how to deal with the boyfriend not wanting to help raise your children
by katrina
(Fort Dodge Iowa)
My boyfriend and I have lived together for 4 years. I have 3 teenagers one of whom is very difficult to handle. My youngest daughter is in behavioral programs, seeing councilors and I have had to use foster care to be able to deal with her problems. My parent skills are lacking I know I scream I am seeing a councilor also, but I don't yell until I am really upset. My children have a habit of screaming at me, calling me names, not doing as told, constant arguing. Here is the problem I have asked for help from the boyfriend he refuses. Says I need to stop yelling. I am trying to do that I am asking him to step in before it gets out of control so I have that moment to calm down. And/or have him stand by me to help me. Basically I am asking for some help to control my anger, reminders support. Give me a chance to breath. Something to help me feel hes there for me. He also has a habit of telling me to stop yelling when the children are present(interrupting the arguing when he had enough). I am not asking him to do these things all the time, he won't even help when I ask for it. I know in the end I am the only one who can control my yelling. How do I emotionally deal with this lack of support or am I just thinking wrong?
