humans. Later I spanked them with love and understanding and I became the dad they needed and love and hug but never had before. My spanking method remained firm. Inital spanking over the knee,wearing undies and short T shirt, moderately hard by hand. Depending on the nature of the offence, further spanking if considered good, completely bare and spanked while bend-over. With stealing persistent/disobedience, always on the table in diaper position with foreskin retracted-this was an obdeiance things between dad and his boys. They now have all left home,but we maintain in a loving relationship.
Sep 28, 2011
Don't overdo it by: Rick
I think Hank got it right most of the way, but why spank your lovely boys on the tender anus and why should you supervise their showering? My boy is spanked completely bare, but never too hard. I have only got 1 stepson he is 13, but I love him and he loves me. He only gets a mild hand spanking just too get the message, don't muck around buddy! We are great friends and the spanking always seals ourn friendship and forgivenes.
Sep 26, 2011
Love your boys by: Mike
I think also that it is great to be stepdad of 3 wonderful young boys. Yes most of the recommendations are fine, but I still think there are too many hang-ups. I have 2 stepsons 12 and 15 and they get spanked, but not before they have a supervised shower, I hate to spank dirty boys. After there shower they get spanked in the birthday suit. I only use my hands, never spank too hard or too long. Every spanking is different, sometimes the kids get spanked over the knee, at other times hands on knees and bum up or hands grabbing the heels of their feet?this stretches the boy bum really well and prevents clenching. For real bad things the boys without having to tell them, go on a low table in the diaper position, they must be fully back tilted and arms crooked under the knees to stay in position. When I ask have you forgotten anything they promptly pull back their foreskins. This means that the boys are actively involved in the spanking. Yes it is humiliating but the boys do it willingly because they both love me and always hug and kiss when all is over. Like the Dad of the 3 boys my boys are wonderful.
Sep 22, 2011
Care for the kids needs by: Hamus
How, refreshing a stepdad of 3: Mike 15, Lucas 13 & Tim 10, calls them wonderful boys! But sometimes they cause mischief. Correspondents provided good advice, but there are different ways, to deal with differing circumstances when disciplining. If a natural father exists, and has no objection to your discipline, plan with their mum the form of discipline best suiting circumstances, this depends how the children view stepdad. Has he built up rapport with them so they trust him? Do the boys hug and the younger ones (and maybe the older boy) kiss him, as they would a dad? Does he take the kids to sport and is part of their lives. As happens in normal loving households do Tim 10 and Lucas 13 feel safe if dad walks into the bathroom, when they are bathing. Does mum feel the boys love him? Imagine how the boys feel when baring their bottoms that strange man beats the-crap-out-of-them, these questions need to be answered. Discipline should never be at the expense of children, but benefit them. With trust lacking, discipline should not involve bare spankings. My family with teen boys 13 and 14, know the rules, caught in serious mischief its pants down. The family here have no rules. Bare spanking is a son and dad thing , well brought up, most are not ashamed of dad seeing them bare, they are ashamed to be treated like little kids. Some teen boys have hang-ups about modesty negotiation is always possible -what they fear most is spanking pain. Sit down with the kids honestly discuss disciplining rules. Changes must take place mum and dad will no longer put up with breaking the rules. Some recommendations aired in the forum relating to discipline can be brought up. I liked ?a loving correction? a father gives his 3 sons, 2 of them stepsons, a choice all privileges/ outings cancelled for a week or hands on knees and pants down for a hand spanking. Once the boys agree they deserve punishments for bad actions including bare butt spanking, the meeting is over. When the boys behave poorly, the action starts. A choice is given spanking as you see fit or privileges cancelled, (it is best not to spank little Tim bare at this stage- spank him in tight fitting undies). I learned from the forum that various forms of discipline can be good for variation. No matter how hard I tried my kids would not lie down in the diaper position, but I tried the method of, after the hand spanking to use a wooden spoon to inflict soreness on the inner cheeks, thighs and anus with great success, did our boys jump!
