My 9 yr old son is a cry baby and very sensitive

My 9 year old son is very sensitive and tends to cry at the slightest thing. He is very aware of this and is anxious that he will get bullied when he goes to high school. How can I help to toughen him up so he is ready to face the big crule world of high school.
He is more academic than sporty and feels this will make him an easy target.

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My 9 yr old son is a cry baby and very sensitive.

Feb 26, 2013 My son is 6 and very sensitive and cries at drop of hat
by: Anonymous

My 6 year old son is very sensitive. He cries when we yell, he cries when we talk quiet or calmly to him as well. I have tried to be very understanding and patient about this dilemma but I’m wearing down.

Pretty much anything that happens or doesn’t happen my son cries. Right away he succumbs to that no matter what. I don’t know what to do; I’m so worried he’s gonna be labeled a “cry baby” and be bullied.

He’s very bright and amazing. Very polite just wayyyyyy too sensitive. Help!!


Feb 22, 2013 How can you toughen your kids up to face life
by: UK Mum

I know it’s a tough one. All the hurts and pain we endured as children is not something we want our kids to suffer; but they will because that is life.

One consideration is to make them feel that no matter how overly sensitive they feel or whatever is going on that they are okay as they are. If we can learn to observer and accept our children for who they are then they stand a good chance of being able to grow up feeling that whoever and however they turn out, they are okay.

If you feel okay about yourself than you can often stand up to what life drops in our path. Stand back from it. My kid cried when we put him on the naughty step, I always thought ‘gosh you have got to be kidding, it’s not as though we’ve hit you’ but we stepped back and observed his ways and now we seem to have a decent enough balance.

He is a great kid. Very sensitive, also 9, doesn’t like rough sports, but is very good at school, smart, polite and kind. Maybe give yourself a break step back and observe. My mantra is, will this matter in 5 years. Helps me sometimes. Hope that is helpful.


Feb 20, 2013 Hitting Cry babies
by: UK Mum

Parents who recommend hitting a child for crying are abusive fools. Calling a child a cry baby is name calling. What ever happened to empathy.

Your children have only been on this planet for a limited time, they are newbies to how things roll. All you teach your child by hitting it is that if you are bigger you can bully someone who is smaller than you by using force.

Those of you who advocate hitting a child are being lazy and abusive. If you want to hit someone why don’t you go out in the street find someone who is at least three times your size and hit them. Then you might learn a valuable lesson.

You have to learn to listen, listen to your children, exercise understanding and lead by example. Not violence. Violence breeds violence!.


Feb 15, 2013 my 7 year old cries for everything 
by: Anonymous

hey there.. my son is 7yrs old and he cries for anything.. he is not spoiled or gets what he wants.. we could be yelling at him and he won’t cry but as soon as we talk to him about what he did wrong he’ll just start to cry and we are just talking smooth and all.. tell you the truth it drives me nuts..

He is very emotional when talking smooth but when we are at the verge or screaming he won’t even cry?? I don’t know if he does that to get attention or he’s just doing it… how can we get him out of that??


Feb 08, 2013 I’m tired
by: Anonymous

This “new” generation is full of cry babies, excuses, and “not fairs”. The problem is that these kids get everything without earning it. There seems to be no limitations, no responsibility, and no respect.

Many of these supposed “psychological” issues are really in fact the result of poor parenting and constant giving in, which they have become accustomed to. Stop treating them like toddlers and they will surely stop acting like one.


Jan 21, 2013 How to make my boy from sensitive to tough
by: Anonymous

I play sports with my son, he’s not very good so that’s why we practice. I want him to be tougher and stop being a cry baby, he’s afraid he will get hit by the ball.

This makes him not try to catch a pop fly or even a ground ball in fear of being hit in the face. I make an effort to do boy things with him and try to break him of his sensitivity with no success. Any advice would be much appreciated!


Jan 06, 2013 This is what I did
by: A woman who cares

Give him a spanking weekly. I did this with my girl when she was 9, now she’s a happy, lively teenager!


Dec 30, 2012 9 Year Old Girl
by: Anonymous

My 9 year old sister is a huge crybaby. She cries for almost everything, literally. I would say that she cries 352 of a 365 day year.

She may cry if you tease her, mention something about her crying, some of the simplest stuff. She may even cry if we have pizza versus Mac&cheese for dinner, even though she likes both.

