Should people interfere when parents spank their kid in public?

I hope to seek some answers from what parents think about disciplining (by spanking) their child in public. What happened was that i was in a mall some days back and saw a mother slapping her boy. That poor boy looks about 6-8 years old and was very defiant at some point.

Along came a lady stranger and she went up to his mother and told her that this is abusing her child. I seriously don’t think that its appropriate in the first place for this stranger tell this mother what she needs to do! Every parent has differing methods to discipline their kid. What is “abuse” to one may just be that one thing that may stop a child from going wayward in the future.

I am a parent myself and sometimes spanks my kid for things that he did wrong. But my intention was purely based on wanting the best for him and i always wanted my 8 year old not to take my patience for granted. While i know it may not ba appropriate for a parent to spank her child in the public. I do feel for the parent who need to bear which her child’s willfulness.

What would you do if you see a parent spanking/slapping her kid in public? Would you go up to stop the parent?
Any thoughts ?

Comments for
Should people interfere when parents spank their kid in public?

Oct 05, 2012 Spanking in Public
by: Raymond


I agree. He was putting the worse spin on it. However you are the father and the one who reaps what you sow not him!.


Oct 03, 2012 Spanking in public
by: David

Today I spanked my son for behaving very bad and treating me bad after I purchased two toys for him. I waited until he was in his car seat and spanked him a few times. An idiot walking by looked at me then walked around my car, peaked in my car from far away and then said I should learn to hug my kids.

I really wanted to tell the guy to go )*#$)* but held back since I was with my kids. So I replied, yes everyday I hug my kids. Then he said I should tell them that I love them and I responded yes all the time. And I asked do you know what was going.. rather than saying who the hell are you. I am still upset. I do not spank my kids often but no one should step in unless they really see abuse.


Sep 03, 2012 Interference
by: Raymond

That’s the other end of the scale. Instead of stopping it they wanted it harder. None of their business really. A parent should have their own convictions.


Sep 02, 2012 Awful memories
by: Anonymous

I wish people hadn’t interfered when my mom spanked me. Grandma, aunts, sometimes teachers, even mom’s friends, would incite my mom to spank me harder so that I learned my lesson. My mom would always try to please people!.


Aug 28, 2012 Wise Discipline
by: Raymond

That’s brilliant and very wise. You don’t sound as if you have been harmed by it and know the difference between reacting with temper and making a wise decision in love.

What would you say about removing clothing or punishing a girl? Do you have any views on that?


Aug 27, 2012 I was spanked…
by: Thunder Belt!

…I was also well behaved and respectful of my elders in return. I am grown with two children of my own. They are spanked and in return, understand boundaries, are well behaved and respectful!.

I do something a little different but it was something my parents did with me. If my boys mouth off or continually decide not to listen…I don’t spank them with temper. I send them to their room, and tell them I will be there in 5 minutes to spank them.

This gives them time to think about the action, usually put on 20 pairs of underwear, and allows them to realize that I am not spanking them out of temper…but out of principle. If your kid screams a bad word and you instantly pick them up over your knee and spank them, the timing portrays temper and not justice.

If I see a parent spank their kid like that….I don’t judge…I just have a different method that takes the possible appearance of temper out of the action. Slapping in the face I have a problem with. That is temper motivated and reactionary.

You would never tell your child “go to your room….I will be there in five minutes to slap you in the face.” My boys are boys for sure, but they know when I tell them “this is a good time to shine” they know what will happen and turn into saints! (3 and 5yrs old).

My dad spanked me using the same method I described, and I respect, golf, and sail with him all the time!.


Aug 25, 2012 Child discipline
by: Anonymous

Sounds like there is something wrong there and not healthy. No parent should go to that extreme and no child should suffer that. I wouldn’t say that that was coming from love. More anger I would say.


