Total Transformation Program


Total Transformation Program 
( James Lehman , MSW , Behavioral Therapist)

The Total Transformation Program – A comprehensive, multi-media program that includes:.– The jump Start DVD,
– The Parent’s Workshop DVD
– 7 Audio Lessons on CD
– 116-Page Workbook
– Bonus Audio Lesson
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Total Transformation Program

Child Behavior Modification Program

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The Total Transformation Program, created by renowned behavioral therapist James Lehman, offers practical, real world solutions for the most challenging problems parents face such as defiance, disrespect, lying and cursing, acting out in school, unmotivated behavior and more. You’ll learn the exact techniques James uses in his private practice to help children take responsibility for their behavior and help parents get back in control of their homes.

Behaviorally troubled kids lack the skills to solve the problems they encounter every day. The Total Transformation teaches you how to give your child more effective ways to solve his problems than fighting, screaming, annoying and defiance. He’ll learn a simple system that will enable him to handle his problems appropriately and on his own, without acting out. A system that gets him and you better results.

Parents feedback that the Total Transformation Program works well for their kids with Oppositional Defiant Disorder – ODD and for those with Attention Deficit Disorder – ADHD.

Below are extracts from the Total Transformation Program
that you’ll find them useful to apply straightaway.

These are mere examples that you can find in The Total Transformation Program by James Lehman.
Of course, the program itself contains much more in depth explanations and you can Preview it and find out more.

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STEPS to dealing with Child Bad Behaviors

 Use direct statements.
You need to be firm, clear and direct when you are dealing with a child’s bad behavior. Do not give rooms for negotiation. This will only encourage him for future misbehaviors.

 Stop the show
If you find that your child is misbehaving badly or exhibiting tantrums, say in a public place, then stop whatever programs that you’ve planned for the day and go home. I know this can be tough, especially when you have already planned for the day. If your child continues his misbehavior, he will have to understand that there will not be anything he can look forward to for the rest of the day, until he stops his bad behavior.

 Use Single-Issue Focus
Keep focus on the issue. Always address unrelated subjects at a later time.

This is the single most effective method that I have used on my kids. Try ways to establish cues with your child. This can be very helpful if you are in a public place and a stare at him and communicate the message that he is in trouble if he continues misbehaving.

 Identify Thinking Errors and Excuses
How many times has your child come up with excuses to justify his bad behavior ? Don’t argue over those excuses. Focus on the processes of their excuse, NOT their excuses!

 Use strategic recognition and affection 
Give your kid credit when he does something right. Let him know that you recognize his efforts.

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Child Behavior that parents need to know

Good Behavior is not “Magic” It’s a Skill The Three Skills Every Child Needs for Good Behavior

When you have a child who acts out and is disrespectful or disruptive, it’s easy to compare him to the so-called “good kids”� who never seem to get into trouble or give their parents grief. Many people feel hopeless about the possibility of ever teaching their child to “magically” become the kind of well-behaved member of the family they envisioned before they had him.

The truth is that good behavior isn’t magic you can’t just wave a wand and turn your child into who you want him to be. Rather, good behavior is a skill that can be learned, just like carpentry, teaching or nursing. I believe three of the most important skills for children to learn as a foundation for good behavior are: how to read social situations, how to manage emotions, and how to solve problems appropriately. If your child can learn to master these three tasks with your help, he will be well on his way to functioning successfully as an adult.

Total Transformation Skill #1: Reading Social Situations

The ability to read social situations is important because it helps your child avoid trouble and teaches him how to get along with others. If he can walk into a classroom, lunchroom, playground or a dance, read what’s going on there, and then decide how he’s going to interact in that environment in an appropriate way, he’s already halfway there. So if your child sees a bunch of kids who usually tease and bully others, the skill of reading social situations will help him stay away from that group, rather than gravitate toward it.

Parents can help their kids develop these skills by getting them to read the looks on people’s faces at the mall or a restaurant, for example. If your child can learn to see who looks angry, frustrated or bored, two things will happen: the first is that he will be able to identify how people might be feeling. Secondly, he’ll learn that he should try to identify other people’s emotions. Both are integral in learning how to read social situations.

Total Transformation Skill #2: Managing Emotions:

It’s critical for your child to learn how to manage his emotions appropriately as he matures. Managing your emotions means that it’s not OK to punch a hole in the wall because you’re angry; it’s not OK to curse at your dad because he took your iPod away. Children need to learn that just because they feel bad or angry, it does not give them the right to hurt others.