My family is worried she has some type of problem, because its just gotten out of control.

We never hit her at all, most of the time after she goes crying to her mom, we tell her to go to her room if she continues to cry, but sometimes she goes to her room without even told to.

She is a cute little skinny (not too skinny) girl with a lot of hair haha. She is really smart (she skipped 3rd grade) and has never had any problems in school. I’m worried and just don’t know what to do.


Dec 26, 2012 Sensitive 9 year old
by: Anonymous

I’ve read the comments and my situation seems a little different.

My 9 year old son is very popular at school. Has many friends that love him. He plays sports etc… He will however, cry for things that are so random and out of the blue.

He is struggling with completing tasks at school. His pediatrician thinks OCD/anxiety. I have not yet taken him to a specialist. He could be in the car singing….happy and then all of a sudden his bawling because “he’s such a bad person for accidentally hitting someone in school” or “seeing an ambulance the day before and thinking what if it were me in the ambulance and I died”…..what would happen to him etc…

This happens a little too often. Starting in 2nd grade and has progressed to now 4th. I agree with alot of statements on here. I don’t believe in “babying” him and I am not sure if I want to label him with a disorder but on the flip side what if it is a disorder? I need to rule it out.


Dec 18, 2012 to Anonymous
by: Anonymous

To the parents of kids who don’t listen the first, second or third time and then cry…have them evaluated for ADHD.

Found out that is what was up with my DD. She also has anxiety.


Nov 22, 2012 Sensitive 9 year old too
by: Anonymous

My son is sensitive and has some sensory issues too. When we talk its mostly about the pressure of school and his lack of friends. He is really stressed and suffers from anxiety sometimes. We are working on his social anxiety, but its tough because if other kids are not sensitive they don’t understand his quirks.

We recently took steps to get him in karate which seems to be helping. Not a cure but better. He is still sad sometimes and complains and cries when he is frustrated. I limit video games because it triggers bad behavior in him. I think an individual sport outlet has helped the most.

Trying golf over summer again because that was a great confidence booster for him. Also, some kids at this age don’t have a filter and can be mean to try to be popular and I try to talk to him about what they say about him, teasing, help him understand or help cope.

Oh yeah, first thing we did was give him a mantra like “I will do pass my test or I can do anything” or whatever works. That was his first breakthrough to be more positive and we make a new one for each situation he is trying to get through. Hope this helps


Nov 18, 2012 Advice
by: Dan

i would suggest make him join a sport,that way he’ll get stronger and more confident.That’s how I solved my problem.


Oct 30, 2012 Angry 
by: Anonymous

I have a 9 yr old son who is a cry baby. I said get ready for bed and he started crying.


Oct 25, 2012 Sensitive Child
by: Anonymous

My son is 7 and he has a high functioning autism. I also think he may have a sensory disorder due to other things he does (like laughing out loud at totally inappropriate times during class work, at home, at church, etc).

He is very sensitive, cries at the drop of a pin. But I think I have noticed the differences. Either way i don’t beat him out of crying but I do speak to him in a stern voice (no yelling) to let him know at the times when he’s crying to get out of things he is asked to do, I don’t let him worm his way out of it (his teachers totally do this, let him not do his work, despite the fact that I have given them permission to push him because that crying bit is more than likely just his way of saying he doesn’t wanna).

Sometimes he cries out of genuine being upset. Like if I say “Shawn you didn’t do so great today in school, it’s ok to have one not so good day but if you continue to not behave, I will have to take away your games”. He will start crying immediately at this because he knows what I’m saying exactly and these are his prized possessions and then the next several days he has nothing but good reports from school. See Shawn does his work independently at home.

I may help him with the first problem to make sure he understands what needs to be done on the worksheet, then I walk away continuing to encourage him from a distance, when I return he is done, most of the time the whole sheet is correct but at school he cries in order to not do his work. I think part of it may be that he is comfortable with me or the fact that he knows I won’t let up as easily as the teachers do. Let me know what you think people….


