I have custody of my 7 year old son and his mother had biweekly weekend visitation with him. She haS now left the State and is now in another State. When my son's weekend visitation with his mother comes around, he cries because he can't see her and can't talk on the phone with her.
How do I explain to him in a loving way that his mother is no longer able to see him? And, that it is not his fault.
His mother has also abandoned 3 other children.
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Abandonment of my 7 year old son by his mother
I have gone through a similar thing. My ex and I divorced when our son was only 9 months, and he got a new family and replaced our son. I never say anything negative about my ex, but try to figure out whats really the problem. I also found a link on the children's hospital website for our area, and found a psychiatrist to help. We had to start medication for anxiety. Hopefully yours isn't that bad, but if it is, there is hope. Just spend time with him, and replace the time she would normally have him. Do something fun, out of the norm.
Hope this helps.
Jun 13, 2011
What is the mother thinking by: Dave
Well you have a big job in front of you as much as you want to you cannot bad mouth his mother because at the end you will become the losser what I mean by that is what ever you say and do against is mother he will remember even at seven. His mother made her choice and as much as it going to hurt your son there's nothing you can do to stop the pain. But before I go on what in the world were thinking of hooking up with this women seeing that she has done it before did you not think she would do that again the other three children are they all from the same family? what a mess You cannot worry about those three unfortionly you have worry about your little boy. You have to make some tuff decideions. You have to become Mother and father to your son. You have try to explain to a seven year old that his mother does not what to see him.It terrible at seven to learn your mother does not want you. It's not him its her you have to explain but have to explain in a way that you do not bad mounth his mother because what ever you say and do he will remember even at seven I suggust you should find proffessional help this might to big for the both of you because not only is your son going though this so are you and you cannot let that go by without doing nothing because your son will be looking to see how you are reacting.Is she going to call him on a regular bases I hope so. But this is were this becomes tuff if your son gets upset every time she calls this is not good for him so you may want to but a stop to it. But give him the choice but today with the internet that is another way of communicateing. Now what in the world most be in her head to do that to four children I think there's something in your family that has played a role in this. She most be going though hell herself. This is your time to shine so step up the the plate dust yourself off and get on with life. Good luck to you and your son.
