11yr old preteen boy is too lazy doesn't follow directions
by sam
(omaha,ne)
My 11yr old preteen boy is too lazy. He is too lazy in getting ready to school. Always interested in playing vedio games on PC. He is very good at maths and studies. He was born and brought up in USA for 8yrs and then moved to India. So his environment is changed. No more greena back yard and bycle ride and fun evenings. No school fun, serious studies at the school. Is this affecting him? We gave him his own laptop, and he wont get tired on playing on it. he doesn't need food/drink all day he can play. How to listen to his complaints, he talks very less. Quite most of the time, laying on Bed. Writing on slate or playing on PC or watching too much TV. Again he is very good at his studies.
Comments for
11yr old preteen boy is too lazy doesn't follow directions
Sam boys aged 11 are usually so mouldable and fantastic. My twins of 12 are at times a bit lazy,but I have made it my major work to make fine lads of them. But this is not easy,but he hard work has resulted in 2 kids who now do as I ask them. All kids can be lazy, but by mixing reward,approval, praise and yes at times reprove and physical correction, we have triumphed. Tasks the boys are set are expected to be carried out, if not carried out, penalties follow. By now their greatest reward is for me to hug them and show my approval.So my advice, love your boys and work on getting them active and healthy. Above all, enjoy your lad!
Dec 05, 2011
Who's Who? by: Harmo
Sam,are you his Dad or his willing servant. This lazy preteen boy does exactly as he pleases and you just seem to stand by hand wringing,WHY? If you are in charge then when he stays in bed excesively long, tell him to get up, if not try what I did with my son who also stayed a few times too long on his inner spring. I poured cold water on him. Another time I had cold water and walked up to his bed and said are you ready? Quicker than lightning he jumped out from the blankets. My preteen boys have plenty of liberties and I'm rather flexible, but I accept no nonsense,like you seem to do. It is a pity ofcourse that his environment has changed, as you say no backyard to play in, and bike riding appears not possible in this new area. It is up to you to find alternative areas where the lad can exercise, maybe a judo club or other sporting activity. But be in charge.
Nov 14, 2011
Be in command by: Hamus
Sam,
It seems as if your boy is in charge of your household. It is not surprising, that being the case that he does what comes natural to many children-just laze around. It is a bonus that he is good at maths but this will not help him to get life skills if he remains unmotivated.
If you continue to let him be in charge, that's your business. But if you want things to change that's also your business.
If I wanted things changed I would simply put a ban on 2 things: 1) Playing on the computer 2) No more TV until he does what I want If he remains uncooperative-a firm but not excessive hand spanking.