Oct 16, 2012 need help
by: Anonymous

My daughter is 8. She doesn’t act like a cry baby at school. She has a huge listening problem. We have to ask her to do something several times. If she doesn’t want to do something that we ask her she starts crying thinking that she is going to get her way. We have never given into her. We have tried time outs, grounding and who knows what else and nothing is helping her. by the time we ask her to do a 3rd or 4th time we are yelling at her. We have tried to stay calm and talk to her too but that doesn’t help either. Her little brother even asks her to stop and still doesn’t listen. He is even trying to do the whole crying thing to try to get his way. Which doesn’t work for him either. Please help we don’t know what else to do.


Oct 02, 2012 9yr old daughter
by: uptomyears

ok so my daughter is 9years old and I am doing some punishments with my daughter that I never did before.

I took the TV away for a week now everytime I speak to her she crys and looks down at the ground I am worried because she is claming up and won’t talk to me.

I tell I love her and she crys and crys for everything even when I asked her to get ready for bed.

I am so confused and I have never dealt with the emotions before however this happens when ever you raise your voice to her or not buy her what she wants I am not sure if its away for her to get what she wants!.


Sep 28, 2012 That’s what 9 yrs olds do
by: Ena

He’s 9 give him a chance to be a man he is still a boy! Also don’t baby him!


Sep 24, 2012 Pathetic 
by: Anonymous

This is the problem with today’s parents. They coddle their kids, make excuses for their whiny behavior, and then instead of dealing head on with the problem and disciplining appropriately they want some psychologist to diagnosis the child with some type of disorder to justify their kid manipulating them!!.

I have a 15 yr old boy and he never threw tantrums or cried over meaningless things past age 5. My boyfriends 9 yr old son cries and hits if you look at him wrong! Over a video game, over what or where to eat — it’s so pathetic but he will learn the hard way as he gets older in school.

Parents of kids like this – especially boys, you ate doing your boys a huge disservice in life. Toughen up and grow some thick skin. No one likes whiny cry babies especially boys!!.


Sep 09, 2012 NO HITTING!
by: 621

all of you idiotic and heartless people who hit or whip you child with a belt are NOT PARENTING CORRECTLY!.

Your child probably holds some rag at you for whipping them. It is cruel and terrible. All people who do it must have a cold,cold,heart!.

It will make a sensitive child hold a DEEP hate for you. hitting isn’t and will never be the correct thing to do!.


Sep 08, 2012 10 & 9- year olds
by: Anonymous

I have experience being the “sensitive one” and I have to say that telling them things like “grow up” and “deal with it” are the total opposite of what works as it just makes them feel as if you do not understand their crisis.

I had a lot of trouble in 5th grade because I was scared of losing the friends I had made, and I was scared of going to a middle school, as i thought it was the end of my childhood.

I believe that if you give a sensitive child hope and courage to stand up to the things that they cry about, they will eventually be emotionally strong, and have a rock-solid emotional foundation.

I also think that putting them in a space where they would be surrounded by other people would not be beneficial, as those “Nice boys” and “sweet girls” could very well change their attitude and pick on or make fun of your sensitive child.

All this is just my belief and what I define as “wrong” or “not beneficial” is purely my opinion. I hope I helped and thank you for reading.


Sep 08, 2012 about a 9 old son cry baby
by: Anonymous

My son too is a cry baby, he is always saying that he is an unlucky boy , that he find many things black around him. I have always bear his behaviour but since two months i am really tired I begin to be anxious and I am afraid to make depression!.

I’ve never hit him but since one months three times did not strongly but I know it is bad. I think he cry an average of one to two hours per day since he was born.

But since two months I feel something on me had broken , I am afraid really of our future. Can someone give us some hope. thanks , good luck..


Sep 08, 2012 this is very complex set in a simple matter
by: Anonymous

What i did was is that i broke my sons spirit and formed a new one with some more backbone… now u have to HAVE to be careful with this, it can cause your child to not give a flying S*** about anything.. and this can become threatinging to his life


Aug 18, 2012 Cry baby
by: Anonymous

What a releif!! To know that i am not
The only one with a cry nine year old
baby!

He is very selective when it comes to choosing
Freinds where he ends up with sensitive, boys
Like him!!
Any tips to help him ?!


Jul 26, 2012 learning to function
by: Anonymous

I agree with Tom Lucas. My son is 7 and in my culture being a cry baby is seen as weak. I also have a 17 an 15 year old who I raised very differently. For them I just whopped their buts and sent them to their rooms. As I matured I decided I would raise my younger boys different. So the belt collects dust nowadays.

