Oh for goodness sake Peggy, what will happen if he marries her. What the step mother can't be at the house when the daughter in there. If nothing innapropriate occurs, no one has any right to interfere. Children can and should have loving, nurturing relationships with step parents. IF and only IF both the ex and the girlfriend are decently dressed and behaved, then the only bad thing going on is in the dirty minds of the other adults.
Mar 18, 2012
I've been there by: Anonymous
I really can't comment a great deal without knowing more. If this is a girlfriend and they are in a committed relationship and she is a decent caring person, what will you do if they marry? In that specific circumstance I think you would just have to get over it. If she was to be her step mother you would need to let go of this. If she is both decent and caring then I cant see a problem really. If it were a multitude of women and or if she were to behave indecently, then I would have a problem with it. But outside that scenario I would be okay with it, provided I got to know her little first. In itself there is nothing immoral about her being in the bed. Before you make assumptions, I am a single mother now after 20 years of marriage. I have two children. I wouldn't have an issue with my daughter being three and in bed with her father and his partner following her waking from a nightmare. You don't have the right to dictate what he does in his own home, unless abuse occurs. In the absence of abuse you will have to let it go. It can be hard to face having another woman in your child's life, it hurts. But you can move past that. Your child may well be loved by her. And that would be a good thing. I've been in your shoes, I just know that if she is a genuine person and she means a great deal to your ex, fighting her right to have a role in your child's life will only bring you more pain and potentially hurt your child
Feb 24, 2012
Sleepover by: Peggy
See if you can get a family friend or member of his family to talk to him so that he will listen. If he won't listen, his mother should pay him a visit when he has his daughter there and stay until the women leave.
