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Jan 23, 2008 give her some time to adjust to the new situation by: Judy Hansen Hi Kate, My heart goes out to you on reading about your situation. I can imagine that it must be a difficult time for both you and your child right now. Perhaps it will take your daughter some time to come to terms with the fact that daddy will be away for sometime. At this age, she probably still does not fully understand why her daddy is not with her for such a long time. And it may not help if the incorrect information is being conveyed to her either. E.g. could be telling her something which is not the truth. If you had tried explaining to her the truth, don't take it too hard on yourself. What i can think of is perhaps to take time out with her. Like going on a short getaway with just the both of you - to build on mother and daughter bonding. The important thing is not to show your frustrations to her as she may get upset that daddy is away and mummy is 'bullying' her. Try your best to be patience and make her feel that mummy is here for her. Its not easy i know and sometimes we get upset that our partner is not with us during our difficult moments with our kids. Try not to take your daughter's remark about not liking you too personally...i know this sounds crazy but kids sometimes say things as they feel it is. But it may be just for the moment of not knowing how to handle their emotions. I'll be praying for you that you'll do just fine. Let me know if theres anymore things i can be praying for you too... judy X Close Editor Jan 23, 2008 Rating Submitted by: Judy Hansen Title Comment Hi Kate, My heart goes out to you on reading about your situation. I can imagine that it must be a difficult time for both you and your child right now. Perhaps it will take your daughter some time to come to terms with the fact that daddy will be away for sometime. At this age, she probably still does not fully understand why her daddy is not with her for such a long time. And it may not help if the incorrect information is being conveyed to her either. E.g. could be telling her something which is not the truth. If you had tried explaining to her the truth, don't take it too hard on yourself. What i can think of is perhaps to take time out with her. Like going on a short getaway with just the both of you - to build on mother and daughter bonding. The important thing is not to show your frustrations to her as she may get upset that daddy is away and mummy is 'bullying' her. Try your best to be patience and make her feel that mummy is here for her. Its not easy i know and sometimes we get upset that our partner is not with us during our difficult moments with our kids. Try not to take your daughter's remark about not liking you too personally...i know this sounds crazy but kids sometimes say things as they feel it is. But it may be just for the moment of not knowing how to handle their emotions. I'll be praying for you that you'll do just fine. Let me know if theres anymore things i can be praying for you too... judy Cancel Delete Delete & Ban Updating Comments page...

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