With my seven year old I pointed out to him how when he throws his crying fit the other kids shape up because they expect him to get popped. I also explained how everyone whines but not to the extent he does. I said he whined as a baby for everything, he said he didn’t remember of course. I said as he got older he whined for things still, but I reminded him that he now does not need to be taken care of like he did when he was a baby or toddler. I pointed out how helpful he is but also how much his whining gets on my nerves.

We spoke about choices, how his first choice will not always be available so he must have a back plan or other options ready. I gave examples then we went through them and I had him give me examples. He chose and I denied the ones that did not work but eventually we came to a compromise. We will see how long it works out. I did it in front of all the kids so I hope they all learned something and could understand its all part of the growing pains.


Jul 01, 2012 More info on this ….
by: Anonymous

http://onswipe.education.com/education/#!/entry/raising-a-sensitive-child-educationcom,4fee3e1d7af68a84dcd62002


Apr 18, 2012 thank god im not alone
by: Anonymous

my 10year old son is very sensitive.he cries about everything.he is a very sporty boy with high performances in football and everything that deals with this sport.He even play football from the age of 5 and i thought that he will grow up and be more tough but no….
Sometimes even the way he talks is very sensitive…i didnt take him to a doctor but im thinking of it very often.my youngest son is 4years old and he is so different.he is strong and tough and more like a man than his brother….what can i do to make him understand that sensitiveness is not really acceptable in this society


Jan 07, 2012 really
by: Anonymous

well i have one thing to say beating or hitting your child because he/she cries is stupid. As a child i was a crier and my dad would hit me sometimes when i cried about sports or grades. Im not saying that you shouldnt tell your children not to cry its just not likely.


Nov 20, 2011 from experience
by: Anonymous

I was that child who cried all through elementary school. I was and still am highly sensitive combined with highly intelligent. From my own experience I can tell that saying “don’t take it so personally” or “grow a thick skin” doesn’t help. You are asking the person in fact to change a genetic part of their personality. Rather let him grow up proud of his sensitivity — it may help with self esteem. Just make sure he has a place to shine.. let him do some individual activity so no one can upset him. Mindfulness and cognitive behaviour therapy may be a great combination….but he is likely going to go through life as a sensitive individual. The best thing that happened to me in elementary school is that I had a friend who would stick up for me when kids teased me.


Nov 18, 2011 Thought I was alone!!!
by: Anonymous

My nine year old son cries for any and everything. He was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I’m left to believe that their is something else that is wrong with him (other than the ADHD) Recently the “boys” at school started teasing him, and today he beat the crap out of one little boy. It’s like the tears come naturally he cries at school, home everywhere. I put him in sports(football)he’s really good in it. Last Saturday for a game he cried on the side-line when the coach didn’t put him in the game. I heard of emotional behavior disorder and will meet with my doctor to further discuss this issue if there’s anybody out there who knows of anything regarding this matter please let me know. Thanks alot!!


Nov 03, 2011 Get him into sport
by: Nadia

Nia, I had my 10 year old go join a judo club. He is very shy and always cowed. This help him so much. Best of al, he made some friends and he can defend himself if he has to.

Best to you Nadia.


May 24, 2011 any solutions? 
by: Anonymous

Hey All,
I am having the same problem with my son and baseball. He understands that it is just a game and everyone makes mistakes but when he gets on the field all bets are off. The tears come at every out or overthrow. Has anyone had any progress? or those who went to doctors any solutions or advice? It is helpful to know that so many of us are out there. So those who have found a solution or had a diagnosis would be great to have updates.
THANK YOU!!!


