Does spanking my child affects him when he grows up?
by Mary Jon
My 5 year old boy, Jones, has been testing my patience over and over again. I used to think that spanking my child should not even be in my mind at all. I remember the little face when i first held him in my arms and 'vowed' never to lay a hand on him. Guess this is one 'vow' that i could not keep.
Jones is pushing me to my limits now. He would look at me when i say no and attempts to do that very one thing that i just said no too (seemingly trying to see whats my reaction would be). I just came back from a parenting seminar very recently and was adviced by many parents that spanking is a "neccessary evil" - not that i believe that its evil but to a certain extent, i kinda disagree to this thought initially. However, I am not so sure about that now.
I just used the stick yesterday! He was playing with his drinking cup and spilling water all over. It shocked me at first to know that i just did it. But after a while, it doesn't feels too bad.
Does spanking have any negative effect on a child when he grows up? Things like hating their parents, being scared of authoritative figures, lack of self esteem or anything that may affect their development?