Aug 19, 2012 Im from nc
by: Anonymous

Yes i was spanked,mostly oh say 90% by my mom
She wold get belt and fold it up and give me o my brother 20 to 30..Yes most times we deserved it.but i still don to this day liked the way she done it angry/upset..Use this guide: How an licks/hits/swats or whatever you call them times the # of times you got a “spanking” I add up. guess i got 3000-5000 on me.

So hitting is hitting and it will go away??
i’m now 41 and i still remember!.


Aug 14, 2012 Interfering with parents disciplining
by: Anonymous

I wouldn’t dare to interfere with a parent who is legitimately disciplining their own child whom they love. What an intrusion into parents rights who want their children to grow up in nurture and discipline also when it is needed. They are the ones who have to deal with the outcome not us.

To even ask that question shows me that there are people who do not know the difference between discipline done in love and cruelty.

By all means prevent real cruelty that is going on but don’t confuse that with genuine discipline that may be needed for the child to learn certain lesson in life early and not to go through years of trying to sort things out as an adult.


Aug 06, 2012 A spank a day keeps the brats away
by: Anonymous

Spanking is perfect. It works fine. Don’t be idiots you non-spankers. My kids turned out perfect and I have been spanking them since they were two. All this garbage about posing psychological trauma is B.S. I was spanked since I was a wee toddler and I have turned out WAY better than I would have otherwise. I hope you know this child abuse thing is a conspiracy set out by the federal government so they can take control out of the hands of parents and make kids more and more independent on the broken system. READ. THINK. LEARN. SPANK.


Jun 14, 2012 slapping a child or etc. abuse
by: Anonymous

slapping a child is abuse, if you as an adult were slapped you would undoubtedly slap back, children do not have this option. that is assault,battery and most definately abuse. abuse comes in many forms and this is abuse. if you see a parent kick a child in the bottom over and over and hear someone say don’t leave a bruise, they may not leave a physical bruise but the emotional bruise is there and will take years to heal. those of us who are adults need to stand up for those who can’t. remember children are people too, and they have rights, I am not saying that children don’t need to be corrected but abuse is not the way to do this. most children are smaller than any adult, by 3 times or more. at least if they want to hit pick on someone thier own size. this is wrong i don’t know why anyone would not step up and defend the child. not getting involved is not an option.


May 26, 2012 Spanking in Public
by: Anonymous

I think it is okay for younger children say 5 and under. Above that wait until you get home. I don’t believe there will be a sexual problem unless clothing is removed and so long as it is done in love for their good.


Feb 10, 2012 Shake their hand
by: Anonymous

I would thank them for actually parenting. The parent that acts like nothing is wrong when the kid is grabbing things off the shelves and screaming on the top of their lungs while they are on the cell phone is doing more damage by ignoring them. Since they don’t care what their kids do now, and the child learns there is no “negative” outcome, what does that teach them when they are 16, 18, 30? Teach them to steal and be disrespectful, then be aghast when they are arrested and we get to hear “he did nothing wrong”, from the oblivious parent. It’s an ongoing cycle. Parenting is practically gone now a days and if you think discipline has nothing to do with it, look back at how much better children acted 10,20,30 years ago compared to now. Discipline is a major factor. They learn it early or they learn it in Prison. :) Have a nice day.


Sep 29, 2011 Spanking is punishment
by: Anonymous

In 20 years when all of these little kids will be grown up, they will all be brats! Parents are against spanking, or swatting your child. Children have to be disciplined! They need to know whos boss! You can’t just let them get away with acting like a brat. You have to discipline them on the spot! You cannot just wait til you get home, they will forget why they are in trouble! Honestly, If I was in a store and my child was being bad, after I have told them to stop more than once, I would take them into the bathroom and tell them that they are going to be punished for acting that way, I would pull their pants and panties down, and slap their butt (their age times 3) so if they are six they would get 18 swats on the bare butt. And when they get home, and I would tell them to expect an even worse punishment when they get home


