I just recently got married and my husband has a 14 year old son that comes over every 3 weeks to stay with us for the weekend. He is very quiet and well behaved. I can be kind of shy as well and I feel like a lot of times when were alone it is award because there is nothing to say to each other. It would mean a lot to my husband if we were able to bond.
How can I bond with my 14 year old stepson when we only get to see each other once every 3 weeks?
Is there some way to make things less award when were alone?
What activities can I plan that a 14 yr old boy would be interested in doing with just his step mom when dads away?
What can I do to make him want to come over more often and have a closer relationship with his dad and I?
Just be chherful and helpfull and be yourself. A welcoming smile is not easily forgotten.
Don't go overboard to win him over and be all over him-slowly things will get better-so don't be anxious about it. If you are all-over-him, he will feel cornered and his privacy may be affected.
There are little things such as offer if he has any clothes to mend. He is in a hurry to get somewhere, offer to drive him-but don't become his willing slave. As well in anyone's life there are things people like to talk over. A listener is so much better then a talker
Oct 24, 2011
Get to him by: Doris
Boys at 14 advancing into puberty-probably with acne affected features are often shy. Be kind and considerate to him. Remember his birthday. Talk about his interests. And remember, he is shy and understands your shyness with him. Bide your time, one day he may need you, then you are there for him. Also, he must be made aware that you as his Dad's wife, must be treated with great friendship-it's not a one way street. If he ever has a problem, hug the lad. Boys that age are so gorgeous that they are worth battling for. Best to you. Doris
