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A
child will learn to scream and throw tantrums
to get what he wants if his parent reacts to him.
However, if the parent ignores his screaming,
he will soon learn that doing so will not get
what he wants. This will deters him from repeating
his tantrum throwing ways in the future
Kids
fall to the floor, arch their backs, yell loudly
and kicks!
Sounds
familiar? Probably yes ..
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So why do kids throw tantrums
and are tantrums throwing a normal part of growing up?
About 60 to 80 percent of all children have tantrums.
This typically starts from 18 to 24 months. Children
have tantrums because they are tired, frustrated, seeking
attention, or possibly because they are coming down
with something, or they are trying to gain control over
their daily activities. Usually, it happens when their
emotions get out of control.
When your
child is using tantrums to manipulate you to give in
or to get your attention, beware! The more you give
in to their demands and give the attention they crave,
you are actually encouraging them to use tantrums more
often to get what they want.
Avoid getting
your child in activities when he is tired. A lack of
rest is one trigger point for tantrums which can be
easily avoided. An example would be when we are shopping
with our kids for few consecutive hours. Children need
a good dosage of rest during the day. By recognizing
the signs of a tired child, you will be able to avoid
clashes with them unnecessarily. Try to get them to
a nap or a quiet time where they may fall asleep. Give
them something, maybe a toy in their hand and chances
are that they will fall asleep while looking at it
Parents can
often tell that their child is about to throw one and
may be able to prevent it. One way is to ignore the
screaming child, but not to leave the child alone. Keep
an expressionless face and a relaxed body. Walk away
but keep an eye on him just to make sure he is there.
Say nothing and do nothing that might suggest that you
are concerned. If
the child gets out-of-hand and am getting violent, take
him to a quiet place for a time-out, or to hold him
firmly until he has calmed down.
Evidence
has shown that hitting a child makes him throw tantrums
more frequently and for a longer duration. If you need
to use the rod, always follow through with a one to
one session with him to explain the reason for your
action. Reason with him if he thinks what he did was
right or wrong. Use this as a teaching moment to prevent
future recurrences! Cuddling him after a tantrum will
also help reduce the chance of it happening again.
Give your
child the 'power' to decide on his own! During normal
days, let him makes his own decision. The objective
is to encourage good behavior and being independence.
Let him know what is acceptable and what's not. Be firm
and consistent about behavior that is not acceptable,
such as demanding things and throwing tantrums.
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