May 19, 2011 my 9 year old
by: Anonymous

Ok I beat that ass! However it doesn’t seem to work. He’s not sensitive in the way of sports but if he gets in trouble or gets a bad report from school its DRAMATIC!!!!! All the teachers know him and knows what he sounds like. I’m really annoyed and frusrated. I explain that things happen but he makes things worse by crying “like that”.so now what


Apr 22, 2011 10 YEAR OLD MELTDOWNS WHILE PLAYING SPORTS
by: Anonymous

Our 10 year old grandson gets very emotional and crys when he gets struck out, tagged out or makes any mistake while playing little leauge baseball. This is his 3rd year playing and we thought it would be something he would start to outgrow. It has’nt and he does not even care if anyone see’s the meltdowns. He is very good at baseball and loves to play too. He has always been kind of sensitive but he is very sweet and smart in school. Depression and mood disorders do run in our family so I’m wondering if this could be heridtary or have something to do with his personality. I think his mother is going to have him evaluated by a child phy. I really hope he can get some skills to help deal with this because it’s a tough world out there and sadness us that he takes things so hard and we feel helpless (his dad, mom and all of us grandparents have had talks with him but it does’nt seen to help)wish us luck, and luck to you parents who going through the same thing as well…


Apr 05, 2011 My 9 year old is sentitive also
by: Anonymous

My son is a very clever but sensitive little boy and a pure joy to our lives. He is an only child and has issues when things dont go his way when interacting with other kids. He gets upset and cant take any type of critisism. He wants to be great at everything but gets very annoyed when he fails. The glass is always half empty no matter how much encouragement we give him. He finds it difficult to stand up for himself with other kids and seems to hold a lot of his concerns and worries inside until we manage to prize the problems out of him. We always know when he is upset by his mood change. Is this a symptom of being an only child? Just to make reference to one of your comments, beating your child is actually going to add to your childs problems and doesn’t make them a better person or a bigger man. It makes you a bully.


Mar 22, 2011 I Understand
by: Anonymous

My son is 9 years old. He is very mature and very intelligent. My son has the tendency to cry when he losses a football video game. My response is not taking off a belt and strapping him, but telling him it is time to put the game away because it is stressing him out. My son’s dream is being a baseball player and he is really good at it. When he strikes out he may cry or if he makes an error he will cry. I noticed if i go up to him to talk to him in the heat of the moment he will go more hysterical. I learned when I left him alone he will tear up on move on. When he was pitching and his team would make an error he would get upset and cry. After the game I would talk to him and let him know that you understand his frustration but to find another to deal with it because it doesn’t look good. So we came up with the solution that he will put his face in his glove and say whatever he wants, yell or cry, but when that glove comes off his face he needs to be ready to throw the next ball. It is all a learning lesson on ways to deal with situations and your child needs you to guide them not tell them what he should or should not be feeling. My son’s teacher had expressed her concerns that my son was too sensative. He gets upset when he doesn’t get 100 or if he forgets his homework. It only means he striving to be the best he can. So just keep working with your child. You know your child better than anyone.


Feb 21, 2011 enough is enough
by: come on now

its time to get a paddle and beat his ass!!! sound like you have allowed this to go on for way to long!!!! stop it now or he will be coming home from middle and high school crying everyday how the normal boys are beating the crap oout of him!


Jan 12, 2011 Peace Making not Policing
by: Anonymous

you need to encourage your child to grow up to be whoever he wants to be… if he wants to be sensitive and play with dolls it is your job as a parent to stand behind your child no matter what… not everyone is going to fallow what you apparently think is appropriate!! you must let your child know that you support him through all of his life choices otherwise your child will grow up to resent you and you will end up losing them in the end (trust me i know this, I no longer speak to my parents.)


Jan 10, 2011 From a lamb to a lion
by: Anonymous

I would be curious to know how many of these responses are posted by women. Man as a whole is becoming a weak creature because the modern women and todays society are conditioning them as such. If men would act like men, many of the worlds issues would be solved. Love them, nurture them, and teach them thier role as a man. I am a 30 year old male and father of two boys.


Jan 10, 2011 Sensitive child
by: Anonymous

My 9 year old son is also very sensitive. Most of the time he acts very well rounded as he does average work in school, is very mechanically inclined, and tends to do well in sports. The problem started last spring in baseball. Almost every time he would make an error on the field or strike out he would start crying. Since this was a new behavior, we weren’t sure where this was coming from as he was blessed with a father who only encourages him and doesn’t put a lot of pressure on him in sports. Now, this basketball season he is doing the same thing (starts crying) almost every time he fouls someone, gets fouled, or misses a basket. Again, his dad and coaches have worked with him and reassured that as long as he does his best, they are happy with him. Unfortunately, the crying only seems to be getting worse, and they can hardly play him (I am actually relieved when they don’t). As parents, we are more than willing to not have him play sports, but we worry that the problem is more than that. Further, we have also noticed that in the last year or so he has developed a bad habit of lying about silly things that don’t matter. These are some reasons why I am on here; to see if this behavior is common among 9 yr old boys and/or if there is a medical/mental problem anyone might suggest. Thanks for listening.


