our 10 year old neice caught kissing our 5 year old daughter! help
hi we recently found out that our 10 year old neice was playing boyfriend/girlfriend games with our 5 year old daughter and that she kissed her using her tongue , we are so shocked what do we do
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our 10 year old neice caught kissing our 5 year old daughter! help
She should be past the stage where she knows that playing pretend only does so far but she might not be. Obviously this is an action she has seen someone else do and while playing pretend acted out on it (or it could a worse case scenario that she knew pretend is a game but she was acting out her emotions since she is probably around puberty age) Your daughter wouldn't understand because pretend to her is a game so if you are acting like a dog or a cat she treats you like a house pet by saying sit or petting you, etc. but your neice would clearly look at you like why are you crawling around on the ground with your tongue out unless she was previously told of the game. I have never encountered a girl 5 years older kissing another girl with tongue at that age especially a relative. I would talk to your niece if she acts like she doesn't understand what she did was wrong then you might want to see about recommending counseling to her parents. The huge thing about this incident is that your 5 year old is already aware of what a kiss is you kiss her she kisses you and probably other family members but you need to try and explain how the tongue thing is yucky because then she can get germs or think of some other creative way for her to understand that she doesn't copy her cousin. You could even go with her to see a psychologist (what could it hurt?) and the psychologist would give you advice on how to interact with your niece if this isn't just a i was playing pretend/exploration type thing. (More than likely your niece knows some girls her age who gab about kissing someone with tongue and she probably just didn't know how and wanted to practice or something...I doubt she was sexually attracted to your daughter or thought that she was causing her harm in some way (but there is always that small percentage of people who are like that) This is why it is best to see a professional because then you know if just telling her its not ok is enough or if you just don't need to leave them in the same room alone period!
