Four year old Grandson likes girl clothes and toys
My four year old grandson, an only child, likes to play with barbies and dress in girl clothes. He told his mother that he wishes he was a girl so no one would tease him. He is very shy about this behavior because his parents frown on it. He does this at his preschool and at my house. I began thinking he would outgrow it, it is just a phase, but he seems to be getting more into it. Should we just let him grow out of it...or will he?
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Four year old Grandson likes girl clothes and toys
This behavior is called "Gender Confusion," he does not identify himself as a male but sees a male body, male features. First and foremost, this can be a phase but most of the time it is not. This will usually get "worse" around puberty as he begins to develop. This is because male and female hormones (Testosterone, Estrogen and progesterone) increase heavily. Causing testicles to increase in boys, facial hair, pubic hair etc. And the menstrual cycle, breast development and other feminine features to develop in girls. One of the big ones is voice. Right now his voice box is similar to what a girls would be like. (Resonance and frequency.) but, around 11-14 when his voice deepens he won't be able to imitate a girl as easily. So he will be different from girls, more so than he is now. He may begin to find boys attractive (not always the case) either way he will either consider himself a lesbian woman, or a straight woman. He may begin to seek information on his own. I have some good news for you though and some bad (depending on how you look at it.) First with the latter, there is no drug, no way to "fix" it. You may see that he infact is not broken at all. The only way to allow happiness is to allow this behavior and find options. If it is a phase, allowing him to work it out on his own will be much better. He may begin to get "worse" if you try to prevent it. Look up a psychologist and read this, (http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TSsuccesses/TSsuccesses.html) and look around on the internet. Read up on this, there is tons of information out there. And when he grows up, if he still wants to be a princess instead of a prince then there are female hormone replacements and surgical options to make him look how he feels. I hope this helps, best of luck.
P.S. This is coming from a fully transformed trans-girl who had an un-supportive family. It would have meant the world to me to have one person help me get to where I am today.
Jan 11, 2012
It's normal! by: Anonymous
Hi there. I'm a 14 year old boy, and I dress in girls clothes all the time! I'm only teased by the people who know i'm a boy, but it doesn't really affect me. I think i'm what's called a trap, because I look very feminine. But yes, he is definitely gay. I'm gay, but i'm very proud. Trust me, he's going to be fine.
Feb 11, 2010
Prepare YourselfNEW by: mom2boys
Prepare yourself....you're grandson may just turn out to be....gay...not that it's a bad thing but in my experience, it starts young, usually 2-4. I could be wrong and he could just like girly things and that's ok to. The more his parents frown on it and make him feel insecure about it, the worse it will become for him. Let him be who he is, as should his parents and he will be fine either way.