Jan 10, 2011 my 9yr old cryies all the time as well
by: mrs. L

My son is 9 and he cries all the time, over anything. He cries when he cant find his glasses, he cries when he cant find the toy he wants, he cries when he dont get his way. Its not the cries that irritates me per say, its the nonstop crying..All the time over anything and he cries for minutes at a time….Its impossible to go into public with him because he cries at the drop of a hat. You can tell him something like “leave that alone” and he will start to cry and throws himself on the floor..so embarrassing..We have tried everything to stop thing problem, we have ingnored him thinking that he wants attention, we have spanked him thinking that he just throwing a temper fit..nothing seems to work and im at my wits end..i love him with all my heart but my nerves are shot..Weve even had ppl complain about his non stop crying..what to do? Ive taken him to docator and done all that and he put him on depression patch but it just made him more depressed and wanting to kill himself. So i took him off of that medicatin..


Nov 27, 2010 @holycrap
by: Pinkers

This is how you deal with your child/children? I pity them being around you and your lack of parenting skills! I think you’ll find that the kids that grow up with serious issues as young teens/adults will be yours. The fact that you would allow your kid to beat on another kid is bad enough, but to then add “your “son” shouldn’t be playing with dolls on the playgroud” just sickens me. If my son wanted to play with dolls rather than toy guns, I’d welcome it. If my daughter wanted to wear pants, have short hair and climb trees, I’d welcome that too.

I will not have my children growing up believing that they can’t be happy doing something just because it’s seen as too boyish for girls or too girly for boys, but that’s because I am a parent that will love my children no matter what they are and they will grow up with the same beliefs, feeling loved, secure and without any prejudice.

My partner and I have a 10 year old boy and a 5 year old girl and our little girl cries a lot but I suspect that started as a bad habbit because when she cries at her Dads house, she gets what she wants.

We have started sending her to her room to calm down when she cries for no reason and so far, so good. We’re only really on day one and she’s stopped herself in her tracks when tearing up.

Good luck!


Nov 27, 2010 sensitive –
by: Anonymous

My son could be called sensitive, he hates loud noises, hates being cold, won’t wear clothes unless they have the right texture, length etc. Barely eats anything if it looks funny or has a different texture, and he is very emotionally reactive, to these things BUT he is not empathetic by no means in fact he is almost completely unaware of how other people are feeling. He is very perceptive, very intelligent, very scientific, but emotionally inept. A lot of people won’t watch him and feel very uncomfortable around him because he is so reactive, and needs so much attention at 9 yrs old.

I’m waiting for a referral to a psychiatrist that is covered by my health insurance.

I think that for me, before I start making him “man up” and “get over it”. I’m going to be sure there isn’t any kind of mental or emotional disorder. Just sayin.


Nov 25, 2010 Really?
by: Holycrap

What is wrong with you people? Take off your belt and handle that child! I’m sorry my son beats up your kid at school, but your “son” shouldn’t be playing with dolls on the playgroud. Sensative or not don’t coddle your child or they will end up in a trench coat walking through their high school with high powered rifles…


Nov 21, 2010 Your children
by: Tom Lucas

Focus on the fact that your children are still very young!! i am an older brother of two 6 year old twins. So what if they still cry at “the lightest of situations’?! the last thing i want is my brother and sister to be bullied at school, so what i do is take them to progressively more challenging situations such as.. favourite thing is not available so choose a substitute or instead of rushing to mum when child thinks they are hurt try and sort it out by directly confronting the child in a humorous way. At the end of the day crying is not a sign of weakness at this age more a reactive instinct, so it can be countered not by the introduction of boxing or any other aggressive sport but by the inauguration of different activities.


Nov 19, 2010 Great book on the subject!
by: karimck

I found a book called “Strong, Sensitive Boy” on Amazon.com. My 8 1/2 year old son is very active in sports and very sensitive. Since most of the kids he hangs out with are not sensitive and are raised in households in which being sensitive is seen as a weakness, the other kids do not understand him and it is really starting to interfere with his friendships and, as a result, his general happiness. It breaks my heart because he is an AMAZING kid!

