i just recently moved in with my girlfriend where she has 4 daughters all moved out of the house but still has a 13 yr old son living at home (10 years apart for his sisters). my girlfriend was a single parent raising her daughters and did an amazing job. her daughters are getting their education and raising families. When conversations come up about the kids my girlfriend is very defensive and here's the quandry i'm in and what i'm asking her. my girlfriend raised her daughters one way but she' raising her son differently in ways where he the man and doesn't have to do chores, spends 90% of his time on internet games, some dicipline, he's 13 and not a bad kid, but i ask why girlfriend why she doesn't teach him the things he needs to know and learn as a kid to prepare him for adulthood and her response is 'he's a boy'. now in all fairness you have to know there's a cultural thing here my girlfriend is latina. my girlfriend has made statements all he needs to do is school work and he'll know how to be a man when he turns 18. okay, but should'nt kids (boys) learn everyday life skills? i mean Tom Brady quarter back for NE knows he needs to throw touchdown passes but he still goes to practice. so here's the real question may be it is not my place to bring up kids and i should stay neutral. i was raised differently and it's hard for me especially boys to be so spoiled. i suggested to my girlfriend her daughters turned out so well why change just because he's a boy. i'm struggling with that theory. any advice is welcomed. -Dave
