I have a four year old boy. His dad only comes around when he want to.
My son's dad has not really ever been around. But when he ask to see our son which is mostly holidays I have said yes because I want my son to make his own mind up. When my son was little this really didn?t bother him! So I didn?t think anything of it. When my son turned four in July his dad call and asked to see him I said that was fine. When he got to my house my son had no clue who he was. So I had to tell my son that this is your dad! My son had no clue that he had a dad he was so happy he talked about it for a month and told everyone at pre-school that he had a dad. So I would call his dad and tell him what was going on and he said he would come see him and ever show up and I would not tell my son that he was coming because I knew what would happen! This whole thing is break my son heart and mine for my son. My son will ask when his dad is coming back or say I really want my dad to stay the night I just tell him that his dad works a lot and can?t come and that his dad really loves him. My son has stop taking about him and i know the next holiday his dad will call and want to come see him. Do I keep letting him walk in and out of my son life? I really need to know what to do I don?t want my son to get hurt over and over? But i dont want my son to one day to be mad at me for not letting him see his dad!
