Temper
Tantrums in Children
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A
child will learn to scream and throw tantrums to get
what he wants if his parent reacts to him. However,
if the parent ignores his screaming, he will soon learn
that doing so will not get what he wants. This will
deters him from repeating his tantrum throwing ways
in the future
Kids fall
to the floor, arch their backs, yell loudly and kicks!
Sounds familiar?
Probably yes ..
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So why do kids
throw tantrums and are tantrums throwing a normal part of
growing up? About 60 to 80 percent of all children have tantrums.
This typically starts from 18 to 24 months. Children have
tantrums because they are tired, frustrated, seeking attention,
or possibly because they are coming down with something, or
they are trying to gain control over their daily activities.
Usually, it happens when their emotions get out of control.
When your child
is using tantrums to manipulate you to give in or to get your
attention, beware! The more you give in to their demands and
give the attention they crave, you are actually encouraging
them to use tantrums more often to get what they want.
Avoid getting your
child in activities when he is tired. A lack of rest is one
trigger point for tantrums which can be easily avoided. An
example would be when we are shopping with our kids for few
consecutive hours. Children need a good dosage of rest during
the day. By recognizing the signs of a tired child, you will
be able to avoid clashes with them unnecessarily. Try to get
them to a nap or a quiet time where they may fall asleep.
Give them something, maybe a toy in their hand and chances
are that they will fall asleep while looking at it
Parents can often
tell that their child is about to throw one and may be able
to prevent it. One way is to ignore the screaming child, but
not to leave the child alone. Keep an expressionless face
and a relaxed body. Walk away but keep an eye on him just
to make sure he is there. Say nothing and do nothing that
might suggest that you are concerned. If
the child gets out-of-hand and am getting violent, take him
to a quiet place for a time-out, or to hold him firmly until
he has calmed down.
Evidence has shown
that hitting a child makes him throw tantrums more frequently
and for a longer duration. If you need to use the rod, always
follow through with a one to one session with him to explain
the reason for your action. Reason with him if he thinks what
he did was right or wrong. Use this as a teaching moment to
prevent future recurrences! Cuddling him after a tantrum will
also help reduce the chance of it happening again.
Give your child
the 'power' to decide on his own! During normal days, let
him makes his own decision. The objective is to encourage
good behavior and being independence. Let him know what is
acceptable and what's not. Be firm and consistent about behavior
that is not acceptable, such as demanding things and throwing
tantrums.
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