Homeschool Curriculum & Child Learning
Is it ok for a nine year old who sets the bed to sleep naked?
I mean sleeping naked it’s not a big deal I’m 11 I do it I’ve done it since I was 6 he’s not sleeping with a girl it’s just him hope you see my point
If you dont let them do it they 1) run away 2) do it anyways 3) hate you
I think that if he wants to then yes it is fine. I didn’t start sleeping naked until I was 16 but wish I had started earlier. He is in his own bed so it is not a problem as long as he understands that he can’t parade around naked. If it makes him feel more comfortable and he sleeps better then what is the problem.
When I was a little boy about 7 or 8 from memory- I liked sleeping bare.
But I covered up when my uncle-my mum’s brother stayed for a holiday at our home.
I felt uncomfortable when he came up to my bed to wish me a good night, then wanted to wrestle me. I can still see his blushed sweating face.
My mum and dad laughed and said that he was a really fine man, but I did not like it, so I changed my sleeping habits from there on.
Anonymous comes across as very sincere and utterly trustworthy when it comes to children at his home.
Also I must admit (somewhat reluctantly) that he puts his case (going bare) to bed for his kids, fairly logically.
In his case & with his obvious complete dedication to a child’s safety (even a youngster of merely 9)I believe that child will not come to any harm by sleeping nude, (as long as he considers all issues e.g. going on holidays and camping with other kids without the parents present and hygiene).
This does not mean that I retract or waiver in principle from the statements I made, it is more a case of the exception proves the rule (OK, accuse me of making the rules).
There were a couple of things which jarred in Anonymous’ communication; those I will overlook (who is the one who always is precise? ) One point he made, however, deserves attention:
He said and I quote: “I am unaware of UTI’s being linked to sleeping naked and causing “problems for life.” I AM aware of doctors recommending – mostly to women – to sleep naked to avoid certain infections. I have been sleeping that way for years – I have never had a UTI or any other health issue arise from doing so.” That our friend Anonymous is unaware of this hardly proves anything, ignorance of a law, e.g. is no excuse. For that reason logic demands that lack of knowledge on a subject cannot be used as an argument to demonstrate invalidity of a premise.
I state that Doctors recommend that women not wear tight or nylon undies under pyjamas or sleeping gown-(not bare) the reason for that is moisture trapping which casues yeast infection (Candida albicans) not cystitis (UTI).Is it not logical that while you admit that faeces will adhere to bed linen, and when one tosses and turns in sleep that contamination is more likely to occur without wearing anything?
Contamination is less likely with undies or pyjamas and night gowns. (Surely undies or pyjamas don’t turn from front to rear,
(if so I stand-to-be-corrected).
At any rate, enough said, and all the best.
And I hope that Jason, who posed the question may have benefitted from all this.
For children sleeping naked. As mentioned, child sex abuse is often done at the childs home. Someone may even ask, so what, how often does that really happen? This is a question not deserving an answer!
Jason, you will find that if he no longer sets the bed, but sleeps or sits on the bed, his urge to go starkers will disapear. So relax!
First – I never said anyone SHOULD sleep nude. I said that if it was their preference they should be allowed to sleep however they are comfortable. As to the points recently raised:
A) It is desirable that children don’t get used to flaunting their bodies….
Sleeping in the nude is hardly “flaunting your body” – you are alone in your bed. How is that flaunting and how is it “immodest”? If there are others around, or he or she is running around the house, I can see your point. But in bed, alone? I have no idea what that has to do with modesty? Should they wear swimming suits in the bathtub/shower?
B) Children can be on holidays and pedos may take advantage of the child’s lack of inhibition.
How would a pedophile know your kid is sleeping naked on vacation. And just because someone sleeps naked doesnt mean they go around town that way.
C) Statiscs have it that sexual abuse most often actually takes place in the family home….
