my 12 year old loves boys and wont stay away from them
by laurie
(denton,tx)
My daughter is 12. She had a boyfriend that is 2 grades ahead of her and we found out he has already had sex. So forbedded her to date him and she continues to find was to see him and lies about it. Then she was talking to guys on facebook and said she was 18 well we have something on the computer that tells us what she is doing. So there again she became grounded so it was like a total of 6 months. So today I ungrounded her and she wanted to go down the street to a girls house, guess what The boy was there with her and no parents at home. So her girlfriend came over and told me. I was going to send her to her dads since she wants nothing to do with him and he is never around. But then decided that I can't send her away what would that do!! My husband wants to take control something he never did because he didn't think he should as a step dad. So he ungrounded her and told her to feel free to mess up and he will be the one to punish her. He didn't tell her this but he told me he would cut her hair off as a starter then get worse. I am just looking for some advise because I think I give in to much and she does not take me serious. Please let me know your thoughts on my 12 year old daughter... laurie
Comments for
my 12 year old loves boys and wont stay away from them
persoaly im 12 and my mom won't let me date a boy i LOVE she thinksthat we're going to have sex or somthing but anyway just let ur daughter how u feel.
Sep 12, 2009
My Guy by: Anonymous
Laurie,
I know...I am 12 and dating a boy but we are not having sex on nething we just started going out and I am in middle skool and he is in High skoool and my mom said as long as NOTHING happens then I can see himm
Aug 17, 2009
I have a 12 year old and she still grounded by: Cheyanne
you should keep grounding her until she learns and take away stuff that means alot to her!!!!!!!!!!!
May 23, 2009
i know by: bebe
hi i know how she feels im 12and im not aloud to have a boyfriend but ive already had two i got grounded for four months i thought it was unfair but ive gotten over it my point is u should sit down with her and talk to her about it and tell her every thing that u know like does she know hes had sex well talk to her about that and safty if she has sex well before that talk to her about what she wont be able to do if she gets pregnent she wont be able to finish school or get a good job.
sincerily bebe.
May 05, 2009
responding back by: laurie
Ok, I think I wrote something wrong, because she hasn't had sex yet and the 18 was on the internet. The problem I am having is with the boy that is 2 grades ahead of her. I have done everything to work with her and she just doesn't believe how serious and tired I am. I can't trust her to walk outside with her baby sister because I am just afraid she is going to end up with him or some other boy.
May 05, 2009
Team effort by: Anonymous
Laurie, My suggestion to you would be to maybe get some family counseling. Often, promiscuity (careless sexual activity) can be a symptom of an underlying issue. As far as handing over the reins to your husband, I don't know that this is such a great idea. Parenting should be a team effort. I think that cutting her off might be a little bit drastic and only cause more retaliation. You want to resolve the issue, not establish who is the winner. She needs to know that she is loved and that you are both concerned for her well-being. A start might be to press charges against the 18 year old for statutory rape. She is a child still, no matter what she might think. It can be difficult but the time and energy we put into our children is what we will get back in the long run. Good luck.
