I would like to know how I should punish my 12 year old daughter for kissing a boy. I want her to be able to tell me things and not keep secrets so I do not want to blow it out of context, but I do want her to know I dont approve and that she is to young to start this.
Don't be ignorant and think you can stop her by: Anonymous
Maybe 12 is too young for kissing a boy...but think about how old you were. I was just around that age. Girls hit puberty so early its just something that is going to happen. I wouldn't be concerned unless the young man is older than her,from experience I know that this is not a good idea, this is her time of confusion and exploration she will look for love in all the wrong places and many older boys will take advantage of her innocence. Let her know that she is going to be attracted to these boys and vice versa tell her how you feel about kissing and your preferences on the age when you feel appropriate to kiss and let her know why you feel that way. Let her know that ultimately it is her decision but she needs to think about how kissing often leads to things she might not want or give the guy the wrong impression of her. I feel that in this situation if your daughter feels comfortable and isn't running around kissing people behind your back you decrease the chance of something more happening. If she is sitting on your couch in the family room...chances are she isn't going to have sex. If you try and keep her from doing this small thing of kissing she will sneak around she will do things she shouldn't and ultimately regret even if its something small like letting a guys hand wonder places it shouldn't. These are issues that parent's forget to cover in the birds and the bees. BOUNDARIES ARE IMPORTANT. But let her decide for herself with your guidance and reasoning what HER boundaries are. By this age she will do things she shouldn't and have to deal with the consequences but how is she going to learn from her mistakes? Don't let her blame you or the guy if something happens make sure she knows it is her decision (imagine having that pressure at 12 yrs. old) She will eventually feel very safe at home and with you because eventually she will admit "yeah yall told me so" even if you she never actually tells you.
