my 10yr old nephew caught sneakily french kissing my 3yr old daughter . . . . what do i do?!
by anonymous.
(united states)
I walked in from outside and saw my 10 year old nephew move quickly away from my 3yr old daughter, he had been sneakily kissing her on the lips. My husband and I have not exposed her to anything like this, we do not even kiss around her. I confronted my nephew and his parents. I have now learned that this isnt the first time he has done this. If this would have been any other child doing this to my daughter, I would have pressed charges, but because he is family I need another solution. I hoping to get advice from any parent who has expierienced this situation.. Thank you.
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my 10yr old nephew caught sneakily french kissing my 3yr old daughter . . . . what do i do?!
Being that he is 10 I would not press charges. This happened to me. My cousin started thei when I was four and I remover it. Thank God you caught it. I would make sure that she is never alone with him again. I probably would pull away from the parents of possible. It's hard bc it is family. I am 32 and to this day I never told my parents for the sake of the family. If hd does it again now that he was caught you need to go to authorities. You would be doing him a favor by him Getting help at a young age.
Oct 29, 2011
Advise his parents by: Belamby
This type of thing happens, and the boy's parents must be advised. It's best not to jump to the worst possible case scenario. Unfortunately children are constantly exposed to mad kissing scenes on TV and internet and even glossy magazines & may think it's OK to experiment.
Kindly talk it over with the parents, but remember he is only a kid. Don't make him out to be what he may not be at all. Ask for the boy's sake that the parents monitor him and keep your little one out of his way. The reaction of the parents will tell a story as well, if they brush it off and say don't you dare say things like that about my darling boy....etc. You know then that you must have nothing to do with you and yours; even if it causes a family rift, your children first foremost and all the time! B.
Sep 20, 2011
kissing by: Anonymous
I would tell the child it's inappropriate and be done with it. Don't create a scene. And why hasn't your nephew seen you kiss? That is one of the most natural things two loving people do to each other. It should be modeled in the right context. Instead of reacting or overreacting teach and model proper behaviour.
Sep 11, 2011
? info by: Anonymous
I MUST be missing something...
Sep 11, 2011
Umm... really? by: Anonymous
tell the parents to get it under control or you will. Relative or not, you must not allow your child to be victimized by ANYONE. Would you feel the same way about not pressing charges if in 10 years, he takes it further? How much further are you willing to let it go before you take action? That child needs his behind wore out, and the parents need a wake up call. If the child has urges he cannot control, he will soon be victimizing other children in MUCH worse ways then kissing.
YOUR CHILD comes first. Before family, before spouses. You must protect your child as they cannot protect themselves. Regardless of my relationship with that side of my family I would make sure the consequences are swift and definite. Let there be NO mistake that you WILL protect your child and you will NOT tolerate any type of behavior that even remotely resembles this.
Hate me if you like, but I would probably contact child protective services. If this child is doing this, he learned it from somewhere. A parent, teacher, or even clergy, you never can tell. He didn't magically 'make it up' in his own mind.
Sorry for being so direct, but when a childs saftey is in danger, who cares if its family or the perve next door. This child already has a history of offending. It will get worse if nothing is done, or worse, condoned by lack of action.
Sep 07, 2011
moms helper by: moms helper
spack the the 10 yr olds bum, they are proberly playing doctor / doctor
Aug 03, 2011
tough one by: Anonymous
unfortunatly i am in a similar situation, but it is my 6 year old niece who i found using provocative language and behaviours around my 9 year old daughter and 5 year old son. after discussions with her parents i discovered that she was interferred with ny a 13 year old boy. ny niece is now recievein play theraphy and it is unfortunate how one abused child can effect other children. i am not suggesting this 10 year old boy was abused, but it could be a symtom. it is also normal behaviour for a child to be curious and from my searches i have found it to be very common for children to experiment. but i am a very protective parent and like you when its family it makes the situation hard to deal with. i would just get his parents to discuss the right and wronges of this behaviour and not make too big a deal of it as this can effect a childs future relationships.