May 10, 2011 NO!!
by: spanked dude

im 10 and i cry randomly cause i was spanked and sometimes the metal belt buckle hit my knee and i get a bruise i mean ik my parents don’t abuse its just a bruise from spanking or belt buckle hitting me on accident but i cry randomly at home cause i was spanked and i only keep my opinions to my self and i puch my pillows and stuff at night and thinking how stressing it is at school and school bullies and the parents spanking making it worse i got spanked cause i tripped hit soemthing and it fell and broke


Apr 19, 2011 i agree with spanking
by: Anonymous

Kids now days kill their own parents some are under the age of 15… kids hit their own parents because of a lack of discipline.. every good parent wants what’s best for their kid.. think about it some foster homes are just as bad.. i could be in a store in a kid falls out screaming because they didn’t get what they wanted how embarrassing.. but its none of your business unless u see the child being badly beaten.. in today world kids take guns to school u people are worried about the wrong thing.. if most of the people had discipline in the world we would all be at peace instead of being to scared to let our kids play outside by themselves..because somebody might kidnapped them. It’s so many things to worry about


Apr 19, 2011 Discipline…
by: Anonymous

I don’t care what anyone says, if my kids act stupid, inappropriate, or disobey I will discipline them on spot. America has gotten soft on proper correction, hence soo much rebellion. If I’m not at home and I don’t have a rod my hands will suffice. I’m not talking about abuse, I’m talking about firm discipline, i correct them accoding to what they did. You stop the action of disobediance on spot so it won’t happen again. You train up your child up in such a way that he or she won’t depart from it, which is a righteous walk. See in Hawaii you learn hard & old school. I was abused growing up, mom smoked ice got everything from Luisville bat to my own schoolbooks to the body & face. You can tell me how to raise my kids if your life is perfect, otherwise, keep to your own, interfere while performing what ALL Parents MUST, I’ll spank you too.


Feb 24, 2011 Might makes right
by: Anonymous

“Children are natural mimics who act like their parents despite every effort to teach them good manners”. ~Author Unknown

Most current research:

Spanking Kids Increases Risk of Sexual Problems

http://www.unh.edu/news/cj_nr/2008/feb/lw28spanking.cfm

Use of Spanking for 3-Year-Old Children and Associated Intimate Partner Aggression or Violence

http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/cgi/content/abstract/126/3/415

Spanking Can Make Children More Aggressive Later

http://tulane.edu/news/releases/pr_03122010.cfm

Spanking Children Can Lower IQ

http://www.unh.edu/news/cj_nr/2009/sept/lw25straus.cfm

The US states with the highest crime rates, poorest academic performance, and highest obesity rates and health problems, are also the ones with the highest rates of child corporal punishment.

There is simply no evidence to suggest that child bottom-battering instills virtue.


Feb 24, 2011 Hitting anyone is abuse
by: TealRose

Yes.. I would interfere. Where I live – spanking at home or school is illegal – I am required to ‘interfere’. And never mind the ‘requirement’ – I would be incensed that an adult would even think to hit a child.

Why are defenceless children the only ones not safe from being hit by an adult – when adults and animals are? When even criminals in jails aren’t hit?

Why does anyone think that hitting a child is anything but emotionally and physically [if not sexually in some cases] abusive ??

Discipline yes – it means to teach. Not to hit. When you spank you feel bad right ?? That’s your conscience – you don’t feel like that when using explanations and demonstrations!


Nov 05, 2010 The “Right Way” to do it?
by: Anonymous

If uncut footage of every parent engaged in the act of child bottom-battering (euphemistically labeled “spanking”, “paddling”, “whooping”, or other cute sounding names) were openly viewable to the public, a lot more of us would agree to abandon this worst of all bad habits.

For the staunch proponents of child bottom-battering, I would pose a few questions about the “right way to do it”:

1- What is the youngest age at which you may begin “spanking” them? The oldest age?

2-Do you strike their buttocks with your hand, or with a “neutral object” (as is recommended by religious fundamentalists as James Dobson).

