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Nov 29, 2007 TANTRUM HELP by: Malena I am sure it is frustrating for bothof you when this happens. What I would try (and expect this to take a while and even get worse at first) is the following. When he starts camly get down on his level (so you are eye to eye) and softly say, " I can hear you are frustrated (angry, sad whatever you identify) about smething but when you scream I can't understand you. I want to be able to help you so lets calm down an take a few breaths (eep breath a few times with him) and try again. Repeat as needed. When yu are able to understand him tell him it is nice hearing him speak so calmly and then resolve the issue. hth X Close Editor Nov 29, 2007 Rating Submitted by: Malena Title Comment I am sure it is frustrating for bothof you when this happens. What I would try (and expect this to take a while and even get worse at first) is the following. When he starts camly get down on his level (so you are eye to eye) and softly say, " I can hear you are frustrated (angry, sad whatever you identify) about smething but when you scream I can't understand you. I want to be able to help you so lets calm down an take a few breaths (eep breath a few times with him) and try again. Repeat as needed. When yu are able to understand him tell him it is nice hearing him speak so calmly and then resolve the issue. hth Cancel Delete Delete & Ban Updating Comments page...

Nov 27, 2007 My thoughts on your questions by: Heather Mun Hi Jolina, I am a child psychologist and also a mother of 2 boys. Here are my thoughts to your questions. While its normal for kids to throw tantrums, we as adults should take this as an opportunity to provide some 'trainings'. One possible reason is that he could be demanding things and just want to have it his way. In such cases, it would be advisable to 'break' the child's willfulness by using the rod. I know some parents may argue that they love their child too much to use the rod. I tend to differ in this way of thinking. Not using the rod could also translates into not loving your kid. Saying this, there are some rules to using this way to discipline him. Here are just some points to note. 1) Never spank him out of frustration. You will only show that you are exerting tyranny over him and will show your incapability to have authority over him. 2) Do NOT give second chance. What i mean by this is that if you say "Stop it when i count to 10" or "If you do it again, i'll...." . This will only show to him that he can 'buy' time and he can continue his misfits until mummy show it to him! 3) Never swear in front of him. Speak in a firm tone, controlling your anger. This will show him that you are in control and not simply letting your emotions get the better of you. 4) Do not offer treats for bad behavior. Let him know that his attitude is unacceptable. No more second time! I hope this helps...of course there are many other points. but here should be a handful for you to work on....:) X Close Editor Nov 27, 2007 Rating Submitted by: Heather Mun Title Comment Hi Jolina, I am a child psychologist and also a mother of 2 boys. Here are my thoughts to your questions. While its normal for kids to throw tantrums, we as adults should take this as an opportunity to provide some 'trainings'. One possible reason is that he could be demanding things and just want to have it his way. In such cases, it would be advisable to 'break' the child's willfulness by using the rod. I know some parents may argue that they love their child too much to use the rod. I tend to differ in this way of thinking. Not using the rod could also translates into not loving your kid. Saying this, there are some rules to using this way to discipline him. Here are just some points to note. 1) Never spank him out of frustration. You will only show that you are exerting tyranny over him and will show your incapability to have authority over him. 2) Do NOT give second chance. What i mean by this is that if you say "Stop it when i count to 10" or "If you do it again, i'll...." . This will only show to him that he can 'buy' time and he can continue his misfits until mummy show it to him! 3) Never swear in front of him. Speak in a firm tone, controlling your anger. This will show him that you are in control and not simply letting your emotions get the better of you. 4) Do not offer treats for bad behavior. Let him know that his attitude is unacceptable. No more second time! I hope this helps...of course there are many other points. but here should be a handful for you to work on....:) Cancel Delete Delete & Ban Updating Comments page...

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