I was a sensitive girl and it was hard for me (still is) but I think it is much, much harder for a boy to deal with. I tell my son (and truly believe) that being sensitive is a gift AND a curse. I think sensitive people feel bad things worse than not-as-sensitive folks but also feel (and appreciate) good things in a more intense way which is quite a blessing, when you think of it.

From the reading I’ve done, it seems that being “highly sensitive” actually can mean 2 different things. The first being EMOTIONALLY sensitive, which is addressed in the book I mentioned above, and the second being highly sensitive to EXTERNAL STIMULI. I checked out a couple of books from the library about the second type called, “The Sensitive Child” and “The Highly Intuitive Child”. My son is definitely the emotionally-sensitive type so I just skimmed both of these books but they were highly recommended on a “highly sensitive person” website that I stumbled upon.

Good luck to you all-I hope my humble opinions help-I can’t tell you how I worry about my son! His pain is my pain times about 100 (it feels like)!


Sep 10, 2010 Maybe depression
by: Anonymous

My son is also very sensitive. My wife thinks that he is depressed/anxiety maybe ocd. Everyone should take a quick look at the symptoms of child depression, you will be surprised. My son has just gotten off of anti depression meds bc he was doing much better but now he is acting out again.


Aug 20, 2010 Another good book for parents of boys
by: Anonymous

I, too, have a sensitive, emotional, dramatic boy who cries a lot. It’s not so much the crying often that frustrates me. It’s the never ending crying. He’ll just go on and on, at which point I take him to his room and tell him he can come out when he’s calm. This works but not if we need to leave the house at that time. I’ve also taught him how to breathe through it to calm himself down. It works if he’ll do it, but sometimes he’s too upset or just too stubborn and just continues with the tantrum, the whining, the crying. I just don’t always have the time or the energy to hold him until he’s calm. Besides, I’m not sure if that’s even what’s best for him. I’m not always going to be there. He needs to know how to calm himself down without me. Anyways, I have found Dr. James Dobson’s book, “Bringing Up Boys” pretty helpful. Especially for parents who are concerned about their son being homosexual or becoming homosexual. Good luck everyone.


Aug 01, 2010 hi
by: Anonymous

Okay, for all of you out there worried about your “crybaby” kids, instead of trying to “toughen them up” and make them act like “real men”, which will only traumatize them more, you should become more familiar with their temperament. From what I’ve read, it sounds like all these kids are what Dr. Elaine Aron calls “highly sensitive”. It’s not a bad thing, quite the opposite in fact; this trait, seen in 15-20% of the population, has many great assets, including a great empathy for people, and an amazing ability to notice details and subtleties. Unfortunately, like all temperaments, high sensitivity does have its down side; excessive sensitivity to noise, light, scratchy clothing, etc. a, relatively low pain threshold, and a tendency to cry easily. I highly recommend you read Dr. Aron’s book “The Highly Sensitive Child” before assuming your kids are abnormal.


Jun 26, 2010 6 year old son 
by: Anonymous

My 6 year old son is the same way! Especially about group activities. I can tell he feels inferior to the other boys. He says things like “I’m not as strong as they are”, and “They are just tougher than me”. I have tried to go out with him a lot of times and watch him while he’s playing basketball or something with the other kids and tell him how good he’s doing and that he runs “super fast”! I do and say everything I can to boost his confidence but it hasn’t worked. He gives up after trying something one time. All he wants to do is sit inside where it’s safe. Yesterday we took him fishing. I caught a 6 inch long perch…He refused to throw it back when I asked him to (which I only asked him to because I wanted him to be included and have the experience of fishing). He watched his three year old brother throw three fish back into the water without getting hurt or bitten, but still screamed bloody murder when I tried to get him to hold the fish! What am I suppose to do? I know he’s anxious, his dad and I seperated when he was one. I can’t spend the rest of our lives babying him. How can I teach him to deal with problems and not run from them? and to the people who said parents like us are being insensitive and that we need to step up and do our jobs…..You must not have a whiny son!