3-Do you pin them across your lap? Position them over the back of a chair? or require them to “grab their ankles”?

4-Do you strike their buttocks over their pants/skirts? Or do you require them to pull down their pants/raise their skirts? Do you require them to pull down their underwear as well?

5- How many times do you strike their buttocks? Should there be a pre-measured amount of times, or do you strike them until you see “genuine tears” (as is recommended by James Dobson).

6- Should your “spanking” leave visible marks? If so, what type of marks (redness, welts, bruising) and how long may they last?

7- Should boys be “spanked” differently than girls?

8- Should a stepfather be allowed to “spank” their errant teenage daughters?

9-Why is this method suitable only for those age 18 and under?

After clarification, they should also provide us with an instructional video on “the right way to do it”, or supply photographs with their instructions.


Nov 05, 2010 The Worst of all Bad Habits
by: Anonymous

Schoolchildrens’ “spanking” related injuries (WARNING – These images may be deeply disturbing to some viewers. Do not open this page if children are present).

http://nospank.net/a7-05.pdf

Reasonable and moderate? You decide.
(WARNING – This sound recording may be deeply disturbing to some listeners. Do not open this file if children are within listening range).

http://nospank.net/prj-006.wav


Nov 05, 2010 The “Right Way” to do it?
by: Anonymous

If uncut footage of every parent engaged in the act of child bottom-battering (euphemistically labeled “spanking”, “paddling”, “whooping”, or other cute sounding names) were openly viewable to the public, a lot more of us would agree to abandon this worst of all bad habits.

For the staunch proponents of child bottom-battering, I would pose a few questions about the “right way to do it”:

1- What is the youngest age at which you may begin “spanking” them? The oldest age?

2-Do you strike their buttocks with your hand, or with a “neutral object” (as is recommended by religious fundamentalists as James Dobson).

3-Do you pin them across your lap? Position them over the back of a chair? or require them to “grab their ankles”?

4-Do you strike their buttocks over their pants/skirts? Or do you require them to pull down their pants/raise their skirts? Do you require them to pull down their underwear as well?

5- How many times do you strike their buttocks? Should there be a pre-measured amount of times, or do you strike them until you see “genuine tears” (as is recommended by James Dobson).

6- Should your “spanking” leave visible marks? If so, what type of marks (redness, welts, bruising) and how long may they last?

6- Should boys be “spanked” differently than girls?

7- Should a stepfather be allowed to “spank” their errant teenage daughters?

8-Why is this method suitable only for those age 18 and under?

After clarification, they should also provide us with an instructional video on “the right way to do it”, or supply photographs with their instructions.


Nov 05, 2010 Only suitable for minors?
by: Anonymous

Schoolchildrens’ “spanking” related injuries (WARNING – These images may be deeply disturbing to some viewers. Do not open this page if children are present).

http://nospank.net/a7-05.pdf

Reasonable and moderate? You decide.
(WARNING – This sound recording may be deeply disturbing to some listeners. Do not open this file if children are within listening range).

http://nospank.net/prj-006.wav


Nov 03, 2010 You should all be ashamed of yourselves
by: Anonymous

You should all be ashamed of yourselves and reported as well! I may or may not say anything to the parent, but would certainly report them if I could! You should never, under any circumstance hit your child! If you were or are abused yourself, then you need to get help to break the cycle.


