The
following article offers some insight to those involved
in the wonderful world known as Parenting.
There
are just as many parenting styles as there are a number
of parents. Experts believe the parenting styles fall
into 4 different and identifiable styles: authoritarian,
indulgent, authoritative, and uninvolved.
Let's
examine this more closely. The first parenting style
is that of the authoritarian parent. These parents
are like army commanders. They prefer to issue commands
and orders to their children and fully expect their
children to carry out their orders without questioning
them. Authoritarians do not welcome nor appreciate
any feedback from their children. They live by set
and defined rules in a structured environment.. These
children as we now know, are generally considered
to have an unhappy nature about them. Boys generally
exhibit hostile behaviour when dealing with frustration,
whereas girls tend to give up easily when faced with
difficult situations. Both the boys and girls however,
tend to perform better in school due to their disciplined
upbringing.
The
second parenting style is the indulgent parent. These
parents are generally lenient. They allow a variety
of behaviours by their children that some would describe
as immature. Essentially, they let the children look
after themselves and avoid confronting them at all
costs. Indulgent parents may also be described as
non-directive or democratic. Non-directive parents
are known to parent by default, that is, by taking
virtually no action in parenting of their children.
Democratic parents, though lenient, are more aware
and show a committment to engage with their children.
The
third parenting style is that of the authoritative
parent. These parents are both demanding and responsive
at the same time. Authoritative parents while expecting
their their children to behave in a certain manner,
don't impose their authority and welcome a certain
amount of questioning. They demonstrate a combination
of assertiveness coupled with the ability to respond
to their children's feedback. These children appear
to be more lively and have a happier disposition about
them. Their self-confidence is more developed they
seem to be more sure of their abilities. These children
also show better emotional control and are more adept
in their social skills. Gender stereotypes are also
less of an issue with authoritative parents, as they
tend to be more open minded in their outlook towards
their children's behaviour, i.e. boys playing with
dolls and girls playing with tools.
Lastly,
we look at the parenting style known as "uninvolved
parenting". As the name suggests, these parents are
simply uninvolved. They are neither demanding nor
responsive of their children and they are not interested
in any feedback from them. These parents are the most
likely to be irresponsible and more often neglect
their children.
We
hope you found the above information insightful and
will seek out the many more resources available on
this topic online.
About
The Author: Hanif Khaki is the acclaimed author of
numerous parenting related articles and the founder
of the popular parenting resource site www.parenting-info.inform-about.com
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