My partners 12 year old son is getting into real trouble, he steals money, items from shops. Has been cautioned by the police, and has played truant from school for last 5 weeks and frequently runs away from home. He doesnt seem to get on with his mum, as she has parties constant , smokes weed and sends him to his room. We have tried to talk to him, help him. But nothing seems to work, he lies to all his family. I sometimes think he has ADHD , but his mum wont get him tested, just says he's naughty. Can anyone give advice on what to do, I am worried about him and also the affect the worry is having on his Dad. Many thanks
Sharon, as the 12 year old's defacto stepmom you are in an awkward position. Obviously the Dad of the boy needs to restrain and bring values to the lad. As it is he is on the way of becoming a criminal drug addict. Whenever he misbehaves the Dad at least must take action, this could consist of deprivation, like toys, bike outings. In extreme bad behaviour, to get the message home, a few hard smacks on the covered boy bottom may get the point home. Also, encouragement should be given to him when he behaves well. As well, have him checked out physically by a doctor, the father should be present. If counselling is available by an experienced counsellor, this should be attended to.Boris//////////////////////////
Nov 25, 2011
Very little you can do by: Bim
Your partner must take care of the situation. This child is acting like a 20 year old hardened little gangster. If the mother has custody of him and does not care about his behaviour then you are lost. You must try to have your partner agree to discuss the matter with the kid's mother and as her to allow your partner to correct the kid. Then things could change with a firm hand and chastisments for bad behaviour.