Oct 31, 2010 Make sure you see the whole situtation
by: Anonymous

Recently I was out shopping with my son. While in the store he threw a temper tantrum. My husband carried him out kicking & crying. When we got to the car I tried to buckle him in the car seat, he kept undoing the seatbelt. I got down on my knees (to be at eye level with him) and he went to kick me. I then picked him up & brought him to the trunk of the car — place him firmly down (did not slam but with some force to get his attention) – I am a loud talker to begin with & kept repeating “You need to calm down & get in your car seat” – I was holding his arms firmly & looking right in his eyes. He then kicked me in the stomach. I put him on the ground(on his feet) & cracked his backside once then picked him up and put him back on the car. I continued to hold him and (yes, I admit loudly) then said “We do not Kick Mommy – we do not kick anyone – but especially not Mommy, now you need to calm down” I repeated this several times, which is normally what I do, then normally as he clams down I bring my voice down & we end with a sorry from him, a hug & kiss, and him doing what we ask. Well, I never got the chance to finish the interaction because three people that did not agree with me step in & told me they called the police. Then the one woman told me what a horrible mother I was & that I should not have a child. The funny thing was once my son calmed down they kept telling us to go now since he was calm but I refused. I told the lady that called me a bad mother to go to hell – waited for the police (which by the way always do this otherwise you look guilty) – explained my story – followed them to the station while they contacted DYFS – was released & later that day visited by a DYFS worker who came to house interviewed the children & stated that she not see any problems. The funny thing was the woman that was the most abusive towards me stated she saw the whole thing yet, she keopt referring to me as the childs grandmother. I wonder if it wasn’t for cell phones would they have called or maybe would they have realized that, yes I was loud (I am all the time) but one smack is not a beating. She also said I was shaking him – how could she see that but yet not have heard my big mouth saying to him: You do not kick Mommy – you need to get into your car seat like a big boy for Mommy. From now I feel sorry for anyone around when my kid’s don’t get their own way in public – I will not correct them & I now look differently at parents who let their kids run around stores like lunitics – At one time they may have corrected them & someone didn’t agree with their method & did the samething to them.


Oct 03, 2010 nobody’s business
by: Anonymous

As long as the spanking is not excessive, then the parent is perfectly within his/her right. It’s sickening how so many people feel they have the right to interfere and dictate how to be “a perfect parent”.


Jun 16, 2010 What are some altrernatives?
by: Anonymous

I spank my children on the bottom at home when they are directly disobedient or defiant, I have found nothing else that works. I tried doing timeouts but that turned into a wrestling match were he ended up hitting, clawing and kicking me…not only is that unacceptable but I am not strong enough to hold him from hurting me, his brother or himself. So I spank him quickly, decisively, and without anger before the situation escalates into an all out tantrum. I spank hard enough to get his attention and never enough to bruise or injure him. He is much more likely to injure himself in a tantrum by hitting things or throwing himself against things. That being said, I am at a loss as to what to do in public. I am afraid to spank him for fear of someone calling CPS. But now we have we have inconsistent discipline methods. the other day I spent a half an hour in a public place sitting on the floor and holding him in my lap. I was able to hold two legs from kicking me and one arm from hitting. That left one arm that he hit and clawed at me with. i held him there until he calmed down but the defiance was still there until we got home and I was able to spank him. He is only four and is a good boy most of the time but when he decides to disobey there is no giving in. I know that spanking makes some people uncomfortable but how much more disruptive is a tantrum?
Please let me know if you have any suggestions.

thanks


Apr 16, 2010 hold a gun to their head, cuff them, and put them in jail
by: Happy McSlappy

We live in a violent society. As an adult, if I go out and scream at someone, hit them, destroy their property, or run around acting crazy, it might be a gray area whether or not you as an individual can do anything to me about it. In some circumstances, you definitely can! But we also have special adults that do just that for a living; respond with judgments, force, and violence to adults behaving unacceptably.

With a child, it is a similar, except that is the parents / guardians that have the first level role of legislature, police, judge, and chief executive over their children. So it is true that you can spank your kid for them talking back to you while an adult has to talk back to the right person in order to get an accepted physical response in society. My point is, the disciplinary reactions are more or less the same regardless of adult or child, just on a different level, and that corporal punishment is in fact a realistic scaled down version of what you are going to get if you misbehave as an adult just as time outs are.

