My 10-year old says she doesnt want stepdad, but he loves her and spoils her
by Donna
(CT)
My boyfriend wants to marry me, and he absolutely adores my 10 year old daughter. But she is being mean and saying why does he have to tag along everywhere, and says she doesnt want a stepdad. But for years, she begged me to divorce her dad and find her a fun stepdad. "R" is so much fun, loves to laugh and always thinking of us ,getting us things, taking us fun places. Her real dad and her have a bad relationship, he was a lousy dad and she refuses to go see him. "R" is the opposite of her dad, so loving and compassionate, and fun. I dont know if its the age, or the fact that her best friend hates her stepdad and has to go to therapy every week. But "R" is nothing like the friends stepdad. When I asked my daughter what is really on her mind or why she feels this way, I cant get an answer. She has been sarcastic for awhile, she thinks its funny...way before I met him. I have been in horrible relationships and finally have someone who loves me very truly, who treats us both very well, and she is being so difficuly. Can anyone tell me how to handle this? "R" wants to get married, and be a real family with her and I. His kids are adults and live in another state, but my daughter is the core of this "family" to be. Donna
Comments for
My 10-year old says she doesnt want stepdad, but he loves her and spoils her
It sounds like your daughter has realized that R is The One, and is getting nervous because of what she knows from her biological dad's example. Some family-pre-marital counseling or play therapy might help everybody.
