Josh, there is nothing really wrong with your uncle supervising you in the bathroom. What concerns me is that you as a 14 year old boy probably well into puberty feel happy about this. True he is a trusted uncle, but still most boys your age like privacy particularly, as you are now are developing from boy into man. Also, your uncle should be aware of this. So without further ado, ask your uncle why he is in the bathroom with you and take it from there. Also, frankly your brother at 9 should be able to wash himself. So unless there is a reason that uncle should help him when bathing, maybe it is best to confront uncle about this also. No one is suggesting that Uncle has wrong motives, but common sense should prevail. A good idea to talk this matter over with your Mum and Dad before you go there on holidays again.
Feb 17, 2012
Me and my brother always stay at my auntys by: Josh
I am now 14 and my brother is 9. We always stay at my Aunty and uncles place in the holidays. They have a boat and we get to steer it always. We never worry if my uncle who is the brother of my Dad is there with us in the bathroom. He supervises me when bathing but he washes my brother who is only nine always. And Jeff does not mind he is our uncle and he is a great guy! Uncle John is not concerned about our bare butts, he has brought up his own 3 kids.
Jan 05, 2012
As long as you know them by: Normie
I have stayed with my uncle and aunt in many school holidays, they have a small farm nearly a 1000 kilometers from where I live. I'm nearly 13 and I like to say that a kid should stay with them if he knows and trusts them well. They have no children hemselves and love having me. So real if you know them and trust them then its no big deal.
Nov 23, 2011
Don't worry by: Kristen
It is the best way for a boy to be away from home for while. This way he learns so much about life and gets a chance to interact with other people. You obviously don't sent him to relatives you don't trust. Also, he will be in surprising circumstances sometimes but if he has learned values at home then let him go and learn.My own son has spent holidays with relatives and friends and this was all good. But stay in touch with the kid, so if there are real problems you can help.
Nov 21, 2011
Kids need to be clean by: Omar
Seppie, the last contributor to the Forum, comments on an uncle supervising her near teen son, when bathing. Maybe Seppie being a mum has not taught the boy to wash himself properly, or did not know how to.And the father of the kid, if he has a father, probably did not teach him either. It is true that boys just getting into puberty have lots of gland activity, and they give of an odour. Often parents are gradually introduced to this odour and hardly notice it. But when these kids are in somebody elses home the odour to these people can be very unpleasant. To my mind the uncle did not wish to be offensive by telling the boy you are a filthy smelling oaf. But in his own way he dealt with it wisely. Kindly supervising a lad of 12 when bathing is not wrong when it helps the boy. The boy was a bit uncomfortable,but did not mind that much. And he sounds smart enough to realise that he learned a lesson, keep clean or I smell. I wish that all Dads would be so kind as the Uncle, teach their fine boys hygene, nothing worse than to have boys who are smelly!
Nov 16, 2011
Make agrement by: Seppie
It can work out well but have sure that you agree on some point-which is critical with the people he stay with. One of is your sons privacy and the other one is to deal with corrections when the kid does not do the rules. Wish we had thought of that before our lovely 12 1/2 year old lad went to stay with Uncle and Aunt for 12 months, because I(mum) was studying at the time. They were good and kind to him but different. His uncle and aunt insisted despite Marco asking not to. That the uncle supervise and assist Marco once a week only on Friday night, when instead of a shower the boy was made to have a bath. And he always washed Marco's back right up to the buttocks. He is not normally shy but being in the bloom of puberty wanted boy privacy. And hated to be treated by the uncle like the 6 year old boy they had. When Marco stepped out of line Uncle gave him a moderate spanking bare bottom. We always spanked all clothes on. Anyhow, Auntie and Uncle had the best intentions and he nver felt threatened and we re sure their motives were pure. But we learned make an agreement before having your son or daughter stay anywhere! Seppie
Jun 11, 2009
WE WANT PARENTS by: a girl
I am a 13-year old girl studying in hydrebad without my parents.i know how it feels .when you r first left off for about 1 month you feel discomfortable and start crying. suppose your parents visit you when you have holidays and when they come you feel normal [not so happy}. sometimes you feel why they came because you hink that they tell you to do this and that .when they leave you and go again you feel very sad and want to study with your parents but after some days you think that why syay with your parents because you have to this and that so the best thing is either they stay with parents or if they leave them somehere they should no visit them. one moore thing is that if you have siblings you feeel more discomfortable because when they come to see you we usually fightor play with hem and when they leave you feel lonely and nobody to play with.