I certainly don’t believe in child abuse. There are so many horrible stories out there of children enduring such miserable lives at the hands of their abusers. That is torture. It is not the same as teaching discipline through a physical response to an unacceptable act of a hand or a belt on the thigh or rear.


Mar 15, 2010 Experienced
by: Sonja Pearson

If it happens to you or in front of you; it is your business. If you see another adult hit another adult in public what would you do? Call the police, right? Why are children “allowed” to be struck in any way shape or form and it is ok? What if it was a dog that was struck? It’s a shame that animals have more rights when it comes to adult temper tantrums.
If I wanted to watch a PG movie, I would rent it. Silence the Public Violence! I have 2 small children and it is my job to teach them how to control their own behavior AND MANAGE THEIR EMOTIONS. How can I do that if I can’t control mine? My 4 year old has autism…he doesn’t understand what is expected of him sometimes, just like other kids. Why should we strike because WE can’t communicate to them what WE want? And yes, we have the best behaved children on the block WITHOUT the use of corperal punishment:)


Mar 07, 2010 Only children? 
by: PDeverit

People used to think it was necessary to “spank” adult members of the community, military trainees, and prisoners. In some countries they still do. In our country, it is considered sexual battery if a person over the age of 18 is “spanked”, but only if over the age of 18.

For one thing, because the buttocks are so close to the genitals and so multiply linked to sexual nerve centers, striking them can trigger powerful and involuntary sexual stimulus in some people. There are numerous physiological ways in which it can be sexually abusive, but I won’t list them all here. One can use the resources I’ve posted if they want to learn more.


Mar 01, 2010 no!!
by: Anonymous

people should NOT interfere when parents slap kids in public it is a free country! although i would never slap my kid and especially not in public i still think it is wrong to do that. if my child was miss behaving i would kneel down to their hight and say you better put your self together or else no tv for 2 weeks if ithat does not work take your child to the bathroom or away from everybody and slap the kid. never interfere if u happen 2 c this. this is just the parents way of displine! do not interfere i reapeat do not interfere!


Feb 11, 2010 think
by: Anonymous

i think a child should be slapped on the butt and sent to the corner when they do something bad but never accross the face and think about why you are slappin your kid first now if your kid stoll something get he belt hit the butt with it and send he kid to the corner and take away tv for a week but if your child talked back to you slap the kid if thekid didn’t say sorry slap again and sed the kid to the corner that will do it always worked for me as a child


Feb 10, 2010 accrross the face
by: Anonymous

i got slapped across the face just for saying not to my mom. that was horrible! another time i talked back to my mom she told me to face my butt to her, she slapped me on the bum and sent me to the corner and my dad slapped me with a belt on the butt because i called my sister stupid! that is so not cool! but it works! i recommend that you do that to your children just make sure you don’t do it often and make sure you don’t do that to your child when they are going through puberty!


Jan 28, 2010 Circle of violence
by: Anonymous

When I was fairly young (maybe 8 or 9?), I saw a mom scream at her kid in the grocery store, smack him, and then stalk off. The boy couldn’t have been more than 4 or 5 and he was standing alone in the aisle with his stuffed Tigger in the child seat in the basket. He turned to the Tigger, and started punching him.
I was so shocked – I’d never seen anything like that before in my life. My parents had told me that they had an agreement that they never would spank us – which they never had – and I knew that some kids were hit, but I had never seen it before.
It was completely horrifying. If I had been any older, or any more aware, I would have said something to her. I often wish I could find her now just so I could say something.
It’s such an obvious circle of violence. I can’t imagine any parent thinking it’s a good thing.


Jan 28, 2010 absolutely not!
by: Anonymous

Spanking a child is child abuse.

Anyone who thinks otherwise is uneducated, uncaring, and not fit to be a parent.

Not only should they be approached, but authorities should be notified.