I suspect that with abuse in the home it makes little difference what the kids wears to bed. Abusing kids is sad and sick – and I know a few victims of this type of abuse. I suspect, given the time and circumstance that at least most of them slept with something on. Unfortunately, clothes do not stop abuse – if I thought that were true you would find no greater advocate for sleeping with something on. But most homes are NOT abusive. Are you saying that allowing your kid to sleep naked would suddenly turn the parents into abusers? That seems completely illogical.
D) It can be cold at night and inadvertently blankets slip off….
So all those kids who sleep in just their underwear – are they any less cold? If kids kick their sheets off they are either hot, uncomfortable, or restless sleepers. If they are hot or uncomfortable and kick off their pajamas or underwear, what’s the difference?
D) Hygiene considerations… the worst form of urinary tract infection-and may have problems for life.
Do you seriously believe this? I am not arguing that particles of urine and feces would get onto the sheets – but they are also “trapped” in your underwear. Do you have any idea how many nude sleepers there are world-wide? I am unaware of UTI’s being linked to sleeping naked and causing “problems for life.” I AM aware of doctors recommending – mostly to women – to sleep naked to avoid certain infections. I have been sleeping that way for years – I have never had a UTI or any other health issue arise from doing so.
Again – I am not saying people SHOULD – I am just saying that prohibition is actually founded on personal preference and much less on fact. If you THINK your kids should wear something to bed then they should. I am quite satisfied with parental decisions on this either way. But it really comes down to a matter of preference. And if your kid really wants to sooner (or certainly later) they will.
Anonymous, who advocates that children sleep naked-has a point. If the parents really allow the child to sleep bare and are convinced of the benefit of it-then let them.
Some people allow small children to have noses pierced and be tattooed, prance around on the beach naked if they want to at whatever age.
As for our family, I would not let my little ‘jewels’ sleep bare. My reasons are:
A) It is desirable that children don’t get used to flaunting their bodies, in our society we teach children modesty and it is normal for children quite early to desire privacy.
B) Children can be on holidays and pedos may take advantage of the child’s lack of inhibition.
C) Statiscs have it that sexual abuse most often actually takes place in the family home, think about that, with children sleeping in all their innocense bare…………………..????!!!!
D) It can be cold at night and inadvertently blankets slip off, or the child needs to go to the toilet……………..
D) Hygiene considerations, it is normal for some urine or even faeces to adhere from the child to the bed linen or blankets-the child rolls around contaminates the male member and gets the worst form of urinary tract infection-and may have problems for life.
But having said this, I realise that everyone has their own opinions. I remember the person who argued that the Eifel Tower was just a heap-of-steel. Someone else considered that the ‘Night Watch of Rembrandt’ was a miss-match of colours.Another said that evenb a monkey could make a better painting than the ‘Mona Lisa.’ So the saying is right, “a man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still.”
As Dad to a 9 year old girl and 2 boys of 11 and 13 and husband to a precious wife,I have become too aware that opinions are always there. In the Fairy Tale of the ‘Emperor’s new clothes’, the population admired these new clothes very much, despite the fact ‘The Emperor was nude’. The saying is true: ‘A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.’
Our recent Anonymous Forum contributor, also has his/her opinion, so has the 9 years old naked lad. Maybe these 2 agree on many things, possibly even on:
‘A bathtub filled with Coca Cola, is so fabulously, clean, invigorating & relaxing!’ Try it but once, you will hooked for life; which from this time forth, will be Fizzy and Bubbly! So what am I trying to convey?
The simple truth that even against sound reasoning and evidence, people will have opinions, which are at the very basis unsound, but they love them! Rommy Z.
Up to this point I found responders to the question concerning naked sleeping by a 9 year old sensible & sensitive.
But I found the very questioner not asking a proper question in the first place, disturbing, as was noted by Belamby.
