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Understanding
the emotions of your child is extremely important
as you are one of the most important people in his
life.
When he
is about three years old, these emotions begin to
really come into focus and he becomes aware of feelings
of sadness, joy, love, fear, disappointment, anger,
happiness, caring and hatred.
Babies
have emotions as well but they are mainly elementary
emotions such as pleasure, fear, pain, discomfort
and basically anything else that relates to his physical
wellbeing.
From the
ages of three to six, there is a rapid development
of the childĄ¯s emotions and he is confronted
with emotions in new ways. These new emotions may
be quite intense and frightening for a child. As a
parent, you need to help him to understand and cope
with these emotions.
During
this period, his anger may turn into tantrums, and
his enthusiasm may show in inappropriate behaviour,
bad dreams become nightmares, relatively small concerns
become terrifying fears, and disappointment seems
like the end of the world to him. He becomes vulnerable
and can be easily hurt emotionally.
As the
child progresses into his early years at school, his
emotional world becomes much larger with friends,
teachers, and even activities taking up a larger part
of his life. His total dependency on his parents decreases.
At this
stage, the child learns of new emotional experiences
such as success and failure, competitiveness, approval
and disapproval, and acceptance and rejection by his
peers and others.
This can
sometimes be exhilarating as he becomes involved in
sport and other activities. It can also be harsh as
the reality of ability and inability comes to the
forefront of his world. After all, children can be
cruel and hurtful to their peers if they perceive
them to be inferior in their abilities in any way.
By the
time the child reaches adolescence, his emotional
experiences become more complex as friends become
the core of his emotional life. This creates a pull
away from the home and the family unit and can be
quite confusing for the young person. Add to this
the emotionally laden issues of sexuality and it can
be very delightful as well as frightening for him.
At this
point, the adolescent has become a physical and emotional
being. For the most part, his world is reasonably
well formed and he has an understanding of his emotions
and coping strategies.
If, for
any reason, the adolescent shows signs of being unable
to cope with his emotions, it is important to seek
professional help for him. Failure to do so may be
a recipe for disaster. Some young people who have
difficulty in coping may turn to drugs and alcohol
as a coping strategy.
About
the Author: Anne is the owner of two websites http://www.ebooksbargains.com
which has a huge range of books on a variety of subjects
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