Growing up i always had a bond with my dad and he coached me in soccer and i played hockey as well, i had a son and always hoped to have a sports bond with him and then my ex dates a guy who also plays hockey and we had so many issues, his mom has tried to get me out of my sons life by making up false allgations at hockey rink that i hurt my son, they were dropped but he filed a order of protection and dragged it out and held him from me and my son is easily influenced, to this day after i dont coach him anymore, this guy buys him 400 skates and bikes and tries to buy him and also thinks hes doing my job and acts like it in front of me, he served me custody mod papers at my sons middle school orientation with my son there and its suppose to be for parents and child. at hockey games hes always going to my son or taking him into the pro shop and my son goes to them alot for stupid things but hes just different when hes with me and his mom, hes just not understanding that i want my bond with him as his dad, i fought for him very hard over the years as hes 11 now, i had every weekend for 9 yrs from fri to tuesday morning, but this boyfriend thinks in his head he has a say or can just be involved and its easy for him becasue he is in a no lose thing, my ex lives home at 35 with her parents, no bills aand i have house and another child and wife. but my wife doesnt step over the line, how do i deal with this and get over the hump and make my son realize to come to dad at games and to have that son/father thing, any help or advice would be great