I also consider that the most recent anonymous respondent who lets the 9 year old have his way and be the best judge here -offering no reasonable justification for that conclusion. I would care enough for my super precious children to have them wear night clothes, rather than shrug off possible emergencies. A good idea is to read what happened on board of sinking ships or burning sky scrapers, quite a few persons caught in situations like that were running to life boats naked-or running naked in the street even in sub zero temperatures
One question that this respondent may have to grapple with is ‘should I insure my house and effects in case of fire or theft?’ His or her logical answer, (if the argument put up makes any sense) is: ‘well problems like that happen only rarely why bother with insurance!’
Mum of 5 kids, M.
I see no reason why your child or anyone else’s should not be allowed to sleep naked. Keep shorts or a robe handy for emergencies. I hate to disagree with the majority here, but common – the kid is in his own bed. What difference does it make? And if there is an intruder or a fire (seriously – does this happen that often that this is a genuine concern?) is your biggest concern really that your kid is naked? Quite frankly – in the case of fire – clothes may actually be worse. Let the kid be – this is an easy yes – you will have much more difficult No’s coming up.
Your question is strangely worded ‘Is it ok for a nine year old who sets the bed to sleep naked?’ Why not ask: ‘Is it wrong for a 9 year old boy or girl to sleep naked?’ You see your question assumes that your audience knows, or even comprehends somehow what’s occurring here without any facts being presented at all. Moreover, what does it mean ‘sets the bed?’
So can you clarify your situation? Meanwhile, assuming that a question is asked if it’s ok for kids of 9 to sleep nude, the answer is of course to sleep like that is silly, dangerous and cold as well!
Maybe next time you will ask a question like this: ‘ Does my cat like meat or only vegies?’ The answer is: ‘ask the wretched feline!’ B.
I agree with other correspondents that there are risks attached to his behaviour. Children should be taught modesty. There is a time for all things, but for a youngster to put his developing body on open display-even in the home-will lead to trouble. Well may he go to a school or scout camp outing and displays his nakedness uncalled for. This could lead to at best loss of reputation for him and family, worst molestation. A Boy should rightly be proud of his beaut developing body. And it is fine for a dad in an appropriate way, to observe his marvellous development. But in a proper setting such as when bathing, or when the child has problems. Nor does the boy have to be prudish when dressing or undressing, when with other kids. But it should always be done discretely and non provocative. His privates and bum are his and nobody else .As a dad, Jason, help your lovely young lad and don’t think for a moment that your kid should make the decisions here. It is you who make the decisions, particularly in circumstances so vitally important as are here under discussion.
Jason, if you are the father, then you should find out why he wants to sleep naked. It is clear that he does not mind at all that you observe him unclothed. It is fine for father to see kids bare, but normally this occurs casually when bathing, dressing etc. Most boys at 9 like some privacy and keep covered up, that?s natural. I hope that he does not get a kick out of exposing himself-if so then have him counselled before it wrecks his life. So find out what makes him tick, by telling him ‘in future wear at least shortie pyjamas, that?s an order.’ And explain why(as explained by previous correspondents). By his response you can judge what?s going on. Hopefully it?s all innocent, but make sure!
At first thought, there seems little wrong, sleeping naked for a 9 year old, but there are possible consequences.
A) in case of fire or emergency he finds himself vulnerable.
B)he may be cause problems for others in the household e.g. sisters or visitors who may well be offended by his nudity.
C) possibly an intruder or visitor may could perhaps molest the boy.
D) he could go naked at a place he is viisting and cause a scandal.
So consider this and act!
Jason,I trust that you are the lad’s dad, otherwise this makes no sense.
There are reaons why it is best not to sleep naked for a boy of 9. Because of the following considerations:
A) It may offend others in the house or upset young vistors particularly girls.
B) In case of emergency he should be dressed.
C) in case there is an intruder, who could molest the boy.
It is not wrong for a child to be seen unclothed by his mum or dad. But it is not right for a variety of reasons for him to be like that with other people around. There are twisted people around as you hopefully know.