my 12 year old just opened up to me that she has kissed several girls
by ekhmnk1
(Greensboro, MD USA)
My daughter of 12 has had some very bad attitude changes for about 4mths. She just brook down tonight and told me she has kissed several girld... what do i say, i told her exploatoion is normal however it seems to me that it may be a bit more. She just told me today she watched a porno video on her ipod touch... i am at a lose and am begging for answers that there is nothing really wrong, or should this cause me major concern?
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my 12 year old just opened up to me that she has kissed several girls
HAHAHA WOW. Those last two comments were really stupid...just saying in my opinion. Why would you ground her, WHAT DID SHE DO? That is TOTALLY normal and she does not need professional help unless she wants it. This is the time you should be her friend, talk to her openly about it and you will gain her trust and she will tell you other things. Apparently you don't remember your teenage years, but I do and I experimented a bit and now I am happily married to my husband of 8 years with 5 kids.
Dec 06, 2010
Do not listen to the jackass that posted before me by: Bill
Exploration is normal. It is also possible that she is attracted to girls more than boys, which is also normal. Listen to her. Ask her if she is just "practicing kissing boys" or is honestly attracted to the girls, or is just experimenting. She probably doesn't know. Do not make her feel weird about it. It's a fragile age and can drive a permanent wedge between you. Be a parent and make sure she's safe, secure and happy. Start being a friend so the teens are easy!
Nov 23, 2010
be firm be kind and listen by: Anonymous
that's it basically. she's told you the worst of it. continue to listen and maybe more may come out. take her to a health professional if you can't handle it. tell her you will be setting rules and guidelines for her. take away the ipod touch and clean it up and then monitor it. she has lost your trust but she needs to regain it. if you can handle it yourself do so. sometimes a mother is the best guide and counsellor. but be very clear. don't shout. keep things and activities otherwise normal. follow through on grounding and banning privelegees but reward her when she shines. don't blame her but tell her that you are taking responsibility for her life now. don't expect to be thanked. expect to be hated. but it will pay off in the end.
Aug 08, 2010
12 yr old kissing several girls by: Anonymous
You need to get some professional help for your daughter. She has some major issues that will fester inside her if you do not get her help. Talk to your family doctor or minister and get their advice.