Sep 18, 2011
I spank with love by: Anonymous
As a father to 3 boys: Robby 8, Hank 10, and Johan 13, they are my responsibility when it comes to discipline, (the wife disciplines our daughters). Many parents in your site spank children, no doubt with good intentions, partially or totally bare-this is their business. But I feel it?s better to have boys? private areas including their bottoms, covered when spanking. Clearly nudity while spanking, leaves children, too vulnerable and helpless. It is like saying: now you mucked up so now I deprive you even of your right of privacy to your own body and obey me without question! This is not to say that I would shun seeing my boys unclothed-like I wash my 8 and 10 year old boys regularly, which they enjoy. But my 13 year old is a very delicate and sensitive kid, who is fine when I chance on him while dressing or undressing. But he would be in total anguish if his dad, who he loves so much, would deprive him of his right to modesty. So our spanking goes like this: The naughty boy is in undies or pyjamas and gets a thorough hand spanking-never more than 10 spanks. He screams just as much and his tears are as real as a child spanked in the nude. But his privacy is not violated-this creates a real respect between father and sons.
Sep 14, 2011
A loving correction by: Anonymous
I have 2 stepsons:Frankie 9,John 11 and my natural son, Tobey16.All are loved and treated equally. They are fabulous lads. But when they step- out -of line, they choose from 2 options : have all privileges and outings cancelled for a week or the more painful spanking. Invariably, they go for the spanking. That is always done with the kid wearing just a long T shirt to cover genitalia; they are very modest. Punishment commences with a hand spanking -bend over with hands on knees and legs splayed wide-open. The T- shirt is lifted and the bum and inner cheeks spanked until bright red. Then he gets a 10 minute break, even have a soft drink. Now the boy climbs on the fully height adjustable table and settles down in the diaper position. A small wooden porridge spoon is now applied with moderate force to the more intimate and sensitive crack and anus areas, which are reddened suitably. Even the 16 year old while well developed, is still a real boy in every way and complies willingly.
The end result is a forgiven boy who, while crying and snottering knows that the slate is clear, hugs and kisses follow, always.
Sep 08, 2011
spanking my 2 lads by: Anonymous
Iam a father of 2 young boys, one 10 the other one 13. Both are mostly well behaved. When they deserve a spanking, like for lying or swearing, they get spanked while wearing under pants, which they obediently pull into their bum cracks. They are very shy boys and bare bottom spanking is something they hate. I do also, spank their upper thighs and they have to pull up their undies so that the very tender upper groin areas are exposed.
They always kiss me after the spanking and I love them both dearly and just need to teach them right from wrong. TURTLE
Aug 05, 2011
Spanking to correct behaviousr by: Anonymous
I have 3 boys also in aged 8,12 and 14.
They are fine lads but at times, like all boys, mischievous.
I spank them on the advice of a family friend in the diaper position with foreskin retracted for extra humiliation.
Also they have to pull theit bum cheeks wide open when I ask them to, so that I can treat their soft inner cheeks and anus with painful spanks.
This method has meant that the kids behave much better then in the past. COBAL T
Aug 01, 2011
paddle them hard by: Ryan
I have 4 boys 9,11,13 and 15. I use a solid polished wood hairbrush which is very effective on young boys bare bottoms (I got same myself their ages). Best way is naked over lap, legs pineed by yours and arm held behind his back. I can assure you that if you are prepared to vigorously paddle their bare bottoms for about 3 mins for the yongest and up to around 10 mins for oldest you will see vast improvement. They will howl and bawl but thats normal. Also spank them in front of one another its more effective. Dont hold back and good luck
Jul 29, 2011
Spanking your stepsons by: jeremy
Always spank your sons on the bre bottom. I syggest using your hand otk to age 10 and thereafter the cane with the boy bending over the back of a chair, legs apart. For all punishments I remove the boy's clothes completely whilst he faces me. Finish with a few minutes corner time.
Jul 19, 2011
Don't do it! by: Magnus
You are so wrong! Have you never seen "Fanny and Alexander" by Ingmar Bergman? The boys will HATE you! Don't spank the boys.