Jan 28, 2010 Hitting Children Teaches Fear, not Genuine Respect
by: Anonymous

I’m sorry, but anyone who hits their child as a form of punishment DESERVES whatever is coming to them.
I was never spanked as a child, and I grew up to be extremely successful, considerate, polite, and kind. I’m raising my own children in the same manner, and they wow me every day with their incredible depth of goodness.
I feel if I EVER hit them, I would only teach them that that’s an appropriate response to anger or frustration… that the only way to get what you want is to hurt the person standing in your way… that reacting quickly is more important than acting intelligently… and I’d be teaching them that I’m capable of hurting them instead of helping them.
I maintain an extremely close relationship with both my parents (they’re my best friends, really), and I want my children to feel the same way about me when they are in their 30s. Obviously, I’m not the sort of mother who believes that being a child’s “friend” comes first – they ARE disciplined, but in an intelligent, respectful manner. I want them to know they can trust me with anything – so that if they are ever in real trouble, they know that I will do what is right, not just attack them.

I would absolutely report someone who hit their child. And hope to high heaven that they receive the therapy they seriously need if they can’t find a better way to deal with their children.


Jan 23, 2010 yes 
by: Anonymous

I feel that a parent can spank their children if it is needed. Sometimes a time out or talking doesn’t do the trick so a little pop on the hand or on their bottom will not kill them. I was beat growing up with fly swatters, belts shoes, pretty much anything my parents could find. As a result of that I learned what i could do and what i couldn’t do very quick. It never caused me any emotional pain now that I am grown up. i would never beat my kids but I will spank them when it is needed. Kids now a days are not the same as they used to be. A lot of children tell their parents what they will and will not do and me I will not put up with it. So I’m all for spanking children!!!


Oct 20, 2009 Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:
by: Anonymous

Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

I think the reason why television shows like “Supernanny” and “Dr. Phil” are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.

There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping isn’t a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak,

The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson,

NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say
by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit www.nospank.net.

Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping isn’t a good idea:

American Academy of Pediatrics,
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,
Center For Effective Discipline,
PsycHealth Ltd Behavioral Health Professionals,
Churches’ Network For Non-Violence,
Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,
Parenting In Jesus’ Footsteps,
Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,
United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.

In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.


Jun 15, 2009 smacked 
by: Anonymous

i am ava and i am 8 this morning i was told to tidy my bedroom i didn’t want to and started playing my mam (roxy) sent me on my naughty steph for 8 mintues and i kept on going off she put me on and i told her to %@&* off she smacked me .what would ya have done and did she do the right thing?
(don’t tell mummy i am here other wise she will smack me and send me to bed


Apr 27, 2009 WTF?
by: volleychic69

God you people are nuts… i am 20 years old. I was hit my entire life and you know what that did to me, IT RUINED MY LIFE!!!! I am now spending years and years and thousands of dollars to go to school to be a Psychologist dealing with children who have been abused so that I can help out children who are going through what i went through. It is NEVER ok to hit a child… you find another way. If you cant learn to control yourself then maybe you should have kept your legs closed and not had children in the first place.
So to answer this question, if i saw someone smacking their child in public, i would MOST DEFINITELY say something to them… and since they like smacking so much, maybe i should smack them a few hundred times out in public and embarrass the hell outta them too… i have no patience for this kind of shit.
Ironically, the reason i found this blog is because i am doing research for a speech i am writing on the topic, “is physical force a justifiable method for punishing children”


Apr 14, 2009 Here in England we call spanking – Smacking. But no matter what it’s called it’s always WRONG! 
by: Maria