Ask the Right Questions

If your child calls his little sister a nasty name, it’s your job to first sit down and ask, “What did you see going on that you thought you needed to do that?”� Not, “How did you feel?, but “What was going on?”,� You’ll find that usually this type of behavior is generally self-centered. Perhaps your child’s little sister is getting more attention or she’s watching a show and he wants the TV, or she’s playing with the video games and he wants to play them. When your child does not know how to deal with that situation and he becomes nasty or abusive, it’s time for you to step in and put a stop to it. And I think you should very clearly state, “Just because you’re angry, it doesn’t give you the right to call your sister a nasty name”. That’s an important, direct way of teaching the skill of managing emotions.

What Giving Consequences Does (and Doesn’t) Accomplish

I believe that consequences are part of accountability. In other words, your child should know that if the inappropriate behavior happens again, he will be held accountable. Saying that, I don’t think people change simply because they’re punished or are given consequences. Although parents often focus on them, consequences alone are not enough. Rather, it’s the learning process associated with the consequences that changes a child’s behavior. So it’s the part of your child’s thinking process that says, – Next time I’m upset, if I call Sarah a name, I’m going to be punished. Instead, I can just go to my room and cool down.�

Here’s the truth: you can punish kids until the cows come home, but it’s not going to change their behavior. That’s because the problem is actually not the behavior, the problem lies in the way kids think. This faulty thinking then gets externalized into how they behave. If you punish them for the behavior and neglect to challenge the way they think about the problem or discuss what their options are for dealing with that problem effectively in the future, then really, what are you doing? You’re punishing your child, but he hasn’t learned anything and he’s not going to do anything differently. In fact, he’s probably just going to do it again when you’re not looking.

– What Will You Do Differently Next Time?�

I think it’s very important that you talk to your child about what he can do differently the next time he feels angry or frustrated. This tool is something I developed as part of The Total Transformation Program, and it’s an important way to focus on changing your child’s behavior. When you use this technique, it encourages your child to come up with other things he or she might do instead of using ineffective behavior. By the way, when you have this talk with your child, it should be a pretty businesslike conversation – it’s not all smiley and touchy feely; it shouldn’t be abusive or negative, either. Stick to the facts and ask, “What can you do differently next time?”.�

Total Transformation Skill #3: Teach Problem Solving Skills

There’s No Such Thing as “Good Kids” and “Bad Kids”

I believe that the kids who are labeled “good” are children who know how to solve their problems and manage their behavior and social life, and the kids who are labeled “bad” are kids who don’t know how to solve those problems. A child is often labeled “the bad kid” when he’s developed ineffective actions to solve the problems that other kids solve appropriately. So this child may turn to responses that are disrespectful, destructive, abusive, and physically violent. In my opinion, there’s no such thing as good kids or bad kids, there are simply kids who have learned effective ways of solving life’s problems, and kids who have not.

As they develop, children have to continually adjust their problem-solving skills and learn new ones. For instance, for a three year old, being told “no” is the biggest problem in her life. She stomps her feet, she throws a tantrum. Eventually, she has to learn to deal with that problem and manage the feelings associated with it. And so those tasks continue for five-year-olds who have to deal with the first day of school and for nine-year-olds who have to change in gym. They continue for 12- and 13-year-olds when they’re at middle school, which is a much more chaotic environment than they have ever faced before.

I’ve devoted much of my career to dealing with kids who behaved inappropriately, all the way from kids who were withdrawn and depressed to kids who were aggressive and acted out physically. I believe a very key element in helping children change their behavior is for parents to learn techniques where they help their child identify the problem they’re facing. Together, you look at how to solve problems and come up with other solutions. So talk to your child about the problem at hand and how to solve it’s not just about the emotion your child is feeling.

In the end, there is no magic solution to good behavior. The secret is really in teaching kids how to solve problems; good behavior is simply one of the fruits on that problem-solving tree. Your goal as a parent is to give your child the tools to learn good behavior. It’s never too late to get these tools, but know this: if your child can’t read a situation in the ninth grade and doesn’t know how to respond, reacts by getting aggressive, and then gets into trouble, how do you think they are going to handle it when they’re an adult and their boss tells them something they don’t want to hear? That’s why it’s important for you as parent not to “wish away” the bad behavior and to start teaching your child the skills he needs to change his behavior for good.

James Lehman is a behavioral therapist and the creator of The Total Transformation Program for parents. He has worked with troubled children and teens for three decades. James holds a Masters Degree in Social Work from Boston University. For more information, visit


Total Transformation Program Wins Awards

National Association of Social Workers and The National Parenting Center

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Westbrook, ME (PRWeb) November 17, 2006 — The Total Transformation, a multi-media home study program used nationally by parents to manage behavior problems in children and teenagers, has won two prestigious industry awards: The National Association of Social Workers(NASW) “Stamp of Approval for Quality Continuing Education” and The National Parenting Center’s Seal of Approval.