Jul 15, 2011
Another step Dad by: Anonymous
Nude spanking is the answer. I recommend that the lads are also made to pull back their foreskins, to truly make them vulnerable and to add to their humilatian.
Spank them lovingly but painfully.
Another step dad of four teen lads who are aged 7, 9, 12 and 16.
Jun 02, 2011
Spank The Boys by: Anonymous
I recommend that when any of the boys misbehaves that you spank him with a wooden paddle or a leather strap. Bare bottom is best to make the spanking properly memorable and painful. Also so that you can see the condition of the boy's bare bottom as it is being soundly spanked. I would definitely not add humiliation y spanking in front of females, but spanking them in front of each other is okay. As far as proper spanking position, I would suggest either over your knee or have the boy bend over the bed.
Apr 12, 2011
There are better ways by: Anonymous
I can't believe what I am reading!? How does this shaming them while beating their bare bottoms help teach them to make the right choices when you are NOT in sight. I don't understand how this is encouraged! Beat them and shame them? That is not giving them the life skills to make better choices. THis is not a consequence, this is lazy parenting enforcing hate and encouraging hateful behavior towards others later in their life! What is wrong with you people. Their are better ways that doesn't have to do with humiliating your child to the point of resentment, especially if YOU are not their father but a step parent. If you really want to change their behaviour, you will seek out better ways that will promote a confident child who will know how to make good choices even without your frightful presence. Think people think! Your ideas are absurd because it has been proven that humiliating a child can backfire and have worse outcomes! That is not how to get your child's respect, you will just create major resentment that will build up over time. Please reconsider and if you really love your children, you will work hard to find a better way, a positive way, a lasting way, to discipline your children. They deserve the best from you!
Mar 01, 2011
spanking stepsons by: Anonymous
YES! Spank them, and a spanking has to be hard enough to insure they know you mean it! I use a rubber paddle, it is about 6" with a handle that makes the licks cover every inch of my Dudes behinds. Make the boys remove their own jeans and underpants, spank them bare! If only one is getting it, let the 2 others see him spanked, it will give them something to worry about, and humiliate the one being spanked with his bros watching. Make sure that they are crying real tears, from real pain, not faking it! I spank with the boy across my lap, pinning his right arm for the duration of the spanking so he can't put his hand back to try and shield his behind, and scissor his legs so he can't kick or squirm. The number of swats is not predetermined, I decide if he's had enough, when each cheek is beet red, and the sobbing and crying shows me redemption, the spanking ends! It has to be painful, and you need to follow up when they misbehave with another spanking.
I assume these Dudes have not been spanked, you will just have a longer time to breal their strong wills, but spanking them is the correct way to go. Lot's of luck!
Feb 21, 2011
spanking stepsons by: Anonymous
I have 3 sons, similar ages, and spank them. You can use a paddle, I prefer my belt-and I give up to 30 strokes acrsoo their bare buttcheks! If you want to make sure it is also humiliating, let the uspanke bros watch the 1 being spanked! Theywill now know wht they can expect! Yes, you will see improvement n behavior!
Jan 29, 2011
Paddle is Fine for all by: Anonymous
Use the paddle on all three. Make them each take down pants and underwear. Having no clothes will shame them and make the punishment more memorable and make it more difficult to run away. Also you can see how red you make them and dont spank them too much. Spanking to tears is only real effective way. Spank them hard and rapidly, being sure to hold them firmly acorss their laps. After ten pops or so they should be crying. then you can slow down and spank them a little more methodically, lecturing them on what they did wrong. Once they are crying you wont need to spank as fast or as hard, but those spanks will drive the point home. Good luck.
Nov 04, 2010
Paddle Their Bare Bottoms by: Billy
Paddle their bare bottoms across your knee, and have their mother watch them get spanked. That extra element of shaming should be a help in curbing their naughtiness. And make sure their bums are nice and warm and rosy red before you let them up.
Jul 30, 2010
spanking stepsons by: Anonymous
you should spank all three of your stepsons the same way. otk bare bottom and with paddle. you should give at least 15 to 20 swats to your oldest and 10 to 15 to your two youngest.