Jun 21, 2010 its ok to cry
by: Itsoktocry

well, the matter depends on certain things. if your child is fragile but isnt bullied, isnt a bit bratty, or behaves very well, its ok if he or she crys often. if your child is only getting bullied, talk to a counslor. it isnt his/her fault someone is being insensitive. If your child acts bratty or dosnt behave, its time to intervene. If your child crys over something small, like just a small bump on the head, comfort her, but dont over do it. example: oh its ok. (rub bump fo r about 20 sec.). then urge him/her to go back to what theyre doing. after doing that, if he/she dosnt start “toughing up”, they may need to be tested for ADHD. good luck.


May 12, 2010 asdf
by: Anonymous

Wow, you people are pretty insensitive to your own children. “Irritating?” He’s your child! Did you ever stop to think that maybe their behavior is the result of a mental health problem for which they need treatment? Obsessive-compulsive disorder comes to mind. You’re talking about a 9 year old kid here, not an adult. Kids need encouragement from strong adult role models, not tired, callous, invalidating disparagement. Step up to the plate and fulfill your obligations as a parent and get your kid the treatment he needs.


Apr 22, 2010 yes
by: Anonymous

Mine too. Tonight it was drama over a fly while he wasn’t eating dinner. Instead of having to deal with the slapping, scratching and eyes following the fly, I recommended he either eat faster or excuse himself. He had a fit because he couldn’t finish his dinner. The kids in school call him crybaby, and it’s true. He also has ADHD, kleptomania, compulsive lying, OCD, and is an orphan. Many of the signs were before being orphaned. I also have a sense he may be homosexual. It’s a bit more than “sensitive”.

Anyway some people, even grown, are over dramatical and such, and I think that’s just how he is and will be. For me, not being a lover of drama, it just is irritating (from kids, AND adults, lol).


Jan 14, 2010 sweet child
by: Anonymous

My 6 year old will also cry over anything. I think maybe we are also to strict on him. I am worried about him. My husband and I come from backgrounds where manners are everything. I am worried that maybe we have pushed that so much that we took away the fun part about being a child. He is such a kind, well-mannered, loving child but I know that he is being pushed around at school and it breaks my heart. I wish I could give him more confidence, but Im not really sure how.


Oct 04, 2009 Isn’t that What We Want
by: Anonymous

Dont we encourage our children to demonstrate their true feelings, i.e. cry – so what – I personally think being sensitive is a great thing – and I think society trys to make us feel that our children have to be tough. Sorry I think it is a good thing


Aug 28, 2009 Same problem
by: Frustrated Dad

Same thing with my son – cries at small things. He’s 7 and not that sporty, but he likes to play – and he could ride a bike (no training wheels) by the age of 6.

We are pretty strict – and maybe that’s the issue (especially my wife), but we love him and we do play with him. Our daughter is just over a year younger than him – and she can bully him – which we discourage of course. And sometimes he’ll cry.

But the bigger problem is at school, where he gets bullied by one kid..and for some time now(before the new kid arrived) he would cry if he didn’t win a game.

Now none of the boys want to play with him so he ends up playing with the girls. Not a good thing as I believe this will damage his confidence in the long run..I just don’t know what to do..


Aug 17, 2009 my 9 year old son crys to much
by: Anonymous

he is very sensitive and when he doesn’t get what he wants he starts to cry


Apr 15, 2009 my son is also sensitive
by: Anonymous

I am experiencing the same exact thing. My son is this total love bug, but on the other hand, he cries at the slightest things!! He gets hit with something and then he’s off! He is total drama and I’m worried that it’s going to affect him negatively in the future. I try to ignore him to get him to “toughen Up” a bit, but he just carries on and on to the point where I have to threaten him by takinga way privledges. This isn’t solving the problem though. He doesn’t want to participate in sports either. Group play is very difficult as well, and he usually ends up hurt and running into the house… you guessed it.. crying! I dont know what to do.


Feb 29, 2008 What we want in a man?
by: giftsofgrace.kids.homepagenow.com

I see this as a need for more love(hugs, kisses)- not to say you don’t already.
I would suggest a pet-dog /cat, or a stufed animal, that they pick right from the store, to hug and love. I think it is just pent-up feelings, that need to be released.
Don’t forget later on when he grows to be a man, he will be told enough, that he’s “not to cry,” or “show feelings” as this is not “manly”
He needs to be able to have a way to show these- to someone, or something that he loves.
hope this helps.