If we spanked or smacked our work colleagues and friends whenever we were irritated or annoyed with them, none of us would have a job or any friends. We could also be charged with assault. So why are we allowed to spank/smack our children? It doesn’t teach them anything except that violence is acceptable when you run out of patience and ideas in how to deal with a difficult situation. My son is ten and has never had one single smack in his whole life. His body is his own and noone has a right to inflict pain on it, and also humiliation, for that is what smacking does to a child. I was smacked pretty much everyday as a child and i’m so thankful that somehow I ‘woke’ up and realised how wrong that was before i did it to my own child. Most people who smack their children have been smacked themselves and therefore see it as normal. To question this is painful because you have to realise that your parents were wrong. Most people can’t bear that realisation and so block out the knowledge, and unfortunately because of this their own children suffer the same treatment too.
My son has not turned out ‘naughty’ or ‘spoiled’ through ‘lack’ of smacking, he is well behaved and polite and a very kind and caring little boy.
We are in the 21st century, and I cannot believe that smacking is still considered right by so many. It is against human rights to hit another person, but somehow the world forgets to include children under that heading.
In answer to the question should you interfere if you see parents spank a child in public, – I think everyone has a right to say something if they see somebody being mistreated.


Mar 15, 2009 Absolutely not!
by: Anonymous

Unless it is crossing the line of abuse (and yes, there IS a line between spanking and abuse) They look like they are hitting hard enough to cause bruises or draw blood, or they are hitting with something other than their hand, on places like the head, then no, there is absolutely no need to interrupt. It’s not nice to see a kid spanked in public, but hey, maybe the kid deserved it. Maybe the parent has already given that kid 2 warnings and the kid decided to disobey, or maybe this has happened before on other occasions and the parent told the kid that they would be spanked if they did not behave themselves. The point it, you don’t know the whole story, only what you are seeing, and you can’t go assuming things. It’s none of your business. A lot of the times I bet the people who call Children’s Aid are the ones who have never had children before and have no idea what it is like to raise one. People should really mind their own business. The law didn’t give birth to that child, they didn’t raise the kid, provide it with food, love, care, and shelter. The parents did!


Feb 16, 2009 slapping is abuse
by: Anonymous

for one thing , if i saw a parent slapping a 8 year old child i would also say something to that idiot. that is child abuse. and it is wrong. i dont care who you are. spankings on the butt or leg are one thing but when you slap someone in the face that is something totally different. that is something that is done out of anger. they need to learn to control themselve and thier emotions.


Jan 23, 2009 The father
by: John

As a parent and father I should not be worried about disciplining my children, because of fear someone is going to report it to the police. If a person even a teacher (I’m a teacher also) calls the police this is setting a standard (which is already happening) for kids to call the police whenever they are disciplined. There is a difference between a parent disciplining a child for bad behavior vs. a parent who just hits a kid for no reason, when the parent is drunk or locks kids in a room for days and no food (abuse).
This issue has crippled our society especially in inner city neighborhoods. It is up to the parent to raise their children how they see fit and not let the institution raise their children. We all know how successful that has become. Children have to understand their boundaries and children and parents fussing back and forth are not the answer. Which is what you get when there is no spanking. Think about this situation. Parent slaps child in public for bad behavior, someone calls the police, police come and takes a report, child may get taken away, parent has a record now for child abuse, parent now can?t get a job cause of the record they have for child abuse. Is that what you want, cause that is what happens. What makes it worse is the State is going give the child back any way and now the kid is back with a parent who can?t get a job or lost their job cause of your opinion. So think about that when you dial 911.

I could talk all day about the issue.


Dec 26, 2008 Slapping a child in the face is not appropriate.
by: D in GA

If you are going to spank a child, do it on their bottom.

As a teacher, I WOULD approach that parent in a public place. I would ask if I could help her. If she was agressive towards me I would call the police.

I would not approach a parent in a private place but I would call the police if I suspected abuse was going on or the parent had lost control during that moment.


Feb 12, 2008 What i will do if i were in the parents’ shoes
by: Anonymous

I will NOT stop the parent from spanking her kid in public. Every parent has the right to do what they think is the best way of discipline.

While i do NOT agree that this is the best way , i will not stop a parent from doing it. If I were in that parent shoes, i will take my kid to one corner and give him a slap on his thigh, just enough for him to feel my wrath. If this is not possible due to too many people being around, i will whisper to his ears that he will ‘get it’ from me once we are home.