My son will be 12 on April 8th. He wants to be tucked in and is overall, it seems to me, very needy. He wakes me up to fix breakast when he is more than able to do it. These are just a few things. I don't want to assume that this is abnormal. He is super sensitive so maybe for him it is normal? My first child was a girl, and very independant, so I can't help but compare them, even though I know I should not. They are different people and different sexes. I'm just not sure what is normal and what is needy as far as boys go. My question is: Is it normal for a 12 year old to be like this? Thank you for any help
Sometimes children and even adults try to make others be their servants. Your boy?s behaviour perhaps is not abnormal, but cannot be ignored. In normal behaviour he would see you as a softie and play on your good feelings. But in this case I suspect that he is over sensitive and dependent, and so needs to be treated with care. Best would be if he has a dad to monitor him closely .If he has no dad or strong male in his life then you must take action, he obviously needs to be helped . Naturally you would have taken him to a doctor, (to check him out, and monitor his physical development)t, if not do so now. Firstly it is fine to tuck him in bed he is your boy and feels safe with you. But take the tucking in as an opportunity to talk to him. Ask him why he can?t look after himself; he is 12 years old you say, and old enough to be more independent. Repeat talking to him about the problem every day. Now try the following: When he is having a sleep in one day, you wake him up and tell him to wash the dishes and make you a breakfast If he does not do as he is told, discipline him; initially smack him moderately hard with a wooden spoon on his under pant clad bottom- never bare but, he is too sensitive for that. Should the situation continue, prepare his breakfast by giving him old bread and a spread he does not like then prepare for you a fine breakfast. Next time he goes astray, get him again out of bed, for 2 days he is not allowed to watch TV, play computer games etc. Be inventive in his discipline, listen to him and love him dearly
Oct 04, 2011
Don't be his servant by: Josh
Many children and even adults at times try to make you be their servants. His behaviour is not neccesarilly abnormal,but needs correction.If a sensible talk to him does not correct the boy then.Next time he wakes you up, ignore him time and again. Then when he is having a sleep in one day, you wake him up and tell him to wash the dishes and make you a breakfast. If he does not do as he is told discipline him;initially smack him with a wooden spoon on his under pants-and tell him next time it's bare butt. Should the situation continue, then prepare his breakfast by giving him old bread and a spread he does not like. Then prepare for yourself a fine breakfast.If he complains give him another spanking this time bare butt. At all times be ready to talk to him sensibly. Next opportunity, get him again out of bed, tell him to wash the dishes/vacuum clean his room, etc. and tell him: after you have done that get your pants off and stand in the corner bare butt until I get up. He will soon be cured.
