Can inappropriate touching lead a kindergartener to become a sexual offender once puberty hits (this was what was told to us by therapist)
(California)
My kindergarten son is constantly in trouble. At first it was hitting, pushing, not paying attention. Today he pulled his pants down in front of the class and mooned them. He says he does not know why he does these things. He displays none of these behaviors at home. He is an only child.
He always touches his private parts and we always distract him or tell him that is not appropriate in public.
Also today which worries us is that the teacher said he went behind a girl classmate, put his hands on her shoulders and mimicked a humping gesture (that shocked us).
Fortunately we had an appt with a thereapist that day. He told us he did not have autism, aspergers, ADHD. He did feel he was obsessed with his body. He said we had better work on this now at his age because once he hits puberty the police could be involved and he could be labeled a sex offender and end up in Juvenil Detention.
I went on line and saw that hundreds of parents deal with the same behavior. We are beyond worried. Please someone help us. Is it too late for him. He is a good boy at home, follows direction, is polite. He is the light of our lives. We dont want to send him to school we are so worried.
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Can inappropriate touching lead a kindergartener to become a sexual offender once puberty hits (this was what was told to us by therapist)
Hello, there. I'm a 14 year old boy, and I was exactly like that. (I am sooooo not proud of that, believe me.) Seriously, don't worry. That therapist is giving you a very... biased opinion. I have never felt sexual attraction to a person, just like... "loving" attraction I guess. Anyways, to my point. I know for a fact that your son will not become a sexual offender. My parents did the exact same thing you did, therapist said almost the same thing. It's not true. Besides, almost every kid does stuff like that! It's normal. Not appropriate, but definitely normal. Heck, my little brother used to do that. And he's the good kid. I'll be completely honest with you. I've never done anything sexual. I haven't even masturbated. So no worries! You're kid will turn out 100% normal!
Nov 14, 2011
things to do list #1) Get bew therapist asap ! by: Chris L
I Would honestly agree with the above post to get another therapist & FAST ! ....Just because of the fact some of these therapist are drama queens really & I'm not saying to do nothing but sometimes the more attention given to bad behaviors the more likely the frequency . I also think that sooner or later this "therapist" will accuse you of some sort of inappropriate behavior ! I'm being honest sometimes they really wrong with their conclusions ....Atleast get a second & 3rd opinion before you make any life altering decisions !!!! I really think time will be the answer to your problems as it sounds to me you are loving parents ...but you may want to make sure that your son is getting all the attention he may be craving because with the way things are set up these days ie both parents working & cell phone, Facebook, Blackberries etc... it is easy to forget or not be as focused on your child's growth ? Believe me I'm not judging you as I do not know you but just throwing out some suggestions as to what might be the source & solution So good Luck ! I'm sure it will work out fine in the end
Nov 06, 2011
He will be OK! by: Belamby
How great to hear that you love your boy despite his poor behaviour. With Faith/love and hard work you will help him overcome his problems!
Have a plan, which means:
A) Zero tolerance for bad behaviour B) Constant monitoring of the boy C) Work with his teachers & leaders D) Set good examples E) suitable chastisement (not harsh spanking)including depriving him of some privileges if he does not improve F) Praise if he improves G) Further evaluation
The best for your cherished child! B.
Nov 05, 2011
get another therapist qquick by: Anonymous
Young boys at times touch themselves this is like thumb sucking it calms them down. but I would get another therapist