Through its Continuing Education Approval Program, the NASW approves educational programs that meet its strict criteria. The approved programs are used by social work professionals to meet the continuing education requirement for social work licensure and certification renewal. The Total Transformation Program, developed by behavioral therapist James Lehman and Legacy Parenting Company, was approved for six contact hours of continuing education.

The National Parenting Center – Seal of Approval program identifies the finest products and services being marketed to the parent/child audience. Their consumer-oriented testing process solicits evaluations from parents and the award signifies a product’s quality and desirability.

– We are pleased to have The Total Transformation Program approved by the NASW and The National Parenting Center, says Legacy Parenting President, Steve Anderson. “Our goal is to provide parents with the tools to manage the myriad of behavioral challenges associated with parenting in the 21st century. Recognition by these two prominent industry organizations will help establish The Total Transformation as a brand families can trust.”

The Total Transformation Program teaches parents how to turn around disrespectful, defiant, obnoxious and even abusive behaviors in children and teenagers with the practical, hands-on techniques James Lehman developed over 30 years of working with behaviorally troubled youth and their families. The program offers straightforward techniques for stopping arguments, setting limits, obtaining compliance and teaching accountability and problem solving.


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What Others Have Said about the Total Transformation Program


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I bet it would work on any child but mine.
My child must be the strongest willed child ever. I cannot seem to change the behavior.

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I enjoyed listening to this. It is exactly what I need to feel like I can gain some control back over my daughter, who isn’t so much out of control, but …

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Serious commitments needed for Total Transformation Program to work
The total transformation program really needs serious commitment from anyone who is even thinking of going through the DVDs and workbooks. The program …

The program will work for smaller children (e.g., 4-10), preteens, and teens.
The advice and concepts are pretty sound. One simple one that i’ve picked up is to give simple directions and following up. Example: “What are you supposed …

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The total transformation Program helps my kids to understand what is expected of them
I used to be a troubled kid myself. Now that i have kids of my own, i can certainly see the need to relate to them. The total transformation program …

One of the techniques is working well for us
I started using the total transformation program few weeks ago and my child’s behavior started changing. Several techniques were shared on the program …

Attracted by its structure and professional format
“Professional, considerate, and supportive is the program”, I would have said. The sincere concerns from Parental Support Line, and the perfect service …

Total Transformation has definitely put me on the right path
I can’t say that I have followed the program to a T but I have listened to a lot of the information and I am amazed at how well this program helps me to …

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We haven’t made it through all the lessons in the program yet, but we are already seeing a difference in our daughter’s behavior and attitude. We were …

The ring of truth found in the Total Transformation program
Every precept James Lehman teaches about in the Total Transformation program has the ring of truth about it. We recognized lots of things we already …

Total transformation adopts a systematic approach to re-training my kids
I think the Total Transformation is an excellent program. It is logical and when I really thought about a lot of the things James talks about, there …

His behavior at home is vastly improved. 
My wife and I have been pulling out all the stops to help our son, age 7, with his defiance and anger issues. Last year, in first grade, he was consumed …

It has worked beautifully! 
We began to have problems with our oldest son (5 yrs) when we found out our youngest son (2 yrs) was diagnosed with a brain tumor. It was during that time …

Program make sense
The CD’s and program make sense and we have had a few changes already. I particularly like the support line, I would not be able to follow through without …

I would have saved so much time, aggravation, and money
I wish I had heard your commercial and ordered your product three years ago. I would have saved so much time, aggravation, and money; and my child would …

It helped me think about my response for a particular situation before responding. 
So far the total transformation program has helped me think about my response for a particular situation before responding. I respond in a calmer way …

Total Transformation tools and strategies are definitely helping
I am very grateful for this program. James has helped me understand my ODD son and the Total Transformation tools and strategies are definitely helping. …

Information in the CDs is right to the point
The information in the CDs is right to the point. I would rather listen to the thoughts and ideas of James Lehman than our psychologist. James is “right-on” …

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I am a well educated person raised in loving, stable home. I was unprepared for difficulties I faced with several of my children. They exhibited severe …

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Since using the Total Transformation System , I’ve seen my son start taking the initiative to do his chores w/out fighting about it, also there’s been …

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My wife and I have decided that we are buying this program as a gift for everyone in our family that decides to start a family. If we had only had this …

It completely transformed how we reacted to our son
It started when he was about twelve months old and it was just, kind of a slow progression, but it started out with some temper tantrums. We just thought, …

A Godsent Program. Thanks.
My son (12 years old) and I have been extremely blessed since we received and started applying the program. Jonathan has always been a handful (compared …

I realized with this program that I am not a bad parent
Alli, my little girl, she just would not do. Would not mind anything. I didn’t want anybody coming in my house. I didn’t even want to go to church. My