Hi the other day i went shopping with my 11year old son and step son 8years old and they took bubble gum from the store without paying for it which is stealing i was not aware of it until the next day when it came to my mind that i saw the two of them eating this gum and i asked them where they got it they said they bought it i then said but you guys had no money and i made my son tell me the truth and he did i then called his dad and made him deal with it and i also punished him by giving him chores he hates doing but he did it i didnt tell my step sons dad as i knew that my son would get the blame as his is the eldest and he would get mad at him son and give him a hiding i wanted to deal with it in my own manner but now my husband has now found out and is furious with me was it wrong of me not to tell him and now his son is not allowed to come to us on weekends anymore its so difficult i just dont know the solution to all this we are parents that are battling financially and try and give our kids what we can and if they had asked me i would have bought them the gum i know there are times i say no and i suppose that they just took it for granted i would say no and went with their idea.
I don't think the problem will continue by: Andrew
Yes you should have told all parents about the boys, but that's history.Your 11 year old copped it apparently from his dad, the 8 year old remained un-corrected.I don't like the word punishment when dealing with the 11 year old, he is only a kid not a hardened criminal-and he must be dealt with in love. Be aware that sometimes kids do things wich are out of charachter just for a dare. When the seriousness of their actions has been made clear to them, most likely they will not repeat. A bit of undertanding wil help. If most look back yhen at that age we have all done wrong things! Help the kids and don't remind them all the time bleakley that they are heading for a prison. A hard hit on the covered bottom by dad and scolding and some extra tasks as you gave is the answer perhaps. But also forgive your otherwise lovely kids.Time usually heals things somewhat, and the father of the stepdad will get over things. Forgive all and hope for the best
Oct 10, 2011
Always tell by: Josh
It appears as if you did not tell your husband nor your stepson's dad about the matter. Covering up for the kids compounds the entire matter. By telling your husband and your stepson's bio dad, there would have been 3 that could have decided on an action to prevent future occurrences of that nature. Ask yourself, what's more important to prevent the little rebels from having there bums reddened-or allow them to continue thieving because mum will protect us.In future tell all parties. All the best!
