My kid throw tantrums for no reasons. What can i do?
by Jolina
I know i am not the only parent who has a tantrum-throwing kid. But i like to know if anyone has a kid that throw his tantrums for no apparent reason? How do you handle that?
Mark is now 5 years and sometimes just demands things which i can hardly comprehend what he wants in the first place. I hate to think that he has a communication problem. He can talk rather well for a 5 year-old. But sometimes he is just being plain difficult.
I have read from books that children sometimes could be behaving in a certain way due to the responses from adults. Now, i am worried that he may takes after his father who has a bad temper himself! I am hoping that theres a way to reverse that if its true.
Thanks Jolina Colins
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My kid throw tantrums for no reasons. What can i do?
omg are you crazy, sorry but a three month old does not know what or how to throw a tantrum. i cant believe you called your new baby a brat, grow up she is a baby has no other way of expressing that she is hungry tired or just wants love.duh
Mar 28, 2010
oh no by: Anonymous
I have a 3 month old and she has her tantrums everyday time she wants to be held even when I'm driving I don't. Know why she is a big brat...and when is my first so its scarry
Jun 01, 2009
I HAVE A GIRL THATS 8 AND A BOY THATS 6 by: Anonymous
THEY ARE FIGHTING ALL THE TIME WITH EACH OTHER SO WHAT I DO IS HAVE THEM GO IN THERE OWN ROOMS AND SOMETIMES MY DAUGHTER HAS THIS THING WITH CRYING ABOUT STUPIED THINGS LIKE HER YOUNGER SISTER TOOK A TOY THAT SHE WASNT PLAYING WITH AND AT TIMES WHEN I TELL MY DAUGHTER TO DO SOMETHING SHE MORE LESS BLOCKS ME OUT LIKE I TELL HER TO PUT HER CLOTHES AWAY SHE SAY OKAY I COME BACK IN HER ROOM A HALF HOUR LATER AND HER CLOTHES ARE STILL THERE AND THEN SHE LIKES TO TELL ME WHAT SHE GOING TO DO AND I TELL HER NO SHE JUST KEEPS DOING IT AM 3 WEEKS PREGNANT AND AM AT THE POINT I REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH HER I HAVE TAKEN THINGS FROM HER BUT IT REALLY BOTHER HER MY SON WAS LIKE THAT BUT HES STARTING TO GET BETTER AND I DIDNT DO ANYTHING DIFFRENT WITH HIM CAN ANY BODY HELP ME AND GIVE ME SOME IDEA ON WHAT TO TRY WITH HER TO GET HER TO LISTEN TO ME WITH OUT ME HAVE TO KEEP GETTING AFTER HER ABOUT DOING SOMETHING IVE TRYED TALKING TO EYE TO EYE SHE JUST LAUGHS AT ME
Nov 29, 2007
TANTRUM HELP by: Malena
I am sure it is frustrating for bothof you when this happens.
What I would try (and expect this to take a while and even get worse at first) is the following.
When he starts camly get down on his level (so you are eye to eye) and softly say, " I can hear you are frustrated (angry, sad whatever you identify) about smething but when you scream I can't understand you. I want to be able to help you so lets calm down an take a few breaths (eep breath a few times with him) and try again. Repeat as needed. When yu are able to understand him tell him it is nice hearing him speak so calmly and then resolve the issue.
hth
Nov 27, 2007
My thoughts on your questions by: Heather Mun
Hi Jolina, I am a child psychologist and also a mother of 2 boys. Here are my thoughts to your questions.
While its normal for kids to throw tantrums, we as adults should take this as an opportunity to provide some 'trainings'. One possible reason is that he could be demanding things and just want to have it his way. In such cases, it would be advisable to 'break' the child's willfulness by using the rod. I know some parents may argue that they love their child too much to use the rod. I tend to differ in this way of thinking. Not using the rod could also translates into not loving your kid. Saying this, there are some rules to using this way to discipline him.
Here are just some points to note.
1) Never spank him out of frustration. You will only show that you are exerting tyranny over him and will show your incapability to have authority over him.
2) Do NOT give second chance. What i mean by this is that if you say "Stop it when i count to 10" or "If you do it again, i'll...." . This will only show to him that he can 'buy' time and he can continue his misfits until mummy show it to him!
3) Never swear in front of him. Speak in a firm tone, controlling your anger. This will show him that you are in control and not simply letting your emotions get the better of you.
4) Do not offer treats for bad behavior. Let him know that his attitude is unacceptable. No more second time!
I hope this helps...of course there are many other points. but here should be a handful for you to work on....:)
