My girlfriend's 20 year old son is moving back from college. When he lived here before, I would make comments about taking out the garbage and cleaning up after himself. He was home all day doing nothing. My girlfriend says if he moves back, I can't ask him to do anything, or make any comments to him. I am suppose to just be his friend. I have a real problem not being able to tell him to do anything. I have actually had to flush the toilet after him, and not after urinating either. This is causing the end of our relationship as of now. Am I wrong? She says that all phycologists would say she is right. I just want help on this. Please help.
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dealing with girlfriend's 20 year old son
Wow, must be impressive to have a girlfriend that knows what all psychologists are thinking at any given time. Actually, the family psychologists and counselors that I have dealt with would probably say that if it is your home too and you contribute to the upkeep, the maintenance, the bills, the mortgage, and the family, then you should not be silenced in your own home. Many Freudian psychologists would say this might be akin to having your testicles removed, no? If you are a father to figure to this young man then why are you to stop at constructive criticism and/or discipline? Don't get me wrong, I would never tolerate any man (including their Dad) being a dictator, or abusive to my two boys at any age. But you cannot expect a man to be a man and a father figure yet tell him what he can and can't do and how he has to act. Tell her to take your scrotum out of her purse and let you use it for awhile!! Now then, if you are a freeloader and do not contribute and all is hers, then NO you have no say. Good luck.
